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Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by kizyalex10(m): 1:39am On Jun 18, 2022
Islandlady:
Nairalanders I need y'all mature advice on this issue, No insults tho

I have been friends with my male friend for over 11years now, so he is more like a brother to me! He got married 3yrs ago, But we live in the same district, I do visit them once in a while! And I usually bump into his wife at market places, malls or on the street due to the fact that we live in the same district.anyone wey advice the lady to mind her business,mean say ashawo Dey the person eye too.just use another number or anonymous number to send him the pics and explain ur concern and don’t speak with him

My friend is hardly around for the past few Weeks due to the fact that he do travel for work. . .But recently I have been seeing his wife with a Man just about the age of my friend, I have seen them together at the mall for 3 times now for a period interval of 3 weeks, I usually dodge and escape myself so they won't see me! The last time I saw them together I took a sneak pictures of them, I don't know this man, I have never seen him when I visit them, he is not a family member! I have been curious so I feel I should call the attention of my friend to this and send him the pictures too!

Should I tell him about it or what? I am confused!
Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by baby124: 2:02am On Jun 18, 2022
Psoul:


You've bn a friend of this man for over 11yrs and no amorous feelings for him.
How come you don't think that the wife is just a friend to the strange man u saw her with without amorous feelings too.
You better go and get married and leave this family alone.
What kind of lady are u.
You want to report someone for doing exactly what u have consistently done (and still doing) for over 11yrs.
Be Careful oo.
You articulated my mind completely. This is why women come in and scatter friendships between their husband and all these single girls/ single friends. Too much time on their hands to be doing James Bond move. Because the wife no chase the OP make her leg no reach ground, she feels comfortable enough to now start pokenosing in their marriage.

To the point that she’s so sure she knows all relatives of the couple. This is how much she has placed herself firmly in that marriage. Now that you have seen what you have been looking for and forming inspector gadget. Find a way to tell him. You assume the wife also did not see you abi? If they were all that close, she will not hide to take pics, she will openly approach the wife. I suspect the wife does not like OP’s presence and influence in her marriage. Now, OP has seen opportunity she thinks she has been looking for. She will learn that at the end of the day, Kpekus and Toto matter na mystery grin. She will also learn her place, that she’s just a friend and very dispensable when it comes to a marriage.

Just get ready for any consequences because we women know how to pick the right suspects. She will now be more careful about the people who have access to her husband. Including you! E go shock you when she puts her foot down, it’s her house and not yours. Her marriage and not yours! Get ready dear. Nigerian women that don’t play with their husband and marriage is who you want to mess with abi? Make sure when you are doing the Aproko that no body on this earth and in heaven will know it’s you!

You are such close friends with a MARRIED man for 11yrs. Even before marriage and he did not marry you! Ouch!

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Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by Truvelisback(m): 2:44am On Jun 18, 2022
Prettygirl200:
Chai who is this guy Mehn I love u for this comment take kisses kiss kiss they didn't even see or think about this side all they are doing is attacking their mothers and father's bc I said the lady should mind her business, dem dey shook mouth for husband and wife matter? She is a friend to the man not his wife why should she be the one to go do the amebo?? She could even be accused of sleeping the the woman's husband by the woman herself or Las las dem go put her for front take settle but no the MORONS that call themselves men in the forums are busy attacking their ancestors. My brother may God bless u for this comment exactly what I meant by telling the lady to mind her business. It is well!!!
Thanks dear. It's my pleasure. There is this secular song in my dialect(Ijaw). It says: In this life, if u do good, problem, and if u do not do good also, another problem. It says many people have lost their lives for doing good. However, this doesn't mean u shouldn't do good but it is time to apply wisdom.
Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by Evii: 5:01am On Jun 18, 2022
Babe, I advice u tell him but before then your friend should have more evidence by tracking or cloning her what's app and also duplicating her Facebook.
With that he'll know more about her illicit affairs
Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by ukandi1(m): 6:04am On Jun 18, 2022
Islandlady:
I will surely go through every comments on here today and take the ones that is best!

I appreciate y'all for your contributions & supports, even those that insulted me I forgive you!!!

Leave this talk.

Call your friend up and save him while u still can. Remember u have been part of each other for over 11yrs before a woman came by . Don't let him die.
Tell him

Tell him

Tell him.

How he handles it thereafter is not your business. You have made peace with God and your conscience.
Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by anonimi: 6:06am On Jun 18, 2022
Myles22:
I have been in this situation before ... I bought a new SIM, used a random phone and sent the pictures to him on WhatsApp... Told him what's been happening, Broke the SIM and kept on minding my business..

And then how did he react? What happened after?

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Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by Mypeople2(m): 6:35am On Jun 18, 2022
Islandlady:
Nairalanders I need y'all mature advice on this issue, No insults tho

I have been friends with my male friend for over 11years now, so he is more like a brother to me! He got married 3yrs ago, But we live in the same district, I do visit them once in a while! And I usually bump into his wife at market places, malls or on the street due to the fact that we live in the same district.

My friend is hardly around for the past few Weeks due to the fact that he do travel for work. . .But recently I have been seeing his wife with a Man just about the age of my friend, I have seen them together at the mall for 3 times now for a period interval of 3 weeks, I usually dodge and escape myself so they won't see me! The last time I saw them together I took a sneak pictures of them, I don't know this man, I have never seen him when I visit them, he is not a family member! I have been curious so I feel I should call the attention of my friend to this and send him the pictures too!

Should I tell him about it or what? I am confused!
Are you sure they are not related? You can't possibly know all her relatives and friends.
Also, when you saw them together, were they kissing or romancing ? How were they behaving? These are the questions you need to ask yourself before meeting your friend.Nor be just to dey dodge dey snap pictures as if you be photographer
Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by blazepascal(m): 6:38am On Jun 18, 2022
After all nobody is perfect go and tell the man what you saw thats the best thing ..forget all those pple saying mind ur business but if na dem naa e happen to dem no go mind thier their business

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Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by blazepascal(m): 6:38am On Jun 18, 2022
After all nobody is perfect go and tell the man what you saw thats the best thing ..forget all those pple saying mind ur business buf na dem naa ebhappen to dem no go mind thier their business

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Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by blazepascal(m): 6:41am On Jun 18, 2022
killmods:

You must be a very bad friend. So u see danger coming for him and u would rather fold ur arms and keep quiet. And even smile and laugh with him? People dey oo
you dey mind that gurl
Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by goody2019: 6:42am On Jun 18, 2022
Prettygirl200:
U must be a fool.
How pretty is this 'prettygirl'?
Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by Bekind123: 6:45am On Jun 18, 2022
TheGoodJoe:


He is her friend and she is not comfortable with the closeness. She needs to let the husband know to clear it up with his wife. It might be nothing or something. But, as a friend, she needs to let him know.

I do not think she would feel comfortable doing such to her boyfriend or husband because she finds it inapporpriate. No need attacking her.
what about her friendship with the said husband or is she a male. If she can keep a married man as friend,why can't the woman keep a male friend too.
Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by blazepascal(m): 6:45am On Jun 18, 2022
Prettygirl200:
Madam u better mind your business oooo
you would be a potential cheat in the future im sure .. better get sense now
Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by TheGoodJoe(m): 6:46am On Jun 18, 2022
Bekind123:
what about her friendship with the said husband or is she a male. If she can keep a married man as friend,why can't the woman keep a male friend too.

They were friends for years before they got married and she is no more as close to him as she used to because he is now married. However, once in a while, she checks on the man. So, they are no more close like before. Also, the wife knows her and she is not moving around with him to hangout.
Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by Bekind123: 6:55am On Jun 18, 2022
TheGoodJoe:


They were friends for years before they got married and she is no more as close to him as she used to because he is now married. However, once in a while, she checks on the man. So, they are no more close like before. Also, the wife knows her and she is not moving around with him to hangout.
Really, you know them too??
Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by TheGoodJoe(m): 7:03am On Jun 18, 2022
Bekind123:
Really, you know them too??

I am making inferences from her statements.
Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by Islandlady(f): 7:08am On Jun 18, 2022
Bekind123:
Really, you know them too??
He is right, ever since he got married I restrict myself from things I do with him like hangout, having fun and so on...I respect his marriage and privacy, I visit them on invitation from him and his wife and I am cool with that!!
Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by Bekind123: 7:17am On Jun 18, 2022
TheGoodJoe:


I am making inferences from her statements.
To me, that lady is up to something in that marriage by claiming she knows every of the woman's relatives by merely attending her wedding.why does she have to hide to take a picture of her friends wife at a mall, Is she monitoring her?
Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by ziego(m): 7:24am On Jun 18, 2022
Cypress042:
Her husband your friend? Tell me something cool

Ehee nau

E dey happen because she visits them

So both husband and wife knows the friendship
Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by NoToPile: 7:27am On Jun 18, 2022
TheGoodJoe:


They were friends for years before they got married and she is no more as close to him as she used to because he is now married. However, once in a while, she checks on the man. So, they are no more close like before. Also, the wife knows her and she is not moving around with him to hangout.

If she is no more as close to him as you claim, how come she's so certain the man is someone that the wife should not be close with maybe a relative or cousin that even came to stay with her since her husband is not around.



Islandlady:
He is right, ever since he got married I restrict myself from things I do with him like hangout, having fun and so on...I respect his marriage and privacy, I visit them on invitation from him and his wife and I am cool with that!!

So how sure are you the guy is not a relative of the wife? Since you are not so into their marriage as you claim. You can't claim to know all her relatives noow.

You are suggesting she's having an affair and all you have is pictures from the mall? Not even suggestive pictures.

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Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by Bekind123: 7:33am On Jun 18, 2022
Islandlady:
He is right, ever since he got married I restrict myself from things I do with him like hangout, having fun and so on...I respect his marriage and privacy, I visit them on invitation from him and his wife and I am cool with that!!
Then, by now she should also be your friend, why don't you go straight up to ask who the young man is to her, but not in suspicious way, ask as though you are interested in the man, being that you are single.
Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by Cypress042: 7:41am On Jun 18, 2022
ziego:

Ehee nau
E dey happen because she visits them
So both husband and wife knows the friendship
Okay cool
Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by Hollybratt(m): 7:42am On Jun 18, 2022
Raychee:
Tell him anonymously with the picture evidence.
Oshey, photographer , Na so dem take dey snatch husband 4rm u undecided
Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by Islandlady(f): 7:43am On Jun 18, 2022
Bekind123:
Then, by now she should also be your friend, why don't you go straight up to ask who the young man is to her, but not in suspicious way, ask as though you are interested in the man, being that you are single.
Hmm why I hide away when I see her with the guy is that, if she knows that I have seen her and the husband finds out later by himself that she is into an external affairs, I will be the prime suspect and you never can tell how evil people are this days! It's okay sha I will try and approach her about it in a less suspicious way..Thanks
Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by GCFR: 8:26am On Jun 18, 2022
Islandlady:
Nairalanders I need y'all mature advice on this issue, No insults tho

I have been friends with my male friend for over 11years now, so he is more like a brother to me! He got married 3yrs ago, But we live in the same district, I do visit them once in a while! And I usually bump into his wife at market places, malls or on the street due to the fact that we live in the same district.

My friend is hardly around for the past few Weeks due to the fact that he do travel for work. . .But recently I have been seeing his wife with a Man just about the age of my friend, I have seen them together at the mall for 3 times now for a period interval of 3 weeks, I usually dodge and escape myself so they won't see me! The last time I saw them together I took a sneak pictures of them, I don't know this man, I have never seen him when I visit them, he is not a family member! I have been curious so I feel I should call the attention of my friend to this and send him the pictures too!

Should I tell him about it or what? I am confused!



Please help your friend before he falls into the abyss. All you need to tell him is to set up his own surveillance and patrol to establish what is actually going on between his wife and said man.


He should promise you not react until all observations are neatly and comprehensively done.

I have been married for 19.5 years. On three occassions have I knipped such in the bud by being always alert. There are always male aggressors around which if allowed are ignoble enough to destroy homes.

On the three occassions, I was lucky that the aggressors were just commencing their onslaught.

Heaven knows that forgiving infidelity is a crime in my universe.

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Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by Islandlady(f): 8:36am On Jun 18, 2022
GCFR:




Please help your friend before he falls into the abyss. All you need to tell him is to set up his own surveillance and patrol to establish what is actually going on between his wife and said man.


He should promise you not react until all observations are neatly and comprehensively done.

I have been married for 19.5 years. On three occassions have I knipped such in the bud by being always alert. There are always male aggressors around which if allowed are ignoble enough to destroy homes.

On the three occassions, I was lucky that the aggressors were just commencing their onslaught.

Heaven knows that forgiving infidelity is a crime in my universe.



Alright thanks for this contribution! You such a real man to hold a home for 19.5 yrs in marriage...more wisdom sir

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Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by plutonicVodka(m): 8:38am On Jun 18, 2022
Go ahead and spread the Good news to ur friend grin we are in support of the vawulence that might arise after the news has been heard so go on my friend grin

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Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by alaska4life: 8:41am On Jun 18, 2022
You can't help a friend by sneaking out when ever you saw them! Do the needful, by confronting her, tell her to stop it, that you have eyes on her not just you alone but you have also put a spies to be watching on her that when ever they see you with thesame guy or any other guys in a odd place they should let your know! By doing this, she will retrace her footsteps for good. By this you have help a friend and not the other way round because you might destroy a home
Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by Dayvidblue: 9:04am On Jun 18, 2022
Cypress042:
Her husband your friend? Tell me something cool
I see nothing wrong with that, at least it's no secret.
Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by kelspinall(m): 9:10am On Jun 18, 2022
tell him
Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by Cypress042: 9:37am On Jun 18, 2022
Dayvidblue:

I see nothing wrong with that, at least it's no secret.
Never said something's wrong with it
Re: Should I Tell My Male Friend What I Noticed About His Wife? by TheGoodJoe(m): 9:48am On Jun 18, 2022
NoToPile:


If she is no more as close to him as you claim, how come she's so certain the man is someone that the wife should not be close with maybe a relative or cousin that even came to stay with her since her husband is not around.

So how sure are you the guy is not a relative of the wife? Since you are not so into their marriage as you claim. You can't claim to know all her relatives noow.

You are suggesting she's having an affair and all you have is pictures from the mall? Not even suggestive pictures.

That is for the husband to enquire. She is concerned about the closeness. She is asking should she alert her friend. I think so. Especially if she values her friend and his marriage.

Let us leave affair out of it. She is not comfortable with the closeness and she should let her friend know. If it is a cousin or brother, that is for the husband to find out. There may be no cause for alarm, or there might be. When she shows the friend the picture, if it is a family member, he will tell her. If he does not know him, he needs to ask his wife who this close companion is.

if he does not like such a relationship, he will let the wife know and she will stop it.

Please, tell him and show him the picture.

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