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Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by 1Sharon(f): 9:17pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
mrmislim: According to these nairaland men, your mom must have poisoned your mind against your dad. Men are never wrong. And your mother lied to you. 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by mrmislim: 9:20pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
1Sharon: Lmao, don’t mind them, most of them are dundees, dem dey think with their an*s. 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Kurtis02(m): 9:33pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
As an akwa ibom man I would advise you meet with the biological father, for tradition sake. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Starfire223: 9:42pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Nobody likes or respects your opinion. You are living in a fools paradise. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Biletaste(m): 9:42pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Boy, tell them that if you don't meet the father you will not marry her. Simple. My brother it will be criminal for the step dad to play the role of a father without express permission. I have a young girl entrusted to me by the father to play a fatherly role to her . That doesn't mean that if she wants to marry I should abandon the dad. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by ibkayee(f): 9:43pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
You want to meet the person your soon to be wife has told you left her as a child and probably has years of abandonment trauma over. Who are you? Sherlock? Great start to a marriage mate 👍🏾 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Osobi32(m): 9:50pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Women are very dangerous and highly manipulative, I will advise u locate her biological dad and accord him that respect and also hear his side of the story. I bet u will be shock to see how things will turn out! Don't be caught in the middle pls else u will not like yourself. Also take your time to observe ur mother in-laws attitude and body language towards this issue, You will be able to understand what is really going on. Most times when a woman can't have her way with a man she will tag him bad and then manipulate the kids to hate their father, just look for the biological dad and the truth will surface but that shouldn't stop u from giving total respect to the step dad. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by AfonjaPriest: 9:59pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
If you want to marry her, marry her and forget the complicated adoption of a forgotten era. |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by 1Sharon(f): 10:02pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
abimbola74: So why didn't he show up for the wedding? 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by 1Sharon(f): 10:05pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Sirtee19: Won't the blood of the mother be suitable aswell? Do you guys think at all ![]() Stop cooking up nollywood scenarios. Grow up. It's not real life. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by guess1109(f): 10:13pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
It seems there's an issue of trust in this relationship of yours, your wife to be told you her story but you (in your infinite wisdom) think you have to confirm her story from the Dad himself? The same Dad she told you abandoned her when she was young and didn't bother to make up with her at any other time? Isn't this an indication that somehow at the back of your mind, you ACTUALLY don't believe her story and you're kinda scared she might be untrustworthy? A certain popular man's daughter got married some years back and she didn't invite the man because he was a deadbeat father to her and her siblings, he abandoned them and the Mum for years and never went back even though he was quite popular. The Mum remarried and it was the stepdad that raised those girls as his own. Imagine how the man, woman and the daughter would have been so hurt if the fiance was someone like you? Don't lose your babe(if you value her) because you want to dabble into what's not your business. 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Ellasure: 10:20pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
MetaBroadband: dear young man, it is your own time to set up a family and you need a well brought up girl as a wife. well brought up include a girl that recognize her father and mother and the extended families on both sides. according to the bible every marriage require witnesses, it is these witnesses that confirm the marriage. how can you marry a girl brainwashed not to recognize the biological father in her life, that means she is halfbaked human and she is a suitable marriage partner. if she truly want to marry let her directs you to the biological father and mother extended family. please don't waste your life on a free loading woman because she will dump you too as soon as you are useless and can not meet her demands anymore. this could happen under two years. also note that you will still recognize the current father she is parading and situate him as a responsible father to your wife. but you MUST meet the biological father even on a sick bed or possibly grave side. marriage is not a simple matter it is both physical and spiritual and all sides and conditions must be satisfied as there repercussions for any missteps. take your time and do the needful. seek for your own father input too. don't do it alone as you will likely fall into very wrong people. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Ellasure: 10:30pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
your number four statement is very important but you have referred to it casually. you said that the repercussions will be on your wife and the mother only as long as you have paid the bride price. not true, that is just the lure, satan lure into your life and the children coming out of the wedlock. maybe because you are trying to save money and time you want to jump over into the marriage but that jumping over correct procedures and actions will be sweet for a very short time and afterwards you will probably experience what happened to the real father of your wife. life goes in circular motion as we are just acting out our roles in life.. you can not be smarter than other people. the big eyes are watching. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by GboyegaD(m): 10:36pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
luminouz: No go kill yourself on top my matter ooo. Live your life, leave me make I leave my own. If I SIMP, e no concern you because your women bashing makes you no alpha and your whining/nagging makes you worse than a beta as I no sure say dem get class for your type. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by HajiaNotu: 10:38pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
This is 2023 guys! Biological father ko, abadon your child and comman be waitin 4 benefits. Una go learn by force! 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by HajiaNotu: 10:48pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
ibkayee:He is a legend of the truth seeker ![]() ![]() I wish the fiancee all the best in dis marital adventure. *sigh 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by ibkayee(f): 10:49pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
HajiaNotu:😂 |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by LieutGen: 10:58pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
OP, you want to marry a woman from this kind of background? Father abandoned (separated from) Mother. Mother nursed daughter with bitterness and hatred for the father. Saint mother raised daughter with another father. Mother may not even know the relative of the father. If care is not taken, there was no bride prize paid by the former father or current father. Bro, at least do a spy background check. Am sure the gul is not far in character than the mother. You will soon see the mother in the gul. Don't come here years later to start thread with a topic: HOW MY WIFE ABANDONED ME WITH MY 3 YEARS SON. |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by ibinaboonline: 11:39pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Before I read other people's comments, here's my advice. It's not your business whose fault it is that the mom and dad broke up. Your woman has told you her biological dad isn't in her life and not part of it. In fact, she's told you expressly not to contact the man. Don't force a relationship that's older than you. If you want to make it your business to reconcile the lady and her dad, proceed cautiously with such steps after you're married. For now, the man she points at and says, "that's my father" is her father. It's the man who raised her and trained her for you to come and marry. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Kobojunkie: 12:25am On Jun 02, 2023 |
Tutu82:Precisely! You are not a detective and dem no call you come judge matter! So, I don't understand why the majority think it is the plan of this one who only wants to marry a girl to decide on issues that probably happened when he was in diapers. The gull of some Nigerians ehn... LOL ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Kobojunkie: 12:27am On Jun 02, 2023 |
1Sharon:Women need to do away with that nonsense completely abeg! ![]() 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by franzis(m): 1:17am On Jun 02, 2023 |
Even the step dad is meant to advice you to meet the girls biological father, God forbid something happens in the future and its required of you to bring her father, how do want to meet the man after denying him of his right before marrying his daughter, truth here is you don't have to even pay the bride price to the man but you have to accord him that respect as the father of the woman you intend marrying by taking a wine and informing him , he could just say a prayer for you. |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by CoolAmbience(m): 2:59am On Jun 02, 2023 |
MetaBroadband: Oga, no matter what you do, you need to see the biological father. Leave women with their drama. Things are likely not as your mother-in-law and wife to be paint it. You be man o, no let women wear you like pant. If there is any time to put your feet to the ground, it is now. The worst that can happen is, marriage no go work, which perhaps even saves you from something much worse tomorrow. Stamp you authority as a man, insist that the right thing has to be done, culturally. Whatever misgivings they have against the man, should remain between they and him, and that they should keep you from it. Have a talk with your wife to be, without her mum. No be she you wan marry. Your wife to be should be able to understand your viewpoint, otherwise she get very big problem. Women are fond of doing things to alienate Children from their fathers whenever there are issues. She wan carry another man pikin give another person? What is the place of reconciliation and forgiveness in this world sef? With all the Church wey people dey go upandan? |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Lifecanbeamazin: 4:08am On Jun 02, 2023 |
I appreciate you trying to reach out to him but its best you listen to her. If he hasn't been there for his daughter up to this minute then he has no business been at the wedding. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by luminouz(m): 4:33am On Jun 02, 2023 |
GboyegaD: Gboyega, na me you dey talk to like this? ![]() Obaje sha....am I your mate? ![]() ![]() |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by PrimadonnaO(f): 4:33am On Jun 02, 2023 |
thinkmoney: Well sir, I've followed your interactions, and you've actually been missing the point. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by TheSuperX(m): 4:51am On Jun 02, 2023 |
ibkayee:Beech 😡 |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by TheSuperX(m): 4:58am On Jun 02, 2023 |
Hhansome:Trust some women at ur peril |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by TheSuperX(m): 4:59am On Jun 02, 2023 |
Foodqueen:Egg xatly 😂 |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by abimbola74(m): 5:13am On Jun 02, 2023 |
1Sharon:He said he was ready to sponsor the weeding only if it will be done in his state of residence . Though on a norms , I knew he wouldn’t want to show @ the other man’s place. The second issue was he wanted to decide on the wedding date which the other man wasn’t pleased with cos he was like he took care of her since when she was small so why is it now that he want to have a day when he didn’t bother all this while . 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Desusi: 6:17am On Jun 02, 2023 |
Micheal56:Join us in APC and enjoy life.As long as you hate us,you go peme.No bi small thing oo! |
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