oluwakekz:
Hello. Please a kind advice is all I need .
Have being dating this lady since last year December 8months now.....I meet her at her sister place that happen to be my mum neighbour when she came for a visit. She just finish school and looking for a job. We where both looking for job for her even if its far of her place (ekiti) as I thought she should be productive to herself . thought I was lucky ,when she call weeks ago to inform me that a friend call her about one vacancy here in Lagos. I was so happy because I can't do long distance relationship (experience)
She came to my place this said Friday and stay till Sunday. She left for that so call friend place because we think it's not too save to get to the interview venue late . She got the job and we thank God...... After two weeks of resumption, I saw this advice on nairaland that talk about 10 Questions To Ask Your Partner In Order To Build Trust "What do you find hard to talk about with me?" She said " nothing " I try talk to her to open up because I can't settle down with someone that will hide anything from me ,then she said my ex got me this job . she's keep in contact with him. I ask her" we've being together for three days ,you left my house for your ex house and pass the night there? You keep contact with him without telling me all this while? You guys have being seeing each other since you resume(two weeks? All she keep saying is am not cheating on you..... I really love her and am confuse right now. Please I need advice on what to do please because am just tired right now.

Bidobado:


She's hiding something.

SenorFax:
I still keep contact with my exes, even helped them whenever they need one, and I've never for once cheated on my babe.

Who knows

abokibuhari:
Forget it cause anybody way go chop ex go chop ex

I feel your pain bro, but everybody na somebody ex so how we go do am...

oluwakekz:
helping them is cool.plus I don't understand what you saying .

oluwakekz:
like what will that be...?..... Hope mode will take this to front page...please

oluwakekz:
am just too loyal to be this pain,it hurt bro,it does hurt me so dearly .

Auladimeji:
Which stupid mode.I don't why so guy feels like god.If she's jobless, won't you call her leech.
Now answer this question; If your ex girlfriend connects you to a job,will you tell her or decline the job.
You don't have any right to control her.
You are not her husband

VampireeM:
So she shouldnt be friends with her ex because you are who? Thats how she would have missed this job connection. you are just an insecure dude. Fiancée kor, if you serious marry her, get her a better job and dish rules as you like. You better grow up and act like a man and stop seeking validation from a faceless forum

oluwakekz:
..... Please read what I write again. Am not playing the defensive side.... Am not saying she should not reach out for help nor saying am demi god .what happen to communication to build trust, ex is ex so?

Auladimeji:
Some of you thinks all ex are pervert .I communicate with my ex even though we are not dating again.
Nairaland has corrupted your mind.
She told you that she doesn't cheat on you, believe her

NnamdiN:
Lol you asked her and she answered truthfully, why are you vexing? Would you have preferred a lie?

Next time only ask questions you can handle their answers otherwise don't ask at all...
You read something on NL and fiam you clicked the apply button. Lwkmd
Some of the BS you read here na oyibo write am and it applies to them mostly. You will murder your babe if you apply everything you read on NL

I needed this post jare, been having a terrible week, thanks for the humor
BS means bulllshiit

VampireeM:
So she shouldnt be friends with her ex because you are who? Thats how she would have missed this job connection. you are just an insecure dude. Fiancée kor, if you serious marry her, get her a better job and dish rules as you like. You better grow up and act like a man and stop seeking validation from a faceless forum

Bluezy13:


The point here is that the guy is not Comfortable with her hiding it.
She should have told him.

oluwakekz:
funny how most people get this all wrong..... How do we build trust if there's no true communication..... To me, I don't think its healthy visiting your ex without telling me and passing night there (its two weeks )

Bluezy13:


The point here is that the guy is not Comfortable with her hiding it.
She should have told him.

oluwakekz:
we've being together for three days ,you left my house for your ex house and pass the night there? You keep contact with him without telling me all this while? You guys have being seeing each other since you resume(two weeks? All she keep saying is am not cheating on you..... I really love her and am confuse right now. Please I need advice on what to do please because am just tired right now.

SillyeRabbit:
The issue is why did she sleep at her ex house without telling the current guy she is dating? Op, she's not innocent at all.

FOR THE SAKE OF LOVE THIS MAN WILL ONLY CRY FOR A FEW DAYS AND WAVE EVERYTHING ASIDE. HE'S GETTING NOTHING FROM HER.. NO HONESTY, NO APOLOGIES, NO LOYALTY.
LOVE CAUSES THE BRAIN TO MALFUNCTION SOMETIMES.

SillyeRabbit:
When you are dating a girl, always ask questions to the core and frequently check her Whatsapp chats. You are nothing but coward if you can't tell your babe to see her chats online. The issue is why did she sleep at her ex house without telling the current guy she is dating? Op, she's not innocent at all.

oluwakekz:
... That's being insecure ....checking her phone and all that seriously. If she can hide this ? Then she can do something even more hurting next.I think!

Jennifer15:
She might be telling the truth...just be observing her...Let things flow as its has been flowing between you as usual.