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Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by vinelli(m): 11:18pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
You be father christmas ni.. u no fit say NO. Abi na from village them dey press u. Abeg be a man #whatisthisguysayinsef |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Bhella5(m): 11:19pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by abbey621(m): 11:19pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
Even if you make a million dollars per month, no one has the right to stress you out. You claim you make 6 figures but what you are really making is 40% of that due to taxes and monthly obligations. Now assuming you continue dishing out $3k per month in a year that's $36k, it's very absurd! I'm very sure you've not built up enough savings to the point where you can retire today, God forbid if it should all come crashing down, what will be your nest? Do what you can for these people but never at the expense of your own family or future! 1 Like |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Freiburger(m): 11:29pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
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Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by amacastel: 11:30pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
astrodome: Father christmas go ahead b4 the month end pls help me with 1k dollars American big boy am sure u no dy give penny to anybody u wan hype ur sef in nairaland we knw ur type |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by discusant: 11:30pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
U sure say you get job? |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Nobody: 11:31pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
mrkings84:you must be one of those who milk their relatives abroad dry! 4 Likes |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by ronald4lif(m): 11:32pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
Insidous: Yes true. I try to chat them up as often as time permits but most time our conversation always get skewed and narrowed down to one form of assistance plea or the other which leaves me with no choice than to boycott Facebook chat or assist when I find it convenience. There are some who would understand, others not so much, as they're adamant not to even want to comprehend whatever you say. How do you school someone who keeps telling you to assist him come abroad. A person who's unemployed and doesn't have the required paperwork and requisite documents embassies stipulated for entry visas?. If it was an invitation letter they're seeking for fine but rather they think you can wane a magic hand and there you have visas. There are mainly three category of visas applications namely: student, tourist and spousal visa and some of these friends don't want to listen to whatever one says with a fixated mind that you are wicked no matter what one says. On what visa category do they fits in?. It's not that easy and you know it. 3 Likes |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by IYANGBALI: 11:32pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
astrodome:which rainy days?rain dey america?no be only ice block dey fall from heaven?abeg settle boys jo |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by bravolad(m): 11:32pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
It's usually the case when you are well-off to Carter for the need of others. You do not necessarily have to send money to friends & relatives on a monthly basis except your parents. Even those who reside in Nigeria face similar challenges but a greater expectations await those who live outside the shores of this country. Have special budget for your immediate family; parents & siblings. But the best approach is to set them up with some initiative that will provide them with monthly income. This requires a relatively huge sum over a period. Let them know you are borrowing to fund that business. Give them a timeline for refund (though you will not take the money from them). This will drastically reduce or eliminate over reliance on you for financial needs. For distance relations and friends, help when it's absolutely imperative. I have an incline you have flamboyant Facebook page that keeps attracting your old friends. You must not be on fb much less chat every time. You must also learn to avoid those who overtly ask for help on a frequent basis. I can assure you that on the flip of the coin, they will not help. But then, the much you can help that will not put a financial strain on you & your family is a good measure of His grace. 2 Likes |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by U2ice(m): 11:35pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
Go hug transformer nah...u de snd ordinary 3k u de mk noise...looobbish Enuf internet for d day jawe |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Nobody: 11:37pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
greggng:begging with style? i see you |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Freiburger(m): 11:38pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
abbey621: You know, mathematics Problems is always getter harder to solve |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by soleexx(m): 11:38pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
I live and work in Maryland United states..1ith good income...I help family and friends in a way that won't make me broke... I actually block my line in the first second third week of the month. And reopen it after collect my salary... 1 Like |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by EYesOnGod(m): 11:40pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
Go and hide inside SAMBISA FOREST..... |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Nobody: 11:40pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
IYANGBALI:e be say u never go Yankee |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Udoks(m): 11:41pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
One sentence for the OP is what Someone once said and I am gonna paraphrase, "I don't know the secret to success, but one secret to failure is trying to please everyone" Oh and BTW, how come you have 4 children and none of them don reach to enter college? 1 Like |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Goldenboy007(m): 11:41pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
Op or bros or Mister...my people say ; it is not every cloth one spreads outside. I give this one this, I gave that one that , this one begs from me, that one botrrows from me. You earn 6 figures, you did this, you did that. I smell exaggeration here, people that truly give don't make noise but empty barrel makes the loudest noise. Ahan na only you dey US? Bros cool down and humble yourself so that God will lift you up! Probably you are a graduate assistant pursuing your PhD because I have met many associate professors in US and they are not this lousy. 6 figures lekwa Sabi yourself no be abuse o! 3 Likes |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Nobody: 11:41pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
Delete the leeches or deactivate your fb acc( I did though no one was pestering me for money), change your numbers, get your own family...case closed! |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Richy4(m): 11:46pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
I just guess you are new into this abroad thing that's why you don't know what to do up till now. 1. You got no business with Facebook once you are abroad. If you do, it must be a brand new one. Eg i got 488 friends before now i got 16. With no hope of adding a new person. 2 mobile number must be changed as quickly as possible. 3. Do not play with your family members. They will be by you when the going gets tough. I learned all this the hard way bro. Within 8 months of my arrival, that was when my friends chose to line up their weddings. I was studying my MBA. I did 5" ashobi" / committee of friends I knew nothing about. Each pointing out that they do not want to wear made in Nigeria suit. After that 5th one, i had to advise myself 5 Likes |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by IYANGBALI: 11:48pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
iRyan:no but ayaf been to America and I'm planning to go to USA by December,I heard its more beautiful dan America |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Dollyak(f): 11:50pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
Op, with your ridiculously low mortgage to salary ratio, 3k a month isn't that bad. I am sure you live in texas, Washington (North West) or some sh!!t, because there are not many states/career(Excluding medical fields) that pays decent six figures with such a ridiculously low rental ratio, unless you are a world class specialist. Anyways, you just need to learn to say no. If you are going to give, you need to make sure it's going towards a self sustaining programme for your family and friends. The amount my dad have given to his ridiculously large nuclear family is definitely into seven figures. Yet, nothing to show for it . Therefore, be strict and give wisely. 1 Like |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by astrodome: 11:50pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
soleexx: You could be my neighbour- Live in Montgomery County, MD |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by djkaycee001(m): 11:50pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
astrodome:Bruh.. Seriously this"Na somebody train you na" No offense dude but if you know this You should consider a better way to help them. Since they are ur relatives and save US some On call for comments that don't make ground pls. You know what.? How about you call ur relatives And close friends, I mean does you want to help And other that you can't defile there cry Set-up a trust fund or better put ask them what dey Are good at, they could fetch them money.! Ask them how much they saved 4 their plan and Add whatever you are capable of giving to them And no more until he/she makes a better use of that Which you have giving him/she.. If he spend it anyhow you would know.. Am Sorry, if I sound stupid or selfish but you can't Continue lending help which would cripple you. On the long run bruh.. In other words, if I may refer you are just a Big tree wit lot of branches wit ripe fruit that ought Go back into the soil and grow to be another big Tree wit fruit and so the circle goes.. If you understand me pls, help someone wit plan Among ur relatives, friends that would return this Same help to other. In that sense you save urself. So your burden would be less but not solved.. Just do what's best 4 you and be strong. ciao. 1 Like |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by vickylala239: 11:51pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
astrodome: U send money finish cum Dey cry!! Na Na wa ohh. Dem force u?? u r Jst showing off here, As if we Dnt knw u cn change ur mobile number n other contacts. Stop all this Narialand has sister mnth smart Ppl. Ur giving money n crying.what stop u from ignoring or Nt picking or telling them u Dnt have. What is all dis attention ur seeking. Telling Ppl u earn a 6 figure,phd blah blah,how is that connected to the advice u seek here. Who will Not knw that ur showing off,that ur probably in asaba or abakiliki. Wait Mke I ask u,Wat do u wnt us to advice u on,After telling us Dat u Dnt cramp moni from tree (meaning u cnt give n money is Nt easy to cum by) do u xpect us to tell u to gv, wen u Hv block Dat passage with ur post. Den 6 figure salary, how will Dat help use to advice u,wen u said ur money is Nt from tree.So y tell us 6 figure salary. Wetin carry PhD cum d mata Nw,PhD follow for Ppl Whr Dey disturb you?? I Jst taya for ur mata Pls stop this shittttt 2 Likes |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by mickey45: 11:53pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
astrodome: Now u're really learning ha! Ha!! Ha!!! |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by toksbisola: 11:58pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
@Op; One question I have for you; Have you discussed this with your wife? A lot of people experience this same issue both home and abroad; hence, it's nothing new. But I’ll say, only you can solve this problem yourself. Although I note you have said NO in a few instances; but that has not helped/changed the scenario. It’s important for you to be disciplined with your financial spending; and to help you achieve that aim, it’ll be wise to set up a monthly budget which should include; 1)Your savings (For a rainy day) 2)The family upkeep cost (You, wife and kids) which includes all your expenses 3)Mum and Dad (As you wouldn’t want to neglect them) 4)Siblings (If need be) 5)Others (Have a specific amount that you would not exceed and stick to it) Try and limit your FB usage to reduce all these request you're getting. I also hope you ain't showing off your wealth on your FB page/other social media avenues you use; If so, (sadly this is the outcome) don't expect people not to ask. Finally, you’ve achieved material success; hence, NEVER BE TIGHT-FISTED AND SPEND WISELY; as we don’t know what tomorrow would bring/holds. I rest my case 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by vickylala239: 11:58pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
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Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by astrodome: 11:59pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
Dollyak: 25% of income as mortgage payment for donkey years is low? Where did you get that from? |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by gnykelly(m): 12:02am On Jul 09, 2015 |
for your relatives don't stop. but you can limit it. for friends once in a while. 1 Like |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Nobody: 12:03am On Jul 09, 2015 |
Look poor friends are expensive; if you can't afford them then unfriend them |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Rexnegro(m): 12:04am On Jul 09, 2015 |
overdrive:Lol oh God my belle o |
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