Ur comment already shows u ar a cheat. i pity ur bf. hw can u say a lady should av a side bf?so u will advice ur broda to keep dating a lady with side bf?wasted generation

aflyingbird:
not a bad idea at all . men of nowadays have more than 1 girlfriend . if another man comes along don't push him away bc u r already dating Iyke , who just might be dating ngozi n bidemi too . in fact if u think if u think u r ur man's main chick u just might be da sidechick . unless u r 100% sure he is DA ONE or u r the only one he is seeing , have a side bf . a smart woman's guide to happiness 101

Benita27:
To think Toke wrote down all that transpired between her and her bf later husband on that book is to believe Buhari will make N1 equal $1 before he leaves office.

Poo happens and because some1 cheated on you isn't a guarantee that all the guys who'll come your way will be cheats.

"All men are not the same" cheating isn't an option for me.

God bless you for this

I don't think having a side boyfriend or whatever is the solution cos you'll only end up hurting, devaluing and delaying yourself the more. There are still better ways of solving such problems.

TheSonOfMark:
Of course, Valerie would quote Kingsley.
The last time we did this three nights ago, I dragged you across the pages of that thread, soiling you in the murky waters of shame.

What do you want from me, Valerie?

Lolz. Send her a link to download that Adam Lambert's song.

erekere:
Ur comment already shows u ar a cheat. i pity ur bf. hw can u say a lady should av a side bf?so u will advice ur broda to keep dating a lady with side bf?wasted generation

u don't know me hence keep quiet . i' ain't a cheat but ive been cheated on. my comment doesn't mean i do dat cuz im still loyal as fk , so pls shut da f up

Sexytemi:
To All Ladies Out There, I Say Please Have A Side Boyfriend!

After reading toke makinwa's book "on becoming" I'm of the idea that if toke had had a back up plan, a guy she could count on if her boyfriend at that time maje(later ex husband) was in his usual act of cheating then maybe he would have taken her serious and respected her more..

I've been there where I gave my all into a relationship and was very loyal to my guy and yet after 5yrs of dating he decided I wasn't good enough for him, and left me stranded, it wasn't funny because I saw the signs but like every other girl in love, I ignored the signs and also ignored guys that would or might have made me more happier than he ever made me.

A friend of mine started dating a guy, and she got to realize he was cheating on her, and not only was he cheating but with a girl so young, when my friend confronted him, this guy practically lied and denied everything even he knew my friend saw all the evidences he still blamed her, and she asked me what she did wrong, all she ever did was love and give him all of her, she ignored all guys because of this guy yet he threw her love to the dogs.

Then another of my friend met up with a guy and ohh she fell for his charm, this my friend has had a fair share in the heart break department, her heart has been broken not once, twice and not even thrice. when she chatted me up and said"babe I've met a guy and he loves me with his all, babe he wants to marry me and babe thank God for me" I got to admit I was happy for her and in fact I thank God on her behalf and used her case as a testimony of good things to happen, I tap into her good luck and believe someday I'd also meet a guy who would love me as much as her guy did, little did I know the guy was nothing short of bastard, a guy who makes ladies curse other guys, a guy who is a disgrace to other guys...this guy impregnated my friend and made her father chase her out of the house, with nowhere to go she moved in with him and got to know who he really was, this guy still went after girls, cheats on my friend even in her condition, lodge in different hotels with different girls, and whenever she confronts him he denies it to her face, and in my friend's voice "babe, I'm so scared of him, he lies so much that when he greets me good morning I go out to make sure its really morning" , and I'm sure we all know its wrong for a pregnant lady to think, but oh my friend is always thinking and sad all because she fell in love with an ahole and was loyal.

And this makes me wonder is it wrong for ladies to be loyal in their relationships?, is it a bad thing to fall in love and give you her all?, is it a crime for ladies to do all just to please their guys?, and why can't guys just be faithful to their ladies?. and my answers to these questions is just for ladies to have side boyfriends, with a side boyfriends you won't have the fear of the main guy waking up one day and leaving you for another girl, you won't have the heart attack of thinking of what your boyfriend is doing at the moment, and you won't be so involved in the life of your boyfriend for him to tell you you are choking him or think less of you.

At the emboldened...

Meaning he can tell lies for Africa lmao. So hilarious

Laveda:

Good morning, you got my reply?

Morning, check your inbox

Who are you? If you are a single lady I will definitely find you and marry you. those words are golden. I know the seven year relationship I was involved in, as a guy, I couldn't cheat even though I wanted to - I just couldn't do it.. All I could do was flirt with a lady and that was all. So, this people coming here claiming all men cheat, I find it hard to understand o.

Xiadnat:
Tskk...and what would be the point of side persons? To me, they are all ways of creating 'drama', 'baggage' and 'junks in trunks' of life metaphorically speaking. Ain't no body got time for that.

I like my life simple, and as worry and drama free as possible. 'Sides JC is my one true side BFF.

I can only deal with one guy drama at a time. When I commit to something or someone, I am all in. No sides anything.

The idea of side chicks and side boyfriends is that of people diversifying their heartbreaks...spreading their 'heartbreak eggs' in many baskets.

That's how come people are in their 20s and 30s, and they already have soap opera dramas to last a lifetime.

I don't know why people choose to attract problems in their life and they wonder why their life sucks or are unhappy and unfulfilled and mean and angry.

People need to deal with risks that comes with living. Relationships are a risk. Giving and loving someone is a risk. Take the risk with the reward. And, accept pain that comes with risk and inevitable part of life. Grow some balls, get some muscles and build resilience.


Love like you can never be hurt; but keep in mind you will. Love with your heart like it can never be broken. If it is broken, use a super glue, glue it back and keep the heart beating. Keep stepping.

*taps outs*

Gawd, why do I always have sermons. Lawd, why?

Laveda:
I can't help but laugh, using Toke's case as a case study. She was aware of his cheating habit.

There's just the truth, having a side guy can't help anything.
Its very hard before you see a girl loving 2guys at a time, except you're telling she should just be flirting with both of them, then fine.

You can't be commited to 2 people at the same time and be focused, truth is, along the line you'll lose interest in one.. We are wired differently, unlike guys, some can't keep 4 and not care..

And you as a girl keeping two, you're gonna be _fucking the both of them right? Let's face it, you're gonna lose at the end, maybe.

Cheating is never an option, walk away if you aren't feeling the relationship again.

See why I love you, nice one dear

BabaRamota1980:


Amelia,
I salute you. Very lovely and direct, great job!

Thanks dear
Through experience, thank God am a better person, lover and companion now

Sexytemi:



All men aren't cheats, but 90% are.

Don't be offended honey, lemme know where you got your statistic from...

skarlett:



See why I love you, nice one dear

And I love ya too.. Thanks.

Codyt:


At the emboldened...

Meaning he can tell lies for Africa lmao. So hilarious

I swear o

All that lengthy message just to tell us you want to start cheating ( probably trying to start a sugar mummy career ) and also encourage other ladies out there to do the same. You should write a book. Advice for you, Stick to one partner and if the person is not good enough or breaks your heart, you can leave. Keep focus on improving your life until someone comes around. Cheating has nothing to do with being male or female, of course men cheat more, but women also do. Ladies who sleep around with many partners at a time usually start that way, just planning to have a side boyfriend and before you know the list starts getting longer.

Don't ruin your life.

So u are advising ladies to have more than one guy, u are a disgrace to your family.

JeffreyJamez:

I just look dp of who dey call person kid... You just wan force yourself grow up by force... ..me and you?... We no be mate on any level..lol

You be boy where I dey oooo. No allow the DP deceive you e hear?

Places I been...who I mingle and rub shoulders with, you can't even have those dreams

But the hypocrisy on this thread is sickening. What Sexytemi said is what most girls and guys do these days. She was just bold enough to say it and encourage it. Truth is, most guys and ladies commenting and trying to vilify the young lady have either double dated or are double dating at this moment.

But since it's online, let's all claim to be saints, while in reality we are worse or on the same level with the 'sinners' who are in support.

zicoraads:

You be boy where I dey oooo. No allow the DP deceive you e hear?

Places I been...who I mingle and rub shoulders with, you can't even have those dreams

Yeah because they're paupers and lowlifes like you ... Can't be hanging around such. ...not good for business. ... Run along now son, you've been given enough attention by the gods.

In one way u are right and in the other way u are wrong but if I comment wetin De my mind, my hubby go begin fear me....

Benita27:
To think Toke wrote down all that transpired between her and her bf later husband on that book is to believe Buhari will make N1 equal $1 before he leaves office.

Poo happens and because some1 cheated on you isn't a guarantee that all the guys who'll come your way will be cheats.

"All men are not the same" cheating isn't an option for me.

From this post to your profile to your signature I can boldly say that you will make a good wife..... be good!

who says "all gals" are loyal i loved a gal who loved me more than life itself...she loved me so much dat my hommies and dudes promise to ditch me if i ever had a single thought of cheating on her!!! i am so giving u ma words wen i tell u I NEVER LIED TO HER..... (not all guys lie) shes was life itself to me...i would wonda what would make a guy wanna cheat in ma situation cos i got ALL(she could b anything for me anytime anyday, a cook, a waitress, a mom, a lover) everything!!! until she left the country....like a ship goin down d cliff, so her love for me did..i read many books becos of her.... she did literally turn me into Shakespeare...lol...she let my temporary lack of finance get into our relationship(dat was her excuse which wasnt b4) cos i was schooling...i never in anyday thought she was gon cheat on me..i never dreamt of cheating my potential wife-she...my calls were constantly on waiting.... i knew what was going on and as a guy i dont take shit...she cheated..SHE HAD ANOTHER BOYFRIEND OVER THERE!!! distance though was far but d once burnin love cooled up at once....THEN I KNEW GIRLS AINT LOYAL..she called me and wanted us back buhh i cant go through the pain of being cheated again..PHYSICALLY, am okay to be a cheat buh i choose to be stucked to one dat got ma ass broken..MY GUYS WERE SHHHOOCCKKED... dy couldn't believe it cos she loved me then so muuuchhhh...talking about guys dat wouldn't cheat on a loyal bae,, WE ARE MANY..U RE NOT MEETING THEM..GIRLS CHEAT TOO...,real life!!!!!

Maxi112:
emboldened..... your boo must be lucky to have you


you're a blessing to his dick, keep on with the good job

na so

the truth is in this century to get a loyal guy is hard even married man cheat but dt does nt mean one should also turn into a cheap lady all Cus of dt....if u actually have what it takes he's gonna choose u over other ladies nd if he should leave u it might be a blessing in disguise .....don't conclude all because of toke word in a novel...

TheSonOfMark:
Pay no attention to that tramp who's justifying cheating.

Too mean.

mhizdarmie:
the truth is in this century to get a loyal guy is hard even married man cheat but dt does nt mean one should also turn into a cheap lady all Cus of dt....if u actually have what it takes he's gonna choose u over other ladies nd he should leave u it might be a blessing in disguise .....don't conclude all because of toke word in a novel...

dat na lie ohhh!!!!! its just dat u gals let money and other stuff get in d way!!!! some gals can be good shaa but some can just teach ur ass some good lessons!!!! u would always find someone whos gon love u iff u are worth loving...hearbreak might just be a few life lessons

goodnewscliff:
dat na lie ohhh!!!!! its just dat u gals let money and other stuff get in d way!!!! some gals can be good shaa but some can just teach ur ass some good lessons!!!! u would always find someone whos gon love u iff u are worth loving...hearbreak might just be a few life lessons

I didn't say it's impossible to get a loyal guy I just said it's hard nd also nt all ladies fall for money and other stuff but if u should take proper care of ur gf she wnt leave u for another guy money is nt everything

Benita27
To think Toke wrote down all that transpired between her and her bf later husband on that book is to believe Buhari will make N1 equal $1 before he leaves office.

Poo happens and because some1 cheated on you isn't a guarantee that all the guys who'll come your way will be cheats.

"All men are not the same" cheating isn't an option for me.


hhhhmmm..... you are a wife material..... if your Husband or Boyfriend does not value,respect and adore you the He is a fool forever.

For babes looking for a side Boyfriend .... I am very much available......
I don't know why babes thinks that having more than one man is a smart choice, they one be like guys by all means......
If you are cheating becos ur guy is cheating omo u are OYO, man nor dey carry bele oo, man nor dey quick get STDs, and Sexually transmited dieses etc.

zicoraads:
But the hypocrisy on this thread is sickening. What Sexytemi said is what most girls and guys do these days. She was just bold enough to say it and encourage it. Truth is, most guys and ladies commenting and trying to vilify the young lady have either double dated or are double dating at this moment.

But since it's online, let's all claim to be saints, while in reality we are worse or on the same level with the 'sinners' who are in support.

Very true.My nxt door neighbour Bidemi was even boasting to me that right now her boyfriends number up about 50 and she has sex with all of dem and dats no big deal.that the quickest way for a woman to get a good husband is to multiple date. I was jus looking at her with my mouth agape.But again maybe she has a point cos if u look right now its mainly the ex oloshos and runz girls who end up With richer and more responsible husbands. Just saying though

Billyonaire:
After spending ample amount of my time to understand lustful love and the trail of heart-breaks it wrecks on its flow; I have come to a conclusion that monogamy is not a norm. Monogamy is a construct of mankind to regulate and control a person or persons they cherish and keep them in constant dependence on them for everything. We work so damn hard to keep marriages, when it is effortless to have plural lives and mate as other Organisms. We call ourselves Organisms yet we are not compelled to live organically.

Organically, lusty love is too huge to be channeled to one person, it was meant to be utilized to cherish the whole world but we focus that love energy on one human being, creating frictions, pains, hatred and emptiness here and there. In order to fill the void in our love for our partners we buy him or her the world. Do every godamn undo-able things in and out of the bedroom to please and keep the person and fill the void. It can not completely be filled. Because monogamy is not natural norm. I want to see a sincere married person, who has been married for over 30yrs that hasnt slept with someone else. This is a challenge.

Yes, OP, I agree we must train our hearts to accept that a woman needs a sidy-boy and men also need a side-chic. Gradually, we will come to live organically and fucck who ever electrifies us with e/rection.

I salute!

Exactly my tots on the issue.

D one I dated and trust n thought e will not cheat me, I caught him recently. After all my loyalty to him. Complaining dt i ws nt always around. So dt d reason u hav been cheating on me since a year. I cald it quit n I don't even tink I will trust any man again.

I don't care what your name is or who you are but your post is very annoying and not only so but also very mismisleading, you want people I mean good people to be a partaker of your sin, ignorance, stupidity and sexual indulindulgence.

Non of your stories are true, because what you just did is paint all guys bad and girls good. You are telling us that your friend gave her all, there is no person in this woworld that has the physical, mental and spiritual ability to give their all in a relationship without the help of the holy spirit.
I am not trying to make this christiantial but pointing something.

So you are saying your friend never had any flaws or faults?
For the guy to leave her and never return means she wasn't good enough or he wasn't getting what he wants in that relationship and that's an ababsolute.

It is only guys that breaks a girls heart, I have dealt with so many ladies and can tell you many of them are not prepared for marriage or even relationship. What they paint for themselves as a relationship or marriage is a total unrealistic fantasy which no boy can put up with.

And talking about cheating the girls cheat more than the boys, they may not go around sleeping with men (that is for those of them who don't do that) but they sleep with themselves I mean more than 80% of them, I have real facfact. Which is more wicked, disheartening inhuman to do.

I am really unset when I see a female like you paint ugly picture of men whereas they are worse than the devil.
Its no doubt that the devil uses woman more than men, you can see that from Eve.

Sexytemi:


All men aren't cheats, but 90% are.

i can vouch for myself on the first fact!...


My 2cents sha...