Dbarrzx:
How u wan dey fight ur papa over his wife property. They owned it together except your mum willed them to you.

Maobichek:
There is no harm in trying ok but the OP's position and the manner he conveyed the whole stroy shows "entitlement mentality" and as such he would find it difficult to consider his dad.

Mindlog:


Mention someone you know who would not die someday? How is she punishing the man by securing the future of the kids they had together?

Are you not aware in many places in Nigeria how when a man dies, his family of birth swoops in to grab whatever they can not minding his nuclear family or how the properties they are swooping on came about?

In one of my earlier posts where I narrated how a woman before her death willed the 4 flats apartments in Lagos which she inherited from her father to the 3 daughters she had with her husband who had 2 other children outside while they were still married. If she wasn't smart enough by now, you and I know that the baby mama would have been upgraded to a wife and would be forming landlady ontop property whey she no know the history and would claim that her son being the man's only male child should be the rightful heir to the property and would go to any length to achieve that.

KiNg0G:
you need to reboot your blunt brain, op said he owns 2 house already?..... which work you go give am... because am sure he wants to build more.

ewu

nencounter10:



Even if the are not registered, the court will still recognise it. BTW apart from a court the certificate issued during church marriage and Niqqah is not recognised in most paces. Until you register a marriage at a marriage registry, it is not yet registered. A marriage is deemed to be registered only and only of it is registered with the government. Those certificate issued during religious marriage just help to proof that a marriage has occurred. That certificate can then be used as a basis for registering the marriage with the government.

One more thing, church and mosque marriage are not traditional marriages, they are regious marriages. There are three types of marriages on Nigeria: court, religious, and traditional. Any of these three is valid, but each still need to be registered. Kobojunkie note the above.

CSTRR:

Well, that is what happens when a man inherits properties too.
It passes to his wife.

The only reason why this one is strange is that usually the surviving parent keeps it for the children.

But normally, it belongs to the surviving parent to do as he or she pleases.

Many women have squandered their late husband's wealth on new boyfriends.

It's their right.

The same applies to the man in this case too.

DMerciful:
Now run along, you've been noticed.

Kobojunkie:
That's what I am getting at. If his parents just so happen to not have registered their union, that is a possible angle OP can pursue in fighting this.

DMerciful:
She willed her properties to her daughters,
this op mother should have done same. Then there would be no fighting

abbey621:
Yes possibly but such a child must be ready to burn bridges and forever be an ostrich to his own family.

GraciousGod190:
As much as I hate bringing this here, I need advice on ways to go about this..is it right for a father to drag his wife wealth with his son, knowing fully well, the son is now a grown man.

Mindlog:


As long as the OP is the woman's son and a recognized heir by the law, her husband (OP's father) can not unilaterally do anything with the properties left behind...he can't sideline his son.

abbey621:


There's no such thing as religious marriage anymore, it is all traditional. For you to get married in a church or by a Muslim clerics, certain requirements must be met such as parental consent, witnesses and in some cases dowry. No credible pastor or Alfa would officiate a union without one hence the term traditional or customary. Moving on, your opening sentence just stated the court will recognize it even if not registered but you contradict yourself by explaining further why it must be registered.

I know for a fact the court recognizes church and niqqah certificates without registering with the governemnt as long as certain requirements are met. Like I said to another person, the only difference between being married at a court/registry and being married in church or via niqqah is the level of protection one' gives over the other, e.g traditional allows polygamy while court registry simply does not.

simpleseyi:


You are a thief. Ole ni e. The properties belong to your father, not you prodigal son.

If the properties were originally your father's properties, your mum will claim them as her own. It should be same now that the properties are originally your mum's

Maobichek:


You have a point but the right question should be: who is the next of kin to the late woman? Did she write a will? These questions clarifies the squabble ok.

If the above questions can't be answered and the husband married her legally with certificate, he definitely has more right to the properties oh!

Kobojunkie:
Well, if it means keeping my dad from handing away my mum's blood and sweat to some second wife or sidechick, heck yeah!

Let that bridge burn well well.

We can rebuild it afterwards.

GraciousGod190:
As much as I hate bringing this here, I need advice on ways to go about this..is it right for a father to drag his wife wealth with his son, knowing fully well, the son is now a grown man.

My mom left us with lot of properties she acquired as inheritance from her father and mother side, been the only surviving child, while she was still around some relatives wanted to grab some of it...claiming she's a woman...but seeing she had a grown up son which was me they had to maintain and stay on their lane... besides my mom was never the sluggish type.

Now, my dad is trying to drag this property with me, saying he wants to sell some of the land without even informing me... he his claiming some of house rents and lavishing it on frivolities anyhow.

Yes he's my father, he trained me up to this stage that I am, but by right I thought Those properties are mine already.since it's inheritance that's supposed to be passed down to her offsprings.....if am wrong please someone should tell me.

Oyerinde16:
Your fada owns your mother and all her properties, by right it, it belongs to your dad and not you... After your dad is gone then you can inherit what belongs to them...

If your mom was around, she and her partner (your father) will decide what to do with it... U have no say... Wait till its passed down to you...

Cos your argument is your father has no right over his wife's properties simply because she I'd no more... That's wrong...

neey1028:


No mind am,
Very soon I forsee him killing the old man cos of him wife property.
How dare you drag your mum's property with your father....children of last days

Gospel2Day:


Why are some men so shameless that they want to inherit what belongs to the family of their wives?
The property is not what the wife worked hard to acquire.
She inherited it from her parents.
I think it is an irresponsible man that would want to inherit such property.
Can you see why families don't want to let their female daughters share in their inheritance?
Because they know their husbands will acquire the inheritance.
As a responsible man you should have enough dignity and self-respect NOT to touch any property that your wife inherited.
That is covetousness and stealing by stealth.
Shalom.

abbey621:
1. Isn't it funny that he never said they were bequeathed to him but he said left to us? Court cases are messy and imagine if there's no documentation that proves she left those properties specifically for him, imagine what would happen?

2. I hope he is the only son and that the dad is at an age too late to start bearing children, imagine what would happen if that boy lost the case. Sometimes the wise thing to do is letting go, unless the boy feels that he would never be able to build something worth more money than the inherited properties. My father has over 6 properties, my mom has 2 but guess what I already have over 10, our generation no dey too dull, the wise no dey even look at inheritance

GraciousGod190:


How?

Really

I don't agree at all

If I wasn't born, do you think those property would be accessible to him?
Because he married my mother.
It would have been passed down to the closest
relative of my mother kindreds

GraciousGod190:
As much as I hate bringing this here, I need advice on ways to go about this..is it right for a father to drag his wife wealth with his son, knowing fully well, the son is now a grown man.

My mom left us with lot of properties she acquired as inheritance from her father and mother side, been the only surviving child, while she was still around some relatives wanted to grab some of it...claiming she's a woman...but seeing she had a grown up son which was me they had to maintain and stay on their lane... besides my mom was never the sluggish type.

Now, my dad is trying to drag this property with me, saying he wants to sell some of the land without even informing me... he his claiming some of house rents and lavishing it on frivolities anyhow.

Yes he's my father, he trained me up to this stage that I am, but by right I thought Those properties are mine already.since it's inheritance that's supposed to be passed down to her offsprings.....if am wrong please someone should tell me.

nencounter10:


So, if you just go with you relatives to the woman's house and pay dowry and do a marriage ceremony, then take the woman to your house. Has marriage not occurred? If you sleep with such a woman, are you committing fornication?

Oyerinde16:
Your fada owns your mother and all her properties, by right it, it belongs to your dad and not you... After your dad is gone then you can inherit what belongs to them...

If your mom was around, she and her partner (your father) will decide what to do with it... U have no say... Wait till its passed down to you...

Cos your argument is your father has no right over his wife's properties simply because she I'd no more... That's wrong...

bjprodint1:
Are u ur mom's next of kin?dont u av other siblings cos it seems u are d only one fighting 4 properties.uncle,go and hustle so dat u can leave properties for ur wife.or is it ur mom's properties u want 2 leave 4 ur wife and kids?

Kobojunkie:
1. So long as he is able to show the property belonged to her prior to her demise and that he is her progeny, isn't that all that matters?,

2. Which age is too late to start bearing sons? It is possible his father already has another family somewhere else, and that might be part reason why the Op is trying to fight against having what ought to be his distributed by his father.

PeaceJoyLove:




May the mercy of God remove the poverty in your lives.

How can men like you drag properties your father inlaw left behind? Ha! Poverty no get respect. See how poverty turned you to shameless people.

If poverty no dey your life...na you suppose stand like Zuma Rock behind your son that dem no born anybody in your wife's family to trouble your son. But as par say poverty don hook you....see.as how you turn to a ...wetin a fit describe you with oooo.

Anyway.... poverty must die in your lives.
Na deliverance go do am.