Berrityga:
See this ekuke?? You we looking for reasons to justify the fact your diccck can't stay in your boxers peacefully?? Fucck her Oga we do not care.

He says he's a man but he's just a fvckboy! I pity that lady sha

oldienavie:

Thank you for your suggestion, you understand the reality I am faced with.
At this time, she is the only person I can call friend as we have known each other for almost 10 years now and we do share intimate details, for the past 7 years we have been kinda each others emotional support, even when I was dating other ladies here in France and she too back in naija, we both knew everything about each other.

Its just a messed up situation. If I can find a lady as soon as I land in naija then maybe I could disconnect from her but its going to be difficult not to sleep with her while not having any other lady in the picture.

Konji ooo😹😂

I think you are planning your early grave. You did not meet any responsible person you can marry for the past 7 years you have been abroad?

Want to go straight, if your life doesn't matter to you,go ahead to sleep with her n end it when you find a wife. Body go tell you. This is Naija n not Yankee.
Don't forget you destroyed her relationship that would have led to marriage according to you.
If life nor dey again, I am sure dick go sleep forever too.
A word is enough for the...

Bro, you've got two outstanding options
The first one is to search your heart very well if you truly love her and your love can override all the issues of the past and totally forgive and forget all the past give her a chance of new beginning. I promise you she's learnt her lesson and would be a better person now. Your forgiveness means alot and experience which is the best teacher has taught her whqt life is and will bring out the best in her.
Secondly, if you still have a kind of reservation about the past I will advice you free her and free her totally and go your way in search of a new love and wife for yourself
Having the mind of having sex with her or any kind of emotional attachment will be detrimental to you both and might distort your life's plan

Search your heart and prayerfully take the best of decision through God's leading

Klass99:


Lois you be monitoring spirit? Long time!

The ladies on this thread ehn, Jack Bauer & Ethan Hunt have nothing on you all.

Na so una make MalignantGuest deactivate in January oo

😂🤣🤣🤣🤣

I've been rolling on the floor since I started this thread. The FBI investigation no be here. They don turn Op's thread to caricature

oldienavie:

Thanks for taking time to respond, but sup with the bolded.
I am confused ?
Why would she kill me, we are good friends more like confidant. I don't trust her 100% but I trust her 90%.
Also, by letting her know I haven't forgotten her cheating, am I still going to be knacking her ?
She is an incredibly beautiful lady, its going to be difficult not to sleep with her atleast 2ce but its not impossible.

I think u need to know what u want and stick with it.

The fact she knows ure coming back to find a wife she's going to be very venerable with u in hopes ur past relationship can rekindle itself and those is not a bad thing bt it's doesn't seem to be what u want.

or do u think she is happy being a single mom sleeping around with different men and having no thoughts of marriage?

The fact u have told her ure coming to look for sm1else other than her for a wife doesn't mean she won't harbour the thoughts.

So while u want to eat ur cake and have it pls make sure u make it clear which still maybe useless if she develops feelings for u again.

my advise is u go for what u really want not what u want because ure bored or better yet find a neutral girl to play with till u find ur so called wife.

oldienavie:
I am a single man in my early 30s, I used to have a girlfriend some couple years ago .
She cheated on me, I didnt break up with her but the relationship just kinda died and she moved on .

She started dating another guy but I was also sleeping with her occasionally cos she liked me, anyway, the guy found out and he decided he was not going to marry her, but somehow she got pregnant for the guy.
I was already out of the country when she got pregnant for him.

The guy wanted her to abort but she wouldn't, she has a beautiful daughter now, she is not doing so bad as she works with one of the top banks as she is very comfortable.
Because of the trauma she suffered during pregnancy, she became close to me as the boyfriend totally abandoned her and the guy has not set eyes on the daughter till today, the daughter is now 6 years old.

I have been out of the country for 7 years and I am due to be back in Nigeria in a few weeks time, I am going back to purposely to look for a wife, we are going to be in the same city .

We currently talk everyday and it has been like that since more than 6 years ago, she is not dating anyone at the moment and she also knows I am coming to look for a wife.

Its almost certain that we are going to get back to having sex as its just obvious despite that we have never discussed that, its hard to really stay away from her but not impossible I am thinking there is nothing wrong having her as a Friend With Benefit pending when I get a wife that I want to marry and then discharge her.

Will it be possible to be Friend With Benefit with her and easily discharge her when I find another woman I want to marry without issues ? I love her and would have considered marrying her if not for the history that we shared, we have now become the best of friends, but I am just confused if resuming sex with her will not make it difficult to keep her away from me when I find another woman.

You know women can be very emotional .

Which state is she working and what state will you be staying till you go back?

Cuz if possible avoid her totally and face your business of coming no chop kayamata and sink into abyss of quick sand of life

FWB never ends well for women

CSTRR:
I am more concerned with a lady that decided to turn herself to a cumm dump.

Luckily, the Op is a fictional writer so there's no such lady anywhere that you should be worried about

Blessed is the man who thinketh not with his preek but rather delighteth in common sense.

Tonalphs:
op is finding comment that will encourage him to sleep with the lady.

I love how all the men are united in their advise to him. Different variations of "don't sleep with her and stop being friends with her" just dey fly up and down.

Honestly, I'm so disappointed when some guys can't take full control of their territory as men and fall so cheaply to emotional blackmail from the F genders. If you ever made the mistake of settling down with that lady, you are going to regret it for the rest of your entire life. Baba, run, run, run for her at all costs before she destroys your life. 

oldienavie:
I am a single man in my early 30s, I used to have a girlfriend some couple years ago .
She cheated on me, I didnt break up with her but the relationship just kinda died and she moved on .

She started dating another guy but I was also sleeping with her occasionally cos she liked me, anyway, the guy found out and he decided he was not going to marry her, but somehow she got pregnant for the guy.
I was already out of the country when she got pregnant for him.

The guy wanted her to abort but she wouldn't, she has a beautiful daughter now, she is not doing so bad as she works with one of the top banks as she is very comfortable.
Because of the trauma she suffered during pregnancy, she became close to me as the boyfriend totally abandoned her and the guy has not set eyes on the daughter till today, the daughter is now 6 years old.

I have been out of the country for 7 years and I am due to be back in Nigeria in a few weeks time, I am going back to purposely to look for a wife, we are going to be in the same city .

We currently talk everyday and it has been like that since more than 6 years ago, she is not dating anyone at the moment and she also knows I am coming to look for a wife.

Its almost certain that we are going to get back to having sex as its just obvious despite that we have never discussed that, its hard to really stay away from her but not impossible I am thinking there is nothing wrong having her as a Friend With Benefit pending when I get a wife that I want to marry and then discharge her.

Will it be possible to be Friend With Benefit with her and easily discharge her when I find another woman I want to marry without issues ? I love her and would have considered marrying her if not for the history that we shared, we have now become the best of friends, but I am just confused if resuming sex with her will not make it difficult to keep her away from me when I find another woman.

You know women can be very emotional .

See, marry her. Better woman no dey outside again. It's better to date a girl from young age and marry her when you're ready than to be looking for wife when you're ready!.

Rather than look for a way to maim or kill the INEC chairman, you posting trash 💩

oldienavie:
I am a single man in my early 30s, I used to have a girlfriend some couple years ago .
She cheated on me, I didnt break up with her but the relationship just kinda died and she moved on .

She started dating another guy but I was also sleeping with her occasionally cos she liked me, anyway, the guy found out and he decided he was not going to marry her, but somehow she got pregnant for the guy.
I was already out of the country when she got pregnant for him.

The guy wanted her to abort but she wouldn't, she has a beautiful daughter now, she is not doing so bad as she works with one of the top banks as she is very comfortable.
Because of the trauma she suffered during pregnancy, she became close to me as the boyfriend totally abandoned her and the guy has not set eyes on the daughter till today, the daughter is now 6 years old.

I have been out of the country for 7 years and I am due to be back in Nigeria in a few weeks time, I am going back to purposely to look for a wife, we are going to be in the same city .

We currently talk everyday and it has been like that since more than 6 years ago, she is not dating anyone at the moment and she also knows I am coming to look for a wife.

Its almost certain that we are going to get back to having sex as its just obvious despite that we have never discussed that, its hard to really stay away from her but not impossible I am thinking there is nothing wrong having her as a Friend With Benefit pending when I get a wife that I want to marry and then discharge her.

Will it be possible to be Friend With Benefit with her and easily discharge her when I find another woman I want to marry without issues ? I love her and would have considered marrying her if not for the history that we shared, we have now become the best of friends, but I am just confused if resuming sex with her will not make it difficult to keep her away from me when I find another woman.

You know women can be very emotional .

After all these epistle, yet you didn't say anything.
I don't know what to reply you. What you wrote up there reeks of immaturity for a man over thirty years.

oldienavie:

We both know I cannot get married to her, so I do not think I am wasting her time as she is aware we cannot get married.

We both like each other, my concern is how easy it will be for her to move on if I start sleeping with her again and I find someone else.

@the bolded, she cheated on me in the past and she is now a single mother, thats a lot of baggage in my opinion. I think our history is just too messed up to make a good family despite that we love each other.

Seems its best we both start afresh.

Bro be wise and smart. Don't sleep with her. If you do you are gone. She's waiting for you not just only physically but more spiritually to sleep with her and once you do, she has conquered you. Kayanmata and the rest are real. Most ladies these days are very fetish and are polished herbalists.

She may appear innocent and sincere but the elders have a saying that "the witchcraft of a beautiful damsel is difficult to discern". Be wise bro.

.

You be guy man mugu.

LilMissFavvy:
If she is not the type of woman you would like to marry, then why are you still wasting her time/emotions? This lady might even be above 30yrs, but still allows men waste her time? You told her you will be coming back to find a wife, yet she is still glued to you. So she cannot ask herself if she isn't good enough for a wife, then end the friendship? She has a low self-esteem. You need to help her out, by ending that closeness, why should you be calling her daily if you don't want her?

Tell her you have found a wife then end the friendship or at least reduce how you call each other. I am wondering what she really did wrong that disqualifies her to be your wife. Or If she hasn't changed for the better. You made her lose a marital opportunity in the past, allow her to be focused at this time of her life.

She already wasted her own time already
Now she want redemptions

You women are contented

Cheating is una life style.

I have a girl-friend then

Even if she marries tilumbu

She go cheat


She says one di... Ck cant satisfy her.

This one want to eat his cake and still have it.
So you want to eat and clean mouth abi? You think she is a fool so that she will let you use and dump her when you might have gotten another woman who betters her right?

This lady will play you and get pregnant and that means you are stuck with your vomit, since she knows you are coming home to look for a ”wife” then she will be all over you and pregnancy will set in.

Choose your battle bro, if you still have a thing for her then go ahead and marry her and if not then dont bother getting close to her at all. Keep your distance and that doesn't stop you from been nice to her please.

If you don’t stop knacking her, you will eventually found what you’re looking for… she will someday jazz you to marry her, if she hasn’t been planning on doing so already. Stop fucking her and move on biko

oldienavie:

Thanks for taking time to respond, but sup with the bolded.
I am confused ?
Why would she kill me, we are good friends more like confidant. I don't trust her 100% but I trust her 90%.
Also, by letting her know I haven't forgotten her cheating, am I still going to be knacking her ?
She is an incredibly beautiful lady, its going to be difficult not to sleep with her atleast 2ce but its not impossible.

You wanna get back to the same lady that would have been married if not that she was caught cheating with you?
You think she's gonna just let you get married to someone else when she thinks you ruined her life?

oldienavie:

Thanks for taking time to respond, but sup with the bolded.
I am confused ?
Why would she kill me, we are good friends more like confidant. I don't trust her 100% but I trust her 90%.
Also, by letting her know I haven't forgotten her cheating, am I still going to be knacking her ?
She is an incredibly beautiful lady, its going to be difficult not to sleep with her atleast 2ce but its not impossible.

U are one of the worst men of the century and or, in this century... Are u a jury or u want 2 bcom a jury...? U need a jury...? U need a jury or u want 2 av injury&injuries...? U want 2 av injury or an injury like Tyson Fury or like whatever Fury...? Who would be ur jury, when u av injury...? Injury like Tyson Fury or injury of Tyson Fury...? U are a John Terry or a Thienry Henry...? Like John Terry or like Thienry Henry...? Like John Terry, like Thienry Henry..., dat has/have/driving ferry&making merry..? Why are u in such hurry, to get or have injuries...?...

oldienavie:

Marriage is out of the picture, the issue is whether she won't come back to haunt me if I sleep with her and excuse her when I find another woman that I want to marry.

You want her for sexual pleasures but when you find a women to marry, you discharge her because you said she is not good for marriage.

Abeg put your self in her shoes. Would you be happy if someone should treats you in that manner ?

Fahvvy:
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@oldienavie you see the emotional blackmail card that @Foodqueen talked about earlier ba @bolded ...

Madam favvy fyi...
The OP didn't make her lose anything, SHE DECIDED TO THROW AWAY WHAT SHE HAD...

And she did that by cheating on the OP whilst they were dating and by cheating with the OP whilst she was in another relationship ...

What y'all ladies don't understand is that sleeping around and/or cheating in the long run will hurt you ...

The guy you cheated on won't want to have anything to do with you and the guy you cheated with, will reconsider his decision to building something long lasting with you (just as it is with the OP) ...

So play all these emotional card BS, it won't change anything!!! ...

And if you're still wondering @italics, then it's either you didn't take time to read and comprehend the write up of the OP or you don't see anything wrong with cheating and sleeping around ...

Either ways, it tells a lot about your kind of person ...

@OP...
I won't suggest you marry her (unless God Himself tells you to)...

Cause if she can cheat on (and with) you in the past, what makes you think she can't do it again now? What's the assurance?

And besides that, are you aware of the baggage(s) that single mothers go around with? Has she dealt with them? Or can you handle them without complaining?

Thus...
If you know you don't intend to marry her, then don't even bother sleeping with her, cause if you do, she will DEFINITELY play the emotional card, just as the fellow I'm quoting is doing right now ...

Go somewhere and find yourself a wife...
But if you intend to marry her (which I don't advice), then go ahead and make things official ...

I am not saying OP should marry her o; but if he DOES marry her, she will never repeat the same mistake because of the position she is in and facing right now.

Please give it a good rethink, it's not going to end well. Put yourself in her position; would you be happy if it's been done to you or your sister? Matthew 7:12 Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.
There are better ways both of you can be of good help to each other than what you stated out here
When we where yet sinners CHRIST JESUS died for us. Pls you need Jesus for a rebirth

oldienavie:

When a woman cheats on you, it never goes away, atleast for me it never does.
It's better not to marry her and start from a new slate.

She is my best friend now, you know that kind of friendship that's just so intimate and pure.
She has a child, that complicates the issue, I'd rather not get into marriage with her but like I said, I love her and I am sure she loves me too.

Love is not enough, I am just wondering if shes not gonna become clingy and impossible to detach when I finally find another person I want to settle down with.

Also this kind of situation is not so easy to move on from since I am still single.

1) you don't love her okay, you are infatuated on her,
2) you lack discipline.
3) you don't know what you want
4) you want to come and look for a wife and you are considering fucking another woman.. you are thinking with your dick.
5) you may end up horribly if you don't focus on what you want.
Have a nice day bro.

People will be traveling outside country and will be reasoning like f##ls....abi na Cameron or Cotonou u even go sef
At ur age u still want to come n take her as friend with benefits,if it's happens to ur sister how will u feel like
What happens if u marry her
She has been through alot already cos of u, why not let her bee n stop taking her for a ride

LilMissFavvy:
If she is not the type of woman you would like to marry, then why are you still wasting her time/emotions? This lady might even be above 30yrs, but still allows men waste her time? You told her you will be coming back to find a wife, yet she is still glued to you. So she cannot ask herself if she isn't good enough for a wife, then end the friendship? She has a low self-esteem. You need to help her out, by ending that closeness, why should you be calling her daily if you don't want her?

Tell her you have found a wife then end the friendship or at least reduce how you call each other. I am wondering what she really did wrong that disqualifies her to be your wife. Or If she hasn't changed for the better. You made her lose a marital opportunity in the past, allow her to be focused at this time of her life.

Hear it from the LovePeddler directly
She is asking what a cheat actually did wrong?

Whores sees nothing in cheating

OP u need a red pill crash course

oldienavie:
I am a single man in my early 30s, I used to have a girlfriend some couple years ago .
She cheated on me, I didnt break up with her but the relationship just kinda died and she moved on .

She started dating another guy but I was also sleeping with her occasionally cos she liked me, anyway, the guy found out and he decided he was not going to marry her, but somehow she got pregnant for the guy.
I was already out of the country when she got pregnant for him.

The guy wanted her to abort but she wouldn't, she has a beautiful daughter now, she is not doing so bad as she works with one of the top banks as she is very comfortable.
Because of the trauma she suffered during pregnancy, she became close to me as the boyfriend totally abandoned her and the guy has not set eyes on the daughter till today, the daughter is now 6 years old.

I have been out of the country for 7 years and I am due to be back in Nigeria in a few weeks time, I am going back to purposely to look for a wife, we are going to be in the same city .

We currently talk everyday and it has been like that since more than 6 years ago, she is not dating anyone at the moment and she also knows I am coming to look for a wife.

Its almost certain that we are going to get back to having sex as its just obvious despite that we have never discussed that, its hard to really stay away from her but not impossible I am thinking there is nothing wrong having her as a Friend With Benefit pending when I get a wife that I want to marry and then discharge her.

Will it be possible to be Friend With Benefit with her and easily discharge her when I find another woman I want to marry without issues ? I love her and would have considered marrying her if not for the history that we shared, we have now become the best of friends, but I am just confused if resuming sex with her will not make it difficult to keep her away from me when I find another woman.

You know women can be very emotional .

You are the emotional one here. Woman cheated on you even born out of wedlock by force and you are still planning with her in mind.

Ole boy go and face your future there are women everywhere. If not prepare for olosho future and just marry this one and be sharing her with everyone since the thing dey sweet you kmt

well the other guy would have stayed if you let her alone but nope you still f**king her..she lost the other guy cause of you..and you would lose the woman you would find cause of her if you don't let go now