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cococandy:
That’s what you want to believe and that’s your prerogative

Being married doesn’t mean I have to join the brainless herd that tell women they have no value unless a man sees them worthy of marriage. I’m valuable single or married and my value isn’t attached to the approving gaze of man. You would understand if you had the capacity to

zed7:
You're a f** hypocrite. Like I rightly suspected, you're married. When they get married, they start pushing the it's ok to be single narrative. Why not remain single and die an old hag?

The average black person achieves something and then starts telling others that what they achieved isn't a big deal.

Why not leave your toxic marriage and stay single?

Women and men need partners, we need someone to spend our lives with. All these nonsense woke culture of red pill and feminism will only further plunge you all into misery.

What we should be selling is ability to have sense and screen for the right partner. Humans, most especially women are miserable when they are old and unmarried. FACTS.

cococandy:
I’m not responsible for your inability to use your brain.

Just because I recognize that it’s okay for someone to choose to be single doesn’t mean I think being married or in a relationship is bad. Two things can definitely be true. Which is that either choice is fine and none makes you more valuable than the other. Especially as a woman because that’s who this conversation was centered around to begin with.

If something this straightforward is difficult for you to understand, I wonder how you cope in real life. Simple things must be overwhelming for you. How sad.

cococandy:
I’m not responsible for your inability to use your brain.

Just because I recognize that it’s okay for someone to choose to be single doesn’t mean I think being married or in a relationship is bad. Two things can definitely be true. Which is that either choice is fine and none makes you more valuable than the other. Especially as a woman because that’s who this conversation was centered around to begin with.

If something this straightforward is difficult for you to understand, I wonder how you cope in real life. Simple things must be overwhelming for you. How sad.

pocohantas:
He seems mentally disturbed. Comparing apples to oranges. No one is saying marriage is not desirable or women shouldn't marry. But until then, allow these women make their choice and breathe. You would think this is common sense or maybe they just pretend to miss it.

If you were haunting unmarried women, they would come up with another talk of women being their own enemies.

Such knuckleheaded dolts.

cococandy:
The thing is you’d think it’s clear to anyone with common sense but that’s how they start and spread rumors on here.

The other day one of them was saying I’m encouraging single women to avoid marriage and childbirth. The next this one will start saying I’m asking all married women to leave their husbands. I just tire.

zed7:
Using derogatory words don't make you smart. I aired an opinion and you countered.

Allow me stick to my opinion, marriage is good and should be encouraged. What the society should encourage is getting married for the right reasons.

Stop selling the narrative that being single is fine for women, it isn't. It isn't even fine for men. That's my opinion, either deal with it or kill yourself.

People like you remain married and deceive others, reminds me of Linda Ikeji preaching celibacy and getting pregnant. She would have wanted marriage if not that she was dumped. Silly feminist deceiving others.

Don't bother replying, stuck to your opinion ma'am.

pocohantas:
That is what they do. Twist your words and run with it. You should know them by now.

cococandy:
The thing is you’d think it’s clear to anyone with common sense but that’s how they start and spread rumors on here.

The other day one of them was saying I’m encouraging single women to avoid marriage and childbirth. The next this one will start saying I’m asking all married women to leave their husbands. I just tire.

cococandy:
By undoing you mean not being married. Right ? Because I know that to you guys, that’s the worst thing that can happen to a woman. And when you see women who tell you they are happily single, it shatters your mind. You just can’t believe there are women whose existence do not center around finding and keeping a man. How confusing that must be

kayperry:
Yiimu !! tonto dikeh and aunty linda do pass you until god decided to open there yansh ...
there is no such thing as happily single, even mama jam jam wey dey form i no send "men" was busy getting it from lekki boyz

All those celeb that use to feign amazon/feminist wayback where are they today, you think eniola badmus is repackaging herself for singlehood or for women likes

Even our very own poco that prides herself as lakiriboto, for some time now she can't make two sentence without adding "my man"
women are deriatives of men, unlike men a woman as her urge and womb to contend with, either ways she needs a man

men just want to release, 96% of his problem is solved

cococandy:
Single women can be happy.

You don’t have to like it

Amarisco:
I give this 80% 🤭

1a… na. this is an urban myth. We are roughly evenly distributed

1b… half mark. sleeping around and having multiple wives is fundamentally different. But yes, the women lose out

UCHIHAmask:
1a... It isn't an urban myth in certain areas,in advanced nations your statistics is true but in underdeveloped areas and stagnant poor nations,by fact,the number of women especially of adult age is always slightly higher than that men, I trust you to have deep thoughts on the reasons.
...I know that it is not easy to get an accurate statistics in countries that lacks database such as ours,but in support of the OP, you would be surprised at the logic behind the statistics I can profer!

kayperry:
Single women can be happy over an event no doubt But when we talk of happiness that makes a woman radiate or glow it can only stem from a man's attention/affection

Guy's reaction over these topic goes beyond "likes" or dislike, reality is the watchword here
tonto dikeh tried to cover it up even dj cuppy with all the $$ we see her outburst

cococandy:
Can single men be happy without women?

kayperry:
Yes, example Bobrisky

1Sharon:
Bobrisky is not a heterosexual man, you know that.

1Sharon:
Bobrisky is not a heterosexual man, you know that.

cococandy:
You already know he’s being disingenuous. That’s why I decided to reignite my ignore button on him. He never makes sense anyway

ultraviolet27:
I am a Lady Check from my Profile I Just don't like deceiving myself!!

1Sharon:
Have you guys actually spoken to any children from polygamous homes to know how toxic it is?

Aklee4994:
They is nothing toxic about it stop 🛑 living on a la-la land..I came from a polygamous family of 5 wives..

1Sharon:
And how many people from polygamous homes have the same situation as yours ?

1Sharon:
Most people From polygamous homes don't want that shit for themselves or their children.

What does your uncles being abandoned by his wives prove?

pansophist:
. When people think about polygamy, they imagine a young man getting married to two young women. They see it from the prism of his sexual vanity, and criticize why he is not content with one woman. But in reality, polygamy is a well-established method of human family formation and is present in every single society whether it is legislated or not. 

This class of women benefits from polygamy

1. Barren women. Most men will not marry a woman who can't bear a child for him. The alternative for such women is polygamy since the other wives can give him a child.

 2. Divorcees with children. Most men will always prefer a woman who has never been married before, but being divorced should not deny a woman marriage, and lots of men will not mind marrying such women as second wives and being step-fathers to their children. 

3. Widowers (especially with children): This is self-explanatory. 

4. Levirate wives; This is related to number three, but differs in the angle that a man marries his late brother's wife, taking care of her and the children. Giving them a home and protection.

1a. Now, bear in mind that there are more women than men. Men are responsible for most work death, and war death, most prisoners are men and men have to be established before getting a wife. A woman generally is ready to marry in her 20s. So with this reality, women will always be available in high numbers than eligible males. 

1b. Also, bear in mind that the West seeing polygamy as outdated is actually de facto polygamy. There is no difference between marrying one woman and sleeping with four outside. It is still polygamy. The women whom he didn't marry are the losers in the game since they will not enjoy any conjugal protection from him and the law. 

1c. Again, you should bear in mind that monogamy is successful in the West due to its wealth. The social system can take care of single mothers by giving them cash monthly. In other parts of the world, suffering awaits such women, in this case, polygamy transfers the responsibility to the man. 

1d. Also, polygamy is actually a burden on the polygamous man, because he now has more mouths to feed, and children and wives to take care of. His pocket has to be heavy. 

1e. Polygamy gives women the opportunity to team up and share a high-value man since these men are few in number. In dating, women share the same men, why not in marriage?

Most importantly, if polygamy is done rightly, it is equally as good as monogamy.

olutund:
nice information...

How then is polygamy done rightly?

pansophist:
Regardless if you are religious or not, the Islam template for polygamous men is very fair to everyone involved. Such as,

1. Possession of sufficient financial resources to provide all expenses of each family (keyword here is ''each family''). Polygamy is not for the poor.

2. Physical prowess for completely satisfying the sexual desires of each wife.

3. Observance of complete justice and equality among each family in every way without any favoritism.

4. They must all know about your polygamous nature before entering into any conjugal relationship. So if a woman is convinced that she is your ''one-and-only'', then in the future, you took another wife, then that is not good.

Number three is very important. If you shall abide by the above, then make sure the ladies consent to it, if yes, then you have my blessings cool