cole265:


When he is high on alcohol. ...then he is not in his right mind.

the import of which is "when I'm high on alcohol, I will not cherish, love or respect you".

edozie04:
Dy dere dy write letter while another guy is shining her congo

Naija girlz wey believ in cat killin more dan any oda tin? Abegi...dem dey luk 4 pesin wey go brush dia monika well.. Personal opinion though!

Now I'm confused here o,lool! Desperado ke?

Toks2008:


I really need a desperado because im fed up with this wooing stufff.

A time will come when a man does not even need a date but a wife.

eleojo23:
Some guy on this thread thinks it's unlike a 'black man' to write something like this. He thinks it shows weakness. Well, that's his philosophy and a warped one at that. I intentionally wrote this to 'upset' people like him. A real man is not afraid of showing and expressing his feelings.

Someone ( Yangki Christine) wrote this somewhere and I wish to repeat them here. Every person is born with qualities of the opposite energy (masculine AND feminine) within him or her— and not simply in the biological sense, but also in the psychosexual sense of attitudes, feelings, dreams and desires.
Men because of their biological make up express more of the masculine energy and women because of their biological make up express more of their feminine energies.

If a man or woman is well adjusted and harmoniously balanced, the feminine traits and the masculine traits are both expressed. To say one is a “real” man or woman would be to say one is a “real” human being with a good balance of both masculine and feminine energies.

When a man has his masculine energy well developed he can afford to express his feminine energy without fear, timidity or feeling a threat to his masculinity — which is already strong and developed.

When a man’s masculinity is not well developed and strong, he’ll tend to suppress his feminine side (i.e. being sensitive, nurturing etc) because he is already insecure about his masculinity. He’ll tend to express a more “macho” image to try to cover up his insecurity about his masculinity.

I disagree with you, having a little mix of feminine attribute is better than 50:50. There are little benefits attatched to feminine attributes, in fact, like Jesus said, it is better to have children's attribute. Being emotional only makes you less logical.
Pastors nowadays try to preach emotionally, but Jesus said women of Samaria shouldn't cry over him. We saw Elijah, Elisha, they were manly and not emotional, they only show this when its needed or symbolic e.g. When Jesus wept. Being emotional has to do a lot with weakness, which I think isn't desireable.

SirShymex:


Have a nice life, kid.

Come back when you grow old.

You talk too much for a guy... Are you sure you are not gradually transcending into one of those spornosexuals... That is if you haven't gone pass it and ultimately grading into a full time gay...? Rid your moniker of the prefix "Sir" till you rediscover your masculinity...

nice letter. Bravo.

I wish to comment on this firstly d letter is an eye opener 4all lads n men alike & equally a wrong sight 4 perv*guys with perv gf's..

Abeg !
Who read d epistle finish?
I no fit.
Am sure ur future wife isn't reading it too.
Do sumfin constructive with ya time nd stop penning tinz dat make women disregard men

eleojo23:


I've lived my life alone all this time but now I feel the need to find you, the person who will finally make my life complete. I'm a man with flaws, yes I'm not perfect and I know you are not perfect also and I don't expect you to be.

There.

You want to be complete, first.

A woman coming into your life eventually: spice.

I would suggest, instead of being alone, as you said, you start living your life now.

edozie04:
Dy dere dy write letter while another guy is shining her congo

True talk. I just wonder if there r still good girls worth marrying out there.

edozie04:
Dy dere dy write letter while another guy is shining her congo

hahahahahhah.....i don die!

My neighbours here in australia heard me laugh hard

eleojo23:
^^Future is an illusion? While you live in today, can't you also stop to think about tomorrow? Methinks many (i can't say all) marriages fail because guys/girls were busy having fun, never thinking of the future and creating problems they never knew would come up later in their marriages.

Does the write-up suggest a rigid thought process to you? Methinks it's a rigid thought process for you to think that guys who stop to think about their future marriages have a rigid thought process.

I think you miss his point.

You currently think your future wife is some kind of unicorn. She isn't.

And since you've placed this phantasm on a pedestal, you'll tend to ascribe qualities and attributes she certainly won't possess to her.

DailyNews:
Lol, the only things I am very certain men dream about is: fancy cars to drive, beautiful mansion to build, and businesses to own not how their future wife will be. The last thing on a man's dream is how his future wife will be; only jobless, broke and lonely guys think about a woman they haven't met! Men even fantasize more about dating super-gorgeous ladies more than they think about marriage or wife.

Like SirShymex rightfully said, women are more inclined to romantic and unrealistic life fantasies than men; men live by reality while women live by emotional fantasies and daydream...

I repeat: the only thing all men fantasize is fancy cars and money, nothing else. Any guy telling u otherwise is a liar or he's broke and unemployed and also lonely!!

No guy that's getting enough money and female attention will have time to start daydreaming about how his future wife will be...he can only come across ladies he admire and feel like taking them home, ladies stop being deceived by imaginary write-ups and go face reality.

And which girl self are u dreaming about- the girlfriend to one bad guy or the ex to one club addict Guy pls wake up from that daydream and go out there and hustle for a better future first!!!

No be only future wife, na future concubines

Meanwhile, some of the females hailing your daydreaming write-up are typing from their boyfriend's bed o...some are even with their 5th, 10th boyfriends and hailing u the real man, kai...women wicked

jesus jesus jesus jesus!

Haaaaaaaaa........ohhhhh Lawd!


I don die!.....guy u don talk am finish. Girls wicked no be small....they might even be given their man bilown job at the same time typing and hailing op.

I dey fear ooooooooooooo

Whao.....I love dis,it inspiring...nd wish u all the best,u cn aswell put that in prayer for God's direaction so incase u see her u'll be able to recognise her..gudluck![/color][color=#990000][/color][color=#990000]

Nigga, pls chase money instead, wife dis days aint shit.

DailyNews:
Lol, the only things I am very certain men dream about is: fancy cars to drive, beautiful mansion to build, and businesses to own not how their future wife will be. The last thing on a man's dream is how his future wife will be; only jobless, broke and lonely guys think about a woman they haven't met! Men even fantasize more about dating super-gorgeous ladies more than they think about marriage or wife.

Like SirShymex rightfully said, women are more inclined to romantic and unrealistic life fantasies than men; men live by reality while women live by emotional fantasies and daydream...

I repeat: the only thing all men fantasize is fancy cars and money, nothing else. Any guy telling u otherwise is a liar or he's broke and unemployed and also lonely!!

No guy that's getting enough money and female attention will have time to start daydreaming about how his future wife will be...he can only come across ladies he admire and feel like taking them home, ladies stop being deceived by imaginary write-ups and go face reality.

And which girl self are u dreaming about- the girlfriend to one bad guy or the ex to one club addict Guy pls wake up from that daydream and go out there and hustle for a better future first!!!

No be only future wife, na future concubines

Meanwhile, some of the females hailing your daydreaming write-up are typing from their boyfriend's bed o...some are even with their 5th, 10th boyfriends and hailing u the real man, kai...women wicked

On point!

Sophyrocks:
Nice words for your future wife Op. Do not mind the myopic people here making jest of the write up. What do you expect from little boys with empty brains? A lot of them were not properly trained to treat women with respect. Their comments tells you a lot of how horrible their marriages would be. A lot of these boys are attracted to vain women no matter how they condemn them and beat chest for us here. At least, the write up shows a man ready to handle the responsibilities of a real man. Real men that all these small small 'boys' should learn a thing or two from. Only Small 'boys' that size up their Ego by their Diks will mock your write up. Immaturity isnt about age. Real men will end up with women who deserve them.

You're a fool because I'll not only mock his write up, I'll go further to call the OP a hopeless dreamer. This's the kind of the dream teenage boys used to dream until reality smacks them hard on the face.

OP, my little advice to you is never create imaginations before meeting an object of interest. It leaves ample room for suicidal disappointments when you do. Instead your imaginations should come after proper assessment of the said object. Our world is not a world of fantasy!!!

I met a guy who was so happy to be getting married in three weeks time. We had a couple of drinks and he just kept talking about his wife. While we were drinking, we awaited his wife to be. 4 hrs later, she arrived with her friends, and to my dear surprise, I saw the pretty lady who happened not to remember my face.

Now, tell me. If you were in my shoes, what would you do? I come from a historian background, and all we do is take the past as a ghost and live through with the present. His wife to be happened to be a one time serial killer in her school days. I know she murdered about 21 students back then, and trust me, she does them with her heart not even close to her. This guy was so happy, and so relaxed, and all I could do was accept her past as a ghost. Would you have told him who his wife to be was?

My dear, pray for your future wife. And if you are the type who lingers in the past like some men, you would be tortured for the rest of your life. Live for the present and accept what comes your way.

Some people are best at contributing productively to other things in life but when it comes to stuffs like this,they are emotional wrecks. Their minds are wraped in unreedemable havoc of a single story. To them,women are objects, a man who shows sensitivity is not a black man. Well,to them I say this; This is not a thread for you,go somewhere else and put yourselves to good use. To ladies,spend more time in developing yourselves so that if the need be,you'll be seen more as a partner/helper and not as a pest/money milking machine. To Op,don't be deterred by some comments here,nature must be balanced. I wish you what you wish yourself. Have a lovely sunday people.

hope d lady get to read d letter ASAP.... abi

dadaic:
I met a guy who was so happy to be getting married in three weeks time. We had a couple of drinks and he just kept talking about his wife. While we were drinking, we awaited his wife to be. 4 hrs later, she arrived with her friends, and to my dear surprise, I saw the pretty lady who happened not to remember my face.

Now, tell me. If you were in my shoes, what would you do? I come from a historian background, and all we do is take the past as a ghost and live through with the present. His wife to be happened to be a one time serial killer in her school days. I know she murdered about 21 students back then, and trust me, she does them with her heart not even close to her. This guy was so happy, and so relaxed, and all I could do was accept her past as a ghost. Would you have told him who his wife to be was?

My dear, pray for your future wife. And if you are the type who lingers in the past like some men, you would be tortured for the rest of your life. Live for the present and accept what comes your way.

. Did you school in Nigeria or France?

All this old men shouting "weakness ""black man" and shii, abeg tell me what your "blackity" has achieved.... black men and black brain.



OP I feel you man.

YourCoffin:


I am a fool.

Fixed.

Lol

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Some people are just plain stupid, annoying and pathetic

So, because your girlfriend goes around town, giving bredrins head and allowing every Efe, Kamar and Dozie 'shine her congo', all ladies are sexually promiscuous?

Katikati

mind your language

coolmoon500:
Omg, I made a similar post almost a year ago because I knew it would be perfect when we finally meet.

I love your creativity, I write, so I always appreciate a well written piece.

Why do I feel u re reading a letter from ur hubby to you. This might be a divine arrangement.

@mr.eleojo ...nice composition....i pray u meet ur dream wife in a good country ,where tins work,not in antithesis nation like ours. Whrere reversal of ur wishful thinking is d case...hmmmm

Lol... I had 2 google dis out cos a friend of mine (guy) updated it as his status on fb and tagged all d babes he wanna shag... Hmmm... I don knw say d guy no get d sense 2 write am... Sharp Guy

Some people are just plain stupid, annoying and pathetic

So, because your girlfriend goes around town, giving bredrins head and allowing every Efe, Kamar and Dozie 'shine her congo', all ladies are sexually promiscuous?

Katikati

lol

DailyNews:
Meanwhile, some of the females hailing your daydreaming write-up are typing from their boyfriend's bed o...some are even with their 5th, 10th boyfriends and hailing u the real man, kai...women wicked

The above got me laughing. Peradventure!

DailyNews:
Lol, the only things I am very certain men dream about is: fancy cars to drive, beautiful mansion to build, and businesses to own not how their future wife will be. The last thing on a man's dream is how his future wife will be; only jobless, broke and lonely guys think about a woman they haven't met! Men even fantasize more about dating super-gorgeous ladies more than they think about marriage or wife.

Like SirShymex rightfully said, women are more inclined to romantic and unrealistic life fantasies than men; men live by reality while women live by emotional fantasies and daydream...

I repeat: the only thing all men fantasize is fancy cars and money, nothing else. Any guy telling u otherwise is a liar or he's broke and unemployed and also lonely!!

No guy that's getting enough money and female attention will have time to start daydreaming about how his future wife will be...he can only come across ladies he admire and feel like taking them home, ladies stop being deceived by imaginary write-ups and go face reality.

And which girl self are u dreaming about- the girlfriend to one bad guy or the ex to one club addict Guy pls wake up from that daydream and go out there and hustle for a better future first!!!

No be only future wife, na future concubines

Meanwhile, some of the females hailing your daydreaming write-up are typing from their boyfriend's bed o...some are even with their 5th, 10th boyfriends and hailing u the real man, kai...women wicked

Gbam!

udysweet:
Now I'm confused here o,lool! Desperado ke?

You may not understand.

You know, at certain age for a man,you dont want to go through the stress of wooing,following up,dating and stuffs like that.

What on earth will a 40year old man be looking for if not a wife and please tell me,how many years courtship does he need. So a lady who is interested in setting down is tagged desperado but not necessarily a frustrated lady.

At a stage in a man or woman's life we need to be desperate for matrimony.


Thats just the way nature has designed it.