NO MONEY

am not afraid just that if you have money you will understand that marriage is scam

what can a woman offer me that i cant buy with my money

sex or children


my girl i wanted to marry in near future , was so desperate to marry this year i explain things to her but she no wan hear i tell a friend and he advised me today my gf no marry again and now i have 3 side chicks and they all beat her both in character and bed champions league

am not sure i can marry her again and am not planing to marry again in next 7 years coming sef

Safiaa:
Commitment issues. Fear of the unknown. Money problems.

The emboldened is the real reason

abiolamitodun:
Why are men scared of getting married and why is the number of baby mama increasing
let's discuss

Hope you Dy speak for yourself

MrBrownJay1:
as the saying goes:"why buy the damn cow when you can get the milk for free?!"

men are not SCARED of marriage, they now realizing that marriage aint shiiit, and you can be legally living with someone, having kids with her, love and care for her, without being taken to the cleaners if ever this r/ship ends. also, at the rate divirce these days, marriage is a gamble, and men might as well stay on the winning side.

marriage is a desperate issue for Nigerian/african women, and their lives depends on it (thats what they've been taught since birth) while to Nigerian/African men, its just a mean to have unrestricted access to a woman's coochie, coupled with a live-in cleaner and cook.

I'm a Nigerian guy and to me, marriage is not about having unrestricted access to a woman's coochie or whatever you call it. Please, keep your shallow mindset to yourself and stop generalizing.

A man needs financial stability b4 marriage...i guess that's de ish

Commitment issues. Fear of the unknown. Money problems.




That's its
Gbam
Gbam

Men are not scared of getting married.
It's just that good women are hard to find.

I can not come and go and marry high blood pressure all in the name of marriage.

If I see a virtues woman today I will marry her before the week runs out.

Im not scared of getting married. Im just scared of not getting married

Safiaa:
[s]every man on the internet is anti marriage now lmao. Pleaseee, cry me a river ahbeg. Women receive pressure as much as men do. You live in Nigeria with Nigerian parents, you cannot be a bachelor forever. When you’re 38, single all your mates are married and can’t hang out as much, lonely, nobody to call your own that’s when you’ll be looking upandan for a wife. The pressure from family and friends will be unreal. It always happens. It’s doing you now because you’re young, everybody lives their life to learn the hard way. Go and look at toks2008 or whatever his name is, he’s a perfect example. Just pray that you’ll find a good wife[/s].

Nonsense....

Women/ladies/girls nowadays don't tire person jare? Fake life and Toooo much waka waka +plus some of them no sabi cook? Even ordinary indo dey no sabi. So na the fear be dat.

There's no longer any moral restraints....and no benefit to men

Safiaa:
Commitment issues. Fear of the unknown. Money problems.

See ya head like commitment
Is it not a living man that will commit

ONE OF THE REASONS MEN DON'T WANNA COMMIT IS BECAUSE......Men don't want to be stabbed by a fish-brained daughter of Eve in the name of anger,jealousy,provocation,presumption or suspicion [countless others]

If you get married in lagos and you're living in lagos, and you're earning below 100k, you'll likely die of frustration

Very simple answer.

Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. ?

I know guys that sleep with their girlfriends more frequently than a lot of married men do with their wives.

Now how in the universe, are you going to convince those guys to marry?

They are getting The full package already.

GeeString:
I won't go into any long sermon on this I'll just speak from personal experience.

No Nigerian woman is worth the trouble ahead. Infidelity is a serious Nigerian girl issue and it won't leave after marriage rather it will only get worse since her lifelong ambition has been fulfilled and she is now at peace.

Nigerian girls are materialistic and selfish. They do not truly understand the term "love".

Every Nigerian girl 25 & above has engaged in prostitution of some sort be it openly or 'coded'. There are corporate oloshos now sef. By prostitution I mean sleeping with a man for financial gain.

They are just not worth it.

I seriously doubt if I'll ever get married to a Nigerian girl. I'll have two kids from 2 different women & that's it.




Quote me & bash me but kindly produce counter-points or disprove my points while you do so. Oh & lest I forget I have no sisters & my mom is late too.

Goodnight.

May God continue to grant you wisdom.

You simply nailed it.

skywalker240:
There are lots factors involved.
1 the ladies always wanting it big (talk of the week)
2 parents and mostly relatives with their heavy billing and conditions.
(our daughter just merit the best )

3 I have to be honest here, tradition is not helping with ridiculous billing (its our tradition and it should be a must 2 do this particular part to complete the rites)
4 peer discouragement, (some of my freinds keep trying 2 instill fear in my mind. Wetin... maKe man pikin reach 40yrs before things go soft ?j )
5 The economy picks 92% problem why young men shy away 4rm it. so they hustle 4rm their mid 20s to early 40s(thats when a man is stable in this )
The expense involved. both traditional marraige and white... abt 2 go and collect the list 4 mine soon. can u beleive what my woman told me?

she said am gonna collect a peice of paper with requirements for the sum of eight 2 h ten thousand naira (dats what her coz told her)

10k 4 just a 53peice of paper

how the main marraige go come be .

Not even that sef,after you might have paid all these bills then in two months time your wife will start misbehaving, replying back at you,abusing you. It's just complicated.

Safiaa:
every man on the internet is anti marriage now lmao. Pleaseee, cry me a river ahbeg. Women receive pressure as much as men do. You live in Nigeria with Nigerian parents, you cannot be a bachelor forever. When you’re 38, single all your mates are married and can’t hang out as much, lonely, nobody to call your own that’s when you’ll be looking upandan for a wife. The pressure from family and friends will be unreal. It always happens. It’s doing you now because you’re young, everybody lives their life to learn the hard way. Go and look at toks2008 or whatever his name is, he’s a perfect example. Just pray that you’ll find a good wife.

not always true

A lot of men at 38 sef don't feel it much, especially when his mates gist him about the horrors they go through in their own marriages

The truth is that marriage to a large extent not worth it to the man here .
the wahala is too much

futprintz:
A man needs financial stability b4 marriage...i guess that's de ish

whats the point of getting married when yiu can't afford a good life for yourself like holidays, abroad shopping e.t.c

Safiaa:
Commitment issues. Fear of the unknown. Money problems.

really? Nigerian girl factor nko?

CSTR1003:
Very simple answer.

Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. ?

I know guys that sleep with their girlfriends more frequently than a lot of married men do with their wives.

Now how in the universe, are you going to convince those guys to marry?

They are getting The full package already.

abiolamitodun:
Why are men scared of getting married and why is the number of baby mama increasing
let's discuss

get out of this thread

GeeString:
I won't go into any long sermon on this I'll just speak from personal experience.

No Nigerian woman is worth the trouble ahead. Infidelity is a serious Nigerian girl issue and it won't leave after marriage rather it will only get worse since her lifelong ambition has been fulfilled and she is now at peace.

Nigerian girls are materialistic and selfish. They do not truly understand the term "love".

Every Nigerian girl 25 & above has engaged in prostitution of some sort be it openly or 'coded'. There are corporate oloshos now sef. By prostitution I mean sleeping with a man for financial gain.

They are just not worth it.

I seriously doubt if I'll ever get married to a Nigerian girl. I'll have two kids from 2 different women & that's it.




Quote me & bash me but kindly produce counter-points or disprove my points while you do so. Oh & lest I forget I have no sisters & my mom is late too.

Goodnight.

sorry for the heartbreak!

Lifeofpolice1:
get out of this thread

A red card?

I broke the guy code or what?

Safiaa:
Commitment issues. Fear of the unknown. Money problems.

And women themselves are annoying, they always complain about everything

& that isn't even the main problem, 90% of women in this era are second hand, a little effort and you get a green light for sex which is extremely disappointing. Very hard to get a decent pure girl nowadays.


For example There are like only two decent women I know on nairaland, even that am just like 98% sure woh

CSTR1003:

A red card?

I broke the guy code or what?

full package is a bais word bro

Lifeofpolice1:
full package is a bais word bro

Really?
Would you mind explaining?

For affordable data,visit my profile.

Grayjoy:
They are the ones promoting racism unknown to them. That kind of mentality is a show of inferiority complex and a sign that they are still in slavery.

and Nigerian women don't do this as well?

abiolamitodun:
Why are men scared of getting married and why is the number of baby mama increasing
let's discuss

It's simple. 90percent of ladies nowadays have seen as a means of business and running away from responsibility and guyz sef Don jah.

GeeString:
I won't go into any long sermon on this I'll just speak from personal experience.

No Nigerian woman is worth the trouble ahead. Infidelity is a serious Nigerian girl issue and it won't leave after marriage rather it will only get worse since her lifelong ambition has been fulfilled and she is now at peace.

Nigerian girls are materialistic and selfish. They do not truly understand the term "love".

Every Nigerian girl 25 & above has engaged in prostitution of some sort be it openly or 'coded'. There are corporate oloshos now sef. By prostitution I mean sleeping with a man for financial gain.

They are just not worth it.

I seriously doubt if I'll ever get married to a Nigerian girl. I'll have two kids from 2 different women & that's it.




Quote me & bash me but kindly produce counter-points or disprove my points while you do so. Oh & lest I forget I have no sisters & my mom is late too.

Goodnight.

LMAO, your post is funny though.

OK, to every general rule there's always an exception. Yes girls are materialistic and selfish but there's a proviso here, it doesn't pertain to Nigerian girls alone. There are still girls in this part of the planet that are humble and not easily moved by money(yes ,they really exist). We all should stop hating on Nigerian women and that stereotype that Nigerian girls are this and that should stop. Search and you'd find some girls that are cool headed, it's just that you're not looking at the right direction.
Personally I believe that a person's character be it boy or girl can be traced to one's family values or some sort. There are some families that imbibe discipline and so someone that comes from such a family (even if he /she is poor) will stick to that values and hold tenaciously to it. Like I said, it all narrows down to home training.


Secondly, it is not an established fact that Nigerian girls who've attained the age of 25years or above are or have been "oloshos " whether corporate or industrial at a certain point in their life. Look around you dude, do I need to remind you of the akara seller in your street that is 25yrs or that fine bread seller whose smile is charming and everyone one wants to go "close "to her but yet she stands her ground and would not succumb because she believes she's worth more than that or that extremely beautiful and brilliant girl in your class or at your workplace who seems to be moving ahead of all her colleagues because she's aiming for the top? We all should stop this general notion that Nigerian girls above 25years are "second hand clothes "or chattels. Fine, there are still some mumu girls that fool around but I don't think it's any of your business because in this life, no one owes you anything or any explanation except if such person borrows your stuff .
There are successful women out there who climbed the ladder of success through hard work and determination. I think you should change the people you hang with though .



This is my one pence though. .

Ugosample:


not always true

A lot of men at 38 sef don't feel it much, especially when his mates gist him about the horrors they go through in their own marriages

The truth is that marriage to a large extent not worth it to the man here .
the wahala is too much

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