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Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by delishpot: 10:18am On Mar 30, 2023 |
I would send that wife away likewise if I am a daughter and my husband rejects my mom in her critical time I will divorce him and sue for half of what we accumulated during the marriage. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by justloo(m): 10:27am On Mar 30, 2023 |
Forgive but don't mask your feelings because you will not feel at ease anytime you see your mother-inlaw in your house and perhaps see your wife treat her with the kindness that she denied your mother. Make her see why life is not a straight line so that she will learn from the experience and in future, when issues arise, she will wear empathy as a clothe before making a decision. In fact, make her understand that you have the power now to do exactly what she did but you won't go down that path because this is your only opportunity to show her mother your humanity. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Livelystone01: 10:40am On Mar 30, 2023 |
frozen70:It's like you don't understand entitled people, they only think about themselves. For her to have the courage to bring this up despite her shenanigans against the mother inlaw shows she's entitled and entitled people do not regret their actions. Her mother should live with her siblings, that's the law she agreed to in the beginning, nothing should change it. This way, she'll think before acting wicked next time. She's should be also ready to face her repercussions from her daughter in-law. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Gloriagee(f): 10:57am On Mar 30, 2023 |
Waoh, the story is sooo strange? Was it a question of her being too religious for your wife and frowning at her actions or dressing? Did you have househelps or your wife was scared to be overwhelmed by the labour? There just might be another angle.... ozalogbo: |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by OlawaleBammie: 11:03am On Mar 30, 2023 |
handsomeyitayo: ABI ooh, but here we are...OP is the definition of oponu |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by eubee01: 11:06am On Mar 30, 2023 |
As much as I don't encourage rancour in marriages, Matt. 7 vs 12 is still the golden rule to life. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Klass99(f): 11:07am On Mar 30, 2023 |
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Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by TheChameleon: 11:11am On Mar 30, 2023 |
The OP died with a disappointed mum. I wish I could flog him on her behalf. You're a useless bastard if you allow her mum to stay. Best you can offer is the exact number of days your own mum got. But if na me, she wouldn't even step in my compound. let the useless daughter leave if she wants. I feel like strangling you. I wish I could at least pummel you for what you did to your mum 1 Like
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Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by bluebay(m): 11:19am On Mar 30, 2023 |
I didn’t read the story but for the headline, Don’t allow her stay with you. She can visit but not passing the night . Don’t make that mistake sir |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Justbehave(m): 11:21am On Mar 30, 2023 |
Gloriagee:All this manipulative questions won't help you. Just say the truth. If your husband doesn't want your people around for no reason, would you want his? 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by sasalihu8: 11:25am On Mar 30, 2023 |
Family is beyond you and your wife and your children. Women should understand that when get married to a man, they equally marry entire family. That is why the call her "Our wife" She is married to the man and his family. The earlier they know this the better. But the modern 21st century woman sees the man she marry as "My Man" - her exclusive possession and she is even territorial and defensive about it. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by frozen70(f): 11:28am On Mar 30, 2023 |
Livelystone01: I really understand your point, I want her to face with the shame of what she did to her mother in law, if she has any shame By the time the husband doesn't contribute a penny to her medicine and upkeep She Will feel the heat |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Justbehave(m): 11:29am On Mar 30, 2023 |
sasalihu8:Lol.And who told you they don't know this? The same woman that kneels to greet her mil and every other person before she is married into the family now turns to tiger and don't want anyone. It's high time men should realise that women are not capable of showing love to anybody apart from herself. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by handsomeyitayo(m): 11:31am On Mar 30, 2023 |
OlawaleBammie:very funny Op ..mumuish Op |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by GistFullGround: 11:32am On Mar 30, 2023 |
ozalogbo: Do not succumb to any blackmail because "They said that marriage was between a man and his wife, not between a man, his wife, and his mother". Your mother in-law CANNOT live with you. Your wife should arrange for someone to care for her just like you did yours. Women are generally selfish; what is good for the goose should also be applied to the gander! |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by lucky4west: 11:38am On Mar 30, 2023 |
two wrongs does not make a right, forgive your wife for what she did,but her mum should stay away... if she brought up that topic at all it means she think she is smart and you were not really strong in allowing your mum leave your house because of your wife when you knew your other siblings were not around, it was loneliness that killed maale no be age or sickness...just tell your wife to get a place for the mum where the two of you can visit her....but do not be angry with her...tell her the advice you received earlier :marriage is for 2 people no room for extra except the kids |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by BRATISLAVA: 11:44am On Mar 30, 2023 |
Klass99: Not a suspicion—it's a fact. It's a to-do list with emotions involved. Because children! They can disappoint and frustrate and agonize one. But then they can flip it at any moment to become the opposite of that. It's a bitter sweet thing, like most relationships are. But I'd say the number of children who give their parents joy are few in comparison to those who don't. More make them proud than happy. And many parents mistake that pride for happiness. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Gloriagee(f): 11:45am On Mar 30, 2023 |
Im just interested. His mum sounds so nice so why will the wife not want her around. The question is not intended for you though cos everything is manipulation to the manipulative........ Justbehave: |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Justbehave(m): 11:49am On Mar 30, 2023 |
Gloriagee:Your question sounded so dumb. Shift abeg as if you don't know that she didn't need to be a bad mil before women like you hate.Answer my question nah. This shows you can do worst than ops wife for you to be asking such. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by shantti(m): 11:53am On Mar 30, 2023 |
purples25: How does this related to the story op just told. Did he tell you that his old sick mother troubled his wife. Why r u painting mother in law's black. Aren't there daughter in laws that are demonic and evil. This is why I never take advise from females, u lot are too sentimental. And I hope u don't find a problem if the op decides not to let his mum in law stay. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by shantti(m): 11:53am On Mar 30, 2023 |
Samantha124: Pain |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by shantti(m): 11:54am On Mar 30, 2023 |
frozen70: Quit this manipulative game. Dont bring in God into your gender's mischief |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Justbehave(m): 11:57am On Mar 30, 2023 |
shantti:Don't mind her. As if op wife don't want to get rewarded by God if she allowed the old woman. Dont mind those gender,all of them na the same. Always supporting evils done by them. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by shantti(m): 12:06pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
cococandy: I hope u know why I seemed to ignore this, cos u didn't handle my point at all. U cleverly downplayed a reality even u yourself know is very glaring for the sake of arguing. When u stop being sentimental, then we can have a discussion |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by shantti(m): 12:13pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
dangotesmummy: Why can't she forgive him after her own mum have died. Shey marriage is all about forgiveness. This is the nonsense your gender cook up to perpetrate atrocities. Who told u the op don't already resent his wife, who told u that their sex life, communication and finance aren't already compromised by his wife's wickedness. I think the op should divorce her. She doesn't love him |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Obiorahpcfg: 12:15pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
You will be the worst coward i have ever seen if you agree shuuum. Let her pay someone to take care of her mum too. She is evil!!!! |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Biggers82(m): 12:16pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
This nonsense can happen to a man who is not man enough to control his wife and his house, who is that wife that will give my sweetish lovely mother a bad treatment when she visit my house that I do pay for ? Well my wife can't try it nah unless she will be the one to go I so much love my mother ooo don't joke with her or we have serious problems. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by searchlight: 12:17pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
ojun50:Really? Can you imagine? Remind her that marriage is between a man and a woman not between a man, a woman and her mother. Nonsense. The guys mother died that early probably because his wife deprived her that opportunity to have a good life with her son. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by shantti(m): 12:21pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
frozen70: But the wife should have considered the kids when she started her own nonsense. You can't use the kids as a bargaining chip in this case |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by searchlight: 12:21pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
EriMma1:No he's not treating the old woman bad. The daughter should get the daughter a nanny and he can also support where necessary. His wife contributed to his mother's death. If the mother had stayed with them chances are that she would still be alive today. Don't be a weakling |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by MrBrownJay1(m): 12:21pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
dangotesmummy: A) marriage is about RULES AND REGULATIONS.... if you are telling me that we shouldnt have guests, then i dont bring guests over, but if some miraculously come over, and you are pissed off about it and ask me to throw them out, then i will because these are the family RULES AND REGULATIONS. these are the rules they had with HIS family, and therefore thats the rule they should have with HERS. you cant change the family rules when it fits your selfish agenda. B) it was HIS money that was used to take care of his mother, and yet she was still against her being there. why should this suddenly be different because its HER mother?! C) funny how now suddenly people are all religious and want to talk about forgiveness. there is nothing to forgive... Imagine the resentment the woman will have if he didn't allow her mother and the mother now died because of lack of care.it Will definitely affect everything pertaining to that marriage- their sex life, communication, finance etc.so the disaster unforgiveness will do is worse imagine how the dude feels now that his mother is dead, after his wife refused to have her stay with them? marriage is about TWO individual, not just one. so if it was ok for husband to suffer because of the rules and regulations of the family, then let the wife go through the same suffering. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by shantti(m): 12:22pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
frozen70: Tarrrrr!!! It's not enough. He shouldn't let her being her mum into the house. Marriage is between man and wife, no third party, remember? Do u think men are fools u can manipulate as u wish |
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