zedegit:
Baby food and pampars are costly. I would even love to get my own house no matter how small before thinking marriage.

Atleast our only worry would be food and if I marry a resourceful wife like my mum, she can tend a garden/farm to help out.

Na this era u wan carry babe go farm? Even village girls no go reason am with u.

UyaiIncomparabl:


LMAO. Why are you so cranky?

I don't remember saying anything ill against your mother, please. So, why are you running a smear campaign against me? I’m not sorry anyway. You shouldn’t project your mother’s reality on another woman. You are looking for a woman that’s like your mother. That’s a pipe dream. You are also so out of touch. Who cooks with 1000N when it’s not that you stay in the village or it’s instant noodles you are cooking, ehn Mr cranky?

Also, why do you people resort to calling women evening newspapers? Is it that your brain cannot process something better to have a discourse with? Typical of fish-brained and unintelligent folks.

You're an evening newspaper ukpabio, if you like don't download some brain, clocking your 40s with such outstanding stupidity would be a disaster, if I'm projecting my mother into a responsible lady it shouldn't be your headache nor your concern, you're not responsible nor intelligent so you don't fit the context, they're a million replies on this thread yet you picked mine because attention is like morphine to you, you're addicted to it and you thrive on it, don't overstep your boundaries I'm not one of those guys you mess with on this platform, I've warned you, provoke me any further you won't like what comes next since your childish self want to be unfortunate this morning, useless fat pig.

hybridblood07:
You're not wrong, but in this present economy,
at least 200k is enough to run a home with a child. House rent alone would be more than 400k annually

For the house rent part, it's strictly dependent on location. In Kaduna for instance, you can get a decent two bedroom flat for 200-250k annually. Infact mine is 150k/year. Guess I'm just lucky.

ozo13:
baba 100k no reach again oo in Kebbi things are very expensive now .I just got back from birnin kebbi market now . Eno easy .Thank God I married an understanding calm lady.1300 worth of tomato/pepper.i don't like bulk purchase because of electricity situation here.

The blender new, weldone.

easzypeaszy:
nobody mention standard family here oga.
Try dey calm ur soul.. I kw alot of families who earn less dan 150k per month and der kids stil went to sch, survived and are doin great.
Same way I kw millionairs whose kids ends up doin drugs.
200k for family of 5 is not bad
Na u sabi mk u dey look for 5M per mnth b4 u settle dwn.. U wl regret it later in life

No dey take these guys seriously jare. When dem reach there dem go humble.

Rinoxy:

Dis one don lose touch with reality try try. SMH.

Please, bring me back to reality, You know in a Bulaba kingdom AKA ZOO republic, nothing is real. You need to be high on an escobatic level to achieve anything this Meta land.

Rubbiish:

The bold can't work in this present day Nigeria. 50k monthly for a family of four is not realistic

So all those families earning 50k n below in this present day should go n commit suicide abi? Just dey play u hear? When u play finish go sleep.

Fmghewzy:


At least 300k each for both husband and wife naaa.

common sense , you should have gotten this naa😏.

Try to read too, understand the situation and context

If you had common sense you should have just agreed to your kindergarten error n shut up!

Aklee4994:
Being a Corp member I Dey earn 53k monthly but still Dey lament before the month end beside am not serving in the state I reside ooo

You better learn to live within your means from this your early stage o!

dauntless15:
You're an evening newspaper, if you like don't download some brain, clocking your 40s with such outstanding stupidity would be a disaster, if I'm projecting my mother into a responsible lady it shouldn't be your headache nor your concern, you're not responsible nor intelligent so you don't fit the context, they're a million replies on this thread yet you picked mine because attention is like morphine to you, you're addicted to it and you thrive on it, don't overstep your boundaries I'm not one of those guys you mess with on this platform, I've warned you, provoke me any further you won't like what comes next since your childish self want to be unfortunate this morning, useless fat pig.

Why have you resorted to being bitter and defensive whilst displaying your low key toxicity?

“DON’T OVERSTEP YOUR BOUNDARIES, I am not one of those guys you mess with on this platform, I've warned you, provoke me any further you won't like what comes next”. .

What exactly will you do? I'm daring you. I hope you find a purpose in life so soon. Read somewhere you said life is so hard for you presently. I think you are taking that frustration out on me. Angry bird, kpele o!

But, you should not be threatening emptily because you can't do anything. Just banters, shouts, and frustrations. I can also decide to mention whoever I deem fit on this forum. Last I checked, there's freedom of use here. So, if you don't appreciate the quote, deactivate your account.

Lol @fat pig.

gregng:
Location is very important when u are considering marriage and salary...

From awka can't work for any agency for 300k monthly salary...

Pls can u explain what u typed in the second paragraph?

Dyfynezz12:

If the man does not have any side hustle then dat marriage will be as bitter as hell.
As a single guy self, 50k is not enough 4 me.Only feeding, transportation and internet takes up more than 50k a month

Then watch what u eat, where u go(apart from work) and minimize data usage. U just have to plan with what is available at the moment.

maasoap:

You are right, but not everyday. Bike having faults, rain, illness, inability to work due to other reasons. That could still make their average monthly income less than 100k.


Yes. Many civil servants have salary of 25k, 30k, 40k

Oga, not many pls. Don't argue, just accept it.

chatinent:
In all that's said, it is very wrong to say bikers earn ₦30k monthly. Most of them earn more than bankers! You can take it to the bank.

DSAs and core staff are all bankers, be specific.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Any man who expects his wife to co-join in providing should know that all hands must be on deck in the affairs of the home like cleaning and cooking. If I contribute to the provision of the home, such a man would likewise cook, clean, and take care of the babies. Nothing more.

It's the women who enable their behaviors by not stating what they expect of these men. Later, they become bitter and cranky and exert these toxicities on their children and other people forgetting to communicate with the irresponsible men they married. Best in ENDURANCE.

Some have coconut head, they will frustrate their wives if she asks for assistance. Either they do the housework jagajaga and the woman has to redo it properly or they do once and wait for her to ask for assistance every single time.
It's never a straight forward affair with Nigerian men unless you're lucky enough to marry a very understanding man.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Why have you resorted to being bitter and defensive whilst displaying your low key toxicity?

“DON’T OVERSTEP YOUR BOUNDARIES, I am not one of those guys you mess with on this platform, I've warned you, provoke me any further you won't like what comes next”. .

What exactly will you do? I'm daring you. I hope you find a purpose in life so soon. Read somewhere you said life is so hard for you presently. I think you are taking that frustration out on me. Angry bird, kpele o!

But, you should be threatening emptily because you can't do anything. Just banters, shouts, and frustrations. I can also decide to mention whoever I deem fit on this forum. Last I checked, there's freedom of use here. So, if you don't appreciate the quote, deactivate your account.

Lol @fat pig.

Yea, see how obsessed you are? Even going through my post to find something you can use, guess you didn't find anything better than life is hard, lol so I am toxic low key? And you can't stay away from toxic? What's your deal exactly, what is your problem?

You can mention anyone but me, they're a thousand replies on this thread, and you just can't seem to see any?

Please I have things to do okay? Daring me is a big mistake, and I don't want my profile to be banned over something like you, you're some fat akwa ibom pig Victoria, you're so gullible you can't see the subtle clues in my reply, respect yourself fa, that low key toxicity is a tip of the iceberg you don't want to see how much more toxicity I can bring, respect yourself, on the norms I won't indulge someone as gullible and inconsequential as you, just respect yourself, I am begging you now.

Rinoxy:

So all those families earning 50k n below in this present day should go n commit suicide abi? Just dey play u hear? When u play finish go sleep.

I didn't say they should commit suicide, moreover there are jobless people that are married, but that shouldn't be the standard. I don't know if u are married with 50k, but I can tell u is a complete life of suffering & shouldn't be encouraged.

Rubbiish:

I didn't say they should commit suicide, moreover there are jobless people that are married, but that shouldn't be the standard. I don't know if u are married with 50k, but I can tell u is a complete life of suffering & shouldn't be encouraged.

I don't even earn 100k monthly, but there are people earning 50k with families and still getting by. In all, may GOD help us all.

CHoccolaTE:

Some have coconut head, they will frustrate their wives if she asks for assistance. Either they do the housework jagajaga and the woman has to redo it properly or they do once and wait for her to ask for assistance every single time.
It's never a straight forward affair with Nigerian men unless you're lucky enough to marry a very understanding man.

It's why I called them the Best in ENDURANCE. Just as I think Nigerian women can't practice true equality, it's the same way these men can practice the same. There's no true equality as long as “Nigerian marriages” is concerned.

Ask them to clean up after themselves or take the plates they used to eat to the kitchen, they will instantly grow whitlow or tell you how they are the “head”. Very sensitive to criticisms and egotistical but never care to know about the other party.

UyaiIncomparabl:


It's why I called them the Best in ENDURANCE. Just as I think Nigerian women can't practice true equality, it's the same way these men can practice the same. There's no true equality as long as “Nigerian marriages” is concerned.

Ask them to clean up after themselves or take the plates they used to eat to the kitchen, they will instantly grow whitlow or tell you how they are the head. [b]Very sensitive to criticisms and egotistical [/b]but never care to know about the other party.

@bold,
I don't think they are sensitive, they are just wicked, they know they are supposed to help at home but refuse to do it because society enables them, if they go abroad they will suddenly start having sense and treat their wives well because the system there doesn't tolerate their inconsiderate behaviour.

dauntless15:
Yea, see how obsessed you are? Even going through my post to find something you can use, guess you didn't find anything better than life is hard, lol so I am toxic low key? And you can't stay away from toxic? What's your deal exactly, what is your problem?

You can mention anyone but me, they're a thousand replies on this thread, and you just can't seem to see any?

Please I have things to do okay? Daring me is a big mistake, and I don't want my profile to be banned over something like you, you're some fat akwa ibom pig, you're so gullible you can't see the subtle clues in my reply, respect yourself fa, that low key toxicity is a tip of the iceberg you don't want to see how much more toxicity I can bring, respect yourself, on the norms I won't indulge someone as gullible and inconsequential as you, just respect yourself, I am begging you now.

I'm daring you and you don't have to be scared of your profile being banned only. Be scared of the perks that will come with it. I'll have it banned for life and you will start afresh on another moniker.

And why are you calling me “fat”? . Or does fat have another meaning I do not know about?

Frustration is so written all over you I pity you so much. Even me you labeled evening newspaper did not get as cranky as you are presently. It's laughable. You can not receive what you dish out after all. Now, leave my comments this instant, you cretinous Nairalander.

UyaiIncomparabl:


I'm daring you and you don't have to be scared of your profile being banned only. Be scared of the perks that will come with it. I'll have it banned for life and you will start afresh on another moniker.

And why are you calling me “fat”? . Or does fat have another meaning I do not know about?

Frustration is so written all over you I pity you so much. Even me you labeled evening newspaper did not get as cranky as you are presently. It's laughable. You can not receive what you dish out after all. Now, leave my comments this instant, you cretinous Nairalander.

you're the attention starved evening newspaper looking for few minutes of attention on a Tuesday morning, so who is the frustrated one here? Fat means something else in your dictionary I don't know, you look like a pig, so corelate it with whatever and make any meaning your fish brain can make of it, and this is my last reply to you, look for someone else to help you achieve your agenda, frustrated evening newspaper.

CHoccolaTE:


@bold,
I don't think they are sensitive, they are just wicked, they know they are supposed to help at home but refuse to do it because society enables them, if they go abroad they will suddenly start having sense and treat their wives well because the system there doesn't tolerate their inconsiderate behaviour.

It's why many of them refuse to take their wives with them abroad because according to them, “Why should I be in a society where and when I can not exert my total masculinity”? Bunch of narcissists!

I have one there in the UK. Never touched a pin while he was in Nigeria. Claimed “provider male” even if he was not totally providing. Exerted his misogynistic self since the Nigerian society helped. Now, he's so powerless in the UK and will not hesitate to call me to help talk to his wife. Says his wife has turned to a full-blown feminist. I asked Madam and she said that he expects to still be served as he was in Nigeria. When they both equally contribute? Take several seats, abek.

Thankfully, his ego is wearing off already and he is learning. What these men can not cease to do doesn't exist.

UyaiIncomparabl:


And what's with the gra-gra? Is marriage a war zone? Marriage is meant to be enjoyed. Two fighters indeed.

And what do you mean by soft-life girls? What are the responsibilities of a woman in marriage again or am I missing something?

With one mouth they will say "struggling to survive,hardwork, trauma and hustling kills femininity and make a woman masculine". With another mouth they will resent girls that love soft life, as if soft life is not what preserves femininity.

UyaiIncomparabl:


It's why many of them refuse to take their wives with them abroad because according to them, “why should I be in a society where I can not exert my full masculinity”? Bunch of narcissists!

I have one there in the UK. Never touched a pin while he was in Nigeria. Claimed “provider male” even if he was not totally providing. Exerted his misogynistic self since the Nigerian society helped. Now, he's so powerless in the UK and will not hesitate to call me to help talk to his wife. Says his wife has turned to a full-blown feminist. I asked Madam and she said that he expects to still be served as he was in Nigeria. When they both equally contribute? Take several seats, abek.

Thankfully, his ego is wearing off already and he is learning. What these men can not cease to do doesn't exist.

Can you imagine? What's the big deal in helping his wife at home that he has to call for intervention because his wife expects his assistance?

Nigerian women sha need to adjust their mentality towards marriage, many of them view it with sufferhead lenses. They expect to be treated badly and tolerate so much rubbish. Even encourage other women to tolerate rubbish too.
It's the society and religions putting that crap in their heads.

Any woman foolish enough to marry a struggling guy will have herself to blame.

How much is emergency Caesarean section? If during labour an emergency CS is recommended and govt hospitals are on strike leaving you with no option than to go to a private clinic were they can charge you 500k and the man cant raise it nko?

You will be dodging your friends and club members wedding and occasions because you can't buy their asoebi.

Walk into a supermarket and price aptamil or sma. Except you have time to be sieving pap for your baby or you don't mind reusing napkins instead of diapers( making your baby having nappy rash)

Any human being advising you to marry a man that earn less than 700k is evil.

You will suffer

Rinoxy:

It's a daily reoccurring reality, so it can never be over flogged.

You are right! Just that the online community's reality no dey match what's obtainable out there!

CuriousStudent:



With one mouth they will say "struggling to survive,hardwork, trauma and hustling kills femininity and make a woman masculine". With another mouth they will resent girls that love soft life, as if soft life is not what preserves femininity.

You're right. Especially with that Pansophist guy. Speaks from both sides of his mouth.

One minute, they tell you a woman hustling and co-providing makes her masculine and as such, is wrong and shouldn't be encouraged. On another hand, they all want economic partners and struggling mates.

Why must I not want a soft life if you want my femininity glaring? And it's not news that a man who wants a feminine wife must know that it's exactly soft life. Why must they want to eat their cakes and have it back?

Rinoxy:

If you had common sense you should have just agreed to your kindergarten error n shut up!

I guess both of us don't have then 🤣🤣

nwajesus12:
at the end of the day, they go home with nothing due to their nefarious ways of life

If you go through my points I said the bike men with their right sense. You can read my submission again

CHoccolaTE:

Can you imagine? What's the big deal in helping his wife at home that he has to call for intervention because his wife expects his assistance?

Nigerian women sha need to adjust their mentality towards marriage, many of them view it with sufferhead lenses. They expect to be treated badly and tolerate so much rubbish. Even encourage other women to tolerate rubbish too.
It's the society and religions putting that crap in their heads.

The total overhaul must start from Nigerian women standing their ground. Without this, change is but a pipe dream. Why should I go to into marriage when exactly I have to suffer and struggle there? As you said, it's the embargo the society and religious sects have placed on them, hence the crap they tolerate.

It's sickening.