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Elzazzi:
I will try and make this brief and please ignore the errors.

I was with my close friend yesterday evening. While we were chilling together, a call came in on his phone. it was his cousin that called telling what had happened and also seeking his advice. Now this is what happened, this his cousin has been dating this lady for about a year I think and he has already proposed to her and even took her to his parents and siblings. He also visited the lady family and did some introduction. Now April this year has been chosen for the wedding ceremony proper and a date has been fixed. This is where trouble started.

My friend cousin created a WhatsApp group for his wedding ceremony, he added all his friends and some of his classmates to this group so they can join hands and make his wedding day memorable. He posted his wedding IV to the group and some pictures of him and the lady, one of his old time classmate recognized her and immediately called him for a private meeting for urgent discussions.


He visited him the next day and this guy told him everything about his fiancée. How she used to be a stripper in Lagos clubs years back and how he and his friends had wild 3some with her. She used to base in Lagos as a call girl but relocated to Abuja and that’s where she met my friend cousin. After all these revelation this guy was in deep pain as he had already gone far with the weeding preparations. Of course his old time classmate advised him not to marry her, but this guy loves her so much and he is in a big dilemma of what to do next. As he thinking of leaving the country and go start life with her elsewhere.

Can such past truly be overlooked?

After my friend explained everything to me, I was just short of words but of course I advised he shouldn’t marry her. What advice would you give him in such a situation my fellow Nlanders ?

olosho no Dey stop. Na break dem Dey take. Na dis girls wey dem go Dey advice to calm down that time, but they will tell you it is their live. Make you guy no go be simp

JessicaRabbit:
My dear, in the grand theater of relationships, honesty is the leading lady, and it seems she's been backstage for quite a while.

"Your friend's cousin" is faced with quite the Shakespearean dilemma, a tragic tale of past indiscretions surfacing on the eve of matrimonial bliss. Now, my friend, while people can evolve and change, transparency is key. If a partner hides a history as colorful as a disco ball, it raises questions about the foundation of trust.

Sure, everyone has a past, but keeping it a secret until the eleventh hour is a tad dramatic, don't you think? My advice? Open the curtains, let the truth take a bow, and then decide if the leading lady deserves a standing ovation or a polite exit. After all, a marriage built on trust and mutual understanding is far more likely to weather life's storms than one shrouded in secrecy and uncertainty. 🎭💔

You've got a witty pen.
Your style of writing is so smooth.

Myrepublic:
Even if this story is not true,but things like this happens. I can't marry such and I will not even allow my enemy marry such a girl..

Which values that kind wife get to train your kids with? Such can't respect her husband and the marriage. She will be in your home and still be striping in private appointment with men..

Oga go burn your invitation cards and delete those on your phone.. You deserve a better woman. How man go struggle make money finish, go marry someone that is comfortable in using her body to satisfy the sexual urge, of every man that says hi to her for a token?

U dey craze ,abi you high?

You said it better, plain and fact

How can you marry a posses girl

A stripper is possessed

Hmmmm!!

All those girls wey una de enjoy to see as stripers for clubs, una no no say na person go marry them last last.

But on a serious note, he should confront her to find out the reason why she was ever a stripper.

Things some of these girls do, to either put food on the table for their family or school.

We all have our past. The question is, has she truly changed? If she has and she gives you peace of mind, why not? You don't judge a book by it's cover.

You may want to talk to her about it; investigate or watch her closely before you take your final leap.

In summary:
You can't judge a book by it's cover.

Look before you leap because you can't take a pig away from the mud.

iLegendd:
The rule is:

A woman's past is the most important thing to a man.

A man's future is the most important thing to a woman.

Whoever goes against this will regret. If you marry a man with no future, you'll regret as a woman. If you marry a woman with a terrible past that you're already aware of, it will haunt you for life and you'll regret marrying her.

Wow, see wisdom ooo.

I am saving this

iLegendd:
The rule is:

A woman's past is the most important thing to a man.

A man's future is the most important thing to a woman.

Whoever goes against this will regret. If you marry a man with no future, you'll regret as a woman. If you marry a woman with a terrible past that you're already aware of, it will haunt you for life and you'll regret marrying her.

Girls with dark terrible pasts are only for pump and dump when you tired. Any man who goes against that will regret.

The guy has stockholm syndrome.
And he has scarcity mind set.

malaria:
This is one reason why you open up to your future partner about you. If he or she is matured enough tohandle it then nothing can break you people. Once you start hearing stories from outsiders, problem don start be that .Marriage is not a child's play . The groom should question the lady, every angel had a past and every devil was once an angel . No one is perfect .

This is the thing with you women.

Accountability!

See how you've just pushed the consequences of bad behavior on "maturity of the man".

Tufiakwa.

You get sense

Oil full your head

May God bless you for this wonderful advice and endow you with wisdom

JessicaRabbit:
My dear, in the grand theater of relationships, honesty is the leading lady, and it seems she's been backstage for quite a while.

"Your friend's cousin" is faced with quite the Shakespearean dilemma, a tragic tale of past indiscretions surfacing on the eve of matrimonial bliss. Now, my friend, while people can evolve and change, transparency is key. If a partner hides a history as colorful as a disco ball, it raises questions about the foundation of trust.

Sure, everyone has a past, but keeping it a secret until the eleventh hour is a tad dramatic, don't you think? My advice? Open the curtains, let the truth take a bow, and then decide if the leading lady deserves a standing ovation or a polite exit. After all, a marriage built on trust and mutual understanding is far more likely to weather life's storms than one shrouded in secrecy and uncertainty. 🎭💔

Elzazzi:
I will try and make this brief and please ignore the errors.

I was with my close friend yesterday evening. While we were chilling together, a call came in on his phone. it was his cousin that called telling what had happened and also seeking his advice. Now this is what happened, this his cousin has been dating this lady for about a year I think and he has already proposed to her and even took her to his parents and siblings. He also visited the lady family and did some introduction. Now April this year has been chosen for the wedding ceremony proper and a date has been fixed. This is where trouble started.

My friend cousin created a WhatsApp group for his wedding ceremony, he added all his friends and some of his classmates to this group so they can join hands and make his wedding day memorable. He posted his wedding IV to the group and some pictures of him and the lady, one of his old time classmate recognized her and immediately called him for a private meeting for urgent discussions.


He visited him the next day and this guy told him everything about his fiancée. How she used to be a stripper in Lagos clubs years back and how he and his friends had wild 3some with her. She used to base in Lagos as a call girl but relocated to Abuja and that’s where she met my friend cousin. After all these revelation this guy was in deep pain as he had already gone far with the weeding preparations. Of course his old time classmate advised him not to marry her, but this guy loves her so much and he is in a big dilemma of what to do next. As he thinking of leaving the country and go start life with her elsewhere.

Can such past truly be overlooked?

After my friend explained everything to me, I was just short of words but of course I advised he shouldn’t marry her. What advice would you give him in such a situation my fellow Nlanders ?

Let him confront her and get details. He should dig deep. I don't hear this kind of case from just one person. Establish the truth before taking action.

eepeepook:
1. Fake story.

As in.
Even if we assume for discussion purposes that's it's true,does it mean strippers don't marry?
What of the guy that said he slept with her in a party?What can be more bestial that a fellow man watching his fellow man digging another woman at the same time.Before you know it,they would start touching themselves.
He doesn't see anything wrong in having party with a single lady,but finds it wrong for her to do it.
Hypocrisy!

Oil full your head abeg

My guy I hail you

You too sabi

iLegendd:
The rule is:

A woman's past is the most important thing to a man.

A man's future is the most important thing to a woman.

Whoever goes against this will regret. If you marry a man with no future, you'll regret as a woman. If you marry a woman with a terrible past that you're already aware of, it will haunt you for life and you'll regret marrying her.

Elzazzi:
I will try and make this brief and please ignore the errors.

I was with my close friend yesterday evening. While we were chilling together, a call came in on his phone. it was his cousin that called telling what had happened and also seeking his advice. Now this is what happened, this his cousin has been dating this lady for about a year I think and he has already proposed to her and even took her to his parents and siblings. He also visited the lady family and did some introduction. Now April this year has been chosen for the wedding ceremony proper and a date has been fixed. This is where trouble started.

My friend cousin created a WhatsApp group for his wedding ceremony, he added all his friends and some of his classmates to this group so they can join hands and make his wedding day memorable. He posted his wedding IV to the group and some pictures of him and the lady, one of his old time classmate recognized her and immediately called him for a private meeting for urgent discussions.


He visited him the next day and this guy told him everything about his fiancée. How she used to be a stripper in Lagos clubs years back and how he and his friends had wild 3some with her. She used to base in Lagos as a call girl but relocated to Abuja and that’s where she met my friend cousin. After all these revelation this guy was in deep pain as he had already gone far with the weeding preparations. Of course his old time classmate advised him not to marry her, but this guy loves her so much and he is in a big dilemma of what to do next. As he thinking of leaving the country and go start life with her elsewhere.

Can such past truly be overlooked?

After my friend explained everything to me, I was just short of words but of course I advised he shouldn’t marry her. What advice would you give him in such a situation my fellow Nlanders ?

The problem isn't marrying a stripper or something. But don't marry someone that has been used. Probably they used her womb or they have collected her star .

Asides that, you can marry her. Everyone is a sinner and we are all hiding under grace. I see no reason not to forgive her.

But if they don use am my bro run o..

That's one thing our girls dont think of.

Elzazzi:
I will try and make this brief and please ignore the errors.

I was with my close friend yesterday evening. While we were chilling together, a call came in on his phone. it was his cousin that called telling what had happened and also seeking his advice. Now this is what happened, this his cousin has been dating this lady for about a year I think and he has already proposed to her and even took her to his parents and siblings. He also visited the lady family and did some introduction. Now April this year has been chosen for the wedding ceremony proper and a date has been fixed. This is where trouble started.

My friend cousin created a WhatsApp group for his wedding ceremony, he added all his friends and some of his classmates to this group so they can join hands and make his wedding day memorable. He posted his wedding IV to the group and some pictures of him and the lady, one of his old time classmate recognized her and immediately called him for a private meeting for urgent discussions.


He visited him the next day and this guy told him everything about his fiancée. How she used to be a stripper in Lagos clubs years back and how he and his friends had wild 3some with her. She used to base in Lagos as a call girl but relocated to Abuja and that’s where she met my friend cousin. After all these revelation this guy was in deep pain as he had already gone far with the weeding preparations. Of course his old time classmate advised him not to marry her, but this guy loves her so much and he is in a big dilemma of what to do next. As he thinking of leaving the country and go start life with her elsewhere.

Can such past truly be overlooked?

After my friend explained everything to me, I was just short of words but of course I advised he shouldn’t marry her. What advice would you give him in such a situation my fellow Nlanders ?

Let anyone says whatever they want A HOE IS ALWAYS A HOE ,I said what I said

He even plans to relocate with the threesomer to another country after marrying her and after one year, he will create a thread here crying that he was sent out of his own house. Well, simps deserve all the pain they get.

KingEarnest:
Boss at bolded, even if you are not aware, you will still regret it.
So far you did not marry her a virgin, there is already trouble.

I don't think this marriage thing is for me.

Only d wise can understand!

One word for the lover boy: YOU SHOULD NEVER MAKE A HOE A HOUSEWIFE

'Cause once a hoe; always a hoe!

She would have told him instead of allowing such past to come out to light from someone else. It means she is not honest

mrrandomguy:
1. Ìlẹ̀kẹ̀ ìdí (waist beads) at work...
I hope they have not had sex?

2. Your friend should not overlook such a past, otherwise his name is sorry. It appears to me that your friend is a responsible man, at least he doesn't appear to be a street guy from your story.

3. That lady is already damaged sexually and emotionally. If she had repented and truly healed, she would have opened up to your friend about her past.

4. Your friend can never satisfy her no matter how hard he tries. Going abroad with this type of woman is even more dangerous as she can turn around and render your friend's life miserable over there.

5. I wonder why men are willing to settle down with overused ladies when there are God fearing, beautiful and fanimorous young virgins everywhere around.

6. I will advice you to take your friend for spiritual counselling and prayers because he may be under the influence of charms and love spells. Women like this lady are not ordinary.

Any lady that will agree to a 3somé is a pórnstar already, whether she knows it or not!

Elzazzi:
I will try ?

Let him ask her. If she agrees at the first time he ask her, and she's sorry for everything. And also apologies... Let him let go

Elzazzi:
I will try and make this brief and please ignore the errors.

I was with my close friend yesterday evening. While we were chilling together, a call came in on his phone. it was his cousin that called telling what had happened and also seeking his advice. Now this is what happened, this his cousin has been dating this lady for about a year I think and he has already proposed to her and even took her to his parents and siblings. He also visited the lady family and did some introduction. Now April this year has been chosen for the wedding ceremony proper and a date has been fixed. This is where trouble started.

My friend cousin created a WhatsApp group for his wedding ceremony, he added all his friends and some of his classmates to this group so they can join hands and make his wedding day memorable. He posted his wedding IV to the group and some pictures of him and the lady, one of his old time classmate recognized her and immediately called him for a private meeting for urgent discussions.


He visited him the next day and this guy told him everything about his fiancée. How she used to be a stripper in Lagos clubs years back and how he and his friends had wild 3some with her. She used to base in Lagos as a call girl but relocated to Abuja and that’s where she met my friend cousin. After all these revelation this guy was in deep pain as he had already gone far with the weeding preparations. Of course his old time classmate advised him not to marry her, but this guy loves her so much and he is in a big dilemma of what to do next. As he thinking of leaving the country and go start life with her elsewhere.

Can such past truly be overlooked?

After my friend explained everything to me, I was just short of words but of course I advised he shouldn’t marry her. What advice would you give him in such a situation my fellow Nlanders ?

Never make a LovePeddler a house wife traveling out will even be worse.

It bad but I will advice not to listen to what people will say or said
With the fact that she did not double date or you never trace any bad movement in her... My brother do as your mind says...
Even the one you want to live her for may be worst than that.
Remember human can change
And everybody have his/her own past
This is my own thoughts on this

Elzazzi:
I will try and make this brief and please ignore the errors.

I was with my close friend yesterday evening. While we were chilling together, a call came in on his phone. it was his cousin that called telling what had happened and also seeking his advice. Now this is what happened, this his cousin has been dating this lady for about a year I think and he has already proposed to her and even took her to his parents and siblings. He also visited the lady family and did some introduction. Now April this year has been chosen for the wedding ceremony proper and a date has been fixed. This is where trouble started.

My friend cousin created a WhatsApp group for his wedding ceremony, he added all his friends and some of his classmates to this group so they can join hands and make his wedding day memorable. He posted his wedding IV to the group and some pictures of him and the lady, one of his old time classmate recognized her and immediately called him for a private meeting for urgent discussions.


He visited him the next day and this guy told him everything about his fiancée. How she used to be a stripper in Lagos clubs years back and how he and his friends had wild 3some with her. She used to base in Lagos as a call girl but relocated to Abuja and that’s where she met my friend cousin. After all these revelation this guy was in deep pain as he had already gone far with the weeding preparations. Of course his old time classmate advised him not to marry her, but this guy loves her so much and he is in a big dilemma of what to do next. As he thinking of leaving the country and go start life with her elsewhere.

Can such past truly be overlooked?

After my friend explained everything to me, I was just short of words but of course I advised he shouldn’t marry her. What advice would you give him in such a situation my fellow Nlanders ?

When you tell some girls to try as much as possible to have atleast a decent past they

Will be like my body is my body,do what makes you happy

Well here we are now

That guy should never proceed with that marriage if he tries it he will regret it for the rest of his life

If she was the one that told me herself, i would have looked at other factors and maybe try to rationalize but she didnt tell me somebody else did, i will just confirm from her and dump her.

To avoid stories that touch
i. The lady should repent & embark on 21 days fasting & prayers

ii. The wedding should be postponed not cancelled

iii. The guy should ask the lady if what he was told is true & if so he should observe her for a period of 6 months

iv. The lady should attend church activities regularly for a change to become obvious

V. Lastly, if they truly love themselves, a new date should be fixed because Love conquers all even Jesus Christ will forgive her if she promise to sin no more.

You can forgive but not forget and since you can’t forget then your never forgave..So don’t go into something tomorrow you say “that’s how you used to do” because Na die go remain.

But he should have known what he was getting into.

Hypocrates of highest order. You enjoy to watch strippers at clubs but dnt want to marry them. Who do you want to marry them. If you wont marry strippers, dnt go to clubs.

A lady's past can never ever ever ever ever ever be overlooked especially in this our African Culture... Never

JessicaRabbit:
My dear, in the grand theater of relationships, honesty is the leading lady, and it seems she's been backstage for quite a while.

"Your friend's cousin" is faced with quite the Shakespearean dilemma, a tragic tale of past indiscretions surfacing on the eve of matrimonial bliss. Now, my friend, while people can evolve and change, transparency is key. If a partner hides a history as colorful as a disco ball, it raises questions about the foundation of trust.

Sure, everyone has a past, but keeping it a secret until the eleventh hour is a tad dramatic, don't you think? My advice? Open the curtains, let the truth take a bow, and then decide if the leading lady deserves a standing ovation or a polite exit. After all, a marriage built on trust and mutual understanding is far more likely to weather life's storms than one shrouded in secrecy and uncertainty. 🎭💔

100%. Honesty is key. I don't know what a person expects to happen by deliberately omitting something serious from their past. There's a caveat to this too, some people just can't handle the truth.

Sure, such past can be overlooked if she is changed but mehn, to be a stripper and do 3some, that's some hard core shit for a lady.
What are the qualities that made your cousin fall in love and want to marry this lady?
Are you sure he is not been played or manipulated into marriage by a desperate/ gold digging...... .
How true is the story of her being a stripper?
He should get these answers and decide for himself.