YourMain:
No.

YES with capital letters

Just let the relationship flow as it comes. Love her naturally, don't force anything. Don't try to read on how to impress her or try foolish stunts. If it's meant to be, it'll be. If not, no matter what, it'll scatter.

nanauju:
I don't have strength to be fighting for a guy who's holding his love back. You'll definitely lose me

Who gives a damn about you?

Love is not one size fits all. You need to test out whom you date first before you apply this poor man's economics of love.

And, let's just go with your 'economics' theory. According to economic principles of supply and demand; if there is an increase in supply, the market economy responds by raising its market prices. So, if a guy supplies too much love, then it follows, the girl should raise her prices. Her high prices may be displayed in the way she 'takes you for granted'.

-ArmChair Economist.

Godswillnwaoma:
100% true


Be nice to her then she will take you for granted. So show some bad boy character and don't be a yes man

Don't be too close to her, give her some distance and she will value you and this is where economics comes which says that scarcity creates value.

Hardeydapor:
very very true infact am giving this person a 7 star cos I've once being there nd one of my new year resolution is never to show her hw much I love her and guess wat its really working for me.

I have researched and from experience I found out that 95% of girls (esp Nigeria girls) don't value a guy that shower them with love and care but if act the other way round they will love and want you by all means. Tested and trusted. Quote me anywhere.

prince3009:


What is this one saying?

Back to topic...It is very true! U see, the thing is this.......When you show a woman "too much" love and affection by calling her everyday, showering her with affection and all, she tends to relax and sees you as a "No Contest" guy. She will begin to act irrationally and treat you like dirt because she believes you will still smother her with that affection and yearn for her attention and love once more.
But as a man, when you show her affection on a 50%basis and strict "i don't care attitude" on another 50%basis, she gets agitated and will want to do everything to get it to a 100% affection level. Now that is what will make her stay and hang around you as she believes you are showing that remaining affection to someone else which she has taken as a conquest to get for herself.

NB: Another advise i would like to drop here for the guys: Never in your life open your mouth to tell a girl you are dating that "YOU CAN NOT LIVE WITHOUT HER"...the day you say those words YOU ARE FINISHED!

LMAO!!! @your last paragraph. But for real, you are 100% correct. Showing a girl excess love means you should be ready to be kicked about and completely taaken for granted.

This nonsense attitude seems to be peculiar to Nigerian girls. They like bad guys that causes them pains etc. Infact, a good man who calls them all day and doeas all kind of stuffs to show how much he loves them seems to bore them. No girl is indispensible IMO.

Show her u love her and treat her like the Queen she is but if she start misbehaving then show her u don't care..just keep ya chiill.. Cos no matta how hot a woman's head may seems 2 b.. It only takes a calm spirited minded man to chiill it dwn

cooluc:

This part "treat her like a rag..." actually got me thinking...

never be too nice to a girl or show her much love or care because e dey backfire like gas fire. Take my advice and be free from emotional trauma.

YourMain:
No.

Yes

ladyF:
I'm sure it's the money that OP is spending that is paining him. Abeg if you feel your love/money that you are giving out is too much, please release that girl from your lethal grip. Another guy is waiting in line to even give her double.

People funny sha, which one be too much love fa!!!

hey sister, do u live in ilorin or at any point live in Ilorin? the "fa" got my attention.

Hard truth: Naija young ladies love bad boys.

I remember my campus days. The players and woman-beaters were always surrounded by hot chicks. Even the so-called SU ladies would end up dating rude, mannerless boys.

Ask those girls why. They'd tell you: "Deep down I know he is really nice" or something stupîd like that.

I know from personal experience that ladies whom I give very little attention always appreciate me more than those whom I shower my love on. It is the way they are. They just want men that give them headache.

Later on, they grow to appreciate us gentlemen. A mature woman values a loving man. All these small small girls don't know anything. That's why I tell young guys to be patient.

olubusayomie:
Hold love back and you will loose her!! Lobatan chop ur love den

then keep changing dicks like underwear

prince3009:



NB: Another advise i would like to drop here for the guys: Never in your life open your mouth to tell a girl you are dating that "YOU CAN NOT LIVE WITHOUT HER"...the day you say those words YOU ARE FINISHED!

.......but, why would you tell another human being that you cannot live without him/her?

Do you realize a huge burden that places on an individual? You set them up so high on a pedestal, that they themselves out of fear of failing you will start misbehaving even subconsciously.

I agree, never ever tell anyone that you cannot live without him/her. It's grossly unfair to say that another flesh/blood like yourself.

Simply unattainable goal, the minute you say that, is the moment you set them up to fail/misbehave. You might as well start writing the obituary for your relationship.

jullkein:
It's only human nature and has nothing to do with Nigerian girls . human beings get easily get bored with the same routine and want to try something different. Do not put your trust in any human or even angels. Just as a dog can be easily lured with bones , most humans are susceptible to succumbing to sexual temptation.Do not trust your mother and do not trust your self . how foolish of you to trust anyone else .
You will learn the hard way in life .

Do not defend anyone in life.if you see a dying man,do not stop to help. Do not open your door to strangers.Do not say "till death do us part" .The same person you help and defend will betray and kill you.This happens 98 percent of the time . You are simply on your own in life . You will learn the hard way .

Omo ds 1 na hardcore

Doubleagent008:
hey sister, do u live in ilorin or at any point live in Ilorin? the "fa" got my attention.

Sorry, no I haven't. I thought the "fa" was a Northern thing tho...

Godswillnwaoma:
100% true

Never let a girl know how much you love her.

It's better you act as if you don't love her.

Treat her like a rag then she will love you.

Be nice to her then she will take you for granted. So show some bad boy character and don't be a yes man

Don't be too close to her, give her some distance and she will value you and this is where economics comes which says that scarcity creates value.

Don't give her much money even if you have much to spend but make her believe you have money by spending it on yourself.

Don't call her everyday keep some space.

This is not the way o, how would you not be caring to a woman and she'll love you, or pretend not to love a woman. This is nonsense.

Azil:
Love me just don't suffocate me with it. Be able to tell me to sit my ass down when necessary, call me to order when i am taking advangtage and being rude, also be able to apologise when you're wrong and be loving when the occasion calls for it. Just don't be the kind that begs and begs and begs even when I am wrong! I like my man as the Alpha male.

I like what you say, this is how it should be.

You have a great head on your shoulders

YourMain:
No.

Ur lips though

Misskaycee21:
too much love wonders shall never end

I luv u, talk ur own.

Godswillnwaoma:
100% true

Never let a girl know how much you love her.

It's better you act as if you don't love her.

Treat her like a rag then she will love you.

Be nice to her then she will take you for granted. So show some bad boy character and don't be a yes man

Don't be too close to her, give her some distance and she will value you and this is where economics comes which says that scarcity creates value.

Don't give her much money even if you have much to spend but make her believe you have money by spending it on yourself.












Don't call her everyday keep some space.

VICE VERSA

Love is ephemeral. Don't kill yourself over another person male or female.

Nickymezor:
Showing too much love indeed... Therez norin lik showing too much love abeg...its either ur show ing love or u aint

And here comes Nicky

Code45:
Who gives a damn about you?

Do I know you?

Daraph:
Yes,it is true....



I show my girlfriend too much love,thought if I do that she won't even have chance of thinking of having another guy; but now.


She has dumped me and go for another guy.

I'm feeling so sad and heartbroken now.... Ladies are desperate!

Fûck that bîtch mhen.
Don't lose sleep over her.
She ain't worth it

Godswillnwaoma:
100% true

Never let a girl know how much you love her.

It's better you act as if you don't love her.

Treat her like a rag then she will love you.

Be nice to her then she will take you for granted. So show some bad boy character and don't be a yes man

Don't be too close to her, give her some distance and she will value you and this is where economics comes which says that scarcity creates value.

Don't give her much money even if you have much to spend, but make her believe you have money by spending it on yourself.

Don't call her everyday keep some space.





This is the policy I made about women and it's worked and keep working perfectly for me.
Op if you like emulate me or you keep being mugu to women.

so you get sense like this?

It happen in both genders...guys also take gals that love them for granted....As gentle as I am,I do behave somehow to gal that love me so much...I know it's bad so i break up with that kind gal quickly

tosyne2much:
And here comes Nicky

So

marvelck:
Is it true that in Naija, if a guy shows his girlfriend too much love, she's bound to misbehave?

not just in Nigeria, it's a universal phenomena

love her and draw back, not correcting her or talking sense into her will be a major flaw. . . here - dont be a yes pussy nigga.

nanauju:
Do I know you?

I don't know you.

SkinnyDude:
so you get sense like this?

more than like this

Azil:
Love me just don't suffocate me with it. Be able to tell me to sit my ass down when necessary, call me to order when i am taking advangtage and being rude, also be able to apologise when you're wrong and be loving when the occasion calls for it. Just don't be the kind that begs and begs and begs even when I am wrong! I like my man as the Alpha male.

U just described me and my gf. U are a wise girl. U deserve a medal for this sensible post