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Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Exceed15: 9:46pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
So your own mom was a burden hers is precious abi.. Op use ur sense nah.. God allowed this to play out so she could see the pain she caused your mother. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by DiamondNimi(m): 9:46pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Neweramify:But most men feel secure around their mother in-law,even if this man accept the old woman in,I bet u the wife can never escape the same treat from is children |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by shantti(m): 9:46pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
What is even the relevance of marriage in a Nigerian guys life. Absolutely nothing. This guys mum would have been alive if he was still single and had kids from baby mamas 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Exceed15: 9:46pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Jamesbiodun: Gbam!!! |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Kaytixy: 9:47pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Halo22:I won't foot any medical bills as it is not my responsibility. She has other children let them do it together with my wife not me. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by ozalogbo: 9:47pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
As I read some of your comments, I smiled. Let me provide some information about my mum: she was a born again Christian, a genuine one. She belonged to those holiness preaching denomination. She was a peaceful person. When I stamped my feet and said no! she would be the one to say no, my son. She would be the one to say, 'What God has joined together, let no one put asunder'. And she would quietly take her leave, against my stand. That was a big problem. She would say, instead of there to be trouble in your home because of me, I better leave. She was TOO peaceful 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by MichaelSokoto(m): 9:47pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
d story no complete! I need to hear d wife's own version!
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Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Aklee4994(m): 9:49pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Samantha124:don’t worry after seun is through with tribalism on this forum Na people like you will go descend on....With all your brain 🧠you can’t even read sensibly...it’s just limited and senseless of you to be asking such question. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by EriMma1: 9:49pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
CSTRR: True sha. That was why I said, I would have told him to go ahead and do what he has in mind ( revenge) but wetin him go gain? Wickedness.. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Nobody: 9:49pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
If only you could stop being emotional and answered my question, we would've moved forward from this. shantti: |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Exceed15: 9:49pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Neweramify: Are you normal? 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Mrbllymer: 9:50pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Samantha124:may your son’s wife do exactly what Op’s wife did unto her. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by dannex4adx(m): 9:50pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
ozalogbo: So painful that you allowed your wife to dictate to you on how you should treat your mum when she needed you most, I'm sure that could be one of the reasons she died within few years, your mother that took care of you and a you became a person and now karma has found your wife's mother too. The ball is in your court, the only advice I can give you is to ask God to forgive you for treating your mother badly. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by DiamondNimi(m): 9:50pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Bro I know is hard but clear your mind,I bet you she can't escape such treatment from her children |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Ultimatesammie(m): 9:50pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
cococandy:If that was the issue then the wife should have communicated that to the husband so they can make a better adjustment and frankly what the wife did was Terrible, there are folks that take care of others who aren't even remotely related yet she can't even do an ounce of it yet expect a better treatment to her own mum, just selfish and hypocritical. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by shantti(m): 9:50pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Samantha124: Ur answer lies in my last question. It's not my fault u can't see it. I even thought u are smart |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by ojun50(m): 9:52pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Ebony2King:Yes, that is if they have it in mind |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by cococandy(f): 9:52pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
soles21: No it will not automatically be less work for the lady. It requires a lot of sacrifice. Someone else’s sacrifice is not something you just expect from them as if you’re entitled to it. You’re not entitled to her sacrificing herself to care for your mom. She can do it herself if she wants to but it’s not something she owes you. Why are you expecting her mom and your mom to have the same level of priority in her life? Her mom can die for her. Can your mom die for her? A little thinking please 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Nobody: 9:52pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Until Seun removes me from this forum, y'all should shut your mouths because I'm not going anywhere. You can shout all you want, but I'm staying..💃💃💃 Aklee4994: |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by MichaelSokoto(m): 9:53pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
EriMma1:peace is never an option comrade!
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Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Kaytixy: 9:53pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Nemesis0147:honestly and she won't say it. You how mothers could be, very tender towards their children. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Justbehave(m): 9:53pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
shantti:Bros abeg forget that mumu girl . Nothing dey her head. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Nobody: 9:53pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
How can you answer my question by asking me a question? Does that make sense to you? shantti: |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by ABAGA1(m): 9:54pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
It is so unfortunate that many of our women are like this...as in hostile attitude when the mother- in-law is around,but their own mama na Saint...@OP,for me...if my mum can't stay,yours too can't ... period |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by cococandy(f): 9:54pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Ultimatesammie: They get paid for it. That’s another angle you don’t see. Lots of care workers won’t do it for free because it’s not an easy job. Why the magical expectation that your wives should be excited to do it? If she’s expecting her husband to be the one to care for her mom, then that’s hypocritical. But we know that in both cases she’s the automatic caregiver by default. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Rinoxy: 9:54pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
ojun50:I totally concur with your advice, however, let me lend my thoughts to this topic thus; What is good for the goose is good for the gander. Nothing, again I repeat, nothing would make me send my own mother, my mama, person wey born me out of my house. Op, make your wife see that you have every moral justification to act to her mum like she did yours, but still let her come due to her age and health status, but let your wife's conscience beat her to seek for your forgiveness. Good evening. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Aplaudez(m): 9:54pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
ozalogbo: If you ever allow that my head will never forgive you! |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by 77up(m): 9:54pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Get someone to take care of your mother-in-law in her house too as marriage is for husband and his wife. If you accept her mum to move in with you , you are not only cheated, they also cheated your late mum and most likely,her spirit may not be happy with you. I'm sorry if my judgement is harsh. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by UNDFTD: 9:54pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
ozalogbo: I truly share your sentiment. I am NOT one to dish out advice but all I would tell you is to sit your wife down and talk to her if nothing else but simply to remind her that one good turn deserves another and vice versa. Let her know how you felt when she was adamant about NOT letting your own mother come to stay with you guys. But now that the tide has turned, how does she want you to feel and act? Depending on[b] how she acts and her response[/b], that would determine your next move. If she expresses genuine remorse and apologizes for recalcitrant behavior towards her mother-in-law, then you should let by gone be by gone! Otherwise, stick to your gun and refuse her mom moving in. Good luck! |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by summerflame(m): 9:54pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
ozalogbo: Her mum staying with us will always arouse the hatred and the anger in me cos everytime I see her own mother, it will always remind me on my own mother which she killed indirectly cos she didn't allow me to take care of her till she died . An eye for an eye |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Nobody: 9:55pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Amen...🙌🙌🙌 Anything else?🤣🤣🤣 Mrbllymer: |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by sandra50(f): 9:55pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
This your advice does not make sense..what peace?do you know if his mother would have stayed longer if she had allowed her stay?now the man needs to forgive for what peace to return..let the peace go forever if it wants to..let her siblings pay someone to stay with her..if allowed her come stay..what you couldn't do for your own mother then you have failed your late mother.. women always think they can have their way around everything ojun50: |
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