yeyerolling:
parental blessing has no impact on the success of a marriage. Call her bluff

emperortony:
Are you sure its her and not the money you really love

prechbills1:


what do you mean by bluff?

fancy4eve:
Let's get sumtin straight here, wat an elder see siting down, even if u climb d tallest tree, u will not.

my dear I go wit ur mum, we women pretend a lot, a desperado will do all it takes 2 get wat she want, after d marriage u will see her true character. Assuming d reverse is d case, u been rich nd she is not, my dear she will b humble 2 u for d rest of her lyf. Hv seen so many cases dat later end up in divorce all bcus d man does not hv a say in his house nd been use as rag. Pls tink twice b4 going into sumtin u will regret leta.

yeyerolling:
this is a fallacy. Part of the reason africa is backward. Elders are not always right. My cousin was advised by family not to marry an igbo man cos of their culture. She listen bt as she no see hisband after 2 years she went back. Today the guy is a big business man whose family are well to do also and dont have time for anybody.

prechbills1:
My fiance and I have been dating for the past 3years. I attained 24 last week, I wanted to get married to her last year but I just wanted to wait till I attain 24.
The problem I have now is my mom. She is opposing our marriage because my fiance is 5years older than me, I'm 24 while she's 29.My dad has already endorsed the marriage, I'd have liked to go on with the marriage but I don't think going into marriage without both parents blessing is sensible that's why I need my mom's blessing and endorsement.
My fiance has good character, she's very kind and intelligent, I can't afford to lose her because of pressures from my mom at least I'm an adult.
I don't know what's happening, my mom endorsed our relationship but she doesn't endorse our marriage just because she's 5years older than me. The thing is, I can't leave this lady ,not now not ever, she have done so many things for me.
in fact she even promised to provide 80% of the things needed for the marriage!. She is rich, yes she is, the house I'm in living in now belongs to her, I moved in with her in 2016.
The truth is I love her and I can't afford to lose her because of my mom's wish. Both her parents and my dad have given us go ahead for marriage but my mom still doesn't want me to marry because of age and my fiance is beautiful.
I don't know what do now ,that's why I think I need advice from you guys,.I don't know if I should go ahead with the marriage without my mom's endorsement/blessings.

please advice

prechbills1:
My fiance and I have been dating for the past 3years. I attained 24 last week, I wanted to get married to her last year but I just wanted to wait till I attain 24.
The problem I have now is my mom. She is opposing our marriage because my fiance is 5years older than me, I'm 24 while she's 29.My dad has already endorsed the marriage, I'd have liked to go on with the marriage but I don't think going into marriage without both parents blessing is sensible that's why I need my mom's blessing and endorsement.
My fiance has good character, she's very kind and intelligent, I can't afford to lose her because of pressures from my mom at least I'm an adult.
I don't know what's happening, my mom endorsed our relationship but she doesn't endorse our marriage just because she's 5years older than me. The thing is, I can't leave this lady ,not now not ever, she have done so many things for me.
in fact she even promised to provide 80% of the things needed for the marriage!. She is rich, yes she is, the house I'm in living in now belongs to her, I moved in with her in 2016.
The truth is I love her and I can't afford to lose her because of my mom's wish. Both her parents and my dad have given us go ahead for marriage but my mom still doesn't want me to marry because of age and my fiance is beautiful.
I don't know what do now ,that's why I think I need advice from you guys,.I don't know if I should go ahead with the marriage without my mom's endorsement/blessings.

please advice

fancy4eve:
Let's get sumtin straight here, wat an elder see siting down, even if u climb d tallest tree, u will not.

my dear I go wit ur mum, we women pretend a lot, a desperado will do all it takes 2 get wat she want, after d marriage u will see her true character. Assuming d reverse is d case, u been rich nd she is not, my dear she will b humble 2 u for d rest of her lyf. Hv seen so many cases dat later end up in divorce all bcus d man does not hv a say in his house nd been use as rag. Pls tink twice b4 going into sumtin u will regret leta.

yeyerolling:
this is a fallacy. Part of the reason africa is backward. Elders are not always right. My cousin was advised by family not to marry an igbo man cos of their culture. She listen bt as she no see hisband after 2 years she went back. Today the guy is a big business man whose family are well to do also and dont have time for anybody.

castro316:



 Young woman. Leave The man alone and let him enjoy his life. Is there any marriage that doesn't come with their shortcomings? Let them solve it themselves. He said that he has bbeen with her for more than 3 yrs so he has seen enough to conclude he will stay with her. Why spoil another woman's joy because of what you feel. This is a life decision here and this is what you can give as advice? Even you relationship you are in (that's if you are in one) is it perfect? Don't you guys quarrel once a while? Abegi

prechbills1:
My fiance and I have been dating for the past 3years. I attained 24 last week, I wanted to get married to her last year but I just wanted to wait till I attain 24.
The problem I have now is my mom. She is opposing our marriage because my fiance is 5years older than me, I'm 24 while she's 29.My dad has already endorsed the marriage, I'd have liked to go on with the marriage but I don't think going into marriage without both parents blessing is sensible that's why I need my mom's blessing and endorsement.
My fiance has good character, she's very kind and intelligent, I can't afford to lose her because of pressures from my mom at least I'm an adult.
I don't know what's happening, my mom endorsed our relationship but she doesn't endorse our marriage just because she's 5years older than me. The thing is, I can't leave this lady ,not now not ever, she have done so many things for me.
in fact she even promised to provide 80% of the things needed for the marriage!. She is rich, yes she is, the house I'm in living in now belongs to her, I moved in with her in 2016.
The truth is I love her and I can't afford to lose her because of my mom's wish. Both her parents and my dad have given us go ahead for marriage but my mom still doesn't want me to marry because of age and my fiance is beautiful.
I don't know what do now ,that's why I think I need advice from you guys,.I don't know if I should go ahead with the marriage without my mom's endorsement/blessings.

please advice

fancy4eve:

well am not pouring sand into his garri, just saying d fact.
He should man up nd stop lookn 4 were 2 dump his lazy Ass. Well I hate lazy guys nd I believe laziness is involve

prechbills1:
she'd only provide 80% of the things needed for the marriage, I'd provide 20.
I don't know why you guys reason this way

fancy4eve:

well am not pouring sand into his garri, just saying d fact.
He should man up nd stop lookn 4 were 2 dump his lazy Ass. Well I hate lazy guys nd I believe laziness is involve

lwanga1993:
OP.. please don't listen to this castro216.... If you are my brother and have this mentality.. i will tear you better slap to know wether na juju the woman use charm you. your mentality is typical that if a woman... you are just calling yourself a man because you have a dick.. (mind you, am 24 as well)...my dear age is not the barrier here.. the main problem is her paying for the wedding and you see nothing wrong in it..WOW.. ..you even said you moved in with her(interesting)....and from the look of things ,you will gladly change your surname to hers if she asks...
incase you care to listen.. its better you borrow money from your parents to sponsor your wedding than your fiance sponsoring your wedding......... and please respect yourself and go find your own apartment.....
STOP claiming man cos you have a dick. take full control of things happening in your life.

prechbills1:
My fiance and I have been dating for the past 3years. I attained 24 last week, I wanted to get married to her last year but I just wanted to wait till I attain 24.
The problem I have now is my mom. She is opposing our marriage because my fiance is 5years older than me, I'm 24 while she's 29.My dad has already endorsed the marriage, I'd have liked to go on with the marriage but I don't think going into marriage without both parents blessing is sensible that's why I need my mom's blessing and endorsement.
My fiance has good character, she's very kind and intelligent, I can't afford to lose her because of pressures from my mom at least I'm an adult.
I don't know what's happening, my mom endorsed our relationship but she doesn't endorse our marriage just because she's 5years older than me. The thing is, I can't leave this lady ,not now not ever, she have done so many things for me.
in fact she even promised to provide 80% of the things needed for the marriage!. She is rich, yes she is, the house I'm in living in now belongs to her, I moved in with her in 2016.
The truth is I love her and I can't afford to lose her because of my mom's wish. Both her parents and my dad have given us go ahead for marriage but my mom still doesn't want me to marry because of age and my fiance is beautiful.
I don't know what do now ,that's why I think I need advice from you guys,.I don't know if I should go ahead with the marriage without my mom's endorsement/blessings.

please advice

prechbills1:

she'd only provide 80% of the things needed for the marriage, I'd provide 20.

I don't know why you guys reason this way

yeyerolling:
U had mention she is rich and u stay with her. Guy u be gold digger.

lawman88:

Shut up. You be gold and oil digger. Better go to school and finish your university education. I'm sorry for you because you will regret it soon

fancy4eve:
Let's get sumtin straight here, wat an elder see siting down, even if u climb d tallest tree, u will not.

my dear I go wit ur mum, we women pretend a lot, a desperado will do all it takes 2 get wat she want, after d marriage u will see her true character. Assuming d reverse is d case, u been rich nd she is not, my dear she will b humble 2 u for d rest of her lyf. Hv seen so many cases dat later end up in divorce all bcus d man does not hv a say in his house nd been use as rag. Pls tink twice b4 going into sumtin u will regret leta.