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Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by fresh360(m): 8:46am On Feb 03, 2015 |
Op, if u realy listen n take note of pipus reply here u knw notice dat every1 is tell u almost 1 tin n also u knw wat dat is. Move on coz he is not d ryt 1 4 u. Doctors r vry high n intelligent tinkers so b careful n do d ryt tin n also consider all wat u hv been told here n all tin will b gud.... God gist u d strenght to move |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by tenry(m): 8:47am On Feb 03, 2015 |
faceless04:Am I the only one who thinks this guy is not serious? I was going to say nothing is wrong wit him before cos our world view are diffrent, but with the above quoted info, babe you need to flee not run ooo. I dated my wife for 9 years and we both knew where we were heading to even when there are crisis. Parents and loved ones didn't doubt us cos they have seen our level of commitment. @op, u should hav seen these signals and quit before now. To nail it, he was 28 when u started and he's now 38years,even though medical doctors get married late cos of the time they hav spent in sch, I still believe this man is not serious. Don't sell yourself cheap. A broken relationship is better than frustrated marriage, and ultimately broken marriage. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by opsynea2j(m): 8:48am On Feb 03, 2015 |
Judge ye not. !!! How old is d lady in question ? Who knows if they started dating @ age 11 and now she's 21 n seriously craving for marriage after she's bn enjoying all the dividend of womanhood. Blame ye the guy not ! He's just a satanic-sent time waster ! |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by faceless04: 8:49am On Feb 03, 2015 |
Truckpusher: Very funny.....Really, I actually laughed at your post 5 Likes |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by olajide8(m): 8:50am On Feb 03, 2015 |
faceless04:My sister that is how it normally is, the solution is, to making sure your differences align- I dated my ex' for 10years also, 1995-2005- thou she still left me when I was even begging her for marriage* but yours is a more unique case, men don't really know what they want, but the day we know what we want, we would almost die trying to get it- it's the phobia of responsibility that just caught up with him* you have to be able to assure him that all is well, you would be their for him, he can depend on you- and voila -solution!!! 2 Likes |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Nobody: 8:51am On Feb 03, 2015 |
tyconcepts: Na we we 1 Like |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Wendy80(f): 8:51am On Feb 03, 2015 |
OP I think I know who you are talking about. Not sure though. My close met a Med doc 3yrs ago and when they dated for a year she asked where d relationship is heading to, he told her exactly wht Ur guy told U. She ran for her life. |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Nobody: 8:52am On Feb 03, 2015 |
Truckpusher:Which is better for a man to Bleep u for 10years or for 10men to Bleep you for one year. Somedays I wonder if you drop your brain in a dustbin before logging into nairaland. Who knows the girl you will end up with, may be a repentant prostit!e with over 500 customers. You are disgusting. 8 Likes |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Badgers14: 8:52am On Feb 03, 2015 |
@ Op, what's your BF family background, is he trying to hide something, , reason being that you can't marry alone, your family have to run a background check on him and he has to come with some elders to your place. I have never heard of a guy in 9ja saying he doesn't believe in marriage, most people will be like. Am not ready now, make I hustle money first |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by dammytosh: 8:54am On Feb 03, 2015 |
Run for your Life. He does not need you for anything. He just can't stand another guy sleeping with you. Carry his people along and run for your life. Once again runnnnn 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by nairabetguru(m): 8:54am On Feb 03, 2015 |
faceless04: So wat was ur case like @ 19 and him @ 28 |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by aktolly54(m): 8:54am On Feb 03, 2015 |
@OP am very sure the man sponsor your education while in university. 3 Likes |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by dammytosh: 8:54am On Feb 03, 2015 |
Badgers14: Those once still think they might marry the girl. This particular guy will no and never marry the girl. 1 Like |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Truckpusher(m): 8:55am On Feb 03, 2015 |
faceless04:You can laugh about it but the truth is that you fuccked up and still fuccking up big time......Dont you have a family? Because you can't date my sister for 10 yrs without any form of commitment,I'll personally call you to order or treat your fucck up for good. |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by dammillicious: 8:56am On Feb 03, 2015 |
then you are the legend of the seeker....na now day break to know say una vision dey wide apart....what have you been doing the last 10yrs.. Lol....I don't have a ring on my middle finger, he never proposed or said anything close to that.[/quote] 2 Likes |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by maryhaam(f): 9:00am On Feb 03, 2015 |
U deserve pension,sincerely love is a silly thing,that uses mask to cover our face,let me talk to you like myself,he might be serious n love u ,buh you are getting wasted........if he's answer r d same kindly take a walk. 3 Likes |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Nobody: 9:01am On Feb 03, 2015 |
lastburn:She likes the way he spoils her with gifts and money. May be he also pays for her accomodation. You know how lady's love to flaunt their partner especiall if he's a doctor. |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by sigmundfreud(m): 9:03am On Feb 03, 2015 |
faceless04:Have you gone with him to visit his family? Attended functions together? Have a bond with any member of his family? Spent a weekend with his Mum or Sister? Visit his family unannounced? Ambushed him with a " meet my folks" kinda thing? If No to more than 2....just Your "courtship" has lasted several lifetimes of most marriages! 1 Like |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by AmaechiLinus(m): 9:04am On Feb 03, 2015 |
I don't have any advice for u untl u tells d truth. In ur story, u said both of u love each other very much to an extent da u r finding it difficult to 4get abt each other meanwhile u have different views & visions. My question is wht den is d bond holding dat Love if u both have different views & visions? 2 Likes |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by alobam1: 9:04am On Feb 03, 2015 |
Some men are so damm heartless..I mean that is not fair..I have side chicks,yes I do without sounding hypocritical but am not over bearing cos we are in a sexual relationship.I pray for them to get someone better than me asap so they can move on with their lives..I know they also have other boyfriends but I don't actually care..I can never threaten nor waste a woman's time when I know am not really interested in marrying her..Anyway as for the OP,it all boils down to the fact that you women are damm confused.. 2 Likes |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Nobody: 9:05am On Feb 03, 2015 |
aktolly54:Even if he did, she's 29 and he is 38. At 38 a man should be married with kids but the man is sick and may be cursed. She should stop wasting time with a confused man. 2 Likes |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Truckpusher(m): 9:05am On Feb 03, 2015 |
3cycle:You see your life? What makes you feel that within those 10yrs that no responsible dude showed up wanting to do the needful but she decided to remain with her scumbag of a boyfriend without ambition. Ending up with a repentant prostitute isn't a crime because to be once a criminal is a negative human attribute which anyone could have found themselves doing it by time,chance and even greed but to remain a criminal is what we should be talking about here just like the op has decided to remain a sex machine for one guy that doesn't love her one bit kpichikom! Do you know what guys do when they are truly in love with you? They wife you up lest stories that touches begin to arise. Fuccking 3cycle. You're one fuccked up biitch though I still like you because you've got a loud mouth. 1 Like |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by cutecanson(m): 9:07am On Feb 03, 2015 |
10yrs and no ring on ur finger...damn u re really a faceless girl.... 1 Like |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Naavah(f): 9:08am On Feb 03, 2015 |
That niccur is married tbh. A 38yr old man 2 Likes |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by sunnydayasaba(m): 9:08am On Feb 03, 2015 |
faceless04: O.P, U dnt really need to take a walk since d only problem u have wit him is that u want d sacrament of matrimony frm him, I think u should talk to him, if he goes to church, take time to visit his church and see his pastor to help u talk to him, also ask his family members to talk to him too, Am sure he will make a change to make u happy, Jst do ur own part, u know wat u want, The years u spent wit him to me doesn't matter at all, find away to change his mind, keep praying and keep asking people to speak wit him including his friends and colleagues. It will work if u devise a gud means for it. Working away won't solve ur problem, cus every man has its own problem some might even be worst than his..Just do ur best to make him commit to u through marriage and be ready to accept d marriage no matter how small the ceremony might be too. I wish u gud luck. Dnt give up yet. |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by ben1daEbiri(m): 9:11am On Feb 03, 2015 |
faceless04:funny...nd he's been fuckin the hell outta u for the past 10yrs?move on dear and get a new life...if he disturbs u further more...get his sorry ass arrested 1 Like |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by adbokus(m): 9:12am On Feb 03, 2015 |
So you guys have been playing bangammon for 10 years with his super active tompolo?! Ah! Lady you must continue with that fella whether you like it or not! Ok, you leave him and then hopefully you get a hapless guy who has been focus all his life hoping one day to get an unused, unsoiled, untarnished and potentially faithful lady for a wife knowing nothing about all your decade long escapade and then you feel happy?! And of course there is still the side that you love him implicitly which leaves an opening for infidelity in your marriage to another guy! Would that be fair? No? So in short, continue with your gentle doctor or for all that is good and fair find a guy that is exactly like you!... |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by ameenahz(f): 9:13am On Feb 03, 2015 |
faceless04: You were in school for the first 6 years. By the time you finished service, he was 34/35 years old and probably already working ba? And the 'marriage sucks' part started 2years back when he was 36? And he cheats? Ma'am, I think this guy is married. With kids sef. Just let him go. He has no plans for you except maybe to keep you as side chic. If the threats scare you, involve his family and friends, then go and file a report at the nearest police station and make sure he promises that nothing bad will happen to you and that he signs an undertaken to that effect. 1 Like |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by maryhaam(f): 9:15am On Feb 03, 2015 |
olajide8:10yrs.....wsnt it boring |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Nobody: 9:15am On Feb 03, 2015 |
Truckpusher:Shut up already, I know your type Misogynist Nothing a woman does ever pleases you, I bet if she had left him after 2years of dating same you will attack her and blame her for being soo materialistic and impatient. Have you ever been in love? Do you even know what love is? Abeg stop ranting. |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Ericardo7(m): 9:18am On Feb 03, 2015 |
faceless04: If na school you go for that ten years, you for dey do ur Ph.D now o.. BTW, that guy is no good for you, unless you're comfortable being "Lord of the Rings" 2 Likes |
Re: Its Been 10yrs And He Still Doesn't Have Plans For Marriage by Daresh(f): 9:19am On Feb 03, 2015 |
faceless04: Babe you don enter one chance. You need to find a way to leave him and go o. If you have to change state or country then so be it. That guy is one insane muthafuka! 2 Likes |
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