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Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Urine: 11:40am On Dec 06, 2014 |
slimmy05: God bless you Sir. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 11:40am On Dec 06, 2014 |
madridfc:sure... But it depends. Lol @ agemates... No b lie sah. Me no fit date my age mate o. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by CrownV12(m): 11:42am On Dec 06, 2014 |
My close friend used this trick and she got engaged in 4 months or thereabouts... She apoke to her mother who inturn spoke to her father who called on the man personally to have a heart to heart talk with him on the "plans" he had for his daughter. He saw the seriousness on the bride's family side and landed her a pretty huge rock. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by ify84(m): 11:45am On Dec 06, 2014 |
FavourGee: LEAVE HIM... among d other five... Pick one and start loving..... Love who u marry, it is not always love who to marry.... 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 11:45am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Lovethlovesmike:whats your definition of commitment ? have the other guys shown commitment or would you say they are committed because they are promising marriages . we have seen cases of our nice dudes turn to beast the next minute they get married , if you know your boyfriend loves you with his heart , if he is worth it , you should talk to him and dont like men you barely know kill the vibe in ur relationship. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Flyingngel(m): 11:47am On Dec 06, 2014 |
I am in a similar situation, my girl friend and I dated way back in the university . Am a graduate and also working with the state government but the money I have is very very small and my lady is pressurising me and sometimes accuse me of not putting her in my plan. Sometimes I get confused. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 11:49am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Babymama1:so she gets married to a suitor after 2 months of dating and then the guy turns out to be something else and what will you advice her to do then ... endure I guess , this is where the problem starts. the op sounds like a desperate lady , giving the young man ultimatum . no dude like that . she is the only one who has known her reasons . |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by NkanuBoy: 11:49am On Dec 06, 2014 |
FavourGee:That is the real problem. Sometimes, some girls use this tactics to push their guys into marriage unprepared. Having said that, I want to believe that u are just one of the girls among which ur guy will choose from wen he is ready to settle down or probably has no plan to settle with u. If he has, he would have been talking about how to identify with ur family officially. My sincere advibe: If u're ready for marriage, open ur heart & accommodate those suitors. Then, ask God to direct ur step. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Mintayo(m): 11:50am On Dec 06, 2014 |
alutacontinua:my thought exactly. My issue with the OP is whether she is just dating the guy or they are engaged to be married. if a guy is not ready like u said, he will give her enough reason to Stay. Except they are just dating. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by chucky234(m): 11:51am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Lovethlovesmike:Seriously suitors on fb ? 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 11:55am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Babymama1:oh , thank goodness your own story is great , you were lucky to meet this loveable man , you cant tell what kind of relationship he was coming from . bottom line : dont conclude because it went well for you , it may not go well for others . there are ladies crying hell because they made the kind of choices you made . I have a brother who still sleeps with his married exes , I know them . they were faced with the same situation the op is and got married to the so called suitors , but what is happening today . The OP knows his dude and the kind of person he is , dont give advices if you have not heard the part of the dude . 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by tartar9(m): 12:00pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
ma daughter,you have came to the right place;just take Flage-E tablets two in the morning after breakfast and two in the evening after supper.dont take it with water or any liquid o,or you shall run mad!continue for the next 10 years and you shall get what you seek. call me mporku! Yes the eyes of the oracle that sees what no mortal can see. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Ugom87(f): 12:01pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Lovethlovesmike: sis I was in ur shoe,mine was that he is older than me wt 3yrs,when I was doing my Msc he was in his final yr planning for his NYSC,he loves me somuch I love him too,suitors were coming bt I refused,until his parents made it known to me point blank that there son isn't ready for marriage yet cos his elder sis is in her early 30s yet unmarried,I took to my heels now married wit a kid,he did his POP last oct.he went about telling ppl that I left him cos he doesn't have money 4 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by vision2050: 12:03pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
coogar:you get protein inside your brain. @25 men are still struggling unless you come from rich family. some times self you see 30 years old man still living under his. parent. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 12:07pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Lovethlovesmike:oh sorry , you are delusioned ,it will be best for that dude if you leave him ... if you can compare someone who loves you to a snail on a public forum and you think you really lov him . you are living in infactuations. one reason it isnt adviceable to listen to just anybody on here. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 12:09pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Lovethlovesmike:my sister , wake up to reality marriages fail OK. infact they are begining to fail more than relationships. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Jamean(f): 12:10pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Ma'am..I'll ask you to pray and seek God's counsel as regards this. Prov 19:21. It takes more than love and what is obtainable physically to choose a partner and for marriage to work. 1 sam 16:7 Inquire from God, his will for a husband. You can trust he gives the best that will make rich and add no sorrow. Whosoever among them your husband is; you'll find true peace and happiness being with that person. @ We are both working so I don't ask him for financial assistance; I envisage Miss Independent. No matter what you earn, a man is should still cater for you to an extent. He's the head, let him assume that role in all ramifications, coupled with your support. FavourGee: |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 12:10pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
FavourGee:if this is the case , you can move on . |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by lifeisshort1: 12:14pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Flyingngel:[color=#990000][/color Guy no be only u o, me self dey d same situation, I work with the state government nd the pay is barely enouf for me self, ma babe don they talk marriage and says her pastor wants to see me. I don make up ma mind sha , I no dey see any pastor. ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by MAURI: 12:16pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
another time-waster is that his older sister is a pretty 33 year old single. I have no issues with her at all. Now my bf said he won't get married before his sister marries to save her face from shame. Some men self (or should I say boys), does he realise you are someone else’s sister too? When some people are not ready or willing to do some things they will always find something to justify their position. If it wasn’t his sis, it would be his niece. What biz of yours is that? If he loves you and he is committed to committing himself to your relationship / you for a longer time, he should not connect you happiness and desire to whatever his sister does or does not do. What if the sister is not the marriage type? Or she will not be ready for it in the next 10 years? And there is the aspect of biological clock to consider here too. hmmm.. Abeg, make him take time o. lol. But seriously..that is some crappy reasoning (excuse my being blunt) 3 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Jamean(f): 12:16pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
You couldn't have said it any better. At 22, I won't start dating a guy of even 23 even if he has a prospective means of living, when I know my time view for marriage. Waiting and long relationships doesn't work for everyone, know what works you. I don't wish for someone to marry me out of pity. coogar: 2 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Tamaris1: 12:16pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
By refusing to commit he is indirectly telling you that he is not going to marry you. You don't collect money from him, and you guys have probably being sleeping. He sees you on the cheap! He sincerely feels he has nothing to lose! I'm just being honest with you. This is your time; so make hay while the sun shines. He has proposed or even told you to wait for him, that would have been a different ball game. I'm a guy, and so I know what I'm talking about! His silence on the matter is a warning sign for you to move on with your life. To be foretold is to be forewarned!!. 5 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Jamean(f): 12:20pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
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Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 12:20pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
madridfc:this is just the Nigerian thing ," dont date your age mate " age is not a function of success please . dont date someone who is not upto task . 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Truckpusher(m): 12:20pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Some men are just constantly falling our hands anyhow. How would one even go after a girl for marriage that is in love with another guy? Some boys are just making these girls to feel important. ![]() |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by sage2(m): 12:23pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
FavourGee: Change that your "kpalasa" phone and wait for three days and see if he proposes to you. If it doesn't happen, give him another two days seven hours and 3 minutes, 12 seconds. You may want to wear only color purple during this period. If he still fail to do the needful, pm me asap for the next line of action. This piece of advice has worked for girls in the Bahamas, Cayman Island, and a whooping 41 states in the USA. It is still being tested in 6 other states. It failed to work in South Carolina and New Jersey. It is banned in the whole of China and some parts of Japan. It is awaiting regulatory approval in the UK. 2 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by IKJ66(m): 12:25pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
STORY FOR THEGODS !!!!! |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 12:27pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
amunkita: Hmm,this your story ehh |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 12:29pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
AreaFada2:I wonder oo my brother . the problem is with these ladies , you see them in a committed relationship yet they still give out their contacts , not all men are the type that welcome such , it gives me a doubt you are not even a serious person in the first instance so how would you expect me to be committed. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 12:34pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
FavourGee:...if you love this your guy,why not discuss your feelings and future with him?if you don't love him,you can keep assuming.ask him the most important questions about his intention on marriage towards you.should his response be negative,do give him sometimes to think through your mind.should he still have his no marriage plan thing,pls adjust to the new world order.all the best... |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Amhappy(f): 12:38pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Interesting thread. Singles have a lot to learn here. For those asking how a lady can have five suitors without dating/bedding them. Where i come from once you clock 24/ or get to final yr/nysc most aunties/mummies will be on the look out for u. So you can meet a man for the first time in your father's house and he is a direct suitor. He is not interested in dating,just say yes,bride price will be paid in 1-3months and wed in 6. Some even do everything in 2weeks esp the abroad guys. This happen a lot during festive season. However you cant trust them,the man may be a criminal but you will not know. So OP if you have concluded on leaving your bf,then choose a suitor in wisdom and prayers. But take time to study him too(3months at least). Goodluck. 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Jamean(f): 12:38pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Well said but you're totally hillarious. Reminds me of what our teachers told us in high school that our spouse were already in Uni (not for everyone though). Babymama1: 1 Like 1 Share |
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