Don't do it bro stand ur ground she will get mad but she will and respect you as a man that knows his worth and value, also calmly give her reasons why it's not proper

Your girlfriend admire and value you as boyfriend. She want to let you know that you are the only person in her life. She is proud to be your girlfriend. If you don't love and proud of her why still keeping her. Girlfriend and boyfriend is a relationship that could lead to marriage. If you cannot marry her, stop keeping her as a girlfriend. At least free her. Any girlfriend that want you to be in uniform with her in the presence of her family is because she want your type of man as a husband. Stop wasting her time with you.

Born2winnx:
Hello all
My girlfriend wants me to wear same native attire to her niece wedding on Friday. I thought she was joking when she suggested it last week, because I don't even plan on going due to my busy schedule. But to my surprise she's just came to my house with some yards of the material she bought with her money.

Though I appreciate her good gestures, but I don't think it's right.. We are not married. What will her people say when dey see me with her like that because her father, mother, brothers and sisters will be there, not talking about her extended families.

I had to confide with a friend and he told me blantly that it is a set up, I should abort. That he had witness a similar case in a party when a guy was behaving as if he had paid his girlfriend bride price...what happened was the guy didn't leave the way he came. I won't want that to happen to me but before I decide I like to hear from you all.

relationship is 3months
I don't know her family house, talkless to know who born her.. not yet ready to.

Zonefree:

Generous indeed

Mariah, stick to food section please. You're bad when it comes to relationship advice.

Good morning.

Thumbs Up! She should just face her food

Born2winnx:
Hello all
My girlfriend wants me to wear same native attire to her niece wedding on Friday. I thought she was joking when she suggested it last week, because I don't even plan on going due to my busy schedule. But to my surprise she's just came to my house with some yards of the material she bought with her money.

Though I appreciate her good gestures, but I don't think it's right.. We are not married. What will her people say when dey see me with her like that because her father, mother, brothers and sisters will be there, not talking about her extended families.

I had to confide with a friend and he told me blantly that it is a set up, I should abort. That he had witness a similar case in a party when a guy was behaving as if he had paid his girlfriend bride price...what happened was the guy didn't leave the way he came. I won't want that to happen to me but before I decide I like to hear from you all.

relationship is 3months
I don't know her family house, talkless to know who born her.. not yet ready to.

I wanted to say consider then saw "relationship is 3 months".

DO NOT DO IT!.
I repeat...DO NOT DO IT!!.

You can go to the wedding but don't wear that attire.

Zonefree:
Don't fall for that cheap manipulation from her. Na over familiarity dey cause all this nonsense!

You can decide to go for the wedding if you're less busy but don't wear same attire with her. She's just a girlfriend...don't let your girlfriend stops you from finding the love of your life. The love of your life might be in that wedding. Be wise!

......You wicked o!!!

Born2winnx:
Hello all
My girlfriend wants me to wear same native attire to her niece wedding on Friday. I thought she was joking when she suggested it last week, because I don't even plan on going due to my busy schedule. But to my surprise she's just came to my house with some yards of the material she bought with her money.

Though I appreciate her good gestures, but I don't think it's right.. We are not married. What will her people say when dey see me with her like that because her father, mother, brothers and sisters will be there, not talking about her extended families.

I had to confide with a friend and he told me blantly that it is a set up, I should abort. That he had witness a similar case in a party when a guy was behaving as if he had paid his girlfriend bride price...what happened was the guy didn't leave the way he came. I won't want that to happen to me but before I decide I like to hear from you all.

relationship is 3months
I don't know her family house, talkless to know who born her.. not yet ready to.

What's the worse that could happen?

Some people are saying it is a trap, but i think it is not a trap but it show is seeing you as her husband. She loves you. But she is over possessive of you.

Mariangeles:
The materials she bought could be the aso ebi that most of the guests would be wearing.
Find out before concluding that she might have an ulterior motive.
It could be that she's just being generous.
Men though.

Be it guests or the whole local government sef, wearing that asoebi is a no!,.. and the babe insisting is a red flag.

Don't pretend not to be busy on that day. Be smart not to lose that fabric, take the damn fabric, sew an elaborate design and ensure you let her know you'd be there unfailing but a day to the event, design an elaborate lie of a travel warranting nature. Go elsewhere for a nice time, return the next day and apologize profusely. You can always adorn the cloth for other outings.

PLEASE learn to play the game of life.

Marriage is not bad,but you are not bold enough for it, hence this question.

MrMcJay:
She is trying to mark her territory.

That girl is marking her territory, staking ownership on the guy and showing off her prize before her family members. The guy will now get there, her family members will be telling the guy to do quick and pick date.

Pick which date? Guy wey just pay for IELTS.

lmao!!!!!..........

Zelenskyy:
A sign of no True love...

This OP is asking this question because he has no plans to marry her. If he is convinced that she is the one for him, he would not think twice about this matter.

3 months is enough time to know whether you truly love someone and want to continue this relationship down to the Altar...


I see someone that came to EAT AND RUN

And most men behave like this when they see the lady as not adding anything to their life...

One question for the OP...

If na Dangote , Otedola or Governor's daughter that you love ask you to wear the same Asho ebi, would you come to Nairaland to ask for public opinion ... ?

Would you not jump at the offer.... ?

Answer Truthfully and don't deceive yourself.

Like I said, No True Love here.

She sees you as Husband material but you are still wearing your EAT AND RUN cap. If not you will not be here asking this question

That your girlfriend is not getting any younger. That is why she is doing what she is doing.

So let her know as soon as possible your intentions for the relationship. There is no Crime telling her that you don't intend to marry her. So that she can prepare her heart for her missing ribs..


But you may not tell her that because your plan is to EAT, EAT, EAT AND RUN and possibly delay her marital Destiny

U're right.
I think d lady just Wana save face. She should b advanced for her niece to b getting married. Maybe late 30s...

Let him help her get d deal done if he truly cares... She's not forcing u to marry her. She's just asking u make it seem u guys are in a serious relationship, finish!

She must've been passing through alot to make such demand.

My sister in-law is almost suffering same date. She's d last born but she looks so advanced cos she's fat and eats alot. Her elder sisters are married, her 3 brodas all married. Everyone now looks her with pity. Now she finds it hard coming home.

Na only married people dey wear ashebi? Just drop ur live location to a trusted friend and go enjoy urself

Nigerians and relationship wahala.

Bro if you one wear, wear ohhh !!!!

If You no one wear leave am.

I don't just understand you guys, she is your girlfriend why in the world are you dating her if not for marriage or you are a hit-and-run driver?

Don't listen to people follow your mind.

For me it's not bad it's a common thing if you are the one that wanted you both to wear similar outfits then she refuse you will still come here and say she is cheating on you that's why she refuse.

So do what pleases thou.

Hit and run driver , you day date and whip person daughter and you no want make people see una together with same outfit.

� Lol

Omuuvwie:
If it's a general cloth for the event no problem about that you can go if you are less busy, but if it's her family cloth bro don't try it.

Guy...wether general, national or whatever i no dey wear!!!

Simply tell her you have another engagement. She would be greatly disappointed and vexed. Be careful, before she accuses of something you didn't do.

Born2winnx:
Hello all
My girlfriend wants me to wear same native attire to her niece wedding on Friday. I thought she was joking when she suggested it last week, because I don't even plan on going due to my busy schedule. But to my surprise she's just came to my house with some yards of the material she bought with her money.

Though I appreciate her good gestures, but I don't think it's right.. We are not married. What will her people say when dey see me with her like that because her father, mother, brothers and sisters will be there, not talking about her extended families.

I had to confide with a friend and he told me blantly that it is a set up, I should abort. That he had witness a similar case in a party when a guy was behaving as if he had paid his girlfriend bride price...what happened was the guy didn't leave the way he came. I won't want that to happen to me but before I decide I like to hear from you all.

relationship is 3months
I don't know her family house, talkless to know who born her.. not yet ready to.

I am sure she is close to 27years and above.And you are doing well for yourself. That is why she is being "generous"Girls are wise.it amuses me when people call them fish brains.

sisisioge:
This is really funny. On the other hand, the uniform might be aso ebi chosen for the occasion for all to wear o. Anyways, find out if it's not then no need to fight, just arrange for your tailor to forget to deliver the sewn cloth or be too busy to attend. No one should force anyone to commit biko....it is that simple.

A wise comrade!

Take one!

WhatThen:


Thumbs Up! She should just face her food

Zonefree, o wu oke egwuregwu na e bute udi nonsense a na nairaland.

Zubydeangelo:
Your girlfriend don get niece & you are still doing boyfriend & girlfriend things with her.

she's the last Born, her niece is older than her

shantti:
Something is fishy. Hmmmmmmmm

O.p, what if that so called ceremony is your igbankwu secretly mapped out without your knowledge.

What if, when you get there, the village youths will beat you into paying her dowry, then you will sit down, her father will give her wine and she will dance with her ashebi and bring it to you. You go dey drink the wine dey shed tears. Then the village youth will beat you again into dropping some currency into the wine tumbler. Then they will beat you again into dancing with her. U go dey dance buga with her dey cry. Then they will finally beat you into taking you newly wedded wife home

my belle wan burst imagining the scenario!

shantti:
Something is fishy. Hmmmmmmmm

O.p, what if that so called ceremony is your igbankwu secretly mapped out without your knowledge.

What if, when you get there, the village youths will beat you into paying her dowry, then you will sit down, her father will give her wine and she will dance with her ashebi and bring it to you. You go dey drink the wine dey shed tears. Then the village youth will beat you again into dropping some currency into the wine tumbler. Then they will beat you again into dancing with her. U go dey dance buga with her dey cry. Then they will finally beat you into taking you newly wedded wife home

Atleast you don marry for less and she loves you to marry you like that unlike the one way you go love later na you and other guys go day eat am.

Am I on the 7th page lol. I believe the advice you've gotten so far is more than enough. It is quite funny though.

ThePlugg:
Op u don enter ....her NEICE de marry....mad oo,she withnessed the birth of that girl getting married.....guy marry her nau

her niece is older than her with months. shes the last of their family

sisisioge:
This is really funny. On the other hand, the uniform might be aso ebi chosen for the occasion for all to wear o. Anyways, find out if it's not then no need to fight, just arrange for your tailor to forget to deliver the sewn cloth or be too busy to attend. No one should force anyone to commit biko....it is that simple.

Sisi ehn...

I took note of that, just in case shaa.✍️

So, why is that a problem? You don't have plans for her?

myike2:
“Your girlfriend’s niece.” All other things equal, it’s safe to say your girlfriend is no longer a young lady if her niece is already getting married.

My question for you: is it at this age that she wants to be playing love with asoebi?

My answer for you: run o!!! If you wear that asoebi, na una traditional wedding you don do so o.

I cum in peace.

Some niece dey senior their aunty o...

vincentjk:

Lol you mean he's planning on studying abroad?

If that guy reach airport, no coming back o.

MrMcJay:
She is trying to mark her territory.

That girl is marking her territory, staking ownership on the guy and showing off her prize before her family members. The guy will now get there, her family members will be telling the guy to do quick and pick date.

Pick which date? Guy wey just pay for IELTS.

The bolded is just so funny....

Slynation:
The kind of useless advise female dey give for here shaaaah

If the man enters into trouble with the advise, it's still the same gender that would be the first to lambast him that he could have used his head...

Take advice from that gender at your early grave. Hv u ever come across good advice from caused gender before

There is no big deal in wearing asoebi with a girl you claim to be in relationship with, them they even break marriage talk less of boyfriend and girlfriend.

I don't understand, why will any reasonable girl will want to wear thesame outfit with a guy that isn't her husband doesn't it look ridiculous