Amarisco:
In this world, not any spiritual realm, & according to census data, there is a roughly equal spread of men and women.

fact

Maybe decent/valuable men are scarce, but I don’t have the data on that.

FalseProphet1:

You still don't get it do you?

The roughly equal spread of men to women isn't the issue here.

The issue is that more than 60% of the men in that equal spread are not ready for marriage. So let's say that they make money at 37 and get married at 38, they'll choose someone in her 20s to marry. This in return would mean that their female counterparts within their age bracket would remain single cos they couldn't marry them in their prime due to lack of money.

This is one of the major reasons why we have so many unmarried ladies in their 30s and above today. The men who should marry them are still hussling for money. And when they eventually make that money, they'll go for girls in their 20s leaving this ones single and lonely.

Amarisco:


Your points are valid, hypothetically. But factually according to recorded data, the difference in gender distribution is merely about 0.5-1%.

Even in our country Nigeria… so let’s not exaggerate

FalseProphet1:

You still don't get it do you?

The roughly equal spread of men to women isn't the issue here.

The issue is that more than 60% of the men in that equal spread are not ready for marriage. So let's say that they make money at 37 and get married at 38, they'll choose someone in her 20s to marry. This in return would mean that their female counterparts within their age bracket would remain single cos they couldn't marry them in their prime due to lack of money.

This is one of the major reasons why we have so many unmarried ladies in their 30s and above today. The men who should marry them are still hussling for money. And when they eventually make that money, they'll go for girls in their 20s leaving this ones single and lonely.

Amarisco:


In this world, not any spiritual realm, & according to census data, there is a roughly equal spread of men and women.

fact

Maybe decent/valuable men are scarce, but I don’t have the data on that.

zed7:

World population actually says men are 50.4% and women are about 49.6%. Statistically, there are more men than women.

In terms of marriage and dating, eligible men are a small fraction compared to women. That's why many old women are unmarried. Like the topic says, polygamy was designed to cater for these women. One wealthy man can take 10 women off the 'streets'. That's exactly what Solomon did in the bible.

Now that polygamy is frowned upon, the number if old, frustrated and unmarried women has tripled far more than our grandparents generation. It's even going to get worse in a few years. Hook up, feminism and lesbianism is eventually going to be the female species undoing.

FalseProphet1:

So how come hundreds of ladies are always disturbing me in my spiritual center and other spiritual centers and churches for prayers concerning a husband.

[b]Whether you choose to believe it or not, the ratio of eligible men to available women is very low. [/b]Because there are millions of men in their 30s who don't have jobs, so they're not even thinking about marriage. Whereas their female counterparts are there waiting for husbands.

This means that for every 10 available women, there's only one eligible man. So they'll have to fight for him, and even if he married one out of the 10, he'll still be able to continue having affairs with the remaining 9, because there's a serious shortage of eligible men to marry them.

That's the reality on ground.

This I have seen.

pansophist:


No, we are not roughly evenly distributed. It is not true and has never been true.

Ok, I will put it this way. The realities of men make an unequal availability of marriageable men compared to women. Depending on the society, a woman is pretty much available to marry at 18 years old.

It is not the same for men. For example, lots of Ukrainian widows have emerged whose husbands had died in the war, over 300k Ukrainian men died just within the last 17 months of this ongoing war.

And that's just war. Prisons, work death, low-value men, etc are all in the mix of the few available men, so how will all these women get married? In the West, they can just adopt and depend on social benefits, but the west is less than 15% of the global population.

So no, societal stability is burdened on men, and in many cases, men's lives are sacrificed for it. So there will always be a surplus of more women than men who wants to marry.

It is from this angle that Islam for example permitted polygamy, not for evanescent reasons.

pansophist:


Nope, polygamy should not and can not be for poor men.

Anyways, no woman will agree to be the second wife of a poor man, so no point discussing that, it is not gonna happen. It is like banning a cow from flying when in reality, it can't actually fly.

talented321:
Without polygamy many women will not marry'' even now sef single women and single mothers don cover everywhere.
Truth about the matter is monogamy can't work in nigeria and many men who live with one woman has many side chicks'' unlike a man who is married with two or three wives and don't have side chicken.

talented321:
Without polygamy many women will not marry'' even now sef single women and single mothers don cover everywhere.
Truth about the matter is monogamy can't work in nigeria and many men who live with one woman has many side chicks'' unlike a man who is married with two or three wives and don't have side chicken.

koladata:
pansophist i don't really think polygamy should be for only rich men or highly valued men if well planned, if both women are working in a case of 2 women to one man, they can both save three times faster to take care of their family. But all these pastors are coming for your head, Brace for impact bro.

zed7:

Now that polygamy is frowned upon, the number if old, frustrated and unmarried women has tripled far more than our grandparents generation. It's even going to get worse in a few years. Hook up, feminism and lesbianism is eventually going to be the female species undoing.

Sweetvie:
You didn't talk about the jealousy and competition among the wives?
For me, polygamy is only good for a barren woman coz she has nothing to risk or lose.
It reduce life and marital satisfaction.

Moreover, polygamy is very expensive

Saccharine:
Lol, will always be a man telling women what's good and beneficial for them.

talented321:
Without polygamy many women will not marry'' even now sef single women and single mothers don cover everywhere.
Truth about the matter is monogamy can't work in nigeria and many men who live with one woman has many side chicks'' unlike a man who is married with two or three wives and don't have side chicken.

zed7:

In terms of marriage and dating, eligible men are a small fraction compared to women. That's why many old women are unmarried. Like the topic says, polygamy was designed to cater for these women. One wealthy man can take 10 women off the 'streets'. That's exactly what Solomon did in the bible.

Now that polygamy is frowned upon, the number if old, frustrated and unmarried women has tripled far more than our grandparents generation. It's even going to get worse in a few years. Hook up, feminism and lesbianism is eventually going to be the female species undoing.

Acidosis:

One of the main issues with this post is that the poor are the ones most attracted to polygamy. So, how do we reconcile this reality with the content of your post?

Amarisco:


I give this 80% 🤭

1a… na. this is an urban myth. We are roughly evenly distributed

1b… half mark. sleeping around and having multiple wives is fundamentally different. But yes, the women lose out

Amarisco:


In this world, not any spiritual realm, & according to census data, there is a roughly equal spread of men and women.

fact

Maybe decent/valuable men are scarce, but I don’t have the data on that.