jeromestarks:

Isn't he stupid?

It's not stupidity...there are men out there who found love with same age women or women a bit older than them.

thegroomspa:


It's not stupidity...there are men out there who found love with same age women or women a bit older than them.

May you fall in love with a woman of your age or a little big older than you. (Say amen).


You never see anything.

Sweetvie:
We ain't perfect, u know
Yeah we are dramatic and crazy sometimes but mostly it for attention.
@ bolded
You know, sometimes I wonder why guys are always trying to act strong. It when you love someone and the break up ( heart break) was kinda of dramatic that when you will turn strong hearted and just date for pleasure... But guy will never say they love a girl talk less of heartbreak but how come they turned strong hearted after the relationship?

It's different strokes for different folks, but in most cases, whenever a girl eventually found out you are so much into her, she starts misbehaving...So it's more better and preferable to show it via actions...

Slynation:
It's different strokes for different folks, but in most cases, whenever a girl eventually found out you are so much into her, she starts misbehaving...So it's more better and preferable to show it via actions...

Well, I guess I will agree with you
Coz I have witnessed that kind shit b4.

Anyhoo, we will meet the right person

Sweetvie:
For a starter, I don't like that your colleague he is an asshole... You better draw a btwn you and him, he is not a friend.
Second, That your girl is not a wife material... To literally be flirting in front of you, 34? She just looking for someone to marry. Tho' you act to quick but that doesn't rule out the fact that she has a crush on that colleague...
And you are so stupid to allow urself to be emotionally blackmail...she want to kill herself? She should go ahead. You love her? Go ahead an get marry don't just come here to open another thread " My wife is sleeping with my colleagues" or " my first child is not mine"
Am sure that ur colleague doesn't even need to toast(woo) her b4 she will accept and that sex that you did not do he will continue for you.

Enough reasons why I like you so much
you too dey very intelligent and sensible
you judged the matter without no sentiments. If it were to be some Nland feminist dem for dun use insult and bashing finish the Op

FREDCLSSICO7:


Enough reasons why I like you so much
you too dey very intelligent and sensible
you judged the matter without no sentiments. If it were to be some Nland feminist dem for dun use insult and bashing finish the Op

Awwn... Thanks dear
I just type from my own point of view
How I see things and I judge from there

34?

Nairaland mods are very lazy. This topic has been on the romance section for months ooo. Nah now they know that they have to move it to the front page…. Wack forum

shege45:
na just time. Dem go still knack behind you

dem don dey nack already through zoom and whatsapp

shege45:
na just time. Dem go still knack behind you

you're using a future tense action in a present continuous tense action

Michelle70:
Chai, wonders have finally ended.

I'll say u acted too quick and insecure, now it will be difficult for her to drop hints again

but he has seen all he need to see na.if na me na to abandone her the sad part is that what him and the guy is feeling is lust.if them fork finish their eyes go clear.i won’t continue with such a woman.my wife is currently crushing on a dirty nollywoood actor I just Dey look her.anytime she sees the guy in a movie she must watch the movie.at the appropriate time,I will deal with her.

Chris2863:
Nairaland mods are very lazy. This topic has been on the romance section for months ooo. Nah now they know that they have to move it to the front page…. Wack forum

mannabbqgrils will soon change moniker to NLPoliceWoman and report you to moderators

thegroomspa:
Hi friends...

Can't sleep tonight cos of whole lot of thought going on inside of me.

Let me be brief, please permit me.

I was posted to another state on work related matter, there I meet this pretty lady. I am 35 yr she's 34 so we got along her kind behavior and her openess captivated my heart and after 3 months I said to myself I think I have found my missing rib.

Things were looking good, am actually based in one of the state in the north where am being posted from Abuja and what happens is my company sends personel from Lagos to come assist me and the person sent stays for 2month after which another person comes to replace him.

Anytime I have a colleague sent from Lag and my fiancee visit I do introduce her to my colleague as my person to be...two of my colleagues who have seen her before going back to Lagos have told me she will make a good wife.

I love and cherised her so much even when my job doesn't really pay me that much due to the part of the country where I found myself I still try to squeeze the little I have just to make her happy though she's not too demanding...

A month ago, a personel was sent from Lag on hanging out, my fiancee called me on phone I asked her where she was and told her to come see me where I was with my colleague cooling off after a busy day. She came and I introduced her to this guy they exchanged pleasantry but because we were done as at the time she arrived we dashed out immediately.

She returned back home while I and my colleague took a tricycle to our place of rest.

As we got home I noticed the mood of my guy
changed, on trying to know why he said mehnnn I like your woman she's my kind of woman...I laughed it off.

So we have meet at different places together, until the unusual began happening....my girl will call me up and will be asking after my guy on a daily basis.

She did it to a point one day, she called told me I should tell my friend she asked after him that even if she knows I was not going to tell my friend that I should tell him she's greeting him the same way my guy disturbs me about her.

One day she called me while she was at work and am off, asked me if she could bring food for me of course I accepted though she does that occasionally.

As she arrived we sat in company lodge we discussed for sometime...and only God knows how many times she was asking after my guy.

My guy was not around at the same time I wanted to know what happens when my guy returns from the gym...

Before then I took my laptop and was operating while I wanted to see if my instinct is on point. while on the laptop my guy came in, from the gym they both greeted and on the guy teasing her on what to offer her or to take her out my fiancee was so engrossed that she never knew when she told me openly she missed my guy....

That lady is immature and she will loose you both cuz that guy won't marry her, imagine at age 34 and she's still behaving like that

So you are about to quit a serious relationship, not because you caught her cheating, but for fear that she will do so

Dear women, know this and know this for good. Buy AUDACITY. plenty of it. You see a man cheating, you let it slide, but this one right here,is about to dump a woman just because he fears she will cheat. NOT THAT HE CAUGHT HER CHEATING O

Back to the issue @op, go to God first and find out if you are on the right path. First and foremost. Don't lose a good woman because of what your mind is telling you. Some people are very outspoken and generous with admiration. She may be doing it with the clearest of heart.
It may be from the inocence of her heart.

Note: Even married women admire other men too. But if you throw those men close to then, they will happily stay with their husband, but it doesn't stop them from crushing.
THAT IS A FACT. Marriage doesn't end a woman's feeling and admiration for other men, except you the husband wants to deceive your self.
The way some of u married men, see other women and admire them, is the same thing with your wife. Some only look and throway face or control themselves, just to respect you.
If you think I am lying, ask your wives to tell you the honest truth. Some women have even married 20 men in their heart ( that's a discussion for another day)
So if she doesn't go directly cheating with a man, but only commends him IN YOUR PRESENCE, then its almost as nothing. Because we women daydream a lot.
If a woman wants to cheat, she won't leave a clue.....she may even pretend to be his enemy, just to play u.
That is why some women can comfortable date 10 men for ages, with each one thinking they are the only one in her life.

( That lady may not want to cheat on you. I may be wrong or I may be right.)

You may let this one go, and then end up marrying the worst.

The fact that you left the guy out of the equation and decided to see only the lady as the one at fault here, baffles me.

Michelle70:
Chai, wonders have finally ended.

I'll say u acted too quick and insecure, now it will be difficult for her to drop hints again

What other hints does she need to drop. He should let go off the loose biitch before he dies of a heart attack

Nemesis0147:
Avoid guys or friends that treats other people’s fiancée and girlfriend nicely.

Words! I have one like that I don’t allow close to my home. He flirts a lot with wives of my other friend.

Nemesis0147:
Avoid guys or friends that treats other people’s fiancée and girlfriend nicely.

Aswear. I get on of them like that.
His aim in life is too knack someone chick.

thegroomspa:
Thanks friends for your input....

I have made up my mind to quit, it's hard for me but I have to move on...

Looking for best subtle way to tell her...

It really hurts you may not understand...

Please don't hate your friend for this, it wasn't his fault. If it wasn't with him, it would have been with another man given the right opportunity. The problem is with the girl

Michelle70:
Chai, wonders have finally ended.

I'll say u acted too quick and insecure, now it will be difficult for her to drop hints again

He better act in haste a 34yr that doesn't yet know what she wants, still thrilled by he speaks like an American he should ditch her speedily.

omotoshodontee1:
u want to commit suicide because of girlfriend.. c'mon bro,ur wife can still be bleeped self.never take woman too serious even if it x ur legal wife..one of my guy is presently knacking a bride of 1 and half month, that's the society we found ourselves....

simple truth.i think as a man we should just try to have money.that’s d life I’m living now.i think it’s only when u don’t have a lot of money u will be seen as a failure.

omotoshodontee1:
u want to commit suicide because of girlfriend.. c'mon bro,ur wife can still be bleeped self.never take woman too serious even if it x ur legal wife..one of my guy is presently knacking a bride of 1 and half month, that's the society we found ourselves....

simple truth.i think as a man we should just try to have money.that’s d life I’m living now.i think it’s only when u don’t have a lot of money u will be seen as a failure.i swear to God if I see my wife with another man e no go bother me.just like a Supreme Court judge,I have ruled on women

thegroomspa:
Continue...

They had a lot of eye contact, and frankly there was seduction going on underground even when I pretend to be operating on my laptop but was deeply observing things.

On our way out as she was going home I asked her if she likes my guy, immediately she refuted and said no she only likes how he speaks like an American...

I was pained at this point, I dragged her phone and I told her I would gladly give her the contact of my friend so they can connect well...

and she was asking why...as soon as she had gone the whole pictures began playing in my head.

By the time she got to her place of work and she called me I shouted on her and told her never to call my line again that she's a loose girl and I blocked her....

She ran back to my lodge and wanted to see me I was ahome but pretended not to...

She's so obsessed about your guy and openly showing you.
Just 4get about her and move on. Don't mind what other people are saying about you quick in judging her and all of that.

Gentlechika:
U dated a 34yrs lady for only 3 months and u concluded she's ur missing rib? My guy, a 34yrs beautiful single lady without a relationship must be so for a reason. Marriage Is like a lifetime contract, and in my opinion, 3months is just too quick for you to conclude that she's the chosen one.
You messed up big time. Learn to put your emotions in Cheeck. You should have played dumb and see how things unfold between them. But now you have blown your cover. If I were you in this case, I'll just call in game over.
My personal advise for you is, channel more energy in becoming the best you can be. The sole benefit of a married man, is just offspring. Women are generally self-centered, all they care about is what matters to them. Shalom.

What is wrong in dating a 34 year old lady?

Are most of you on this from kids?

Does it mean being a 34 year old lady is worthless of getting married?

The way some of you kids judge people of this forum hey…

Someone you don’t know her pay life…

What makes you think a 25 year old lady is more decent than a 35 year old ?

You all need proper orientation…

May be she likes your friend

35 and 34 acting based on emotions.

At 34, you should let her make her decision on who she loves. And you should find who loves you. Let love come from the other while you love less so you can be logical.

Let her cheat, but ensure you catch her and send her away. So she can go to who she loves. If you marry a lady who loves some one else more, you'd suffer. Stop controlling.

BarrElChapo:


He better act in haste a 34yr that doesn't yet know what she wants, still thrilled by he speaks like an American he should ditch her speedily.

Don't mind her let her be so obsessed with the guy bcoz he speaks like America.

thegroomspa:


My dear I don't want the film to play to the point where I will get to know they bleeped each other that could be suicidal...I acted fast but I can still handle myself now than.

Why do you think she's still single at 34? Generally, women that marry late are either super-focused on their career, which makes a lot of sense. Or they simply lack the capacity to trully be with a man.

Enjoy the freebie on my signature

thegroomspa:
Thanks friends for your input....

I have made up my mind to quit, it's hard for me but I have to move on...

Looking for best subtle way to tell her...

It really hurts you may not understand...

Don't quit when you don't have substitute or else, you will bear the consequences

Marvyx:
Men sha.. While bashing the female gender, let's not forget that we too have our own issues. I mean what's so hard to respect another man's domain?

Anyways, OP come and finish the story please.

One of my foolish frnds habe this behavior,infact he thinks he’s better and goes on flirting with peoples gf even his flat mate!