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Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by kika23(f): 12:42pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Truckpusher: You ehn.... |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 12:43pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Jamean:but if he is 23 and his father is dangote , you will date him , just as many in their late 20s are ready to date davido . fight to be the successful person before you choose your suitor , it will do you good . some dudes marry as early as 22. its about the parties involved . 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Truckpusher(m): 12:53pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
kika23:what I do? |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by kika23(f): 12:55pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Truckpusher:You know na..... |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Truckpusher(m): 1:01pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
kika23:I'm innocent of all accusations. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Jamean(f): 1:05pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
C'mon, show me a dude here in modern Nigeria that is not from the north that married at 22. Talking about his father's wealth sounds like marrying for money. Well, it may interest you that I'm a proponent of 'marry around your level' though with future prospects to avoid intimidation, and a reasonable age gap. Those chicks will date Davido because them no see where fall put. Within them they know it's fantasy..the relationship or marriage won't work. I want an affair that will work. majekdom2: |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by ogawisdom(m): 1:05pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Op u r at ur peak of time with 5 suitors on d line. It ll nt b lik this in d next two yrs, make d best use of it. Ur bf is nt ready let him b he ll easily find a wife wen he is ready. Wish him well n try to find love with one of ur five suitors. Many women misused this kinda stage in their lives n remained single forever with bitter regrets so shine ur eyes. 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by sage2(m): 1:05pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
aisha2: @OP, ignore every advice from me and listen to this elder state woman. She is got so much tales from the trenches and she is not afraid to share them in order to help others take a safe route. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by profmathsland(m): 1:06pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
If you are a true child of God,wait on the Lord for a deeper revelation concerning him. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Homguy(m): 1:10pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
FavourGee:I respect you just for the last part of your post. Their are very few ladies in Nigeria that would break up with their current boy friends before dating another. Rather, they'd double date both trying to eat their cakes and have it. 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 1:10pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Jamean:yea people do dear , the trade and technical people , seen them all around . I know perhaps you are still a student , you will want to end up with a graduate hence the reason for you saying 23 . the truth is there are nice guys who are very young and successful , ready to be serious with a lady but a reason many will give is he got no degree bla bla . so you see , you are only looking at your own prerequisites to draw conclusions. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by kika23(f): 1:12pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Truckpusher: Sure? |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by ogaprime(m): 1:15pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
FavourGee: At the "initial gragra period" what was the agreement between you and your boyfriend where the relationship should head to?? |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by gabbytabby: 1:23pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
In your late twenties and you are committed to a guy who is neither ready nor committed to you. Do not waste your time but find someone of your suitors who you can love and respect and is also at the same point as you are. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Jamean(f): 1:23pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
I graduated a couple of years ago from one of the most prestigous federal universities in Nigeria (with a good degree and grade too ). No matter how fantasic a man is, you must have a degree for me to marry you, I don't want all that inferiority complex issue. I know a number of people who don't mind (despite the disconnection in their marriage), but it's a big turn off for me. majekdom2: |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by ogaprime(m): 1:23pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Jennimma: Some questions for you miss....(Commitment) **Please describe the word "commitment" in relation to "love relationship" **what and what should a guy do before we can say he is committed?? |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by PeoplesArmy: 1:31pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
My advise is for you to have a frank and open discussion with him about each others plans for next few years. I had such a conversation a few years ago with an only gf who had suitors coming her way....I wasn't ready for marriage, didn't know when I would be and couldn't guarantee it would be her when I become ready. She left for one of the suitors and from what I hear they are happy....and so am I having found and marriednsomebody I was sure from day one that this is the one. 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 1:33pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Babymama1 and Aish2, thank you for sharing. Thank you once again. If only people go beyond the will to step up. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 1:34pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Jamean:like I said , thats your own requirements . its all about what makes one happy .our thinking is a reason for our present state ... and so can I ask you ,lets assume you are single as I dont know if you are married .... what happens if overtime , no degree holder wishes to marry you and you have well to do trades/technical man asking you out. inferiority complex is not as a result of one's exposure , educational qualification or back ground mosttimes . it is as a result of one's thinking and perspective about life. you may marry a degree holder and yet he may still feel inferior, or you think this isnt possible? |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Vesuvius(m): 1:35pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Babymama1:Hmmmm........this ur advice sha. Truth be told, men know what they want and are easy to make up their mind but you saying that 3 months is very much enough to come to a conclusion is somewhat an overkill. I know it's wrong to string a good sister along but has it ever occurred to you that some good guys can also be very picky when it comes to picking a partner? You make it seem like it's only women that have all the rights or get played. My dear some guys also have tales. E be like say your guy is a yes man (no offence). That your husband married you not minding that you are a bad cook is not a guarantee that it will work for others. If anything, the real worthy guys make sure the package's exterior is in tandem with the content before they say I do. I grade guys who see a lady immediately and start talking about marriage as foolish and tasteless. What happened to taking time to know someone better. What if the babe is pretending like most women do when they sense you are coming for marriage? A MAN HAS EQUAL RIGHTS TO ENTERTAIN DOUBTS UNLESS HE IS OPEN TO DIVORCE IN THE FUTURE!. On the other hand, I believe 6 months to 12 months is enough for any serious dude to really make his decision. Some of the advices being bandied about here are clearly from newlyweds. When your marriage has crossed at least 5 years and above, your advice may start being an authority, as for now lets take them as they come and move on. Many of you women don't know how hard it is for a man to plan and execute a wedding amidst it's attendant challenges. BTW: I feel like you call the shots in the marriage, hope am wrong? 3 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 1:36pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
FavourGee: favour if that is wat he thinks.....plzzzZzzzzzzz i beg u leave im immediately......yo nt getn younger.....if he tinks like dat definitely his wasting ur tym nd e mite end up nt marrying u......abi if business no yield positive quit am sharp sharp |
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Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 1:40pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
coogar: yo making real SENSE.......bt atleast a #1500....ring should do d deal evn if e will still replace it with anoda.........jst to make her rest assured.....OR WAT DO TINK. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Jamean(f): 1:40pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
hahahaha. Impossican't! Somethings are better discussed in person. To a large extent, there is no stereotype with these things. The bottom-line is "know what works for youDon't worry, before you're caught in a web. majekdom2: |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by 1one: 1:41pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
You ladies can be funny... and by funny, that's just putting it mildly. You make this whole relationship thing seem so mechanical... It's like a business plan that if one fails you can easily develop another business plan or while you're working on one business plan, you have your eyes and ears open for another business plan. It makes one think that a relationship to you ladies is just another desired feather to your cap... Maybe I don't just understand the psyche of a female... If it's so easy to consider 5 propositions from 5 suitors, then Where's the room for love.. For growth, for understanding, for romance, for purpose... How can you be with one guy for 3years or more and suddenly you're accepting to consider marrying in less than 6months someone you've not shared life, love, time, pain, peace, happiness, hurt etc with. Ladies are just funny! Shout out to all d ladies who left their boyfriends cos d new guy promised to marry them in 2014.... you have 3 Saturdays left oo- AgapeCharis 4 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by otswag(m): 1:45pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
FavourGee:well, only u can know whats best for u cos Ur d one in d situation so take a step back, Think it thru long and hard and be ready to accept whatever conséquence of whatever choice u make. Do not get yourself confused with the multitude of advises Ur being given here. The way i see it, There are no right or wrong options here. Every choice u make Is a gamble. Just be brave enough to make a choice and then Hope n pray for d best. 1 Like |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 1:45pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Vesuvius:oh , thank you . this is a public forum where people will like to sweeteen their present experiences over the bad ones they had just to make themselves feel good.if you are a good psychologist , you will understand they wish they got married to one of their exes , because I dont see reasons why I would badmouth my past to praise the present if the present is really what I want , but as humans, since I cannot be with the past and am hurt, I have to say bad about it at all times.it will be wise for the op to follow her instincts so she would not blame anyone for her future woes. no advice is even an authority in this situation as people are different . what this lady can take from her hubby , the op may not be willing to take . |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 1:51pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
Jamean:you didnt answer the other part of my question , do you think a degree holder cant feel inferior too ? you may be earning more than him , I know you may so no to this , he may loose his job , he may get duped in his business , things can turn the other way . do you think he wont feel inferior in these situations. |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by fujirice: 1:51pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
coogar:This, my people, is the n*ked truth! |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by compujyde: 1:59pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
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Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Flyingngel(m): 2:04pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
lifeisshort1: Hahaha my brother Nigeria Economy is not favourable to graduate except u r into politics or secret society.But i strongly believe in the Almighty God and that when it is ur time;it is ur time no power can stop it. 2 Likes |
Re: I Have Five Suitors And I Let My Boyfriend Know by Nobody: 2:06pm On Dec 06, 2014 |
compujyde:wow , nice , very matured, filled with wisdom . I love this " boys marry beauty, men marry virtues" . so what do girls and women marry ...Please I need to visit you in your shell . |
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