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Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by faceless04: 8:19am On Feb 03, 2015
canalily:
...so serious relationships can trive years without any plans for marriageundecided undecidedangry


I'm a living witness
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by popson1st: 8:20am On Feb 03, 2015
Report him at the nearest police station and write a statement. Involve your family and his.

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Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by sniper77(m): 8:22am On Feb 03, 2015
Op you are the only individual that can take a decision on what you want in life. Advise on naira land can't help you.If you decide to get out of the emotional slavery you have been entangled in and plan to settle down with another man its your choice.If you are scared he will try to kill the new man that will come to your life get the authorities involved or you can get a contract on him that is if you can pay my fee.Its just a single bullet to his head and the situation is resolved.
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by legendromex: 8:23am On Feb 03, 2015
[color=#770077][/color]My dear I must say that it had not been an easy experence with you but all the same I pray that God will open your eyes to see that what you are into is not love but lust. PLease. Report this issue to any nearest police station and also to his medical director in the office. This is a serious issue so you should not take it for granted cus it involves your life and your future. BE WISE

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Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by faceless04: 8:24am On Feb 03, 2015
egbaguy:
@op......do u av a mother? I think she isnt doing a good job as a mother!!!!



I'll pretend I didn't see this

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Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Nobody: 8:24am On Feb 03, 2015
egbaguy:
@op......do u av a mother? I think she isnt doing a good job as a mother!!!!
exactly wat i just said now cos i see no reason why a mother will watch her precious daughter waste away her youthful life on a man, 10yrs wit a husband can produce a child of 8yrs,can u imagine dat...tnk goodness shes nt my sis,if nt...na only my bros sef go show d guy weeennn

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Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by tuyi19: 8:25am On Feb 03, 2015
faceless04:



He is not abusive in any way. Infact he has been very nice to me, listens to me, he has always been there for me, gives me whatever I want. He Is 100% mentally stable. He is a medical doctor.

according to your statement, not that he does not want to marry you, but he just want you to start living with him and be making babies without the normal process, i want you to ask him why? then have you seen his parents and family members for the 10 years period you have been with him? if not that mean you did not use your head very well, try and know his people then some truth may unveil as reason why he does not want to marry.

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Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Benoxvals(m): 8:27am On Feb 03, 2015
I honestly don't think something is wrong with his decision.You guys are happy and if recieving the sacrament of matrimony is the reason why you want to break up what you have build for 10years then go ahead..he even agree that he carry his babies..
My advice..talk with him and see his reasons for wanting to take that path but as for me,nothing has gone wrong yet.

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Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Nobody: 8:27am On Feb 03, 2015
faceless04:




I'll pretend I didn't see this
u better see it ooo
inshort dat spell wey dat guy cast on u will soon dsappear frm u now...snc no one is tellin u,we are tellin u cos we love u.

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Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Wendy80(f): 8:27am On Feb 03, 2015
I hate to see women in ds kind of relationship. What d hell? 10years? My God. Its either he has a family somewhere or u are just a side chick.
My dear, u need ur head not ur emotions if u must tackle ds issue.
Run for Ur life and if he threatens get Ur family n the law involved.
What rubbish.

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Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by lonelydora: 8:29am On Feb 03, 2015
had it been you were my sister, Iwould have disowned you a long time ago.

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Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Nobody: 8:29am On Feb 03, 2015
Benoxvals:
I honestly don't think something is wrong with his decision.You guys are happy and if recieving the sacrament of matrimony is the reason why you want to break up what you have build for 10years then go ahead..he even agree that he carry his babies..
My advice..talk with him and see his reasons for wanting to take that path but as for me,nothing has gone wrong yet.
Birds of same feather....guy,wil u allow ur sis to stay wit a man for 10yrs & stil tell her to give him babies out of wedlock...u guys dnt seem to surprise me.

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Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by faceless04: 8:31am On Feb 03, 2015
Midehi:
op do u av a mother, if u av,why did she nt check if u are cursed....na waooo 10yrs...u are jus wastin ur time wit him, if u agree on stayin & avin children for him witout any marriage rite,u ar makin d biggest mstake cos u are nt d wife bt baby mama..
better leave him now b4 u will look old in d eyes of men & rgret later or endin up wit an old widower...
d problm here is dat u guys av bn livin 2geda dats why he dint rgard any formal sriousnes on u...if u wer nt stayin 2geda,by now una for don marry..
my advice: tell both familes wats happenin cos dey wil be worried too why u guys are like dat,tell dem u are quitin cos he's nt srious,tell dem all his threat cos he mite carry dem out...and finally,run as fast as ur leg can carry u,if nt na sorry be ur name @ d end of d whole episode of LOVE.


We don't stay togeda, infact, I'v neva stayed more than 2night straight in his house.
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by freecocoa(f): 8:34am On Feb 03, 2015
How am I supposed to believe you dated someone for 8 years without knowing his stand/views on marriage?

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Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by stigman(m): 8:34am On Feb 03, 2015
faceless04:


Super active

S3x is the problem here, he will keep reminding you of it, don't spend a night with him if really you know you want to leave him, that is if u know u want to come out of it alive ( sent pm, let's talk more there )
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Nobody: 8:34am On Feb 03, 2015
With the number of guys I saw yesterday praying for a life partner in adoration mass I still wonder why girls think husbands are scarce or leaving a particular boyfriend means you might never marry.
Babe change your phone numbers, find a new accomodation far from this present one. Delete and block him on facebook, delete him on any social network platform and please warn the security at your place of work not to allow him into your premises.
If after 10years of dating the nigga can't make up his mind then he should go his way.

Oge adirozi

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Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by IamDejman(m): 8:35am On Feb 03, 2015
I fear some nigerian guys o

Since 2005. Which is older: your relationship or nairaland? grin

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Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Wendy80(f): 8:35am On Feb 03, 2015
faceless04:



Please leave my ears oooo, I still need dem to attract another man. Thanks for the advice.

I love ur sense of humour though n u seems like a nice lady. Pls take a walk from ds relationship pls.

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Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by faceless04: 8:37am On Feb 03, 2015
Benoxvals:
I honestly don't think something is wrong with his decision.You guys are happy and if recieving the sacrament of matrimony is the reason why you want to break up what you have build for 10years then go ahead..he even agree that he carry his babies..
My advice..talk with him and see his reasons for wanting to take that path but as for me,nothing has gone wrong yet.


I think you are the only one who have really understood the picture. We have a happy relationship, he want babies. BUT I WANT THE SACRAMENT OF MATRIMONY. And that's why I'm leaving him.

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Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Nobody: 8:38am On Feb 03, 2015
faceless04:



We don't stay togeda, infact, I'v neva stayed more than 2night straight in his house.
then wat is his problem...dear to be frank wit u,marriage dosnt work like dat...i advice u,leave him cos evn if u later get married,u wont enjoy d marriage atall..its alredy bcomin a bondadge now, u need to enjoy ur marriage to d fullest quarel or no quarel...i wish i can pm u so i give u my own story too bt today am happy cos i tuk all d courage to pull out,if nt i wud av bn a dead person by now.

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Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by tyconcepts(f): 8:40am On Feb 03, 2015
BaebieHot:
Op, No offense but God will punish that BF of yours.
I will add 'in Jesus Name' and round it off with a perfect 'AMEN'

Op I really don't know what u are doing with a guy for 10 years o. That is sheer madness.
Let me date a guy for 3 years and he does not marry me first, I will show him my waffi madness cos seriously, I don't knw why I shld be with someone for that long and u will come and start yarning rubbish.

Leave the guy jor, he is making noise.
As a precaution sha, better start telling ur parents and everyone who cares to listen the threat he has made o. tongue


Amen & Amen & Amen.........

Devil sef join punish the Op BF.....WTF


Meanwhile.....Warri Represented here too wink

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Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by xamilola(f): 8:40am On Feb 03, 2015
@OP, this is what u guys ought to have discussed in the 4year of dating atleast, 10years hian
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Nobody: 8:41am On Feb 03, 2015
BaebieHot:
Op, No offense but God will punish that BF of yours.
I will add 'in Jesus Name' and round it off with a perfect 'AMEN'

Op I really don't know what u are doing with a guy for 10 years o. That is sheer madness.
Let me date a guy for 3 years and he does not marry me first, I will show him my waffi madness cos seriously, I don't knw why I shld be with someone for that long and u will come and start yarning rubbish

Leave the guy jor, he is making noise.
As a precaution sha, better start telling ur parents and everyone who cares to listen the threat he has made o. tongue


Waffi


madness


sad
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by M4gunners: 8:41am On Feb 03, 2015
BaebieHot:
Op, No offense but God will punish that BF of yours.
I will add 'in Jesus Name' and round it off with a perfect 'AMEN'

Op I really don't know what u are doing with a guy for 10 years o. That is sheer madness.
Let me date a guy for 3 years and he does not marry me first, I will show him my waffi madness cos seriously, I don't knw why I shld be with someone for that long and u will come and start yarning rubbish.
Agberu,Jaguda way can't solve the problem. First of all the girl tried, I'm only happy because the Op didn't mention anything like the say he don't want to marry her.At times condition may lead one of making some choice. If the guy don't have money to do Church wedding, mehn you need to understand him. Women only wants to show up on their wedding day, but then marriage id beyond wedding.
Leave the guy jor, he is making noise.
As a precaution sha, better start telling ur parents and everyone who cares to listen the threat he has made o. tongue
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Truckpusher(m): 8:42am On Feb 03, 2015
Op permit me to say that your boyfriend must have known all the nooks and crannies of your puccy like the back of his hands ,so why waste time and resources over something you already had for free anytime for 10 yrs? undecided

It would be an injustice on anyone's part to marry a girl that another guy has been fuccking for 10 fuccking yrs without commitment .I think at this point the op should get a sign post with an inscription that says NO VACANCY AN OLD TENANT LIVES HERE FOR 10YRS WITHOUT THE NECESSARY PAPER WORK.NEW CUSTOMERS BE WARNED.

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Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Nobody: 8:42am On Feb 03, 2015
freecocoa:
How am I supposed to believe you dated someone for 8 years without knowing his stand/views on marriage?
na waoooo...d thing surprise me too

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Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Nobody: 8:43am On Feb 03, 2015
Benoxvals:
I honestly don't think something is wrong with his decision.You guys are happy and if recieving the sacrament of matrimony is the reason why you want to break up what you have build for 10years then go ahead..he even agree that he carry his babies..
My advice..talk with him and see his reasons for wanting to take that path but as for me,nothing has gone wrong yet.
This bros sef. He agreed to doing everything married pple do, he just doesn't want to make it legal. I smell sth fishy here. No matter what, he should able to withstand 30 mins of appending his signature at a registry with only their parents present.




ÒP, please run for your life, this guy will never marry you and as long as that's what you want, it won't work. And please don't make that kinda compromise, you will be miserable and you will frustrate yourself and him too

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Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by tripleik(m): 8:43am On Feb 03, 2015
Dear admin,how did this eva mk front page?
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by udmydearest(f): 8:43am On Feb 03, 2015
My dear sista, r u countin ur age at all?? How old we're u wen u started datin dis son of Adam?? N its been ten yrs? Hmmmmmm. I'd rilly luv to talk wit u, dats if u don't mind. U can add me on whatssapp (08138969664)
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by freecocoa(f): 8:44am On Feb 03, 2015
Midehi:

na waoooo...d thing surprise me too
One of those made up stories, I guess.
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by iyb(m): 8:45am On Feb 03, 2015
Leave the guy. women don't have the luxury of delaying marriage
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by emmie4luv(f): 8:46am On Feb 03, 2015
faceless04:



He is not abusive in any way. Infact he has been very nice to me, listens to me, he has always been there for me, gives me whatever I want. He Is 100% mentally stable. He is a medical doctor.
weda medical doctor or not, weda 100% mentally stable or nt, 2 me he is using u 4 clearance. Simply because he already knws ur weak point. Imagine u shud b giving birth becos u are d dispirado, cos he knows u won't obledge such nd now he is tretenin u becos u give him d room to nd according 2 u, u stil have soft spot my sister b wise. U are wastin ur precious time 4 ur own good do d needful

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