Kobojunkie:
Please stop this West vs. Nigeria bullsheet. Humans are humans everywhere and if two individuals cannot stay together in a marriage even without children. Even when children arrive, they will still not be able to stand each other. Honestly look around at the specimens you call marriage today to see what reality has been trying to tell you all this while.

HUMANS ARE HUMANS BUT ARAB HAVE THEIR OWN CULTURE AND LAW DIFFERENT FROM WESTERN CULTURE AND LAW.


THEY DONT DRESS ALIKE.



AFRICA NEED TO MOVE ON ALREADY.

Reelmii:
Ok...ashawo dey ur husband eyes before so dont think u were the problem, he just used ur issues as an excuse....

My advice is for u to see ur therapist..i believe u will be fine, time will heal ur wounds....thank God he did not leave u with a child, atleast u are mot a single mother so it will be easy for u to move on with time...

A man that can throw away 14yrs in just a short period of time was just a disaster waiting to happen....
I pity the new woman because he might leave her too one day because of a flimsy issue.....but by then,, u would have healed and moved on

Nonsense talk!

After enduring childlessness for 14years, all the f00lish lady could do was start denying him sexz

The man did the right thing by seeking satisfaction outside and having a child in the process. I'll not even wait that long before I start trying with other ladies should I find myself in same situation as the man God forbids.

legitnow1:
■ HUMANS ARE HUMANS BUT ARAB HAVE THEIR OWN CULTURE AND LAW DIFFERENT FROM WESTERN CULTURE AND LAW. THEY DONT DRESS ALIKE. AFRICA NEED TO MOVE ON ALREADY.

Now you are not making any sense. What has culture to do with basic socialization as far as humans?

Homologous:
I'm truly sorry to hear about the emotional turbulence you're going through. The complexities of fertility, marriage, and emotional well-being are deeply interconnected and can be incredibly challenging to navigate. You're doing the right thing by seeking therapy, and I hope you continue to find it a helpful avenue for addressing your feelings and depression.

Who are you sympathizing and writing to?

You just wasted your Grammer.

Kobojunkie:
Please stop this West vs. Nigeria bullsheet. Humans are humans everywhere and if two individuals cannot stay together in a marriage even without children. Even when children arrive, they will still not be able to stand each other. Honestly look around at the specimens you call marriage today to see what reality has been trying to tell you all this while.

FURTHER, IF U CANNOT STAY TOGETHER, DONT KNACK.



KNACK SOMEBODY YOU CAN STAND AND BARE IN MIND, IF SHE CARRY BELLE, NA YOU.


U GET TO KNACK HER EVERY NIGHT AFTER THE PREGNACY.



GET USE TO THE IDEA OF HAVING HER AS YOUR WIFE AND RAISING A FAMILY.


THIS IS THE AFRICAN WAY, U CAN MARRY MORE LATER.

All these people that always need to talk to a therapist, wetin be una own sef?

Does it mean that you guys cannot give yourselves proper advice?

Nonsense.

It has happened already.

Let her relax and live her life as she should.
She'll be fine.


I guess she didn't find the right one to advise her, she would have suggested adoption to her husband or agreed to a surrogate.
You didn't understand the pressure your husband was under.
He needed a child and he wasn't getting any younger.



We lost our first baby during childbirth and my husband was already suggesting adoption or surrogate, he said he doesn't want to see me go through such pains ever.
He saw that labour wasn't funny.


So nature decided to give her a shortcut and she refused to take it.
Thinking what the world will say.

legitnow1:
■ FURTHER, IF U CANNOT STAY TOGETHER, DONT KNACK. KNACK SOMEBODY YOU CAN STAND AND BARE IN MIND, IF SHE CARRY BELLE, NA YOU. U GET TO KNACK HER EVERY NIGHT AFTER THE PREGNACY.
GET USE TO THE IDEA OF HAVING HER AS YOUR WIFE AND RAISING A FAMILY. THIS IS THE AFRICAN WAY, U CAN MARRY MORE LATER.

Your "African way" does not seem to work in all cases, hence the reason why Oyibo science and IVF has had to step in, am I wrong?

RevenuesBoost:
It has happened already.

Let her relax and live her life as she should.
She'll be fine.


I guess she didn't find the right one to advise her, she would have suggested adoption to her husband or agreed to a surrogate.
You didn't understand the pressure your husband was under.
He needed a child and he wasn't getting any younger.



We lost our first baby during childbirth and my husband was already suggesting adoption or surrogate, he said he doesn't want to see me go through such pains ever.
He saw that labour wasn't funny.


So nature decided to give her a shortcut and she refused to take it.
Thinking what the world will say.

What happened to surrogacy and why didn't both u and the woman in the post agree to it?

Kobojunkie:
Your "African way" does not seem to work in all cases, hence the reason why Oyibo science and IVF has had to step in, am I wrong?

WE WONT NEED IVF IF YOU DID THINGS NATURALLY.


THE LAW OF NATURE DOES NOT CHANGE FOR YOU TO GO TO SCHOOL AND HAVE CAREEER, PLUS SMALL OLOSHO RUNS.


SOME OF YOU MAKE MATTER WORST BY COMMITING ABORTION.



NOTICE I SAID COMMITTING.


NO WOMAN CAN ABORT MY SEED, I WILL BEAT THE HELL OUT OF HER THAT DAY.


AND I DONT BEAT WOMEN.


SHE IS MAD!

Dchampion65:
You still need to see your therapy.
In reality, [s]not every male will become a father nor every female shall become a mother.[/s] That's the mystery of life.
Come put of your frustration and depression and embrace medical advice as well.
Adoption,surrogate or IVF.
Rejoice always and I say rejoice.

Shut da fvck up

It was obviously to much burden to carry for the young man.

clinician2x:


What happened to surrogacy and why didn't both u and the woman in the post agree to it?

Read my comment again please

Understand it, before you comment.

Did you see any writing there that I didn't agree to surrogacy?

I'm educated so I know that surrogacy is an advantage to most women.


You feel every story must have a sad ending?


I'm still happily married to my husband.

You made the greatest mistake of your life the moment you said NO to surrogacy or adoption.

Both of you did several tests, and it was confirmed you were the problem, yet you still found a way to blame your husband for your own misfortune.

See, the fact that your husband even suggested surrogacy & adoption shows how much he really loved you and was willing to make things work, but your village people said NEVER!!!.

clinician2x:


What happened to surrogacy and why didn't both u and the woman in the post agree to it?

Read my comment again please

Understand it, before you comment.

Did you see any writing there that I didn't agree to surrogacy?

I'm educated so I know that surrogacy is an advantage to most women

nairalanda1:
Husband no dey understand that marriage is for better for worse .

Your wife dey undergo serious issues and the best way to deal with it is to get another woman pregnant?

Suppose it was the other way round? Suppose the woman was fertile and you were the one shooting blanks?

The man married because he wanted free punnami and the pride of being called a father. Not because he wanted to get married. I doubt he loved the woman.


Don't get married for the image

rest!

[quote author=Zooposki post=125728827][/quote] Men have no reason to see women as any other thing than a replaceable commodity. This is because even women see themselves as commodities to be acquired by the highest bidders. Women are not in any position to complain about men not treating them with love and emotions because NO WOMAN TRULY LOVES A MAN OUTSIDE WHAT HE IS CAPABLE OF PROVIDING FOR HER.

We have all agreed that broke men do not deserve love nor sex from women, so why not also agree with us that a man with money has the right to change women the same way they change other commodities That is not too much to ask for from a gender that doesn't consider us beyond our bank accounts.

RevenuesBoost:



Read my comment again please

Understand it, before you comment.

Did you see any writing there that I didn't agree to surrogacy?

I'm educated so I know that surrogacy is an advantage to most women.


You feel every story must have a sad ending?


I'm still happily married to my husband.

That woman in the post is fighting over surrogacy. That is why her marriage ended. She didn't want it. Did u fight over it abi u no fight over it?

Reelmii:
Ok...ashawo dey ur husband eyes before so dont think u were the problem, he just used ur issues as an excuse....

My advice is for u to see ur therapist..i believe u will be fine, time will heal ur wounds....thank God he did not leave u with a child, atleast u are mot a single mother so it will be easy for u to move on with time...

A man that can throw away 14yrs in just a short period of time was just a disaster waiting to happen....
I pity the new woman because he might leave her too one day because of a flimsy issue.....but by then,, u would have healed and moved on

This can only be another female or a gay mofo behind this moniker. Prove me otherwise.

The woman is selfish, you no fit born, u dey vex say the man give woman belle, you can't just be "unable to carry a baby" something must have happened, she no wan talk true

legitnow1:


MARRIAGE WORKS BETTER WITH KIDS.


AS A MATTER OF FACT THEY ARE THE REAL ASSURANCE.


ONCE ONE PERSON CANNOT PRODUCE, THE OTHER WILL USE THAT AS EXCUSE TO LEAVE.


THIS IS NATURE.

Only in africa

clinician2x:


I have gotten 3 women pregnant and all of them.aborted it. I sent the first one 10, the second one 8k, the third one use her money but I had to take her to where it was confirmed done. They are not good for marriage. In ur opinion, I should go marry who no good abi?

SO, U THAT IS IMPREGNATING WOMEN IS THE GOOD PERSON?


WHO DID U LEAVE THEM FOR?


ANYWAY, ENJOY YOUR WESTERN LIFESTYLE, BECAUSE IF I HAVE MY WAY, NA JAIL STRAIGHT.



EITHER 10 YEARS IN JAIL OR 18 YEARS BEING MARRIED AND PAYING FOR THE KIDS YOU MADE.


U CHOOSE ONE.

clinician2x:


That woman in the post is fighting over surrogacy. That is why her marriage ended. She didn't want it. Did u fight over it abi u no fight over it?

Why will I fight over it?
Marriages are not meant for fights.
In marriage, you learn to be calm and agree together.
So our agreement isn't your business.

If we agreed to surrogacy, it's our business.
We aren't barren.

Thanks for your concern

tiswell:
rest!

RevenuesBoost:




Why will I fight over it?
Marriages are not meant for fights.
In marriage, you learn to be calm and agree together.
So our agreement isn't your business.

If we agreed to surrogacy, it's our business.
We aren't barren.

Thanks for your concern

You get luck say u no fight. You and that woman for de nairaland de seek advice.

Germi9:

Only in africa

OP, AS IF U WILL STAY WITH HIM, IF IT WAS HIM THAT WAS IMPOTENT.


I KNOW OF A FRIEND OF MINE RECENTLY, WHO FOUND OUT HE WAS IMPOTENT.


HIS WIFE LEFT ALREADY.



WE TELL THEM, TO BRING BACK THE AFRICAN WAY BUT THEY RATHER SUFFER.

legitnow1:



SO, U THAT IS IMPREGNATING WOMEN IS THE GOOD PERSON?


WHO DID U LEAVE THEM FOR?


ANYWAY, ENJOY YOUR WESTERN LIFESTYLE, BECAUSE IF I HAVE MY WAY, NA JAIL STRAIGHT.



EITHER 10 YEARS IN JAIL OR 18 YEARS BEING MARRIED AND PAYING FOR THE KIDS YOU MADE.


U CHOOSE ONE.

No man should be forced to marry a woman that is not good for him.

clinician2x:


What is wrong with the surrogacy option the man suggested? And why did it lead to a huge fight?

Indeed...though, knowing many reddit stories, there are things she may be leaving out.

But then again, marriage never was for one self.....

nairalanda1:
At the end marry because you love someone. Not because you have needs

Do women marry for love

I pity any man who allows himself to stick to a woman who can't bear him a child. Women of nowadays that would not touch a broke guy with a long spoon o.

FuckTheMod:

You're just still rambling and beating around the bush. Nobody said OLOSHOS with thousands of bodycount can't bear children, but the fact is that multiple sexual exposures with multiple partners is very dangerous and risky. Besides, it's not all girls that can be lucky.
Just as some normal girls will have risky unprotected sex with multiple men at different times and not get pregnant or get infected by STDs, a know many girls that got pregnant the first time they ever had sex in their life, also, some non-promiscuous people have hiv and other STDs through sex today, some even contracted it the first time they ever had sex.

If a girl has betrayed you in the past, don't project it on other women.

Someday, you will get married, after all.

Jman06:
Do women marry for love

If you don't want to get married, don't marry. Simple.

I pity any man who allows himself to stick to a woman who can't bear him a child. Women of nowadays that would not touch a broke guy with a long spoon o.

That's why we have options like divorce.