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Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by DaddyRochie1642(op): 7:32am On Jan 17, 2024

It's over one year I lost my mother to stage 4 breast cancer, the breast cancer was not detected early,

- I remember that day very clearly like it was yesterday,
- It was on a Sunday morning, she was responsive their on her hospital bed, she was even smiling with the doctor attending to her,
- I was there, my younger brother was there, my older cousin was there, we were there by her side, the doctor attending to her left,
- Few minutes after the doctor left, mummy closed her eyes,
- We immediately rushed and called the doctors to the situation, the brought their machine for CPR, the machine couldn't detect her pulse/vitals,
- She was pronounced dead after several efforts.
- I couldn't believe I just saw mummy die before my eyes,
- My younger brother went nuts right there in the hospital, my older cousin shed tears, his eyes were red, I was too shocked, I just sat down beside her body and held her hand for over an hour, she was 52years old.
- This memory plays in my head each day.

- My younger brother was never himself After mummy's passing,
- He developed some kind of mental health issues, it was so bad for him,
- My younger brother became a complete shadow of himself, this is someone that is full of Life and energy when mummy was alive.
- Doctor said it was schizophrenia which was triggered due to the loss of a loved one as he was very close to her.

- With combined efforts, my younger brother slowly overcame the mental health issue,
- Each time I look at him, I'm so glad we rallied around for him, I am so glad I played my role and stood by him at that low point in his life, I'm filled with happiness each time I see him.

- Witnessing a loved one die in your presence is a scar for life, it can damage a person for Life.

You can share your experience if you wish, it is not an easy thing to talk about.

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Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by Kobojunkie: 7:45am On Jan 17, 2024

DaddyRochie1642:
It's over one year I lost my mother to stage 4 breast cancer, the breast cancer was not detected early,

By any chance, was your mother religious? Was she a member of any church were she prayed regularly or prayer groups or the likes? undecided

Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by DaddyRochie1642(op): 7:47am On Jan 17, 2024

Kobojunkie:
By any chance, was your mother religious? Was she a member of any church were she prayed regularly or prayer groups or the likes?

She was

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Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by Kobojunkie: 7:48am On Jan 17, 2024

DaddyRochie1642:
■ She was

Care to reveal which? undecided

Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by WombBreaker: 8:38am On Jan 17, 2024

Imagine saying your brother's mentally ill

TF

Schizophrenia is not a mental illness please

Your brother's a state of paranoia that his mommy died

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Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by DaddyRochie1642(op): 10:08am On Jan 17, 2024

Kobojunkie:
Care to reveal which?

Doesn't matter now, Redeem Christian Church undecided

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Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by DaddyRochie1642(op): 10:09am On Jan 17, 2024

WombBreaker:
Imagine saying your brother's mentally ill

TF

Schizophrenia is not a mental illness please

Your brother's a state of paranoia that his mommy died

The doctor said so, he was diagnosed, you seem to have a problem with it

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Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by talk2hb1(m): 1:33pm On Jan 17, 2024*

I can relate, when my Dad died in my hand in 2022, although I had the premonition 3days ahead.
I still can’t get over him till today.

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Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by ChybuzzDD(m): 2:17pm On Jan 17, 2024

DaddyRochie1642:
It's over one year I lost my mother to stage 4 breast cancer, the breast cancer was not detected early,

- I remember that day very clearly like it was yesterday,
- It was on a Sunday morning, she was responsive their on her hospital bed, she was even smiling with the doctor attending to her,
- I was there, my younger brother was there, my older cousin was there, we were there by her side, the doctor attending to her left,
- Few minutes after the doctor left, mummy closed her eyes,
- We immediately rushed and called the doctors to the situation, the brought their machine for CPR, the machine couldn't detect her pulse/vitals,
- She was pronounced dead after several efforts.
- I couldn't believe I just saw mummy die before my eyes,
- My younger brother went nuts right there in the hospital, my older cousin shed tears, his eyes were red, I was too shocked, I just sat down beside her body and held her hand for over an hour, she was 52years old.
- This memory plays in my head each day.

- My younger brother was never himself After mummy's passing,
- He developed some kind of mental health issues, it was so bad for him,
- My younger brother became a complete shadow of himself, this is someone that is full of Life and energy when mummy was alive.
- Doctor said it was schizophrenia which was triggered due to the loss of a loved one as he was very close to her.

- With combined efforts, my younger brother slowly overcame the mental health issue,
- Each time I look at him, I'm so glad we rallied around for him, I am so glad I played my role and stood by him at that low point in his life, I'm filled with happiness each time I see him.

- Witnessing a loved one die in your presence is a scar for life, it can damage a person for Life.

You can share your experience if you wish, it is not an easy thing to talk about.

May her soul RIP

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Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by ChybuzzDD(m): 2:20pm On Jan 17, 2024

WombBreaker:
Imagine saying your brother's mentally ill

TF

Schizophrenia is not a mental illness please

Your brother's a state of paranoia that his mommy died

What are you saying?

Schizophrenia is a psychiatric illness as well as a mental illness

Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by Mindlog: 2:34pm On Jan 17, 2024

WombBreaker:
Imagine saying your brother's mentally ill

TF

Schizophrenia is not a mental illness please

Your brother's a state of paranoia that his mommy died

Schizophrenia is a serious mental illness! Where did you learn, it isn't?

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Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by WombBreaker: 2:36pm On Jan 17, 2024

Mindlog:
Schizophrenia is a serious mental illness! Where did you learn, it isn't?

That's a lie

I know a guy with schizophrenia that's doing well more than the average dude

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Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by WombBreaker: 4:42pm On Jan 17, 2024

psychicdreams:
You're right. And I know I am here to put you on your toes. Pending the time I get a response to my mails, I'll be on the lookout for any vile comment from you. Just one, you hear? I promise I will make you conform to civility, and I will make it happen.

RoyalRoy

Seun

Quoted troll keep using multiple alts and Derailing threads

Violation of multiple rules

Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by Kobojunkie: 4:55pm On Jan 17, 2024

WombBreaker:
That's a lie. I know a guy with schizophrenia that's doing well more than the average dude

Please describe this guy, and what you mean by he is doing well. lipsrsealed

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Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by Kobojunkie: 4:58pm On Jan 17, 2024

DaddyRochie1642:
■ Doesn't matter now, Redeem Christian Church

Oh, I see! Just wondering whether the cancer was asymptomatic or she was merely blinded by religion. Sadly, she is gone. please take heart. lipsrsealed

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Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by WombBreaker: 5:00pm On Jan 17, 2024

Kobojunkie:
Please describe this guy, and what you mean by he is doing well.

Look up Terry Davis

There are more like him

Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by DaddyRochie1642(op): 5:08pm On Jan 17, 2024

Kobojunkie:
Oh, I see! Just wondering whether the cancer was asymptomatic or she was merely blinded by religion. Sadly, she is gone. please take heart.

Can breast cancer be asymptomatic, I'm curious

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Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by Kobojunkie: 5:18pm On Jan 17, 2024

DaddyRochie1642:
■ Can breast cancer be asymptomatic, I'm curious

It is possible but rare. lipsrsealed

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Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by Kobojunkie: 5:20pm On Jan 17, 2024

WombBreaker:
■ Look up Terry Davis. There are more like him

Are you joking? Terry Davis, who struggled with the illness, eventually dying at 48 did well for himself. shocked

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Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by EbenezerTriumph: 5:29pm On Jan 17, 2024

DaddyRochie1642:
It's over one year I lost my mother to stage 4 breast cancer, the breast cancer was not detected early,

- I remember that day very clearly like it was yesterday,
- It was on a Sunday morning, she was responsive their on her hospital bed, she was even smiling with the doctor attending to her,
- I was there, my younger brother was there, my older cousin was there, we were there by her side, the doctor attending to her left,
- Few minutes after the doctor left, mummy closed her eyes,
- We immediately rushed and called the doctors to the situation, the brought their machine for CPR, the machine couldn't detect her pulse/vitals,
- She was pronounced dead after several efforts.
- I couldn't believe I just saw mummy die before my eyes,
- My younger brother went nuts right there in the hospital, my older cousin shed tears, his eyes were red, I was too shocked, I just sat down beside her body and held her hand for over an hour, she was 52years old.
- This memory plays in my head each day.

- My younger brother was never himself After mummy's passing,
- He developed some kind of mental health issues, it was so bad for him,
- My younger brother became a complete shadow of himself, this is someone that is full of Life and energy when mummy was alive.
- Doctor said it was schizophrenia which was triggered due to the loss of a loved one as he was very close to her.

- With combined efforts, my younger brother slowly overcame the mental health issue,
- Each time I look at him, I'm so glad we rallied around for him, I am so glad I played my role and stood by him at that low point in his life, I'm filled with happiness each time I see him.

- Witnessing a loved one die in your presence is a scar for life, it can damage a person for Life.

You can share your experience if you wish, it is not an easy thing to talk about.

I lost my dad on November last year.
I almost lost my sanity as he died at 84 and even at that age he sponsored me through school (I'm a fresh graduate).
Graduating and coming back home I lost him to the cold hands of death.
His death affected me and I almost got sacked at work.
Till now I'm yet to recover

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Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by Fira09(m): 5:33pm On Jan 17, 2024

psychicdreams:
Im just kidding

Of cos it's serious because I have it too

I only try to joke abt it becos it's hard to deal with.

What is this? Lmao grin

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Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by sholay2011(m): 5:35pm On Jan 17, 2024

Kobojunkie:
By any chance, was your mother religious? Was she a member of any church were she prayed regularly or prayer groups or the likes?

What is really your problem? Jeez...

This thread is quite emotional and OP's writeup really broke my heart. I'm glad your younger brother is doing fine now.

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Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by DaddyRochie1642(op): 5:39pm On Jan 17, 2024

EbenezerTriumph:
I lost my dad on November last year.
I almost lost my sanity as he died at 84 and even at that age he sponsored me through school (I'm a fresh graduate).
Graduating and coming back home I lost him to the cold hands of death.
His death affected me and I almost got sacked at work.
Till now I'm yet to recover

Wow,.... this deep, even at his age, his passing has this kind of impact on you, imagine, if he had passed at a younger age,

There was a guy I knew that was always telling me to be strong when our mother passed each time we meet,
- two months later, one day me and him met and he was telling me that the time he was telling me to be strong and stay strong after our mother passed away, it was after he lost his father one month later that he realized what I was going through that period our mother passed.
- he told me that it is not easy for him to stay strong after loosing his father, he was asking me for tips on how to stay strong after such a loss.

People that have not experienced loosing a loved one can never ever relate to it.

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Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by Kobojunkie: 5:54pm On Jan 17, 2024

psychicdreams:
Yes he did

He did well, how? undecided

Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by Mindlog: 6:45pm On Jan 17, 2024

WombBreaker:
That's a lie

I know a guy with schizophrenia that's doing well more than the average dude

Go read up on schizophrenia and post any link that claims it is psychopathological.

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Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by bellong: 12:31am On Jan 18, 2024

WombBreaker:
That's a lie

I know a guy with schizophrenia that's doing well more than the average dude

I think your opinion stems from the believe that people living with mental illness cannot live a normal life. It is ignorance to believe the lie.

DSM-V classified schizophrenia as a serious mental illness. People with mental illness can still live a normal life with support from behavioural therapy, anti-psychotic medications and other therapy methods.
Yes, people with schizophrenia can live well and still contribute to the society. Professor John Nash, a Nobel laurette in Mathematics is a classic example.

@OP, the loss of loved ones is very painful particularly those who have made significant impact in our lives. The good memories we have of them and the great life they lived help to alleviate the pain.

Happy to hear that your brother got the help he needed and didn't develop a treatment resistant schizophrenia.
It is well with you all.

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