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Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Sexytemi(f): 7:13pm On Dec 06, 2016
To All Ladies Out There, I Say Please Have A Side Boyfriend!

After reading toke makinwa's book "on becoming" I'm of the idea that if toke had had a back up plan, a guy she could count on if her boyfriend at that time maje(later ex husband) was in his usual act of cheating then maybe he would have taken her serious and respected her more..

I've been there where I gave my all into a relationship and was very loyal to my guy and yet after 5yrs of dating he decided I wasn't good enough for him, and left me stranded, it wasn't funny because I saw the signs but like every other girl in love, I ignored the signs and also ignored guys that would or might have made me more happier than he ever made me.

A friend of mine started dating a guy, and she got to realize he was cheating on her, and not only was he cheating but with a girl so young, when my friend confronted him, this guy practically lied and denied everything even he knew my friend saw all the evidences he still blamed her, and she asked me what she did wrong, all she ever did was love and give him all of her, she ignored all guys because of this guy yet he threw her love to the dogs.

Then another of my friend met up with a guy and ohh she fell for his charm, this my friend has had a fair share in the heart break department, her heart has been broken not once, twice and not even thrice. when she chatted me up and said"babe I've met a guy and he loves me with his all, babe he wants to marry me and babe thank God for me" I got to admit I was happy for her and in fact I thank God on her behalf and used her case as a testimony of good things to happen, I tap into her good luck and believe someday I'd also meet a guy who would love me as much as her guy did, little did I know the guy was nothing short of bastard, a guy who makes ladies curse other guys, a guy who is a disgrace to other guys...this guy impregnated my friend and made her father chase her out of the house, with nowhere to go she moved in with him and got to know who he really was, this guy still went after girls, cheats on my friend even in her condition, lodge in different hotels with different girls, and whenever she confronts him he denies it to her face, and in my friend's voice"babe, I'm so scared of him, he lies so much that when he greets me good morning I go out to make sure its really morning", and I'm sure we all know its wrong for a pregnant lady to think, but oh my friend is always thinking and sad all because she fell in love with an ahole and was loyal.

And this makes me wonder is it wrong for ladies to be loyal in their relationships?, is it a bad thing to fall in love and give you her all?, is it a crime for ladies to do all just to please their guys?, and why can't guys just be faithful to their ladies?. and my answers to these questions is just for ladies to have side boyfriends, with a side boyfriends you won't have the fear of the main guy waking up one day and leaving you for another girl, you won't have the heart attack of thinking of what your boyfriend is doing at the moment, and you won't be so involved in the life of your boyfriend for him to tell you you are choking him or think less of you.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Aniker(f): 7:14pm On Dec 06, 2016
wink

Am sure next person will explain to me..

Another long stuff embarassed

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by vcente(m): 7:14pm On Dec 06, 2016
I DEY CRAZE,its the next person that will come and say rubbish.not me

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Nobody: 7:14pm On Dec 06, 2016
ignorance undecided

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by delishpot: 7:15pm On Dec 06, 2016
This is what happens when women love blindly. Love a man as he loves you. That should be the golden rule. If you can't play his kind of game, dump him and wait for someone whose game you can play.
You like a cool life where you sit with the man of your dream at home and watch movies? Then look for a man who loves those kinds of things. You like sports? Then date a man who loves sports, you like to go to school and attain the highest level of education? Then date a man who loves same.You like to clean after a man? Then date s slub etc.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by agbonkamen(f): 7:18pm On Dec 06, 2016
this is a good ideal, just same way car owners has spear tyre grin

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by ghost1718(m): 7:20pm On Dec 06, 2016
I hope the girls I'm wooing see this thread so they will agree.make the girls complete 7 at less 1 per day

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by BiafranBushBoy: 7:20pm On Dec 06, 2016
Please I am available as a Side boyfriend..

I can submit my CV ...

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by herzern1(m): 7:21pm On Dec 06, 2016
Whatever rocks yhur boat.

What worked for "Mr A" may not be suitable for "Mr B".

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Nobody: 7:23pm On Dec 06, 2016
To think Toke wrote down all that transpired between her and her bf later husband on that book is to believe Buhari will make N1 equal $1 before he leaves office.

Poo happens and because some1 cheated on you isn't a guarantee that all the guys who'll come your way will be cheats.

"All men are not the same" cheating isn't an option for me.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Nobody: 7:24pm On Dec 06, 2016
Will you let me _fuck on impulse? undecided

I don't mind being a side beau.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by KingRex1: 7:24pm On Dec 06, 2016
The right guy may come along, but since you've resorted to having a side bf, it would all go wrong again.
And then you'll come back with a new thread.. 'if he has these qualities, he's the one, don't keep a side bf' undecided angry

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Nobody: 7:26pm On Dec 06, 2016
KingRex1:
The right guy may come along, but since you've resorted to having a side bf, it would all go wrong again.
And then you'll come back with a new thread.. 'if he has these qualities, he's the one, don't keep a side bf' undecided angry
Wrong.
Volume dating is very beneficial 2 a woman.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by BabaRamota1980: 7:26pm On Dec 06, 2016
Sexytemi:
After reading toke makinwa's book "on becoming" I'm of the idea that if toke had had a back up plan, a guy she could count on if her boyfriend at that time maje(later ex husband) was in his usual act of cheating then maybe he would have taken her serious and respected her more..
I've been there where I gave my all into a relationship and was very loyal to my guy and yet after 5yrs of dating he decided I wasn't good enough for him, and left me stranded, it wasn't funny because I saw the signs but like every other girl in love, I ignored the signs and also ignored guys that would or might have made me more happier than he ever made me.
A friend of mine started dating a guy, and she got to realize he was cheating on her, and not only was he cheating but with a girl so young, when my friend confronted him, this guy practically lied and denied everything even he knew my friend saw all the evidences he still blamed her, and she asked me what she did wrong, all she ever did was love and give him all of her, she ignored all guys because of this guy yet he threw her love to the dogs.
Then another of my friend met up with a guy and ohh she fell for his charm, this my friend has had a fair share in the heart break department, her heart has been broken not once, twice and not even thrice. when she chatted me up and said"babe I've met a guy and he loves me with his all, babe he wants to marry me and babe thank God for me" I got to admit I was happy for her and in fact I thank God on her behalf and used her case as a testimony of good things to happen, I tap into her good luck and believe someday I'd also meet a guy who would love me as much as her guy did, little did I know the guy was nothing short of bastard, a guy who makes ladies curse other guys, a guy who is a disgrace to other guys...this guy impregnated my friend and made her father chase her out of the house, with nowhere to go she moved in with him and got to know who he really was, this guy still went after girls, cheats on my friend even in her condition, lodge in different hotels with different girls, and whenever she confronts him he denies it to her face, and in my friend's voice"babe, I'm so scared of him, he lies so much that when he greets me good morning I go out to make sure its really morning", and I'm sure we all know its wrong for a pregnant lady to think, but oh my friend is always thinking and sad all because she fell in love with an ahole and was loyal.

And this makes me wonder is it wrong for ladies to be loyal in their relationships?, is it a bad thing to fall in love and give you her all?, is it a crime for ladies to do all just to please their guys?, and why can't guys just be faithful to their ladies?. and my answers to these questions is just for ladies to have side boyfriends, with a side boyfriends you won't have the fear of the main guy waking up one day and leaving you for another girl, you won't have the heart attack of thinking of what your boyfriend is doing at the moment, and you won't be so involved in the life of your boyfriend for him to tell you you are choking him or think less of you.

Dont do that. You are patching the problem, you are not fixing it.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by ghost1718(m): 7:27pm On Dec 06, 2016
agbonkamen:
this is a good ideal, just same way car owners has spear tyre grin
use me as your spear tyre make I see who go give up

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Sexytemi(f): 7:28pm On Dec 06, 2016
Benita27:
To think Toke wrote down all that transpired between her and her bf later husband on that book is to believe Buhari will make N1 equal $1 before he leaves office.

Poo happens and because some1 cheated on you isn't a guarantee that all the guys who'll come your way will be cheats.

"All men are not the same" cheating isn't an option for me.


All men aren't cheats, but 90% are.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by CoolFreeday(m): 7:28pm On Dec 06, 2016
That it doesn't work for you or any other doesn't mean its the same for everybody.
As a guy I never double dated and never will. Once am dating a lady, to be close to any lady you must know that I have a relationship. So stop using your experience to judge all guys and mislead other ladies.

My advise for ladies is; if you can have a side guys, be ready to lose him, otherwise, don't.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Sexytemi(f): 7:29pm On Dec 06, 2016
BabaRamota1980:


Dont do that. You are patching the problem, you are not fixing it.


whether the problem is patched or not, it would save the girl from lots of heartache

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Nobody: 7:31pm On Dec 06, 2016
Sexytemi:



All men aren't cheats, but 90% are.
What a sweeping generalisation!. grin
Men have the inclination to cheat, it's natural but i can't say 90% are cheats cos i haven't done any survey on that.

Have seen guys who detest cheating, and real men don't play games, boys do.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Sexytemi(f): 7:31pm On Dec 06, 2016
BiafranBushBoy:
Please I am available as a Side boyfriend..


I can submit my CV ...


No vacancy o

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by BiafranBushBoy: 7:32pm On Dec 06, 2016
Sexytemi:


No vacancy o
Do you have a side boyfriend already??
Lol... nawa oo

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Sexytemi(f): 7:33pm On Dec 06, 2016
Benita27:
What a sweeping generalisation!. grin
Men have the inclination to cheat, it's natural but i can't say 90% are cheats cos i haven't done any survey on that.

Have seen guys who detest cheating, and real men don't play games, boys do.

That's why we have the 10% for the "Real Men", but I can tell you have met so many guys, I mean friends who look so innocent but yet cheat like mad on their loyal girlfriends.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Sexytemi(f): 7:33pm On Dec 06, 2016
BiafranBushBoy:


Do you have a side boyfriend already??

Lol... nawa oo

Yes ooo

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by BiafranBushBoy: 7:34pm On Dec 06, 2016
Sexytemi:


All men aren't cheats, but 90% are.
Your left ear ..
Who told you 90% are cheats??
Did you run a survey??

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Laveda(f): 7:34pm On Dec 06, 2016
I can't help but laugh, using Toke's case as a case study. She was aware of his cheating habit.

There's just the truth, having a side guy can't help anything.
Its very hard before you see a girl loving 2guys at a time, except you're telling she should just be flirting with both of them, then fine.

You can't be commited to 2 people at the same time and be focused, truth is, along the line you'll lose interest in one.. We are wired differently, unlike guys, some can't keep 4 and not care..

And you as a girl keeping two, you're gonna be _fucking the both of them right? Let's face it, you're gonna lose at the end, maybe.

Cheating is never an option, walk away if you aren't feeling the relationship again.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Nobody: 7:36pm On Dec 06, 2016
If some woman recognised when a guy is all about just the physical and nothing more there would be no need to be having a "just in case" man.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Nutase: 7:36pm On Dec 06, 2016
grin shocked
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by KingRex1: 7:37pm On Dec 06, 2016
ItzMePuffPuff:
Wrong.
Volume dating is very beneficial 2 a woman.
Your probs is that you feel cheated. Sometimes I think you wish you were a guy.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by BabaRamota1980: 7:37pm On Dec 06, 2016
Sexytemi:



whether the problem is patched or not, it would save the girl from lots of heartache

how? By keeping side bf?

Lets get to the root of this problem. The sickness is POSSESSIVENESS.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by ButterFrost212(f): 7:37pm On Dec 06, 2016
grin grin
Most girls know this, and also do have them.
And maybe I'd eventually read that book, cos every girl that has read it swears that there are great lessons to learn from it undecided
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Nobody: 7:39pm On Dec 06, 2016
After all my love talk see wetin una dey talk

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Nobody: 7:39pm On Dec 06, 2016
Sexytemi:


That's why we have the 10% for the "Real Men", but I can tell you have met so many guys, I mean friends who look so innocent but yet cheat like mad on their loyal girlfriends.
And the "real men" are 10%?.
We've all been cheated on at some point, but don't let the past determine your future.
I can't hate an ex who cheated on me for any reason "it's a free world", he made a choice and you can as well make yours...stay put or walk away, keep mourning on how you've been used or make the best out of yourself...it's a choice.

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