Kobojunkie:
If God is really who you claim to want to please by your choice, then you want to make sure you have the right information to help you on your path. According to Jesus Christ, the one who is God's New Covenant and Law in the Kingdom of God, what is sin is not what you refer to as sexual immorality- fornication, masturbation, homosexuality etc. - instead sin is the lust in your heart towards another - Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28 - those fantasies and longings for sex are what constitute sin in the Kingdom of God.

So while you claim you have not physically engaged in what is sexually immoral activities in the 18 months period, that all means nothing when you consider that the sin is that committed in your mind/heart and not the physical activity itself.

As good as you admonition might seem, Satan can use it to cause havoc in the OPs life. Yes lust in the heart constitute sin, it is worthy of note however that she is keeping herself from the physical act of immorality (sex, masturbation and porn). It is the step in the right direction. Now she should be encouraged to press further to seeking a pure heart. This will require fasting, prayer, study of God's word and separation from things that ignite sexual lustt, then she should pursue reconciliation with her husband and if her marriage is effectively dead, then she can pray and ask God for another partner.

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

No marriage on earth is perfect as it's pictured in movies and the likes

I believe you loved each other b4 you settled for each other

Please kindly reconcile with your husband

Separation not really cool

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

But your profile speak about living for JESUS CHRIST. Are you no more living 4 JESUS CHRIST? U have forgotten that " man shall not live by bread alone" Why did u got seperated firstly? U better come out of seperation if u can't hold ur body.U can't remarry unless u are a widow probably not up 2 60years old(Paul Advice). If u truly fear GOD,it should begin 2 give u wisdom. Refrain from worldly thought&fast timely.

Optimistic4life:


So the thought of sex coming through my mind has already made me a sinner?

Don't mind him. We are biological beings. Sex is a biological need just like food. The problem is lust just like gluttony with food.
That's why Paul advised those that can hold their body to get married. People bring scriptures out of context when it suits them. Don't fall for that trap.

Optimistic4life:


So the thought of sex coming through my mind has already made me a sinner?

Don’t mind that guy he’s an extremist and sometimes interpret the Bible out of context.

Yes, when Jesus was addressing sexual immorality, what Jesus said is that it’s not only after fvcking somebody you are not married to that u have committed a sin....but if you lust after after somebody, I.e imagine or fantasizing that you are fvking somebody that you are not married to u have also committed adultery.

He ddnt say having sex feelings or feeling like having sex is a sin...

Sex is basic biology...the feelings will come..the urge is not a sin....that’s one of the reason we should not be alone but married when we get to our adult stage..

That’s said, you may be promoting your sexual urges by watching pòrn or other sexual contents...
The mind is powerful..what you feed it with is what it will dominate your thinking and dreams with..
.reduce them sexual contents and get busy...and u’ll realize the urge will be lesser...

Pele....

Have you been eating since your separation?
Have you been sleeping?
Have you been urinating?
All these are part of being a living thing just like having sex, sex is not a sin and God didn't send you message.
Just do it responsibly, like a human, not having it with any and everybody like an animal, and you're just fine dear.
Stop adding more pressure to your life.
Say yes to one of your numerous admirers and be satisfied, life is for the living.
I'm sure your ex is having the time of his life wherever he is while you're disturbing yourself unnecessarily.
Dunno why women like putting pressure on themselves.
I'm in a similar situation and trust me I no dey carry last, I'm even more sexually satisfied than when I was with my ex.

Well, I don't even know what to say. Cos am in the process of divorcing too.

Is the divorce itself not a sin or I should quote the bible verse? Reconciliation is still possible, it all comes down to forgiveness.

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

You have a helper. Go to God in prayer.

Optimistic4life:


So the thought of sex coming through my mind has already made me a sinner?

Don't mind the guy sis. He's a known heretic on Nairaland. He even said he doesn't believe in the Bible because Jesus never said we should believe in any book. So many heresies from from that messanger of Satan.

Desires or longing for sex isn't sin. What constitutes sin is lust.

Keep strong sis. Ask the Holy Spirit to strengthen you. Talk to your pastor's wife about your predicaments. She'll give you Godly counsels. Consider reuniting with your husband is possible. If not, consider remarrying.

You will finish strong in Jesus name.

Kobojunkie:
If God is really who you claim to want to please by your choice, then you want to make sure you have the right information to help you on your path. According to Jesus Christ, the one who is God's New Covenant and Law in the Kingdom of God, what is sin is not what you refer to as sexual immorality- fornication, masturbation, homosexuality etc. - instead sin is the lust in your heart towards another - Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28 - those fantasies and longings for sex are what constitute sin in the Kingdom of God.

So while you claim you have not physically engaged in what is sexually immoral activities in the 18 months period, that all means nothing when you consider that the sin is that committed in your mind/heart and not the physical activity itself.

Sexual urge is natural and it is no sin. What is sin is giving in to sexual urge and acting on it. She has been resisting the urge.

kepstone:
Lol.. some of us have stayed 3+ decades without sex... U won't die... Self control puts you in control

Lie kee u there

God hates divorce. Go back to your formal marriage, be humble, pray that God should touch your husband and that He should make your marriage work.

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

Swallow your pride and beg your husband and his families

Born2conquer:

How!! 30years!! How! Just almost 1year and I cant even think straight

.. it's very P.. been there, done that.. las las, local man go soft.

makson007:

Capital YES

Not true please

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

Aunty when temptation finally wins, hit me up.

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

Since your marriage is just a separation and not divorce I believe you can still get things working again. Why don't you pray and trust God to restore what the devil took away from you. Nothing is impossible with the Almighty.

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

Konji Nah bastard esp when u have high libido
No verse in Bible or Quran can save u

Masturbate if u can
Or look for one responsible ashawo man but in a far distance and enjoy his dick in peace
God will understand nature can't be cheat.

Sex is a natural strong feelings that comes on its own, its not a sin to feel Honey, we are fashioned that way. I still believe the fact that nothing is impossible, do not rule out the option of getting back to your once "lovely" husband, unless what caused the impending separation is life threatening.
Aside that, summon the courage "not easyooo" to put a call to him and say your "sorry from the depth of your heart" that you want your Happy marriage back. Do not count who is at fault here.

Aside that, open up your mind to new relationship, put your past behind and kinly look out for genuine man. Do not forget to work on your body and dressing too, because men are attracted by sight.

Lastly, never be too rigid, be friendly affectionatel with the lucky man who come. " use ur brain too" you must not let the man "in the hole" without a clear confirmation.
God know our earnest disires without evil intent.

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

Johnboom:
God hates divorce. Go back to your formal marriage, be humble, pray that God should touch your husband and that He should make your marriage work.

Yen yen yen... Stfu asshole... Y'all mofos always acting like this marriage shit is 4 errybody.. mtsheew.

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

Lies from hell madam. Go and continue your fornications in peace!

Born2conquer:

How!! 30years!! How! Just almost 1year and I cant even think straight

It’s becos u watch p0rn, sex containing movies, sexy music videos, you also read sex stories....

The mind na garbage in garbage out...when you sleep, it doesn’t....your mind has a link to your hormones...

shalomm:
Is the divorce itself not a sin or I should quote the bible verse? Reconciliation is still possible, it all comes down to forgiveness.

You will need more information before you come to that conclusion

You don't have to force yourself on a man when courting. Try to understand him without attaching emotional sentiment, whether both of you can live together so that you don't make a mistake of marrying a wrong partner. Remember it's harder for a lady to get remarried after divorce unlike us men that can easily marry, divorce and remarry once we have the financial capacity.
Don't ever say he will change when you spot a red flag that you cannot accommodate or manage when married to him.

djkaneo:



Aunty when temptation finally wins, hit me up.

And if his digits happens to be unavailable, local man dey bench dey warm up hin 6'3 inch bura.

you can't cheat nature, the best is to force that man to divorce you first so that you can be free to truly move on then start the relationship all over again with a genuine brother



you being unmarried will make you vulnerable to all these opportunists guys, divorce and start the beginning of new love again

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

I'm available.

I sincerely appreciate people like you. People who fear God and will rather suffer than sin against God. Pls pray hard, and also fast often. Set your heart on spiritual things. Avoid "triggers " that things that arouse your desires. Pursue reconciliation with your husband and if he has remarried or living in adultery relentlessly, then pray for guardians to remarry. Stay far from porn, intimacy gadgets, masturbation, formication and adultery, they will ruin your life and soul in hell, fight this good fight, you will surely win.

ajailer:
Dey put mentholated Robb for there. D urge go reduce….. Na woman tell me dis o

Op, word of encouragement is not enough and can never fill the space for action.
Your body needs it. It's natural forget all this Bible quotation. Befriend a brethren and do the do. Chikina!!!

Proverb 3:24 says you will sleep and not fear any evil, as a true child of God who lives holy life either single or married will continue facing challenges most especially from weakness, that's why we need to hold our faith firm determine not to define ourselves I want you to note this the fear of God don't enslave but building ur boldness in Christ
There's no how you won't relate with opposite sex if not so you will develop hatred for people that did not offend you and most of assistant you're supposed to get may not locate you, I think what you are experienced now is consequence of separation

Get a free gbola or use ur fingers