Lucaslookers:
Please married folks in the house,
My lovely wife and I have been married for almost 2 years now. I know I am not a perfect person and she is not too but we have been managing.
Why I opened this thread is that I am very afraid of her new attitude of always carrying weapons anytime we have a misunderstanding. It started when I found out she had an abortion without telling me and when I confronted her she flared up and started behaving like a tout jumping here and there.

On Friday last week we were discussing about how to go about the new business I want to set up for her and somehow we got into an argument and she ran into the kitchen and grabbed a knife. Again this morning I simply asked her to waybill some foodstuffs to her father as I wouldn't be able to do that before heading to my place of business and she grabbed my clothes and started calling me names, next thing she picked up the belt hanging on the wardrobe and started threatening to teach me a lesson.
I have never been a woman beater and honestly don't know what has gotten into her.
We have a pending issue we are yet to sort out but still I am keeping my calm why is she the one suddenly going violent??

Please what do I do?
My marriage is still young

Bitter truth is that, someone else is singing the music she loves to hear. Your wife is seeing someone else. If she's not, then you guys probably didn't date for long enough. She wants you dead and that's the bitter truth. If you don't have kids, you need to give her a break. Send her packing!

My dear lucaslookers , I have to be blunt here. Your life is in serious danger! F you think she cannot use that knife on you r even stab you n your sleep, then you need to think again. Sleep with your two eyes open. Constant watch your back. Next time she pics a knife, my dear go get a Cutlass and I really mean it coz it takes a bigger madness to cure a madness. When you are done scaring her to her pants, send her packing. She is doing that coz she is seeing you as someone that can't hurt a fly. Can she try that with any of the viiolent men out there?

Kobicove:
Are you waiting until she stabs you in your sleep?

Tolerating a violent partner is an absolute no no...if I were you I would send her away without looking back!

God bless you for such advice, my question didn't you noticed such trait during courtship?


We rise by lifting others

adadike:
My dear lucaslookers , I have to be blunt here. Your life is in serious danger! F you think she cannot use that knife on you r even stab you n your sleep, then you need to think again. Sleep with your two eyes open. Constant watch your back. Next time she pics a knife, my dear go get a Cutlass and I really mean it coz it takes a bigger madness to cure a madness. When you are done scaring her to her pants, send her packing. She is doing that coz she is seeing you as someone that can't hurt a fly. Can she try that with any of the viiolent men out there?

Not necessary.

The woman is having mental health issues or worse.

The man needs to quietly drive her to her parents house and drop her there. Make he informs his own parents so that they have his back.

This must be done without prior notification else the woman may finish him off. She will harm or kill him eventually, that is if he delays in taking reasonable measures to protect himself.

sorepco:
Men i am kinda speechless! The more calm and docile u remain the more emboldened she becomes!
I will suggest you inform her patents and yours of this her attitude first. If she persists make sure you let her know who the man is!

When next she tries such beat the hell out of her. But make sure you lock up all the knives.

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But on a serious note? Ur wife bring a knife to fight u? A belt to teach u a lesson? There is something more 2 dis than the op is willing to divulge. I feel the woman has been beating him for long...she cant just go get a belt 2 teach him a lesson all of a sudden!

She can kill the op! What? Actually might kill him? Again!? Infact she will kill him!

9gerian:
Not necessary.

The woman is having mental health issues or worse.

The man needs to quietly drive her to her parents house and drop her there. Make he informs his own parents so that they have his back.

This must be done without prior notification else the woman may finish him off. She will harm or kill him eventually, that is if he delays in taking reasonable measures to protect himself.

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tyup:
For every ment there's always a counter ment and that's why i tell married men who come to me for marriage counsel/ therapy that if you want peace in ur home, always be the trouble maker and a type your wife would want to avoid trouble with at any cost

The wife you spent money and resource to bring to ur home so you can bear her burden and cater for her needs free of charge is bringing out a knife on you?? Do you still need a prophet to tell you it's high time you have both of her hands on POP tied to her neck with a swollen mouth/eyes that would not make her speak for two weeks??

The generation of men we're breeding these days makes me loose urge especially when my libido is high

..... Funny but very very true.

I'm the trouble maker in my house to the extent my in-laws even avoid my wahala but I ve never raised my hands on her not to say I wouldn't if she goes overboard.

Also men should stop being afraid of separation or divorce from their wives.

Ah OP send her back to her parent for sometime she go get sense by force

Kriss216:
[s]Married men are truly suffering in this country


My prayers are with them[/s]

That is not an advice , STFU

Op kindly sit her down and understand why she's behaving that way . Between the pregnancy she aborted is it for you ?

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Mcxtraglitz:
[s]If she wasn't like that previously, it's because poor advice corrupts excellent manners. And if you've previously threatened or beaten her, her behavior could be perceived as defensive, or she could be like that—being disrespectful to you because you permitted it[/s].

Op has clearly told you he doesn't beat her and you're here doing blind assumptions , stfu

Divorce is the best option honestly... Because you might die in your sleep, and she'd be the one to kill you.

Lucaslookers:
Please married folks in the house,
My lovely wife and I have been married for almost 2 years now. I know I am not a perfect person and she is not too but we have been managing.
Why I opened this thread is that I am very afraid of her new attitude of always carrying weapons anytime we have a misunderstanding. It started when I found out she had an abortion without telling me and when I confronted her she flared up and started behaving like a tout jumping here and there.

On Friday last week we were discussing about how to go about the new business I want to set up for her and somehow we got into an argument and she ran into the kitchen and grabbed a knife. Again this morning I simply asked her to waybill some foodstuffs to her father as I wouldn't be able to do that before heading to my place of business and she grabbed my clothes and started calling me names, next thing she picked up the belt hanging on the wardrobe and started threatening to teach me a lesson.
I have never been a woman beater and honestly don't know what has gotten into her.
We have a pending issue we are yet to sort out but still I am keeping my calm why is she the one suddenly going violent??

Please what do I do?
My marriage is still young

SHe wants to harm you..jejely divorce her, forget what people will say to convince you, divorce her.

Well, I've got nothing to say.

I hope not to see your picture someday with "Rip" inscription, mate!

Keep playing around untill she kill you or send you to hospital, better deceived her back to her parent and report her to her family abondon her there with warning never to return to your house or you will end it for her.

You will see her change for good if not move on

If I had advised you to shun marriage or atleast marry with your brain and not your heart, would you have listened or would you have called me unprintable names? Oga, everyone has problems. Some of us chose money problems but fools like you chose marriage problems so carry your cross and get the fucck out of here.

The truth is: a guy somewhere is blowing her up. That same is confusing her with promises if she leaves you. So she needs the freedom to enjoy those fairy tales by the guy. She can't never achieve it as long as she is with you, so she now dessent you and wants her freedom in every way possible. Don't be surprised that the guy impregnated her and she did the abortion out of fear. Now that she realizes that you can do nothing. She turned the fear into anger.

My advice : free her. Let her taste those fairy tales. You can't save a LovePeddler. Let her go. It'll pain you but with time you'll heal. And for her, all those fairy tales will soon fall off like scales from her eyes. When they do, you'll know what to do. But if I'm in your shoes, I'll never take her back.

Lucaslookers:
Please married folks in the house,
My lovely wife and I have been married for almost 2 years now. I know I am not a perfect person and she is not too but we have been managing.
Why I opened this thread is that I am very afraid of her new attitude of always carrying weapons anytime we have a misunderstanding. It started when I found out she had an abortion without telling me and when I confronted her she flared up and started behaving like a tout jumping here and there.

On Friday last week we were discussing about how to go about the new business I want to set up for her and somehow we got into an argument and she ran into the kitchen and grabbed a knife. Again this morning I simply asked her to waybill some foodstuffs to her father as I wouldn't be able to do that before heading to my place of business and she grabbed my clothes and started calling me names, next thing she picked up the belt hanging on the wardrobe and started threatening to teach me a lesson.
I have never been a woman beater and honestly don't know what has gotten into her.
We have a pending issue we are yet to sort out but still I am keeping my calm why is she the one suddenly going violent??

Please what do I do?
My marriage is still young

The TRUTH Is you have just found out something crazy about her. Women are never comfortable when men detect lies about them.
Generally, they see men as liars.
Women never Lie!
So, the moment you discover something fishy about them, they turn violent.
Some use tears and violence as weapon.
That's the reason many of them still shed tears while lying. Better be careful!
Also anticipate the worse.
They act before regretting.

Lucaslookers:
Please married folks in the house,
My lovely wife and I have been married for almost 2 years now. I know I am not a perfect person and she is not too but we have been managing.
Why I opened this thread is that I am very afraid of her new attitude of always carrying weapons anytime we have a misunderstanding. It started when I found out she had an abortion without telling me and when I confronted her she flared up and started behaving like a tout jumping here and there.

On Friday last week we were discussing about how to go about the new business I want to set up for her and somehow we got into an argument and she ran into the kitchen and grabbed a knife. Again this morning I simply asked her to waybill some foodstuffs to her father as I wouldn't be able to do that before heading to my place of business and she grabbed my clothes and started calling me names, next thing she picked up the belt hanging on the wardrobe and started threatening to teach me a lesson.
I have never been a woman beater and honestly don't know what has gotten into her.
We have a pending issue we are yet to sort out but still I am keeping my calm why is she the one suddenly going violent??

Please what do I do? I don't want blood on my hands because if I touch her it will be very bad.
My marriage is still young

Honestly stories like this makes me fear marriage.. A girl is all loving, tender and sweet in a relationship and suddenly after marriage she becomes a monster... I just don't understand.

This is a real test for you. It's obvious she wants to push you into beating her. I'll encourage you to hold ur ground and be strong. Everything will be fine .

It's difficult to tell you this, but you're married to a retired or unretired holosho. We'll still be here to read the final story, and how it happened. Not from you o, from maybe a witness

Rickmann:


Honestly stories like this make me fear marriage.. A girl is all loving, tender and sweet in a relationship and suddenly after marriage she becomes a monster... I just don't understand.

Most married Men today will tell you BABY MAMA is now much preferable.
Ladies of today are completely different.
MEN changed to become supple rather than stronger. Misinterpretation of Religion caused all these. Even the Bible had stronger men.
In fact, we changed from being strong & capable to being weak & incapable.

Far back in Southern Nigeria, MEN married 4 to 6 wives & still had concubines. This was just from 60 to more than 200yrs years ago. Not too Far!

MALIGNANTGuest:

Most married Men today will tell you BABY MAMA is now much preferable.
Ladies of today are completely different.
MEN changed to become supple rather than stronger. Misinterpretation of Religion caused all these. Even the Bible had stronger men.
In fact, we changed from being strong & capable to being weak & incapable.

Far back in Southern Nigeria, MEN married 4 to 6 wives & still had concubines. This was just from 60 to more than 200yrs years ago. Not too Far!

You are so correct.

Your is wife is suffering from a mental health disorder it could stem from a wide range of condition that affects the way she is behaving now, and this could have been hidden away from you, seek help or try and avoid anything that will trigger her.





Modified: For those brothers quoting me, it's obvious even to the blind that the OP loves his wife and all he wants is a solution to make things work, and not using violence. Again its wise he seeks help for her, cause he mentioned their marriage being young by implication he is not cut out for any kind of separation or divorce yet.

He also mentioned both not being perfect this also implies he is ready to forgive all her actions if there is a change which can only come with her getting help. Mr OP your life matters, until she gets help avoid her totally.

Lastly, I do not condone violence of any kind on men, if a woman had shared this post I would have offered the same advice, since its obvious the person involved still wants to work things out.

Wahala everyday for who don go marry

eneazi:
wYour is wife is suffering from a mental health disorder it could stem from a wide range of condition that affects the way she is behaving now, and this could have been hidden away from you, seek help or try and avoid anything that will trigger her.

If a man beats his wife, hope you give the same advice.

eneazi:
wYour is wife is suffering from a mental health disorder it could stem from a wide range of condition that affects the way she is behaving now, and this could have been hidden away from you, seek help or try and avoid anything that will trigger her.

Would you have have said so if a married lady had presented same issue concerning her husband to the Nairaland platform?
Here lies my problem with all these.
U don't change gloves when gender changes.
MEN have woken up to realise women can lie.
In Fact, if many married men should open up on the hidden lies their wives told them just to get them to the altar, 70% of marriages would collapse in 2hours.

MEN hate public shame, that's why they hardly take to the social media to reveal every rubbish they are faced.
I know Ladies who had undergone fibroid surgeries with removal of their wombs, yet they concealed such from their spouses even at courtship till they got married.

Some have kids yet they never disclosed such to the man they planned marrying, expecting to use pastors, family members & God to plead their way through such a disaster called union.

I know men whose wives have blocked fallopian tubes from previously poorly treated vaginal discharge, which they contracted during several relationships. They can't conceive now.
Yet you see such Ladies running their mouths at their husbands.
Most resort to using their Traditional Rulers & God to plead.

Meanwhile, see the way TonTo Dike went straight to the social media to reveal how Churchill lasted for 45secs. What if Churchill decides to reveal the ugly side of that useless girl?

eneazi:
wYour is wife is suffering from a mental health disorder it could stem from a wide range of condition that affects the way she is behaving now, and this could have been hidden away from you, seek help or try and avoid anything that will trigger her.

You people won't say it the way it is ever, instead you will find one way to sugarcoat it.

So it's now a mental health disorder and not domestic violence anymore right

But if it was the husband that was fighting her with a weapon you wouldn't have said he is suffering from mental health disorder but you will call him an animal. Smh!!

where would do you like wanna touch me first?

When the old age wisdom including Bible and Quran was mentioning why women should be moderated, pure and chaste it wasn't because of hate nor because they don't want women to enjoy life.

They know any deviation from that will hinder her bonding ability that will destroy her man, then kids, then family and finally herself.

How would a woman have confidence to wield belt and knife on her husband if not because she has spirit and DNA materials of many men deposited inside of her.

Lucaslookers:
Please married folks in the house,
My lovely wife and I have been married for almost 2 years now. I know I am not a perfect person and she is not too but we have been managing.
Why I opened this thread is that I am very afraid of her new attitude of always carrying weapons anytime we have a misunderstanding. It started when I found out she had an abortion without telling me and when I confronted her she flared up and started behaving like a tout jumping here and there.

On Friday last week we were discussing about how to go about the new business I want to set up for her and somehow we got into an argument and she ran into the kitchen and grabbed a knife. Again this morning I simply asked her to waybill some foodstuffs to her father as I wouldn't be able to do that before heading to my place of business and she grabbed my clothes and started calling me names, next thing she picked up the belt hanging on the wardrobe and started threatening to teach me a lesson.
I have never been a woman beater and honestly don't know what has gotten into her.
We have a pending issue we are yet to sort out but still I am keeping my calm why is she the one suddenly going violent??

Please what do I do? I don't want blood on my hands because if I touch her it will be very bad.
My marriage is still young

Inform her you will be taking her to a psychiatric clinic for evaluation next time she raises any object on you.
Say it and mean it

Chai
Bros

I guess you should involve the law enforcement agents here
Before things go out of hand.

To the unmarried out there

Pls make sure you check and scan the medulla oblongata of the woman, you want to wife o,
Nor allow beauty becloud your reasoning

Questions like

Her temperance

Her prayer life

problem solving skills and attitude
Should all be taken into consideration

We shall not enter one chance in Jesus name