Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Jodha(f): 9:44am On Mar 19, 2017 |
I wasn't able to finish the story... Too long.. But from the heading... Hmmm...
I think yhu should go to the hospital first and seek medical advice.. Before anything.. Not every case is spiritual.. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Lexusgs430: 9:45am On Mar 19, 2017 |
helpforever: I saw a post about a woman complaining that her sister married an impotent man. I smiled, the man probably knew he had an issue and still went ahead and married. I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.
It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out. Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.
We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.
I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.
Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.
We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.
She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.
Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.
We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.
At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"
I got very scared and left for home immediately.
I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.
Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.
I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection
In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.
Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started masturbating right since I was 17.
He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.
But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation. Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.
I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC
Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened
Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was flirting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurrences.
Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.
Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.
Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.
Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.
Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?
Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?
Because I can remember in late 2012 or early 2013. When I tried to urinate, I had and felt a sharp pain.
I happened for about 2 days and stopped by itself.
I am getting older and my mother is already reminding me about marriage. I don't think I will marry until this issue is resolved. I can't subject any woman to emotional pain.
At some point, I thought I was gay, but I am in no way attracted to men. But I am attracted to women. I tried watch transgender porn to confirm if I was gay (since I couldn't stand real gay porn). I actually got aroused and had a mild erection. But come on, transgenders are women who just have a joystick.
I have put up my issues on a foreign site (because other people who have put up their problems on nairaland gets abused, mocked, insulted and bullied) and I was advised by the whites to see a doctor and counselor. They didn't even understand what I meant by spiritual issue. But they have been very concerned and helpful
I don't need to see any counselor because my case would confuse who ever I tell.
I have been living in pains. No sex life and no real social life. I keep falling out with female friend because I don't make any move towards them.
I keep falling out with male friends, because they keep wondering "why this their guy no dey nack woman like them". They feel I am weird because they 100% know I am not gay and wonder why a normal guy will be avoiding women like this.
I hope my issue is resolved.
But if its not, I would live the rest of my life like this. Probably keep on masturbating and never get married.
It might actually be my excessive masturbation that might be the cause of this. I don't really know. Only God knows.
I am depressed. But suicide is not an option for me. God forbid. Your perceived erectile dysfunction, could be as a result of 2 things -: (1) Untreated STD infection (2) Excessive masturbation Visit your nearest hospital for a blood test ................ 6 Likes |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Cutie09(m): 9:47am On Mar 19, 2017 |
I'm not a doctor but with yiur explanation I think is a mental thing if you can masturbate and can't gave erection during sex it means you think about it too much or put pressure on yourself counsellor can help or a theraphy that's what you need good luck |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by YINKS89(m): 9:47am On Mar 19, 2017 |
Dnt know d advice I can gv u nw. |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by ExpiredNigeria: 9:48am On Mar 19, 2017 |
Bro you're not impotent you just have to stop watching porn and masturbating to it, performance anxiety kills you even before you start game .
You didn't mention your problem which is addiction to pornography which leads to masturbation, porn has condition your brain settings and your sex orientation have changed, what.. as your own case is this severe you need at least three months of no porn, masturbation, fantasizing of any kind be it viewing half naked woman.. your best bet is leave internet for three months because that's where you watch the whole porn.
from experience I still de know woman and I have early morning erection, excess sugar is bad for guys too..
so the main question is can you go without porn for three months? its herd to even for a day I know you I'm on my two weeks now and the way I feel I'm not going back because I'm loving it. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by walemoney007(m): 9:49am On Mar 19, 2017 |
nigerians sef what is stoping you from seeig a doctor @op 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by crisycent: 9:51am On Mar 19, 2017 |
How come you're able to masturbate with a "semi-erect" d!ck while watching porn but when live toto dey look you for eye, no erection? It's psychological bro! PenĂs no dey use power raise!!!! 10 Likes |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by AnyiBest247(m): 9:51am On Mar 19, 2017 |
Things dey happen shaa! May God step into ur situation. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by lordhugo(m): 9:51am On Mar 19, 2017 |
Get Drunk and try. 4 Likes |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by crisycent: 9:51am On Mar 19, 2017 |
crisycent: How come you're able to masturbate with a "semi-erect" d!ck while watching porn but when live toto dey look you for eye, no erection? It's psychological bro! Pen!s no dey use power raise!!!! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by beautycrush24(f): 9:52am On Mar 19, 2017 |
So u have all d education in d world but u've never deemed it fit to see a doctor after all these years. Continue looking for solutions online and don't go and seek medical help. u hear?
I'm sure u feel embarrassed that's y u haven't done that. Doctors have seen worse and they won't laugh at u or gossip abt u so u beta man up and face ur fears. 11 Likes |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by ofemigeorge(m): 9:52am On Mar 19, 2017 |
Before the initial trial to have sex have u been having erection... .or is it from birth? |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Kingharzyz(m): 9:52am On Mar 19, 2017 |
I think you'll need strong agbo. not all these diluted one in Lagos ooo, you'll need a journey to ijebu igbo, Ede or Ile Ife... you shall overcome it by the grace of God. |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Elnino4ladies: 9:53am On Mar 19, 2017 |
This is serious |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 9:55am On Mar 19, 2017 |
A quick one Do you ejaculate whenever you masturbate? |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helpforever: 9:55am On Mar 19, 2017 |
Lexusgs430:
Your perceived erectile dysfunction, could be as a result of 2 things -:
(1) Untreated STD infection (2) Excessive masturbation
Visit your nearest hospital for a blood test ................ I've not had sex before. It can't be an STD 1 Like |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helpforever: 9:56am On Mar 19, 2017 |
maria43: A quick one Do you ejaculate whenever you masturbate?
Yes I ejaculate all the time |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by betapikin: 9:56am On Mar 19, 2017 |
Guy go and see doctor... I don't know why we in these part of the world believe so much in spiritual.. All the years you have been battling with this issue have not once visit a physician.. Nawaoo... Go and see doctor |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Lexusgs430: 9:56am On Mar 19, 2017 |
helpforever: I've not had sex before. It can't be an STD You don't only contract STD through sex ................................. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by 99foxxy(f): 9:57am On Mar 19, 2017 |
How possible can one masturbate and not have erection? Don't you have erect diick when you masturbate? I guess your mind is playing you. Your claim of excess fat can't and won't hinder erection. Make friend with lemon orange, get moringa leaves, I mean fresh leaves and boil them, drink for one week. Don't worry, set your mind straight and the problem will solve itself cause I had a cousin who had a similar issue but he's very ok now. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 9:57am On Mar 19, 2017 |
helpforever: Yes I ejaculate all the time I doubt if you're impotent. Don't think an impotent man can masturbate. I think it's got to do with your mind. Psychological I'm sure You need to see a doctor. No need being scared or shy 6 Likes |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 9:57am On Mar 19, 2017 |
helpforever: Bro, this is a serious issue. ogbeni I no believe all this Una story jare.. If its real I for like render help but these days help dey dangerous.... Anyways pray hard |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 9:58am On Mar 19, 2017 |
helpforever: I saw a post about a woman complaining that her sister married an impotent man. I smiled, the man probably knew he had an issue and still went ahead and married. I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.
It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out. Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.
We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.
I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.
Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.
We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.
She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.
Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.
We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.
At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"
I got very scared and left for home immediately.
I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.
Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.
I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection
In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.
Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started masturbating right since I was 17.
He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.
But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation. Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.
I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC
Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened
Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was flirting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurrences.
Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.
Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.
Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.
Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.
Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?
Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?
Because I can remember in late 2012 or early 2013. When I tried to urinate, I had and felt a sharp pain.
I happened for about 2 days and stopped by itself.
I am getting older and my mother is already reminding me about marriage. I don't think I will marry until this issue is resolved. I can't subject any woman to emotional pain.
At some point, I thought I was gay, but I am in no way attracted to men. But I am attracted to women. I tried watch transgender porn to confirm if I was gay (since I couldn't stand real gay porn). I actually got aroused and had a mild erection. But come on, transgenders are women who just have a joystick.
I have put up my issues on a foreign site (because other people who have put up their problems on nairaland gets abused, mocked, insulted and bullied) and I was advised by the whites to see a doctor and counselor. They didn't even understand what I meant by spiritual issue. But they have been very concerned and helpful
I don't need to see any counselor because my case would confuse who ever I tell.
I have been living in pains. No sex life and no real social life. I keep falling out with female friend because I don't make any move towards them.
I keep falling out with male friends, because they keep wondering "why this their guy no dey nack woman like them". They feel I am weird because they 100% know I am not gay and wonder why a normal guy will be avoiding women like this.
I hope my issue is resolved.
But if its not, I would live the rest of my life like this. Probably keep on masturbating and never get married.
It might actually be my excessive masturbation that might be the cause of this. I don't really know. Only God knows.
I am depressed. But suicide is not an option for me. God forbid. bro see a doctor. Nlanders are mostly immature and will mostly say things that hurt. 5 Likes |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by fineboynl(m): 9:58am On Mar 19, 2017 |
you have 4 problem.
1. masturbation 2. anxiety 3. poor dieting 4. lack of exercises
try to work on this 4. you will be alright. 8 Likes |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helpforever: 9:58am On Mar 19, 2017 |
ofemigeorge: Before the initial trial to have sex have u been having erection... .or is it from birth? it's not from birth. I have been having etection almost ten times a day before the initial trial. |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by sayusuf(m): 9:58am On Mar 19, 2017 |
OmaniPadmeHum:
Hahahaha
YOU ONLY HAVE WHAT IS CALLED
PERFORMANCE ANXIETY
you panic and have conditioned your mind with that first incident.
IT IS NOT SPIRITUAL. Naaaaah. It is psychological. You have been psychologically scarred due to the experience at the brothel. You feel you are going to fail again and again.
U said it all. d fear that you are going to fail will never allowed you have erection. I will advise you to get a woman that will stay with you for few weeks, let her know that there is no sex, no any form of intimacy, in less than a week, your fears will be gone, nd u will beg her for sex 7 Likes |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by idiagbo86(m): 9:58am On Mar 19, 2017 |
Bros,kindly see a good urologist. If u were staying in enugu I could have directed u to one genius.professor francis.if u still wanna meet him kindly send me a mail.evagreen4real29@yahoo.com.goodluck! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by SeniorZato(m): 9:58am On Mar 19, 2017 |
Guy. Na book u for write ooo |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by GAZZUZZ(m): 9:59am On Mar 19, 2017 |
helpforever: My story is longer than this but I cannot remember all for now.
Mods please, I need this on the frontpage.
Lalasticlala Seun RoyalRoy Get your. Blood pumping, start to exercise,. You do not exercise. Jog every morning for 1month then come back and testify. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by NeedGiftcards(m): 9:59am On Mar 19, 2017 |
Neddstark: You are not alone bro. My own problem is that i dont cum easily. I only cumm during masturbation. Now I'm trying to quit masturbation completely. Perhaps it could solve it. For what i think, you aren't impotent. You just need a sex therapist and a very patient sex partner This your own is self inflicted baba.. When you masturbate, you empty your seminal vesicles of sperm. This takes days to be replaced.. Try not masturbating like 2 weeks before sex and watch it rain . seriously tho ..I'm a med student. 8 Likes |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by urchman23: 9:59am On Mar 19, 2017 |
My friend there's nothing absolutely wrong with you, if you can get an erection while watching porn. You are difinately as solid as a rock. Pls. Don't loose a sleep over this. See a sex therpist you only suffering from anxiety attack. |
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by yinkslinks(m): 10:00am On Mar 19, 2017 |
You dey use style find toto for NL. You don fail. We know una type. This article was copied online. Looool olosho boy helpforever: I saw a post about a woman complaining that her sister married an impotent man. I smiled, the man probably knew he had an issue and still went ahead and married. I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.
It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out. Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.
We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.
I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.
Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.
We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.
She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.
Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.
We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.
At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"
I got very scared and left for home immediately.
I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.
Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.
I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection
In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.
Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started masturbating right since I was 17.
He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.
But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation. Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.
I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC
Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened
Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was flirting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurrences.
Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.
Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.
Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.
Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.
Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?
Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?
Because I can remember in late 2012 or early 2013. When I tried to urinate, I had and felt a sharp pain.
I happened for about 2 days and stopped by itself.
I am getting older and my mother is already reminding me about marriage. I don't think I will marry until this issue is resolved. I can't subject any woman to emotional pain.
At some point, I thought I was gay, but I am in no way attracted to men. But I am attracted to women. I tried watch transgender porn to confirm if I was gay (since I couldn't stand real gay porn). I actually got aroused and had a mild erection. But come on, transgenders are women who just have a joystick.
I have put up my issues on a foreign site (because other people who have put up their problems on nairaland gets abused, mocked, insulted and bullied) and I was advised by the whites to see a doctor and counselor. They didn't even understand what I meant by spiritual issue. But they have been very concerned and helpful
I don't need to see any counselor because my case would confuse who ever I tell.
I have been living in pains. No sex life and no real social life. I keep falling out with female friend because I don't make any move towards them.
I keep falling out with male friends, because they keep wondering "why this their guy no dey nack woman like them". They feel I am weird because they 100% know I am not gay and wonder why a normal guy will be avoiding women like this.
I hope my issue is resolved.
But if its not, I would live the rest of my life like this. Probably keep on masturbating and never get married.
It might actually be my excessive masturbation that might be the cause of this. I don't really know. Only God knows.
I am depressed. But suicide is not an option for me. God forbid. |