seanwilliam:
but if he did the same with her friend, are you still going to say this same thing?

A woman who is not loyal doesn’t have anything to do with relationship. No wonder she’s single at 34. @op use and dump her as everyone before you had done

What did she do exactly? Abi una head don knack wall ni? What exactly did she do, ask about the friend? Compliment him? It is up to the guy to set up boundaries and he failed to do that, if this is what he considers not being loyal then he'll never be satisfied with any woman and might die of high blood pressure if care is not taken.

Bro since she likes ur friend no issue. Just finish with her and pass it on to your friend based on guy code. As 34 y.o woman no wan get sense

Michelle70:
Chai, wonders have finally ended.

I'll say u acted too quick and insecure, now it will be difficult for her to drop hints again

true.i reacted and asked questions and my mugu ex stopped asking Abt my guy

Chris2863:
Nairaland mods are very lazy. This topic has been on the romance section for months ooo. Nah now they know that they have to move it to the front page…. Wack forum

I noticed it yesterday when someone moved a topic from May of this year to the FP.

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jeromestarks:

I stopped reading when I say these.
There's a reason she's unmarried at 34. There is a reason men avoided her until she clocks 34.
You're a fool to think you've found the one. For this mistake you have done, may you never find peace in your life.

Bros you take am personal o

thegroomspa:
Thanks friends for your input....

I have made up my mind to quit, it's hard for me but I have to move on...

Looking for best subtle way to tell her...

It really hurts you may not understand...

Guy, you need to calm down. It's good to be game and an alpha male and be vigilant, but then life is not a one way. It is possible that your girl was only being friendly with your friend because somehow they clicked, not necessarily because she wants to sleep with him. It could be her own way to make you believe that she is a friendly type even to your own friends, someone your friends would speak good of and not being mean to them. I have had girlfriends that are so jovial that immediately I introduce them to my friends, they click. I actually love to see that, because that way I don't lose my male friends because of a new relationship. Rather, I have brought a banny into our circle. In fact, that is how we roll in our circles. Our girlfriends become part of the gang. I really hope that she is innocent, and that both of you can work things out. A

Op should have ask her what is she doing to 34 not to have marry, a good girl don't usually pass 25 27 before they settle, guys pick them quick.

general111:
See ba!!
That girl likes your friend..
When a girl likes a man, tthats how she behaves around the man...
Do not marry her, else she may just be sleeping with him under you.
Or wait for her to get over him..
Another angle is this, your girl is not emotionally matured and cannot commit to a man.
If she is over this guy, she will definitely fall in love with another guy

Same thing happened to me when I was in school, there was this girl called Halimah whom my friend is dating, but due to financial constraints and I was unable to get accomodation myself, my Friend invite me to come over to his place pending the time I will get money for accomodation, I agreed to his request and I moved in, the following week her girlfriend comes around and he introduced me to her but ever since then that girl has been disturbing me with calls, messages and all sorts and to the extent of asking me what type of food do I like so that she can prepare it for me, I just laughed anytime she make such request, she did all these and I don't give her any attention but I keep wondering how can a girl be so loose like this.... It is almost seven years now since I graduated from school and this particular lady keep disturbing me till date despite the fact that I have married, she even said she is ready to be second wife, honestly I am not happy seen her single

Sweetplum:

And you didn't bother to see her so that you can v real confrontation to discuss your fears and that confrontation ll be your evidence if your fiancee is actually hitting on your friend.
You can't accuse a woman without evidence.
All you v said are suspicion.
I don't tolerate cheats be it a fellow woman or from a man.
I preach equality in relationships.
But your action may trigger what you v been expecting. If your girl actually has any infatuation for your friend, you neglecting her ll make her turn to him.
It happens if it's a male too so no boy should come here and say am supporting a girl cos of my gender.
Or any slowpoke here to come & bash women as if men don't do stupid things.

The lady is obviously not ready to commit to the guy. Probably managing the guy for marriage tins incase her main guy dumps her. At 34 y.o she shouldn't be calling her guy and be asking of his colleague, that's what teenager and girls in their 20s do. They make the mistake innocently but later mature in their 30s. He should leave her she's not ready. She's even lucky the guy is a gentle guy. Me as a bad man, I will not even talk, just observe and sleep with her as many times and possible den discuss with my guy and pass her over to him in form of heart breaks. That's the Bro code.

You are a SIMP,why didn't u add this part of the story to the main story so,everyone would know how Simptuos u are.....Bloody simp,

She went back to work, and later that day evening I started receiving a message on Whatsapp from her friend I once meet asking want happened between I and her friend...

On explaining things to her, she said there was nothing wrong that if I love her friend enough that shouldn't be an issue...

I was so angered that I stopped replying to her friend...

Then my girl started texting me on Whatsapp apologizing and at the same time swearing with her life that she can't sleep or do anything that her head and her heart are heavy...

I became afraid so she doesn't hurt herself, I then replied her and fixed a place to meet her after work...

We meet and I pointed out everything she burst to tears saying it wasn't true that it's not what I think and was swearing with her life...

I told her I forgave her...

This month made it the 7th month and i have not bleeped her since we met...I initiated it to ease up a little bit...we've made love twice now...

But I still feel insecure when ever am around her and don't trust her...

I feel like quitting...




Am so pained...

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thegroomspa:
Continue...

They had a lot of eye contact, and frankly there was seduction going on underground even when I pretend to be operating on my laptop but was deeply observing things.

On our way out as she was going home I asked her if she likes my guy, immediately she refuted and said no she only likes how he speaks like an American...

I was pained at this point, I dragged her phone and I told her I would gladly give her the contact of my friend so they can connect well...

and she was asking why...as soon as she had gone the whole pictures began playing in my head.

By the time she got to her place of work and she called me I shouted on her and told her never to call my line again that she's a loose girl and I blocked her....

She ran back to my lodge and wanted to see me I was ahome but pretended not to...

Na 35 years old man dey talk this things.... Wow...just wow

thegroomspa:
Continue...

They had a lot of eye contact, and frankly there was seduction going on underground even when I pretend to be operating on my laptop but was deeply observing things.

On our way out as she was going home I asked her if she likes my guy, immediately she refuted and said no she only likes how he speaks like an American...

I was pained at this point, I dragged her phone and I told her I would gladly give her the contact of my friend so they can connect well...

and she was asking why...as soon as she had gone the whole pictures began playing in my head.

By the time she got to her place of work and she called me I shouted on her and told her never to call my line again that she's a loose girl and I blocked her....

She ran back to my lodge and wanted to see me I was ahome but pretended not to...

You
You didn’t play this game well, you must never act suspicious or angry, you go form say u no know wetin dey sup,anytime she comes to your house and the guy is around you just carry your fone put am for recording position for side of bed tell dem say u dey come say u wan go buy something for the next street give dem 30 mins come back then wen coast clear you go play the recording then you fit faint or carry rope hang yourself…Truth is Women are like that, little things trigger dem, we dey bleep dem steady no jokes but you gat to up your game sha , you are too cold for her

thegroomspa:
Continue...

She went back to work, and later that day evening I started receiving a message on Whatsapp from her friend I once meet asking want happened between I and her friend...

On explaining things to her, she said there was nothing wrong that if I love her friend enough that shouldn't be an issue...

I was so angered that I stopped replying to her friend...

Then my girl started texting me on Whatsapp apologizing and at the same time swearing with her life that she can't sleep or do anything that her head and her heart are heavy...

I became afraid so she doesn't hurt herself, I then replied her and fixed a place to meet her after work...

We meet and I pointed out everything she burst to tears saying it wasn't true that it's not what I think and was swearing with her life...

I told her I forgave her...

This month made it the 7th month and i have not bleeped her since we met...I initiated it to ease up a little bit...we've made love twice now...

But I still feel insecure when ever am around her and don't trust her...

I feel like quitting...




Am so pained...

This your conclusion let me iknow n the way she atrempted to misbehave.
How could you have dated a mature lady for up to three months or more without fvcking her well.
That's why she crushed on someone she suspected would not be a simple like you.
The fault is yours.

thegroomspa:
Continue...

They had a lot of eye contact, and frankly there was seduction going on underground even when I pretend to be operating on my laptop but was deeply observing things.

On our way out as she was going home I asked her if she likes my guy, immediately she refuted and said no she only likes how he speaks like an American...

I was pained at this point, I dragged her phone and I told her I would gladly give her the contact of my friend so they can connect well...

and she was asking why...as soon as she had gone the whole pictures began playing in my head.

By the time she got to her place of work and she called me I shouted on her and told her never to call my line again that she's a loose girl and I blocked her....

She ran back to my lodge and wanted to see me I was ahome but pretended not to...

Please don't force a gal to stay

Michelle70:
so someone whos heart is broken is now a simp?

The way u guys used this word ehn

Dont mind dat guy na him SIMP pass ,hypocrite

Really

Oga, you're just insecure. That's the beginning and end of the whole story. I'm quite sure this isn't even how the whole thing went down, you've added your own personal side to the mixture
You need to work on yourself, if not, you'll make a terrible husband

34years? Are you kidding me? The ocean wey don deep pass atlantic.

thegroomspa:
Continue...

She went back to work, and later that day evening I started receiving a message on Whatsapp from her friend I once meet asking want happened between I and her friend...

On explaining things to her, she said there was nothing wrong that if I love her friend enough that shouldn't be an issue...

I was so angered that I stopped replying to her friend...

Then my girl started texting me on Whatsapp apologizing and at the same time swearing with her life that she can't sleep or do anything that her head and her heart are heavy...

I became afraid so she doesn't hurt herself, I then replied her and fixed a place to meet her after work...

We meet and I pointed out everything she burst to tears saying it wasn't true that it's not what I think and was swearing with her life...

I told her I forgave her...

This month made it the 7th month and i have not bleeped her since we met...I initiated it to ease up a little bit...we've made love twice now...

But I still feel insecure when ever am around her and don't trust her...

I feel like quitting...




Am so pained...

You're 35years and you still have the mindset of a kid??

The truth in life is that, you'll always come across women beautiful than your spouse, and the same goes for your spouse too. You've to learn how to control your emotions, control yourself. Young men are targeting married women these days just like married men are targeting single ladies. All this makes marriage seem like a joke!

thegroomspa:
Thanks friends for your input....

I have made up my mind to quit, it's hard for me but I have to move on...

Looking for best subtle way to tell her...

It really hurts you may not understand...

Bro u could have be knacking her with the intention that u won't marry her the bitch baby mama that got my precious baby 4 ne did pass this I just sent the idiot away and focused on my baby

thegroomspa:
Hi friends...

Can't sleep tonight cos of whole lot of thought going on inside of me.



I was posted to another state on work related matter, there I meet this pretty lady. I am 35 yr she's 34 so we got along her kind behavior

My guy was not around at the same time I wanted to know what happens when my guy returns from the gym...

Before then I took my laptop and was operating while I wanted to see if my instinct is on point. while on the laptop my guy came in, from the gym they both greeted and on the guy teasing her on what to offer her or to take her out my fiancee was so engrossed that she never knew when she told me openly she missed my guy....

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Why not wait until you are making love and she shouts the guy's name?

How can you be 35 and be dating a 34-yrs old lady? That's very abnormal. You are older in number but she is older in experience. I recommend no lady above 28-yrs old for you. 28 is max! But 23-26 is optimum.
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Some ladies should know when to set boundaries, I also won't be happy if my guy is all over my girlfriend..

shege45:
na just time. Dem go still knack behind you

Fact

thegroomspa:
Continue...

She went back to work, and later that day evening I started receiving a message on Whatsapp from her friend I once meet asking want happened between I and her friend...

On explaining things to her, she said there was nothing wrong that if I love her friend enough that shouldn't be an issue...

I was so angered that I stopped replying to her friend...

Then my girl started texting me on Whatsapp apologizing and at the same time swearing with her life that she can't sleep or do anything that her head and her heart are heavy...

I became afraid so she doesn't hurt herself, I then replied her and fixed a place to meet her after work...

We meet and I pointed out everything she burst to tears saying it wasn't true that it's not what I think and was swearing with her life...

I told her I forgave her...

This month made it the 7th month and i have not bleeped her since we met...I initiated it to ease up a little bit...we've made love twice now...

But I still feel insecure when ever am around her and don't trust her...

I feel like quitting...




Am so pained...

Since you met her you haven't banged her?

What a simp man you are!

Oga, we have no advise for simps men like you, continue simping if you like don't swallow the Red pill

thegroomspa:
Continue...

They had a lot of eye contact, and frankly there was seduction going on underground even when I pretend to be operating on my laptop but was deeply observing things.

On our way out as she was going home I asked her if she likes my guy, immediately she refuted and said no she only likes how he speaks like an American...

I was pained at this point, I dragged her phone and I told her I would gladly give her the contact of my friend so they can connect well...

and she was asking why...as soon as she had gone the whole pictures began playing in my head.

By the time she got to her place of work and she called me I shouted on her and told her never to call my line again that she's a loose girl and I blocked her....

She ran back to my lodge and wanted to see me I was ahome but pretended not to...

You are insecure!

Oga, painful as it seems, I think you should take a walk. Thay sign she gave you was God sent.

thegroomspa:
Continue...

They had a lot of eye contact, and frankly there was seduction going on underground even when I pretend to be operating on my laptop but was deeply observing things.

On our way out as she was going home I asked her if she likes my guy, immediately she refuted and said no she only likes how he speaks like an American...

I was pained at this point, I dragged her phone and I told her I would gladly give her the contact of my friend so they can connect well...

and she was asking why...as soon as she had gone the whole pictures began playing in my head.

By the time she got to her place of work and she called me I shouted on her and told her never to call my line again that she's a loose girl and I blocked her....

She ran back to my lodge and wanted to see me I was ahome but pretended not to...

It's normal for women to behave loose at some point. They are very weak, you did the right thing by calling her to her senses. Your reaction was on point and she will return to normal if only your take your stand and avoid her for a week or so. Pretend to break up with her and ensure she comes begging.

shege45:
na just time. Dem go still knack behind you

Na so women dey mumu?

You're right to be suspicious. Trust your gut.

You're all simply occupied with criticizing the girl. What about the guy that doesn't care about the fiance of his colleague? had the nerve to say he likes the girl to his colleague.

thegroomspa:


My dear I don't want the film to play to the point where I will get to know they bleeped each other that could be suicidal...I acted fast but I can still handle myself now than.

SIMP

thegroomspa:
Continue...

She went back to work, and later that day evening I started receiving a message on Whatsapp from her friend I once meet asking want happened between I and her friend...

On explaining things to her, she said there was nothing wrong that if I love her friend enough that shouldn't be an issue...

I was so angered that I stopped replying to her friend...

Then my girl started texting me on Whatsapp apologizing and at the same time swearing with her life that she can't sleep or do anything that her head and her heart are heavy...

I became afraid so she doesn't hurt herself, I then replied her and fixed a place to meet her after work...

We meet and I pointed out everything she burst to tears saying it wasn't true that it's not what I think and was swearing with her life...

I told her I forgave her...

This month made it the 7th month and i have not bleeped her since we met...I initiated it to ease up a little bit...we've made love twice now...

But I still feel insecure when ever am around her and don't trust her...

I feel like quitting...




Am so pained...

You are so pained again? After forgiving her?
Na waa ooo.... Move on na, if you don't want.
What did you do to that your friend and colleague that is lusting after your woman...is that not disrespect and letting you down?