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Angy55:
You did not do wrong. At that point were you said, you are going out to eat, she is even suppose to suggest to collect the money and cook at home. I know she is just a girlfriend but little things like this can a long way in a relationship.

She has entitlement mentality. Nothing wrong if she had added her own money to buy the plantain.

Are you single? Cos I'm falling for you

The kind of stories I'm reading on Nairaland today though. This one wants to break up with his gf because of 450 naira plantain. The other thread, the guy is busy grinding pepper and making stew for the house while the wife is looking for Bluetooth audio speaker to watch film;they are both acting papa ajasco and company... Omo, I done tire for una marital/relationship matters on Nairaland.

Premiumwriter:
Why not sit her down and talk instead of all these tests.

If you want to start cutting cost. Tell her straight.

Seriously, I don't understand all these testing of a thing.

Even Jesus say do not tempt the lord your God.

Talk more of you testing another person. And you are just going to judge her by just one act?

God and humans are not of the status. Don't aay you can't test a human because you can't tempt God.
There's the parable of talents and everything where humans are tempted. And obviously the guy did not set out to test her.

hybridblood07:
In fact, if a girl really want to cut down cost with you she will even suggest home cooking for 2k and 1k can be used for stocking water at home. Meanwhile the 2k food can feed you both twice that day

Thank you ooh...i was expecting somebody to say this ooh...I wonder where them dey see all these their girlfriends.

All the girls I don date if I suggest eating outside. Them nor dey gree..they will rather prepare food at home with that money.

TheOldGods:
I think that's one of the reason, sometimes she makes this statement about my cars especially about my Benz, she call me every time everywhere to drive her as if I'm her driver. If I refuse she starts blackmailing me. Telling me or nonsense, how can I have Benz and I can't be spending money on her very well.

The f*ck?
My friend broke up with a girl because she expected him to come pick her up and take a long turn instead of her to just take a bike 150 at most to his place.

TheOldGods:
We have been dating for a while now. Been coming to my house and my parents knows her. Normally she visits and sleeps over and ofcourse because she is my guest ,I'll have to give her food etc.


So today I decided to be different. I told her I was hungry and if she was, ofcourse she hurried and said yes, dresses up and jumped in my lexus. I just smiled, and started the car and we drove to a restaurant.

Before we got down from the car, I told her that I don't want to spend more than 3k on the meal between the both of us, and I told her to handle it, which she said fine, and split the fees to 1500 each. She got her food and a huge chicken which everything was 1500 naira on her end, and I got swallow which was about 1050 naira on my end. And the total money was 2550 naira. Then suddenly my girlfriend told me she also wants plantain, that the money is not yet upto 3k. That it must reach 3k. I was shocked because, if we were married then she can't help me save money when I tell her let's cut down cost. I thought she would even be happy that she saved me money and now we didn't send upto that 3k. But wow.

The waiter wanted to take the food and add the plantation of 450, but I refused and told her to collect her payment as we were done ordering.

My so called girlfriend then got angry and decided to seat somewhere far away from me, and we didn't see each other till I was done eating, although she waited for me. To my surprise she didn't eat that food, she packaged it back in a takeaway bag, and kept it for me. I asked her why she didn't eat the food she ordered by herself which was already 1500, as we agreed, and she said she won't eat it, and I took the food back. I ate the food myself with the chicken.

Right now, I don't want to take this relationship serious. Did I do the wrong thing by not allowing her spend the remaining money and making it 3k? Which ofcourse was the remaining money from my own food.?

If ur plans is to marry a lady, don't start d habit of carrying her to restaurants where you'd spend 3k.

Instead, give her that 3k or more to cook anything she can cook.


Had it been she cooked rice and that 450 remained, do u think she'd go out again to d market to buy plantain?


Moreover , after training her by carrying her to all restaurants In town...

After marriage, she'd expect the same.
Can u do that for her daily?


Cos once u stop doing that , marriage wahala don start.


Don't let her get d upper hand in d relationship because she claimed to be angry.

You are even d one that owns a Lexus.
Don't call or chat her again.
If possible,Get a new babe.

Naturally, She'd regain her senses after a while then come back to apologize.

But If u ever apologize to her , you'd regret it later

TheOldGods:
We have been dating for a while now. Been coming to my house and my parents knows her. Normally she visits and sleeps over and ofcourse because she is my guest ,I'll have to give her food etc.


So today I decided to be different. I told her I was hungry and if she was, ofcourse she hurried and said yes, dresses up and jumped in my lexus. I just smiled, and started the car and we drove to a restaurant.

Before we got down from the car, I told her that I don't want to spend more than 3k on the meal between the both of us, and I told her to handle it, which she said fine, and split the fees to 1500 each. She got her food and a huge chicken which everything was 1500 naira on her end, and I got swallow which was about 1050 naira on my end. And the total money was 2550 naira. Then suddenly my girlfriend told me she also wants plantain, that the money is not yet upto 3k. That it must reach 3k. I was shocked because, if we were married then she can't help me save money when I tell her let's cut down cost. I thought she would even be happy that she saved me money and now we didn't send upto that 3k. But wow.

The waiter wanted to take the food and add the plantation of 450, but I refused and told her to collect her payment as we were done ordering.

My so called girlfriend then got angry and decided to seat somewhere far away from me, and we didn't see each other till I was done eating, although she waited for me. To my surprise she didn't eat that food, she packaged it back in a takeaway bag, and kept it for me. I asked her why she didn't eat the food she ordered by herself which was already 1500, as we agreed, and she said she won't eat it, and I took the food back. I ate the food myself with the chicken.

Right now, I don't want to take this relationship serious. Did I do the wrong thing by not allowing her spend the remaining money and making it 3k? Which ofcourse was the remaining money from my own food.?

Oga you have gotten yourself a selfish woman.... congratulations

TheOldGods:

[s]Right now, I don't want to take this relationship serious. Did I do the wrong thing by not allowing her spend the remaining money and making it 3k? Which ofcourse was the remaining money from my own food.?[/s]

Don't take it serious na. Go and date a snake. You won't recognise yourself after marriage.

Playing a dirty test game over #450. Who does that? Major turn off.

You want to starve your girlfriend to test her at this stage of your relationship. That means in marriage, you will make her go through hunger.

Don't you know females need extra food with nutrients because they lose blood every month?

Ode.

TheOldGods:
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So today I decided to be different. I told her I was hungry and if she was, ofcourse she hurried and said yes, dresses up and jumped in my lexus. I just smiled, and started the car and we drove to a restaurant.

Before we got down from the car, I told her that I don't want to spend more than 3k on the meal between the both of us, and I told her to handle it, which she said fine, and split the fees to 1500 each. She got her food and a huge chicken which everything was 1500 naira on her end, and I got swallow which was about 1050 naira on my end. And the total money was 2550 naira. Then suddenly my girlfriend told me she also wants plantain, that the money is not yet upto 3k. That it must reach 3k. I was shocked because, if we were married then she can't help me save money when I tell her let's cut down cost. I thought she would even be happy that she saved me money and now we didn't send upto that 3k. But wow.

The waiter wanted to take the food and add the plantation of 450, but I refused and told her to collect her payment as we were done ordering.

My so called girlfriend then got angry and decided to seat somewhere far away from me, and we didn't see each other till I was done eating, although she waited for me.

you v done the right thing. A man must man-up. You need to let your gf or wife know who's in charge.
Also, what you could v done later is to try & explain your actions again when tension dies down. A wise lady ll swallow her ego/vengeance & understand you. But if she's one of these yori-yori babes, she ll harden more.
Watch her closely to finally determine if she's the right one. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.

Na the girl lose na.. next time she calls you, tell her you're not around. If she insists, tell her you don't want to see her again.
Don't ignore red flags so you won't end up regretting later. If car no dey tomorrow, will she agree to jump public transport with you?

She wants to eat her own share of #1500 and the remaining #450 from your #1500 not mimding all the free ones she 's been eating since you both met.

Demigod22:
This is really funny, both of you are just funny. Since you budgeted 3k for the whole food and you have ordered your own and it's okay for you, you should have allowed her use the remaining balance, at least, you have gotten the result of your test.

Sincerely, I don't have problem spending my money on my girlfriend, that's if she is worth it. If your girlfriend is worth it, no need for the whole test. When you need her to be financially wise, you discuss with her, not testing her.

How do you define worth it? Cause it seems like you don't have sense

It's in their nature. I took my girl on a val date. She ordered jollof rice, plantain and chicken which was more expensive, I ordered two wraps of semo, two meats and vegetable soup which is even cheaper. This girl said, let's eat mine together and we will eat here too. See greed o

funshint:
You weren't matured about this. Since you've already gotten your test result, why still go into control mode by disallowing her from using the rest to buy her dodo? Don't play money games with a woman again, even the one that pretends to be conservative during courtship may change when you marry. You can't know a woman fully until you marry her. Just pray to God to give you plenty money. Besides can't she cook?

rubish

Angy55:
[s]You did not do wrong. At that point were you said, you are going out to eat, she is even suppose to suggest to collect the money and cook at home. I know she is just a girlfriend but little things like this can a long way in a relationship.

She has entitlement mentality. Nothing wrong if she had added her own money to buy the plantain[/s].

Pretending suffer suffer fish head.

Calculate all the things they ate and see if when you go to the market to buy them, you won't spend more than 3k.

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So you wanted to test her to see if she’ll help you save but you took her to a restaurant and bought her 1500 rice and chicken you bought amala remaining 450 she wanted plantain and you turned her into a gold digger... if you were so concerned about saving you would’ve asked her to cook and see how she manages the money but no you went out lmao now you played yourself cause you ate food worth of 2600 only you . Says much about your own saving habits so don’t blame the babe , women love providers and softness dem no fit suffer for their papa house come still come your house continue the suffer because them wan be holy Mary abi? Only a simp will money test a woman cause you should know they all love money

TheOldGods:
We have been dating for a while now. Been coming to my house and my parents knows her. Normally she visits and sleeps over and ofcourse because she is my guest ,I'll have to give her food etc.


So today I decided to be different. I told her I was hungry and if she was, ofcourse she hurried and said yes, dresses up and jumped in my lexus. I just smiled, and started the car and we drove to a restaurant.

Before we got down from the car, I told her that I don't want to spend more than 3k on the meal between the both of us, and I told her to handle it, which she said fine, and split the fees to 1500 each. She got her food and a huge chicken which everything was 1500 naira on her end, and I got swallow which was about 1050 naira on my end. And the total money was 2550 naira. Then suddenly my girlfriend told me she also wants plantain, that the money is not yet upto 3k. That it must reach 3k. I was shocked because, if we were married then she can't help me save money when I tell her let's cut down cost. I thought she would even be happy that she saved me money and now we didn't send upto that 3k. But wow.

The waiter wanted to take the food and add the plantation of 450, but I refused and told her to collect her payment as we were done ordering.

My so called girlfriend then got angry and decided to seat somewhere far away from me, and we didn't see each other till I was done eating, although she waited for me. To my surprise she didn't eat that food, she packaged it back in a takeaway bag, and kept it for me. I asked her why she didn't eat the food she ordered by herself which was already 1500, as we agreed, and she said she won't eat it, and I took the food back. I ate the food myself with the chicken.

Right now, I don't want to take this relationship serious. Did I do the wrong thing by not allowing her spend the remaining money and making it 3k? Which ofcourse was the remaining money from my own food.?

I was happy when I read that you are the food she rejected

That was a good one from a man that knows the value of money

You see that your girl be careful, she has no economic plans for your

Most times it's women that tells their boyfriend that they should cook in the house instead of spending more outside

They are the ones that wants spending out to be economical while the guys just wants to impress her

But in your own case, the reserve is the case, what she did their was an act of stubbornness and as such

She needs a break from you, by the time you give her distance she will decide whether to continue or to look for that guy that have no financial plans

Alternatively, use this opportunity to compel her to shop and cook meals at home with any amount you gives her to cook with

By the way, she was even supposed to pay both meals as a support for you since you already made it clear that you have a limited budget

Angy55:
You did not do wrong. At that point were you said, you are going out to eat, she is even suppose to suggest to collect the money and cook at home. I know she is just a girlfriend but little things like this can a long way in a relationship.

She has entitlement mentality. Nothing wrong if she had added her own money to buy the plantain.

Nah, she did nothing wrong, everything was OP idea, surprisingly she adheres duely, her task was to finish 3k, OP seems satisfied with what she ordered for him even if she brought the change a mature reasonable man would let her have it cos she earned it instead of opening thread to wail,.......... wife material overruled on top #450. haba

STENON:
I absolutely love your Girlfriend.
Not everyone grew up from a poor background where you eat food without meat or Plantain. Some things are just absolutely normal and if you don't like it, allow another reasonable Man to marry the Lady .

ma'ma it seems you didn't read in between lines

They agreed to spend 1500 each if truly she wanted plantain to her rice she would have reduce her spending,maybe go for a lesser food which is 1200 then used the remaining 300 for plantain

Simply

TheOldGods:
My so called girlfriend then got angry and decided to seat somewhere far away from me, and we didn't see each other till I was done eating, although she waited for me. To my surprise she didn't eat that food, she packaged it back in a takeaway bag, and kept it for me. I asked her why she didn't eat the food she ordered by herself which was already 1500, as we agreed, and she said she won't eat it, and I took the food back. I ate the food myself with the chicken.

Right now, I don't want to take this relationship serious. Did I do the wrong thing by not allowing her spend the remaining money and making it 3k? Which ofcourse was the remaining money from my own food.?

In few words, she is not a wife material.

Animegirl:


Men with their Yeye way of testing a lady. I don't see any wrong in what your girl did na.

I mean if you have the money, why not spend it? Life isnt that deep abeg. Nigerian men should actually calm down.

See how you made her the wicked person here because she refused to eat your 1500 food.

Reason why most of you have failed relationship/marriage. Small issue both of you can resolve, know her reason and let her know yours, instead you turned it to Russia and Ukraine war.

Just say you want a new girl and move with your wahala.

So sorry, you just revealed yourself.

Demigod22:
This is really funny, both of you are just funny. Since you budgeted 3k for the whole food and you have ordered your own and it's okay for you, you should have allowed her use the remaining balance, at least, you have gotten the result of your test.

Sincerely, I don't have problem spending my money on my girlfriend, that's if she is worth it. If your girlfriend is worth it, no need for the whole test. When you need her to be financially wise, you discuss with her, not testing her.

Don't mind him.

Those hailing him can't even afford to get things from the market and cook themselves since they say it's cheaper.

Hungry people every where.

TheOldGods:
We have been dating for a while now. Been coming to my house and my parents knows her. Normally she visits and sleeps over and ofcourse because she is my guest ,I'll have to give her food etc.


So today I decided to be different. I told her I was hungry and if she was, ofcourse she hurried and said yes, dresses up and jumped in my lexus. I just smiled, and started the car and we drove to a restaurant.

Before we got down from the car, I told her that I don't want to spend more than 3k on the meal between the both of us, and I told her to handle it, which she said fine, and split the fees to 1500 each. She got her food and a huge chicken which everything was 1500 naira on her end, and I got swallow which was about 1050 naira on my end. And the total money was 2550 naira. Then suddenly my girlfriend told me she also wants plantain, that the money is not yet upto 3k. That it must reach 3k. I was shocked because, if we were married then she can't help me save money when I tell her let's cut down cost. I thought she would even be happy that she saved me money and now we didn't send upto that 3k. But wow.

The waiter wanted to take the food and add the plantation of 450, but I refused and told her to collect her payment as we were done ordering.

My so called girlfriend then got angry and decided to seat somewhere far away from me, and we didn't see each other till I was done eating, although she waited for me. To my surprise she didn't eat that food, she packaged it back in a takeaway bag, and kept it for me. I asked her why she didn't eat the food she ordered by herself which was already 1500, as we agreed, and she said she won't eat it, and I took the food back. I ate the food myself with the chicken.

Right now, I don't want to take this relationship serious. Did I do the wrong thing by not allowing her spend the remaining money and making it 3k? Which ofcourse was the remaining money from my own food.?

I don't know your tribe but it's not important here. However, I will suggest you touch your head and say to yourself “my head is there”! YOU NA MAN!
I stand with you. Her senses will be restored after now. My brother, go and play, abeg. �

TheOldGods:
it was crazy how she exhausted hers, she didn't even ask me if I wanted something else to complete the money. Such a selfish fellow

oga boss,when u deal with women,just assume u are dealing with a child.u uad budgeted 3k,she agreed and didn't ask for more,dats enough test.u shudnt have pushed it further.once u budgeted 3k,pls zero ur mind next time and don't expect anything back.450 plantain no go make u broke,u been no suppose expect anything back.women na like dat,no listen to anybody wey dey tell u say she no Sabi save BLA BLA BLA.just smile and let her have it next time,since she didn't go outside ur budget,it's all good.buh she sef for no vex say she no go chop d food,I wish I cud talk to her.relationahip na hard work oooo and most ppl wey dey here still dey sag dere nickers so make u no expect any serious advice here.just tell her say make she no tell u say she no go chaw d food next time.after all no how she wan do you.my story,dis one na my wife sef.madam will wahala me to go buy her chicken from a particular area in gwagz even though dey sell in our area say she like d sauce more.i travelled and had to arrive gwagz at night,luck i passed through dat area,with all d stress I still got down to buy her her favourite chicken.took chicken to madam oooo,next thing I heard was she was expecting ice cream.u can guess my reaction.i told her to return d chicken and buy d ice cream.she maintain and dat was it.tell ur babe make she no dey vex,no body superior pass d oda in a relationship.na two hands dey wash each other.peace out bro.she will come back,don't hesitate to accep her oOoOO.

Nitori chicken and rice

koyyess:
Pretending suffer suffer fish head.

Calculate all the things they ate and see if when you go to the market to buy them, you won't spend more than 3k.

Your opinion though.

If money was easy to come by, she should have just paid for her plantain from her bank account or paid for the whole bill to shame the guy.

Have a nice day.

funshint:
You weren't matured about this. Since you've already gotten your test result, why still go into control mode by disallowing her from using the rest to buy her dodo? Don't play money games with a woman again, even the one that pretends to be conservative during courtship may change when you marry. You can't know a woman fully until you marry her. Just pray to God to give you plenty money. Besides can't she cook?

What sort of talk is this one, she had her 1.500 naira spent already then what is her problem with what he does with his 1.500 naira.
Undisciplined and bad parenting.

Demigod22:
This is really funny, both of you are just funny. Since you budgeted 3k for the whole food and you have ordered your own and it's okay for you, you should have allowed her use the remaining balance, at least, you have gotten the result of your test.

Sincerely, I don't have problem spending my money on my girlfriend, that's if she is worth it. If your girlfriend is worth it, no need for the whole test. When you need her to be financially wise, you discuss with her, not testing her.

You are a shameless simp and I don't pity your type when have problem.

TheOldGods:
We have been dating for a while now. Been coming to my house and my parents knows her. Normally she visits and sleeps over and ofcourse because she is my guest ,I'll have to give her food etc.


So today I decided to be different. I told her I was hungry and if she was, ofcourse she hurried and said yes, dresses up and jumped in my lexus. I just smiled, and started the car and we drove to a restaurant.

Before we got down from the car, I told her that I don't want to spend more than 3k on the meal between the both of us, and I told her to handle it, which she said fine, and split the fees to 1500 each. She got her food and a huge chicken which everything was 1500 naira on her end, and I got swallow which was about 1050 naira on my end. And the total money was 2550 naira. Then suddenly my girlfriend told me she also wants plantain, that the money is not yet upto 3k. That it must reach 3k. I was shocked because, if we were married then she can't help me save money when I tell her let's cut down cost. I thought she would even be happy that she saved me money and now we didn't send upto that 3k. But wow.

The waiter wanted to take the food and add the plantation of 450, but I refused and told her to collect her payment as we were done ordering.

My so called girlfriend then got angry and decided to seat somewhere far away from me, and we didn't see each other till I was done eating, although she waited for me. To my surprise she didn't eat that food, she packaged it back in a takeaway bag, and kept it for me. I asked her why she didn't eat the food she ordered by herself which was already 1500, as we agreed, and she said she won't eat it, and I took the food back. I ate the food myself with the chicken.

Right now, I don't want to take this relationship serious. Did I do the wrong thing by not allowing her spend the remaining money and making it 3k? Which ofcourse was the remaining money from my own food.?

Run away from that leach if you value your life. She is not worth your one kobo

House my girlfriend is talking to other men help!!!!.

funshint:
You weren't matured about this. Since you've already gotten your test result, why still go into control mode by disallowing her from using the rest to buy her dodo? Don't play money games with a woman again, even the one that pretends to be conservative during courtship may change when you marry. You can't know a woman fully until you marry her. Just pray to God to give you plenty money. Besides can't she cook?

This is not a good advice. Which plenty money? You live with whatever you have.

Angy55:


Your opinion though.

If money was easy to come by, [s]she should have just paid for her plantain from her bank account or paid for the whole bill to shame the guy.

Have a nice day.
[/s]

Exactly, I bet you are one of those hungry females envious of a girl that has a guy that can take her out.

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