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U took a perfect decision and many will condemn u but marriage is no go area for stupid habits.

U were in the relationship with ur mind intact not all those who will end up being emotional and at end they would marry idiots as wife later they will start shouting,my wife did this or did that.

Good luck to u.

funshint:
Why didn't you just tell her point blank since you noticed all these but you chose to lead her on. Don't worry you'll meet your match. Just pray the one you're about to marry isn't pretending to you. I hate users

no worry, follow me beg baba God make e give am dust. At least oga kno watin im want.

TkhGuy:
It's hurtful, I don't know which side of the coin you guys want to follow but, she came that day, uninvited like she use to & know I have to tell her when she starts touching me & reaching my sensitive zone, I held her hands for a while & broke the silence,

I did tell her that we aren't going anywhere after noticing how flirty she is from first 1 month of our date, but she kept coming back, I have broken up with her prior to this, but she still comes to my place uninvited,

She is curvy & seductive, she is beautifully personified,
I don't have time to chase after girls due to the nature of my job, so, she has been the only girl I have all along,


I have carefully made my choice, ladies you all need to learn this cos most Nigerian guys will not tell you this or force it on you..

I can't marry a girl who doesn't trust me, or projects condom forward just at the point of having Bleep with her,

I can't have a girl who can't cook as a wife but gf yes,

I can't harbor a girl who questions my authority as my wife, but as gf yes

I can't take a girl who challenges me even to point of picking up a fight with me as a wife, but as girlfriend, yes

I can't take a girl who disobeys me as my wife, cheating will be nothing to her,

I can't marry a girl who is unapologetic, for girlfriend, yes but not a wife

I can't marry a girl who's 80% contact is raging with boys, even if there are all her cousin, or she doesn't sleep with them I don't care,

I can't marry a girl who wears make up 247 when coming and going and always on a tight body revealing clothes, what that means is she is not done advising herself to highest bidder

This are the conditions & challenges that i tried hard to stop my girlfriend from but she wouldn't let go,

We have dated for more than 3 years but this attitude never changes,

I found someone whom all this came from without me pushing for it, now she is crying out her eyes,

You did well. Why do I say this? Marriage is not like girlfriend, when you marry; it is only two of you in your apartment, after going out and coming in, you will still meet inside the same room/house. You need someone that will make you happy, someone that you felt"yes" she will help out and I can manage her flaws not someone you can't tolerate at all; not someone that will be challenging , provoking you and can't even do ordinary things. If she can't cook, why can't she dress well and you as a man will cook just to cover up that wrong side. Not someone that has 80% problems but sees it as nothing, can't change, can't take corrections. You did well, because you would've died buying washing machine after washing machines and other electrical kitchen equipments!

harqinhola:
blah Blah Blah ! And she's good enough for u to Bleep ?? God purnish u my brother ..

Marriage has almost nothing to do with bleeping. The earlier girls know tgis the better. A man can even marry a gal he has never bleeped.

A man will not marry u because ur bleeping.

medriano:
You are a terrible human being. She’s not good enough to be a wife yet you kept stringing her along. You should have called it off a long long time ago, but no you had to wait 3 years to do that. Confronting her the way you did about marrying someone else is very low of you.

Idiot..
I dey wait make u pass area

TkhGuy:
It's hurtful, I don't know which side of the coin you guys want to follow but, she came that day, uninvited like she use to & know I have to tell her when she starts touching me & reaching my sensitive zone, I held her hands for a while & broke the silence,

I did tell her that we aren't going anywhere after noticing how flirty she is from first 1 month of our date, but she kept coming back, I have broken up with her prior to this, but she still comes to my place uninvited,

She is curvy & seductive, she is beautifully personified,
I don't have time to chase after girls due to the nature of my job, so, she has been the only girl I have all along,


I have carefully made my choice, ladies you all need to learn this cos most Nigerian guys will not tell you this or force it on you..

I can't marry a girl who doesn't trust me, or projects condom forward just at the point of having Bleep with her,

I can't have a girl who can't cook as a wife but gf yes,

I can't harbor a girl who questions my authority as my wife, but as gf yes

I can't take a girl who challenges me even to point of picking up a fight with me as a wife, but as girlfriend, yes

I can't take a girl who disobeys me as my wife, cheating will be nothing to her,

I can't marry a girl who is unapologetic, for girlfriend, yes but not a wife

I can't marry a girl who's 80% contact is raging with boys, even if there are all her cousin, or she doesn't sleep with them I don't care,

I can't marry a girl who wears make up 247 when coming and going and always on a tight body revealing clothes, what that means is she is not done advising herself to highest bidder

This are the conditions & challenges that i tried hard to stop my girlfriend from but she wouldn't let go,

We have dated for more than 3 years but this attitude never changes,

I found someone whom all this came from without me pushing for it, now she is crying out her eyes,

All these ur I can't I can't for a wife but yes for a girl friend, ur proposed wife has all but she is just hiding them from u. U will begin to see all manifest after months or years into ur marriage.

Wittyduchess:
I thought I was the only one that saw that part.

This is the same guy that will be against the new contraceptive for men in the works o .

I pity the lady the op is getting married to ahead.


The guy sound like a wahala person, ladies have really suffered sha



He is even proud of his action and backing it up with excuses, no empathy after 3 good years, people are really cold

TkhGuy:
It's hurtful, I don't know which side of the coin you guys want to follow but, she came that day, uninvited like she use to & know I have to tell her when she starts touching me & reaching my sensitive zone, I held her hands for a while & broke the silence,

I did tell her that we aren't going anywhere after noticing how flirty she is from first 1 month of our date, but she kept coming back, I have broken up with her prior to this, but she still comes to my place uninvited,

She is curvy & seductive, she is beautifully personified,
I don't have time to chase after girls due to the nature of my job, so, she has been the only girl I have all along,


I have carefully made my choice, ladies you all need to learn this cos most Nigerian guys will not tell you this or force it on you..

I can't marry a girl who doesn't trust me, or projects condom forward just at the point of having Bleep with her,

I can't have a girl who can't cook as a wife but gf yes,

I can't harbor a girl who questions my authority as my wife, but as gf yes

I can't take a girl who challenges me even to point of picking up a fight with me as a wife, but as girlfriend, yes

I can't take a girl who disobeys me as my wife, cheating will be nothing to her,

I can't marry a girl who is unapologetic, for girlfriend, yes but not a wife

I can't marry a girl who's 80% contact is raging with boys, even if there are all her cousin, or she doesn't sleep with them I don't care,

I can't marry a girl who wears make up 247 when coming and going and always on a tight body revealing clothes, what that means is she is not done advising herself to highest bidder

This are the conditions & challenges that i tried hard to stop my girlfriend from but she wouldn't let go,

We have dated for more than 3 years but this attitude never changes,

I found someone whom all this came from without me pushing for it, now she is crying out her eyes,

Let no soul blackmail you by making you think you made the wrong decision. Marriage is a lifelong commitment and you can't be committed to someone whose ONLY admirable quality is the bed. In fact, God bless your union!

I don't really know the method you used to correct her, but I have a method that has been working perfectly in correction

franchasng:
I pity the lady the op is getting married to ahead.


The guy sound like a wahala person, ladies have really suffered sha



He is even proud of his action and backing it up with excuses, no empathy after 3 good years, people are really cold

I have a story of my own up there,check out my first post.

I have another story too ,but that one is for another day. I do sincerely karma is not proven right in the op's case, e go too sweet.

Wittyduchess:
Lol, that is how this my cousins boss did.


Story time;


So let's call my cousin's boss Mr Alakpere who dated miss koikio for 6 years. They both worked in the same plaza and everyone knew them everywhere .

So Mr Alakpere's parents tell him they want him to marry a girl from their home town, Mr Alakpere dumps his gf and marries a girl from his hometown under 4 months, miss koikio was hurt,she sure was strong because she was still coming to work in the same plaza, she saw him everyday and moved on ,they will bump into one another once in a while and act like total stranger.

Then two months into the marriage,Mr Alakpere's wedding was on the verge of collapse, what hapun? New bride doesn't cook or clean, Mr Alakpere prior to the wedding was staying in his mum's house ,so his mum was doing everything for him as the only boy of the family ,now new bride doesn't want to pamper only son.

Anyway, dear op, I sincerely wish you goodluck.And I genuinely pray for you that your new bride doesn't turn out to be a sheep in wolf's clothing to prove karma right.

Now read this your mumu story and tell me if it makes any meaning.

TkhGuy:
I can't marry a girl who doesn't trust me, or projects condom forward just at the point of having Bleep with her,

Wait you think a girl asking for safe sex doesn't trust you? That is one of the most arse backwards things I ever heard. Then when she gets pregnant you'd be the one demanding abortion. Use your head to think not your dick.

TkhGuy:
It's hurtful, I don't know which side of the coin you guys want to follow but, she came that day, uninvited like she use to & know I have to tell her when she starts touching me & reaching my sensitive zone, I held her hands for a while & broke the silence,

I did tell her that we aren't going anywhere after noticing how flirty she is from first 1 month of our date, but she kept coming back, I have broken up with her prior to this, but she still comes to my place uninvited,

She is curvy & seductive, she is beautifully personified,
I don't have time to chase after girls due to the nature of my job, so, she has been the only girl I have all along,


I have carefully made my choice, ladies you all need to learn this cos most Nigerian guys will not tell you this or force it on you..

I can't marry a girl who doesn't trust me, or projects condom forward just at the point of having Bleep with her,

I can't have a girl who can't cook as a wife but gf yes,

I can't harbor a girl who questions my authority as my wife, but as gf yes

I can't take a girl who challenges me even to point of picking up a fight with me as a wife, but as girlfriend, yes

I can't take a girl who disobeys me as my wife, cheating will be nothing to her,

I can't marry a girl who is unapologetic, for girlfriend, yes but not a wife

I can't marry a girl who's 80% contact is raging with boys, even if there are all her cousin, or she doesn't sleep with them I don't care,

I can't marry a girl who wears make up 247 when coming and going and always on a tight body revealing clothes, what that means is she is not done advising herself to highest bidder

This are the conditions & challenges that i tried hard to stop my girlfriend from but she wouldn't let go,

We have dated for more than 3 years but this attitude never changes,

I found someone whom all this came from without me pushing for it, now she is crying out her eyes,

You did the right thing never married out of pity she should get her Life together for someone else ready

harqinhola:
blah Blah Blah ! And she's good enough for u to Bleep ?? God purnish u my brother ..

Punish him for what? Must he marry her. If you read carefully you will understand that the op tried to quit the relationship many times but the girl kept throwing herself on him.

And she has being good enough for you to be bleebing for 3years

DryMouth:
Now read this your mumu story and tell me if it makes any meaning.

Your lack of comprehension skills is not my fault. .

medriano:
You are a terrible human being. She’s not good enough to be a wife yet you kept stringing her along. You should have called it off a long long time ago, but no you had to wait 3 years to do that. Confronting her the way you did about marrying someone else is very low of you.

Did you read the story well at all ??. He told her clearly from the first day they met that he can’t marry her because she’s a love peddler( he noticed that). She had lots of guys around her. He had broken up with her severally and she kept coming to his house unannounced. And he waited for her to change, but she she didn’t change. Also all these while he was looking out for the right girl to settle down with. This time around she came to his house and wanted to have sex with him, then he told her about his upcoming marriage then she started crying. It’s not the guy fault. Besides Nigerian girls needs to stop acting like they are doing guys a favor by giving them sex. Girls enjoy sex more. I have met a lots of girls like this OP babe. The one I’m currently with, she expects me to marry her but she has slept with lots of guys. Even the ones I personally know. I have been avoiding her for over 3 months now, even after breaking up with her severally. But she still wanna come and fucccck me. Nigerian girls are something else.

funshint:
Why didn't you just tell her point blank since you noticed all these but you chose to lead her on. Don't worry you'll meet your match. Just pray the one you're about to marry isn't pretending to you. I hate users

Read again. He told her after one month. Marriage is forever. You make mistakes,you may not come out alive. Male or female. No exception.

TkhGuy:
It's hurtful, I don't know which side of the coin you guys want to follow but, she came that day, uninvited like she use to & know I have to tell her when she starts touching me & reaching my sensitive zone, I held her hands for a while & broke the silence,

I did tell her that we aren't going anywhere after noticing how flirty she is from first 1 month of our date, but she kept coming back, I have broken up with her prior to this, but she still comes to my place uninvited,

She is curvy & seductive, she is beautifully personified,
I don't have time to chase after girls due to the nature of my job, so, she has been the only girl I have all along,


I have carefully made my choice, ladies you all need to learn this cos most Nigerian guys will not tell you this or force it on you..

I can't marry a girl who doesn't trust me, or projects condom forward just at the point of having Bleep with her,

I can't have a girl who can't cook as a wife but gf yes,

I can't harbor a girl who questions my authority as my wife, but as gf yes

I can't take a girl who challenges me even to point of picking up a fight with me as a wife, but as girlfriend, yes

I can't take a girl who disobeys me as my wife, cheating will be nothing to her,

I can't marry a girl who is unapologetic, for girlfriend, yes but not a wife

I can't marry a girl who's 80% contact is raging with boys, even if there are all her cousin, or she doesn't sleep with them I don't care,

I can't marry a girl who wears make up 247 when coming and going and always on a tight body revealing clothes, what that means is she is not done advising herself to highest bidder

This are the conditions & challenges that i tried hard to stop my girlfriend from but she wouldn't let go,

We have dated for more than 3 years but this attitude never changes,

I found someone whom all this came from without me pushing for it, now she is crying out her eyes,

You used fvcked and enjoyed her as a girlfriend. What if her father is a babalawo, a notorious and merciless ogoni jujumaster will you do the same.

You did the right thing my brother.

TkhGuy:
It's hurtful, I don't know which side of the coin you guys want to follow but, she came that day, uninvited like she use to & know I have to tell her when she starts touching me & reaching my sensitive zone, I held her hands for a while & broke the silence,

I did tell her that we aren't going anywhere after noticing how flirty she is from first 1 month of our date, but she kept coming back, I have broken up with her prior to this, but she still comes to my place uninvited,

She is curvy & seductive, she is beautifully personified,
I don't have time to chase after girls due to the nature of my job, so, she has been the only girl I have all along,


I have carefully made my choice, ladies you all need to learn this cos most Nigerian guys will not tell you this or force it on you..

I can't marry a girl who doesn't trust me, or projects condom forward just at the point of having Bleep with her,

I can't have a girl who can't cook as a wife but gf yes,

I can't harbor a girl who questions my authority as my wife, but as gf yes

I can't take a girl who challenges me even to point of picking up a fight with me as a wife, but as girlfriend, yes

I can't take a girl who disobeys me as my wife, cheating will be nothing to her,

I can't marry a girl who is unapologetic, for girlfriend, yes but not a wife

I can't marry a girl who's 80% contact is raging with boys, even if there are all her cousin, or she doesn't sleep with them I don't care,

I can't marry a girl who wears make up 247 when coming and going and always on a tight body revealing clothes, what that means is she is not done advising herself to highest bidder

This are the conditions & challenges that i tried hard to stop my girlfriend from but she wouldn't let go,

We have dated for more than 3 years but this attitude never changes,

I found someone whom all this came from without me pushing for it, now she is crying out her eyes,

Op, your WORDS are so powerful. Damn! I hope they will learn.

Kobicove:
So it took you a whole 3 years to know she did not meet your standards?!

Read again. He told her it won't work after one month.

Beebah2000:
You sef, you know say u no fit wife her, but you continue the relationship because you wan knack free pússy.
Chai!!! Why are you guys so wicked?
If person do your sister, you go like am?
NO!!!
Your fellow guys go support you na because Una brain dey inside Una balls.
Mtchewww.

I think I read it somewhere that he left her but she kept on coming back.

I always advise people that whenever they want to go into a relationship, they should set out all the qualities they want on girl.This is to avoid stories like this.

TkhGuy:
It's hurtful, I don't know which side of the coin you guys want to follow but, she came that day, uninvited like she use to & know I have to tell her when she starts touching me & reaching my sensitive zone, I held her hands for a while & broke the silence,

I did tell her that we aren't going anywhere after noticing how flirty she is from first 1 month of our date, but she kept coming back, I have broken up with her prior to this, but she still comes to my place uninvited,

She is curvy & seductive, she is beautifully personified,
I don't have time to chase after girls due to the nature of my job, so, she has been the only girl I have all along,


I have carefully made my choice, ladies you all need to learn this cos most Nigerian guys will not tell you this or force it on you..

I can't marry a girl who doesn't trust me, or projects condom forward just at the point of having Bleep with her,

I can't have a girl who can't cook as a wife but gf yes,

I can't harbor a girl who questions my authority as my wife, but as gf yes

I can't take a girl who challenges me even to point of picking up a fight with me as a wife, but as girlfriend, yes

I can't take a girl who disobeys me as my wife, cheating will be nothing to her,

I can't marry a girl who is unapologetic, for girlfriend, yes but not a wife

I can't marry a girl who's 80% contact is raging with boys, even if there are all her cousin, or she doesn't sleep with them I don't care,

I can't marry a girl who wears make up 247 when coming and going and always on a tight body revealing clothes, what that means is she is not done advising herself to highest bidder

This are the conditions & challenges that i tried hard to stop my girlfriend from but she wouldn't let go,

We have dated for more than 3 years but this attitude never changes,

I found someone whom all this came from without me pushing for it, now she is crying out her eyes,

You be my guy...is like na the same mama born us...i thank God i found the good qualities i needed from my UROMI wife and yes i can spend months away with worries.

franchasng:
Stop supporting nonsense.



The op didn't genuinely broke up with her at all. If you break up with someone, you stop giving them attention of any kind. How can you break up with a girl and when she still visits you unannounced you off her clothe and do the do and still expect the girl to believe you guys have broken up? She might think giving him sex reconciles them, so she kept doing it and the op kept enjoying it.



The girl fit deal with him lol and she will have my blessing cos no idiot can dare such nonsense with my daughter, God forbid.


It took him 3 good years to notice all those balderdash he wrote up there?


If he was serious, he ought to have told her 1 year ago that he has found the right person he wants, and possibly cause a coincidental meeting of both at his place, that would send a strong message to her.

Hey guy, this sex thing is not a gift from a lady to a man. In most cases, it is the guy doing the babe a favor.

I hate it when some men considers sex as a gift from women. It shows how immature you are. You are there thinking she wants me to be happy that's why she is giving me while, in reality, she is enjoying you all for herself.

Women enjoys sex more than men. Pls, I don't have the time to lecture you on that.

And on the other part where you said it took him 3 years to.... Look, you need to read and understand. The relationship was 3 years and according to OP, he had told her they are not going anywhere from the first month. I guess he has been trying to correct her for 3 years straight without changing. Now, that he has found someone he can live with, it is time to go. Please stop judging wrongly. This kinda relationships are always toxic at the end. Am sure if OP decides to start beating the babe, she will still continue coming back until the violence gets out of hand and yall starts condemning the guy. He needs to get out of the relationship. The babe needs someone that can manage her excesses.

Wittyduchess:
Your lack of comprehension skills is not my fault. .

Sharrap you motherfvcker.

What you wrote there has nothing to with the OP's story. Them go soon dump your silly ass too.

Quick reminder of my ex. At a point I caught her cheating, without tangible excuse(The guy was on her neck, her dept. Junior lecturer). I forgave her but the love died.She kept coming despite being plain to her, las las she don marry who is ready, yet not okay. Last time I warned her to stop saying she miss me, bla bla.. and be contented and loyal to her husband. Fear flirty(inborn) ladies!!
You are a sound man Bruv, and don't let any mf blackmail you emotionally. Nobody will be there to help you fight her demons during marriage.
Don't expect her to change during marriage. That gender is insatiable esp. the lazy ones.

DryMouth:
Sharrap you motherfvcker.

What you wrote there has nothing to with the OP's story. Them go soon dump your silly ass too.

Such mannerless untrianed fellow. Is that how your mother told you to behave?

U are bad what if she is ur sister

harqinhola:
blah Blah Blah ! And she's good enough for u to Bleep ?? God purnish u my brother ..

U re not yet a man, you still be boy.
The holy Bible said, the eye of a Wiseman is in his head. E be like say u never jam those kind of girl he listed above. If u jam one u go hate Ur existence