Madampauline:
Back in the days I dated a married man I was 19 he was 35 married with kids.

He had done a lot for me, thanks to him I am in Europe now he has done everything for me.

I broke his heart after moving in Europe in 2011, I blocked him and moved on with my life.

I am happily married since 2015 with 2 beautiful children.

I learned that he passed away this year march and his wife and five children have nowhere to stay.

She is actually staying in church with 2 children while the other 3 are with relatives.

I feel so sad and I want to help her with accommodation and will give her money for business, I want to do know anonymously because if she knows it is me who want to help her I don't think she will accept the money.

Should I do it anonymously or I should let her know I am the one who want to help her.

Advice me please

Are you feeling guilt?
Are you about to do this because your conscience pricks you and you desperately want to absorb yourself of any wrong before you too pass to the great beyond?
If yes, you are absolutely spot on. But first seek for forgiveness from God, then forgive yourself, then anonymously help the kids however you can, as for her, you say she stays in the church, let her be in the time been, find means to contact the head pastor of the church, now share whatever you intend to give in two; some to the church treasury and another to the woman's account, however, confess to the pastor exactly what you have us reading here, meanwhile, tell him you will like to be anonymous if the woman ask and if she isn't satisfied with anonymous, he should tell her it's someone her husband helped long ago and tbh he or she doesn't want to be known for the time been, atleast, mk the woman happy say her man do small good before he kpai. If you can afford it, do this every 6 month or year depending on how generous you intend to be and how much you got. This way, you may have fulfilled the gospel of Mathew 6:3 "But when you give to the poor and do acts of kindness, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing give in complete secrecy." Amplified version.
"But when you do a charitable deed, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing." Nkjv.
My 2cent.

"I am happily married since 2015 with 2 beautiful children"





Fvck up nor dey sour, wetin happen for goat house go happen for sheep own......That's all I got to tell you.

Eriokanmi:
I broke his heart after moving in Europe in 2011, I blocked him and moved on with my life.... Typical of an average Nigerian woman. Too bad. But why do some Nigerian women behave this way?

Didn't they know we humans are like steams and we'd flow and meet someday?

which typical of an average nigerian woman point are saying ?

Please do.

Madampauline:
Back in the days I dated a married man I was 19 he was 35 married with kids.

He had done a lot for me, thanks to him I am in Europe now he has done everything for me.

I broke his heart after moving in Europe in 2011, I blocked him and moved on with my life.

I am happily married since 2015 with 2 beautiful children.

I learned that he passed away this year march and his wife and five children have nowhere to stay.

She is actually staying in church with 2 children while the other 3 are with relatives.

I feel so sad and I want to help her with accommodation and will give her money for business, I want to do know anonymously because if she knows it is me who want to help her I don't think she will accept the money.

Should I do it anonymously or I should let her know I am the one who want to help her.

Advice me please

James91:
At 19 you are already riding married man dick wonderful, try to help them please if not for anything for the love you have with the Man, specially when you guys are making love.

she didn't love the man, never loved the man, she was there for wat the man could offer her, she was there for d opportunities she saw with being with him as soon as she landed in Europe and settled, she broke d man's heart cos she was there all for the money, Naija girls re completely heartless, never give them ur heart completely,
d man must be twisting in his grave knowing u contributed to his death and his families homeless and he was d cause of it, u helping is a sad reminder, Goodness me, women are heartless, cruel and unfeeling

Madampauline:


She knows me well

Eyah, that's another issue, did you ask for her forgiveness then, if yes, she should have forgotten the past.

Find a way to help them out of the ugly situations they have found themselves in,things happen and am not here to blame you but they really need the help now, accommodation first, foodstuffs and help her start a business if you have the financial strength,let love lead.

Men you should gather here and learn from this. If the deceased has invested all the money he spent on his side chick (that later left him heart broken) his family wouldn't have been homeless upon his demise.

Women are one of the most wicked beings that have ever existed..God save us

Please help them. God will send you a helper too. Do it anonymously and later on let her know you are the one helping her. I Thank you on her behalf.

Madampauline:
Back in the days I dated a married man I was 19 he was 35 married with kids.

He had done a lot for me, thanks to him I am in Europe now he has done everything for me.

I broke his heart after moving in Europe in 2011, I blocked him and moved on with my life.

I am happily married since 2015 with 2 beautiful children.

I learned that he passed away this year march and his wife and five children have nowhere to stay.

She is actually staying in church with 2 children while the other 3 are with relatives.

I feel so sad and I want to help her with accommodation and will give her money for business, I want to do know anonymously because if she knows it is me who want to help her I don't think she will accept the money.

Should I do it anonymously or I should let her know I am the one who want to help her.

Advice me please

In any way possible please do assist her. Perhaps, God made you like a Joseph ahead of his siblings.

I guess the assistance her late husband gave you was for this purpose.

Doing it anonymously is ok but someday she will know but make sure the person you are using to assist her doesn't defraud her or robe her of all the stuff you want to do.

ZIMDRILL:


which typical of an average nigerian woman point are saying ?

Why Block him after doing her so much good?

Madampauline:
Back in the days I dated a married man I was 19 he was 35 married with kids.

He had done a lot for me, thanks to him I am in Europe now he has done everything for me.

I broke his heart after moving in Europe in 2011, I blocked him and moved on with my life.

I am happily married since 2015 with 2 beautiful children.

I learned that he passed away this year march and his wife and five children have nowhere to stay.

She is actually staying in church with 2 children while the other 3 are with relatives.

I feel so sad and I want to help her with accommodation and will give her money for business, I want to do know anonymously because if she knows it is me who want to help her I don't think she will accept the money.

Should I do it anonymously or I should let her know I am the one who want to help her.

Advice me please

One good turn, deserves another....... What her husband did for you, return the favour to his wife & children........

She would be eternally grateful....... Anonymously to start with, but you can unveil your identity, much later .......

Heathrow44:


she didn't love the man, never loved the man, she was there for wat the man could offer her, she was there for d opportunities she saw with being with him as soon as she landed in Europe and settled, she broke d man's heart cos she was there all for the money, Naija girls re completely heartless, never give them ur heart completely,
d man must be twisting in his grave knowing u contributed to his death and his families homeless and he was d cause of it, u helping is a sad reminder, Goodness me, women are heartless, cruel and unfeeling

Am just feeling bad for the kids that are suffering now, they don't deserve it, let her help them, I lost my mother at very young age, I know how it feels. No man should love any woman, only if possible your wife.

The story is confusing. Are you a man or a woman?

robosky02:




Use an NGO or somebody to represent you

Not revealing your identity


Then help...possible give one or more of the kids a scholarship


You have a good hart dear

nonsense! all this useless protocol untop wat, if she wants t help, get a trusted friend to meet her and pay her off, tell d man t fake a story of how d husband helped him in d past and he wants t appreciate them, there's no need for long protocol of Useless NGO, the woman needs help ASAP and there's no room for bottlenecks and bureaucracy, there's a sense of urgency here

Yes, as one who pocketed her husband once and rendered him financially and emotionally useless.
Well, give her back part of what you denied the family of anonymously if the don't want the wrath of God to be upon you!

Madampauline:


She knows me well

It's a bold step...

Foolish man! ”thanks to him, you are in Europe now”. He was able to secure the future of an outsider, without securing the future of his own kids. He could help you achieve Europe, but could not establish his wife in a good biz, which could have come handy, now he is gone. He is a very useless man, and the kids are paying the price for his uselessness today.

It's a bold step

Pls go ahead and help that poor woman. God will reward u bountifully.

Anonymous will be better okay

I hope men are reading this. When u die, most times ur adorable kids bear the brunt. Spending ur fortunes on other women at the detriment of your kids future. Na wa o

Please assist them. You don't even need to ask for the sake of the children and what their late father did for you. Pls

So the foolish man had enough money to be a sugar daddy and even sponsor his sugar baby to travel abroad. Yet he could not build a house for his family.

Some men can be so foolish. That's if this story is true anyway.

Madampauline:
Back in the days I dated a married man I was 19 he was 35 married with kids.

He had done a lot for me, thanks to him I am in Europe now he has done everything for me.

I broke his heart after moving in Europe in 2011, I blocked him and moved on with my life.


I am happily married since 2015 with 2 beautiful children.

I learned that he passed away this year march and his wife and five children have nowhere to stay.

She is actually staying in church with 2 children while the other 3 are with relatives.

I feel so sad and I want to help her with accommodation and will give her money for business, I want to do know anonymously because if she knows it is me who want to help her I don't think she will accept the money.

Should I do it anonymously or I should let her know I am the one who want to help her.

Advice me please

Please do help her already, anonymously. She doesn't even need to know at all and I am sure God in the heaven will bless you for this singular act.

Mindlog:


Is a man a goat, that would be dragged away against his will?

Focus on the key lesson, invest your resources in your wife and children not side chicks.

Time will tell.

If he never helped you, would you have been in europe .

The way women rely on men in this life, for their wellbeing is appalling. Her husband died and she became poor just like that . No investment, No business, not even a job that could provide basic needs.

My sister even though you were promiscuous and a gold digger back then, you did the right thing by blocking him. He has ended his life prematurely becasue of foolish lifestyle, he probably might have contracted one dreaded disease or the other during one of his many reckless voyaging.
As For the wife, you can use this opportunity as a moment to get things right with her afterwhich present your request to her; but if she refuses your offer to help, kindly back off!
This or similar thing will always end the life of those who refuse to stay faithful to their partner, quick dead or prolonged heartaches.
Notwithstanding you'll do yourself more favour through personal surrendering of your life to Christ, and making peace with God. If you do this eternal rest await you after your sojourn on earth!
Shalom!!

Helpout12345:


Why will she reject your assistance if she knows it's coming from you?

Who will comfortably accept a greek gift from a side chic who wrecked her husband?

Some of una question eeeh..smh

Some men are plainly foolish just because of sex..he secured a better future for an outsider but failed to secure a home for his better half and kids as well...No be juju be that

If he had done that for his fellow man, he will purely understand it is hold for me..That man might even arrange for some his kids to come over that place sequel to his death.

No RIPs to him..He must be regretting in his grave now..Watching his family homeless..When side chic the ball life for yankee with another man..

In his place, let another man take sha...Men be wise..Family first and all.

James91:
Am just feeling bad for the kids that are suffering now, they don't deserve it, let her help them, I lost my mother at very young age, I know how it feels. No man should love any woman, only if possible your wife.

women are women, ur wife is not ur mother, no matter how much u think she loves u, she's not ur mom, is only ur mom dats going t be ur ride or die, when shit hits d fan, just imagine urslf having a stage 2 cancer and ur losing ur hair uve sold everything for chemotherapy, let's see how long she's going t stay, let's see hw long she's going to be cleaning up after him, loving a woman is like a fading candle, u should expect everything and anything