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Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by paradigmshift(m): 4:14pm On Feb 06, 2023
Saintmary:




Try to understand my points.

Don't forget that I'm not a medical personnel, I'm only explaining what I know.



1. Sickle cell cannot be treated, it's for life, most people don't have issues with it because they simply marry someone else to avoid stories.


2. When a pregnancy is in the early stage, it's not easy to insert a needle and find a tiny foetus, so, you'll wait until it's growing bigger. Hence, my estimate of 4-6months.


3. It's not double dating if you end a relationship to start another one, if you're dating more than one person at the same time, then that's what we call double dating.

But, if you already know that your relationship is not going to work, and you're being stubborn claiming to love your partner, that's why I said the person is too lazy to find someone else.
God bless you and thanks for the explanation
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by greypencils: 4:19pm On Feb 06, 2023
siofra:
Marry but don't have kids. You can adopt if you really want one.
In this Nigeria wey we dey so?
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by Ssddff: 4:19pm On Feb 06, 2023
kay29000:


Whoa! I never knew this. Let me do some research.

Don’t mind him. White people also carry the sickle cell trait and can have sickle cell anaemia. But it is rare
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by Ssddff: 4:23pm On Feb 06, 2023
Globalistic:
Follow your heart brotherly.

I am AS and got married to AS. By the special grace of God, our two kids genotype are AA and AS. At the moment, we have stopped raising kids because God blessed us with two healthy boys.

For me, my advise to you is that if your faith isn't large like mine, go for AA.

God will guide and bless your decision.

What tha hell? And if things didn’t go as planned per your “faith”. You will subject those kids to pain for their entire life.

This is the most foolish advice. He can only follow his heart if he has money to take active precautions.
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by Saintmary(f): 4:26pm On Feb 06, 2023
Ssddff:


What tha hell? And if things didn’t go as planned per your “faith”. You will subject those kids to pain for their entire life.

This is the most foolish advice. He can only follow his heart if he has money to take active precautions.


I can't believe some people can be so selfish.
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by Ssddff: 4:28pm On Feb 06, 2023
just2endowed:


ypur number 2 caught me, why is the disease common in Africa? was it from cross breeding from another species of non Homo sapient?



Because our DNA mutated/evolved to give us the S gene so we can battle malaria. So we wouldn’t die easily and be wiped out from malaria. AS genotype is resistant to malarial.
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by Ssddff: 4:34pm On Feb 06, 2023
Saintmary:



I can't believe some people can be so selfish.
It is human nature.
Some day, I hope I’ll be able to lead a long term experiment and research about sickle cell and ways to cure it through Gene knockout technology which is vast expanding through biotechnology. It’s a pity we depend on faith rather than science in Africa.

Only we Africans can help each other.

African swine fever also do not have a vaccine because it is an African disease. The normal swine fever has a vaccine
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by Barbados20(m): 4:35pm On Feb 06, 2023
Thanks you all for the word of advice. I am downcasted right now but time will heal us. Thanks all

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Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by phemmyfour: 4:35pm On Feb 06, 2023
Barbados20:
Goodmorning house. Family and friends are pressuring me to marry but this is the dilemma am going through.

Genotype has become a major barrier for me to get married to lady whom I love. We are tested both AS. My fiancee is from the same ethnic and christian background like me.

On the other hand, I have this female friend whom i recently ask to know about her gnotype. She told me she is AA. Like joke, i ask for confirmation and she brought all d test results frm different lab. The issue is now this female friend is not from my tribe, she from a muslim background although she does not seriously practice it.

My fiancee from my tribal background, but genotype did not match with me. And the other lady from different background, she is AA and match with me. One girl I dated then was AA but the love was not there between us.

Its really frustrating to be AS if you are a Man that want to settle down I am really confused right now. Am above 30. How do i handle this issue of Genotype, ethinc and religious issues? Pls i need advice.
Pretty easy, go for the Muslim lady. You don't want to miserable in the future all in the name of love. No amount of love can handle the pressure that comes with taking care of SS
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by folake4u(f): 4:45pm On Feb 06, 2023
Oga Op, spread your net wide, you will definitely find someone you love.

My own is don't bring innocent children into this world to suffer. The agony of raising SS children isn't sweet.

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Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by akube34: 4:54pm On Feb 06, 2023
Sleekfingers:




If you really love yourself don't marry AS no matter what.....i don talk my own ooooo....

A friend who did that is regretting now.
why is he regretting?
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by akube34: 4:55pm On Feb 06, 2023
izombie:
Just look at the trash you dey yan. We all know that getting married because of love is the koko but this is not about love. This is reality. AS and AS shouldn't get married and that's it because there is a very high chance that they will give birth to SS and then the happiness, the love, the peace, the calm, the monies saved will begin to evaporate.
Op, if you love yourself and your lady, end that relationship now. Don't bring children into this world to come and suffer. Don't take that chance. I know why i dey tell you. My friend married his university sweetheart not knowing they are both AS. Their first child now na SS. They are now more in the hospital than their house. Dem don tire.
Use your head bro not your heart. There are millions of AA ladies in naija. For your lady, there are also millions of AA guys in naija.
there was something you said dat caught my attention. They both didn’t know, so they wer not informed.
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by akube34: 4:58pm On Feb 06, 2023
Saintmary:




Do you have any idea how risky amniocentesis is?



They will insert a needle into a pregnancy belly from outside to extract something from inside the belly, thereby puncturing the belly, uterus and placenta.


How many Nigerian medical practitioners have successfully performed amniocentesis in Nigeria?


How many hospitals in Nigeria have such facilities to protect the mother and foetus in such a delicate situation?



How many patients are willing to risk precious pregnancies for such a procedure?


All because a man is too lazy to find a suitable bride?
shuu if you don’t know much, keep quiet.
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by akube34: 4:59pm On Feb 06, 2023
funkmrflexx:


My wife and I are both AS and we plan to do prenatal testing once she gets pregnant. If you have the means to do these type tests or go for IVF then you should get married to the lady u love. I've already made up my mind to spend up to like 500k for test anytime my wife gets pregnant. So if you have the means you should proceed with marry her.

A lot of people are suffering from these issues today but I decided no to let it stop my happiness
hi can I email you?
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by Sleekfingers: 5:01pm On Feb 06, 2023
akube34:
why is he regretting?

He has 3 kids , one is SS ......he is really spending a lot of money on her.
Are you ready for such?
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by akube34: 5:04pm On Feb 06, 2023
Sleekfingers:


He has 3 kids , one is SS ......he is really spending a lot of money on her.
Are you ready for such?
Mine won’t even get to the stage of bring an ss child to this world. I will take necessary precaution to avoid it
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by Sleekfingers: 5:08pm On Feb 06, 2023
akube34:
Mine won’t even get to the stage of bring an ss child to this world. I will take necessary precaution to avoid it

Good.....
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by realray(m): 5:11pm On Feb 06, 2023
Just calm down I know is not eaay I myself am a sickle cell so what would you say about me always thank GOD cos each time I think of if I will get married God always show me ppl who am better than honestly to show that there's hope for me...

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Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by Dybala11(m): 5:28pm On Feb 06, 2023
Badhguy:
You can still have up to three kids, all (AS) if you go ahead. It is from the 4th child that comes out as (SS). You can confirm this by asking your doctor.
You're getting it all wrong/mixed up. The probability/chance of having a child with SS is 25% or 1:4.
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by Kooldame: 6:20pm On Feb 06, 2023
Badhguy:
You can still have up to three kids, all (AS) if you go ahead. It is from the 4th child that comes out as (SS). You can confirm this by asking your doctor.
Bad Advice!I know of As couple who got married and had Ss for 2nd & 3rd kids both kids died prematurely
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by FireUpNow(m): 6:39pm On Feb 06, 2023
Please house what if a man and woman who are both AA got married and have kids together,can they produce an AS, AC or AA?
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by Worksunlimited: 6:40pm On Feb 06, 2023
Barbados20:
Goodmorning house. Family and friends are pressuring me to marry but this is the dilemma am going through.

Genotype has become a major barrier for me to get married to lady whom I love. We are tested both AS. My fiancee is from the same ethnic and christian background like me.

On the other hand, I have this female friend whom i recently ask to know about her gnotype. She told me she is AA. Like joke, i ask for confirmation and she brought all d test results frm different lab. The issue is now this female friend is not from my tribe, she from a muslim background although she does not seriously practice it.

My fiancee from my tribal background, but genotype did not match with me. And the other lady from different background, she is AA and match with me. One girl I dated then was AA but the love was not there between us.

Its really frustrating to be AS if you are a Man that want to settle down I am really confused right now. Am above 30. How do i handle this issue of Genotype, ethinc and religious issues? Pls i need advice.

We dey the same boat...

It's a struggle
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by Sweetvie: 6:43pm On Feb 06, 2023
Badhguy:
You can still have up to three kids, all (AS) if you go ahead. It is from the 4th child that comes out as (SS). You can confirm this by asking your doctor.
it doesn't work that way... Every pregnancy, there's 25% of being SS
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by Sweetvie: 6:46pm On Feb 06, 2023
Fedrick100:
God abeg make my genotype be AA oo
Dey play 😂😂
Go check am na
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by Sweetvie: 6:52pm On Feb 06, 2023
Atarakpa:
I feel your pain. [/b]We AA o+[b] are the moving train..... Any hole that's comes around the 1 with balls will sure do....
Lol... Same here 🤗

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Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by FlipModeSquade(m): 7:00pm On Feb 06, 2023
Badhguy:
You can still have up to three kids, all (AS) if you go ahead. It is from the 4th child that comes out as (SS). You can confirm this by asking your doctor.
See how you are confidently giving advice on what you have ZERO ideas about..
4th child ko,5th child ni..
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by worksmart(m): 7:15pm On Feb 06, 2023
Stop taking sickle cell tests. Marry and have children with the person you love. In ancient times our ancestors never took such tests to tell them who to marry yet everyone was healthy.
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by funkmrflexx(m): 7:29pm On Feb 06, 2023
akube34:
hi can I email you?

Of course
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by codemaniacs: 7:31pm On Feb 06, 2023
worksmart:
Stop taking sickle cell tests. Marry and have children with the person you love. In ancient times our ancestors never took such tests to tell them who to marry yet everyone was healthy.


In ancient times Africa used to be filled with gardens and farms which created too much oxygen in the atmosphere which minimised the harmful effects of the genotype and reduced sickness that's why someone who's genotype is SS but lives in a village doesn't fall sick often because they are living around thousands of trees which gives them more than enough oxygen.

It is common in Africa because the previous generations ( from 1920s till date ) did not check genotype before getting married.. the previous generations did not make it a criminal offense for people with the S Gene to marry each other.

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Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by funkmrflexx(m): 7:32pm On Feb 06, 2023
akube34:
hi can I email you?

Email me @ helenajayi389@gmail.com
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by Sandazblack: 7:35pm On Feb 06, 2023
babawon2:
i be 3rd child i be SS and am the only out of 5 kid. but i regret coming to this world

Why do you say so
Re: My (AS) Genotype. A Major Hindrance In Getting Married On Time. by Monaboo(m): 7:38pm On Feb 06, 2023
Yet people are getting CURED of Sickle Cell everyday.

That is what most people would no tell you.

I have seen about 5 people with Sickle Cell Disease (SS) who got HEALED Completely of Sickle Cell Disease and their Genotype changed to AA. They are AA now.

One was a woman who was AS. In her 40's. She couldn't marry due to get AS genotype. She is now AA.

Another was a little baby of 2 years who was SC. She is now AA. Her mother nearly fainted when she saw the result.

Another was 2 siblings. One 18yrs. The other 8 yrs. She their age gap. The parents got married and both AS hoping not to give birth to SS. The first one came. It was SS. They refused to give birth again until after 10 years due to fear.

After 10yrs, the second one came. Another SS.

But today, those siblings are now AA.

If u tell people, they won't believe that's why even those that have been cured of SS and are now AA don't tell anyone anymore becos people won't believe. I have also stopped telling people too.

Though all these Sickle Cell Disease Patients took something that Healed them all and they took it for a long time. Glad it worked for them. No Surgeries Required atall.

Nigerians should wake up. This is 2023. 95% of the sickness you battle today have CURES but ur wicked government both home and abroad hide it from you so they can keep making money of you all.

Ask those in America, any small sickness u have, they would just pack loads of drugs for you to take for life. Do u know how much the Government both here in Nigeria, UK and USA are making from the Health industry both hospitals and pharmaceuticals?

Even HIV has cure. I have seen someone who was positive for years but now is negative. And the person got the healing here in Nigeria o.

It is well jare. Let me stop here.

My advice. Be open minded and keep praying to GOD.

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