Creamish:


Its also possible he is the one with the issues..

cindyrocks:
Tuface Idibia's wife Annie was raised by a single mum and she is still happily married to Tubaba despite his short comings.


Nairaland boys always looking for excuses to hate ladies.

Mind you I am not from a broken home.

CuteMorriz:
I am not saying ladies raised by single parents are all bad, you may get lucky finding some exceptional ladies raised by single mums. Evidently you seldom find single men raising a child but it's quite prevalent with the opposite sex.

A relation of mine was dating this lady and when the time came for the union to be made official, his parents advised him to discontinue becos after they had made enquiries and investigation they discovered the lady's mother left her husband many years ago over some frivolous reasons. Then I asked my uncle why did he side with family and not allow his son take the bold step then he said:

1. Women raised by single parent (mother) are usually strong willed hence may end up like their mother.

2. A lady who has seen no need for a father will be swift to end a union because she will have the courage to train her children alone afterall she was raised by a mum.

3. How will she get marital advice from her mum when things are tough and you know ladies often run to their mum when they need advice (remember the mother took the easy way out)

4. Sooner or later my son may become a bachelor again...the odd is high and is glaring..

5. A lady who have spent 21 years of her life without a father cannot be psychologically stable even if she appears to be.

6. Ladies raised by single parents did not experience the beautiful and ugly part of the union called marriage from her parents hence they don't have their parents as their role model.

7. Amin (as he fondly calls me) when the baton gets to you, look at the mother of your fiancèe closely because with time she will display those traits you observed in the mother......

Then I asked him what if the lady's father is dead and the mum decided to train her alone?...my uncle said we may also enquire about the untimely death of the father but "Amin that is a topic for another day"......

Demigods666:



Serious o.

Trina0936:

See the name sef? 666! Hmmm. Hope you aren't the devil himself?

CuteMorriz:
that's true but as human when things are tough you need someone to encourage you but when your mentor took the easy way out...it may take more than ordinary for you to remain steadfast

Aderola15:

I'm quoting you because I see wisdom when you drop your comments . Now my question is, what do you have to say about those raised by their grandmas

SamOgasco:


Wrong to your face cause you never experienced one. And I pray you never experience such a lady as well. Even just being in a relationship with them na dia, let alone to enter into a marriage with such. Omo that one na hell, except God's intervene.... Omo like I said, I never pray you encounter one...

Not all of them are like that though, but majority of them are like that.

prettyzee11:
I actually don't want to comment on D's but is so disheartening to hear one judge others even when u don't know what they might have gone through. What do u even understand by single mother??
A. The widows
B.divorced
C.out of wedkuck
D. Raped cases... Etc

A.The widows, is it their wish to lost a dear soulmate they have had kids for? And if death eventually come knocking should they kill there offsprings too?
B.The Divorced, I have read severally about abusive marriages and we all read how some end up killed by their husband.this is as a result that they don't want to be called names by the society or their kids been mocked in future by people like most of u here.
C.Out of wedlock, most of us also know D's category in as much as am not encouraging this set of people but rather than aborting or even trying things that might end one life I kind of envy such people to have taken a bold step carrying DT child. But funny enough this kind of comparison is d reason y some of such calibers end up throwing d child away.
Lastly The Raped Cases,please what should people of D's category do? Should they go hang themselves or kill the child?
WELL ALL IN ALL B IT SINGLE MUM OR SINGLE DAD BROUGHTUP WE ALL SHOULD ENDEAVOR TO KNOW OUR WEAKNESS N WORK TOWARDS MAKING IT PERFECT FOR OUR FUTURE PARTNER. WE CANT CHOOSE OUR PARENT BUT CAN CHOOSE HOW TO BRING OUR CHILDREN UP. SAY NO TO CRITICISM, SAY NO TO ABUSE!!!

CuteMorriz:
lol...don't get emotional...I was not trying to make comparisons...with abusive parents et al...I can see you are trying to empathise with single mums...just see the topic the way it is don't try to modify...

twinklestar:

This write-up is an absolute nonsense created from a shallow and parochial observation. To declare a bleak future outlook and rubbish the marital aspiration of any lady due to her challenging background reeks of a repugnant thought process. It is thesame reprehensible, uncanny reasoning that has held back the development and consolidation of our national potentials across different ethinic lines.
At best, your deductions and conclusion are very stereotyped

CuteMorriz:
I am not saying ladies raised by single parents are all bad, you may get lucky finding some exceptional ladies raised by single mums. Evidently you seldom find single men raising a child but it's quite prevalent with the opposite sex.

A relation of mine was dating this lady and when the time came for the union to be made official, his parents advised him to discontinue becos after they had made enquiries and investigation they discovered the lady's mother left her husband many years ago over some frivolous reasons. Then I asked my uncle why did he side with family and not allow his son take the bold step then he said:

1. Women raised by single parent (mother) are usually strong willed hence may end up like their mother.

2. A lady who has seen no need for a father will be swift to end a union because she will have the courage to train her children alone afterall she was raised by a mum.

3. How will she get marital advice from her mum when things are tough and you know ladies often run to their mum when they need advice (remember the mother took the easy way out)

4. Sooner or later my son may become a bachelor again...the odd is high and is glaring..

5. A lady who have spent 21 years of her life without a father cannot be psychologically stable even if she appears to be.

6. Ladies raised by single parents did not experience the beautiful and ugly part of the union called marriage from her parents hence they don't have their parents as their role model.

7. Amin (as he fondly calls me) when the baton gets to you, look at the mother of your fiancèe closely because with time she will display those traits you observed in the mother......

Then I asked him what if the lady's father is dead and the mum decided to train her alone?...my uncle said we may also enquire about the untimely death of the father but "Amin that is a topic for another day"......

CuteMorriz:
creamish, cococandy, paperlace, cute hector...you see people who are in support of my opinion have real life experience of what am talking about you guys are just trying to be termed "rational"....

NobleG1:


It seems your uncle is an illiterate or completely nuts! His reasons are totally absurd and illogical! His mentality is horrible. What your dumb uncle is saying is that every woman behaves and does exactly what their mother did in life, which is totally false.

Haven't he seen a man or woman who came from a very good home, whose parents are still together but he or she turns out to be terrible?
There are people who come from bad families but they turn out to be great people! There are orphans who are great people today.

Being a single mother is not a crime. That a mother is single doesn't necessarily mean it was her fault her relationship didn't last. What would your uncle say about a woman who was raised by a single father? What would he say about a woman who was raised by her mother and step-father? Take him to see a psychiatric.

And please, send him the url of thread to read.

niggi4life:
90% of my Ex GFs and female friends who were raised by sinlge parent are not yet married and some are over 30yrs.
The 10% who are into relationships or married are usually rude and they are too quick to judge the guys easily.

I am not blaming anyone here, it's just what i have observed.

CuteMorriz:
creamish paperlace cococandy ladymercedes et al...pls look at real life experiences

Timbuktou:
All of you asking "what about boys raised by single mothers?" Well, just take a look at the prison population or the literal horde of agberos in Lagos and the south west. 90℅ of these people were brought up without a father. Fact.

How come there aren't such corresponding number of petty, low life criminals in the south East? Because marriages in the SE last longer on the average. The break down of the family unit is a problem on society. I know the ladies are all emotional because of the one-sided nature of the title but, it is what it is.

Shalom.

Shym3xx:
Let me quickly add a disclaimer to my posts.

I only posted in support of children who were raised by single parents cos I've got loads of them as friends and acquaintances. And I don't see anything wrong with them.

However, I'm not in support of the lifestyle that got them there. A lot of chics out there these days are just making babies like dogs and they make terrible choices in partners. And you've got a lot of crazy women who chased their partners away. So, I do not support these psychos.

I can't really say anything about single dads cos I don't think I've ever met anyone raised by a single dad (I'm sure they're out there). And I believe that's only possible if the mum is either dead or unfit physically to raise kids. Ditto mums who became single parents by virtue of their partners' death, or absentee dead beat dads.

If you're a LovePeddler and by virtue of slanging ya pum everywhere, you became a single mum - or you're a psycho who keeps getting pregnant for all kinds of men, while chasing them away. Fix up.

aylagos:
This is so so true you will understand the op only if you hav experienced such lady. My girl is just like that she is quick to judge me in every situations and has this mentality that all men are bad and she will not take nonsense from anyone that will be her husband am even worry

razortruth:
Unfortunately, this assertion is very true. Even my brother's wife who is a chosen mopol, I mean a member of the Lord's chosen church owned by Pastor Lazarus Nmoka deserted her husband because that's exactly how her mother behaved. Their mother ran away from the husband and trained them (five girls) alone and today, none of them is living with the husband. Even with all entreaties and begging from my brother, she remained adamant and incorrigible. What baffles me is that they made her "a worker" and ursher even with her immoral lifestyle perhaps because she pays "big tithe" it's so unfortunate. But this assertion cannot be generalized. There are the few whom God himself touched their hearts to be different from their mother. Note:My brother is young!!!

Nancy2016:


Since you are worried please call off the relationship and stop wasting her time. You are blocking her from meeting her rightful partner.

EmpresFIDEL:
I do not agree with you, majority of girls raised by both parents are even more wayward, while d ones raise by one parent are very strong, they love been independent, they support their husband becos dy are strong physically and mentally, they do well in life becos some of them want to prove to their father who might have abandoned them DAT dy can become somebody good in life, they are motivated positively becos dy av faced so many challenges, they will always miss their dad and they will not want their children to experience what dy av gone true.

SirVintageCock:
I'd say the literal hordes of the agberos is due to the polygamous marriages being practiced in the southwest. Families are not that close knitted compared to what is obtainable in monogamous union as fathers tends to have divided attention in discharging their fatherly roles amidst the chaos and throes of polygamy especially if there is no love lost between the parents.
Single parenthood is the resultant effects of men and women's actions and inactions and it is quite disheartening that the op had to portray the main victims in this case the children in a bad taste on a situation they had no control over

PaperLace:

I wonder why anyone would sit in his house and tell me not to get emotional_ psychic much?
You can't even answer simple questions, yet you claim to be logical. If you're that logical, you would know those questions are a subliminal way of telling you, it takes a couple for a marriage to work. Majority of the threads here on NL complaining of bad wives (that's me trying to FOCUS), I haven't seen any_ where it was stated that the wife was brought up by a single mum.
Sooo, what went wrong Mr Logic?

Do you know Nigeria's population? I ask once again.
You met just one lady raised by a single mum, out of millions of Nigerians and you run to NL to create thread...as statistician you be ba?

There are few single dads you say?
Jointly made, jointly owned.
'but somehow the woman gets to be stuck with the kids, most times doesn't get married again, raises them to be strong independent people and you think you can rule them out without giving them a chance? Who exactly are you, Uncle?

I am not 'empathising' with anyone but I know what it takes to train a child. Anyone who does that (independently) gets my support.
Now, go back and answer my questions, stop looking for supporters .