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Ximenez:
'"Give him back the 100k'"
What if the amount the boyfriend lent her in time of her need is 1m. Would you have said give him back the 1m. And you even went ahead to say 700k is too much to lend a man, but it's not too much to gift to a lady abi.

highqueen:
been long i checked up and ask how the stuff is going down with you, and it was just a situation thats out of my control, thats why i said you shoudnt vex for me too soon biko

khalazi:
Why?

BrokenCock:
u sound like a FRAUDSTER!!

Ximenez:
'Give him back the 100k' What if the amount the boyfriend lent her in time of her need is 1m. Would you have said give him back the 1m. And you even went ahead to say 700k is too much to lend a man, but it's not too much to gift to a lady abi.

By the way Op, here is my advice for you. Looking at your bankroll, it will be unwise for you to give him that amount, because you are also a businesswoman and your business might suffer as a result.

In addition, i don't think you love him, because if you do, you would have given him that money without having to seek advice from total strangers. That's how powerful love is, it makes you do stupid things, illogical things. So you don't love him, just like 99% of the couples we have around these days, you are just together for relationship sake.

highqueen:
MND44 LALÀSTICLALA SÈUN DÔMINIQUE please do the needful, i wont tolerate such uncouth word from this boy

Suzzyyy:
You are too rude, this is 700k we are talking about, my life savings not that I don't wnt to help, I love him so much tht I cnt see him sad, I just want advice to know if Im doing the right thing, dassall.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
That guy is asking for almost all of op's savings and u typed this? What's 100k help if he had more 6 figures in his account?

Iamgrey5:
Naa

Everything is fine

I already told you it is happening in October tho.

Just under three weeks from now.

Suzzyyy:
You are too rude, this is 700k we are talking about, my life savings not that I don't wnt to help, I love him so much tht I cnt see him sad, I just want advice to know if Im doing the right thing, dassall.

madridguy:
Don't borrow anyone amount you cannot let go. My kobo

BlackAfrican:
I sound like someone with a broken cöck... Mugu

KMSunshine:
You look tired at dp can tell from your face, what happened?

CAPSLOCKED:
PEOPLE OF NAIRALAND CAN YOU SEE WHAT'S HAPPENING NOW? HAHA..

NOW SHE'S CRYING FOUL AND CLAIMING THE VICTIM... WHEREAS, WHILE I WAS RELAXING ON MY OWN THIS WALKING NUISANCE MENTIONED ME WITH DEROGATORY REMARKS... Don't mind them. They hate being corrected ..always the first to throw their dirty mouth out..dirty how's everywhere.



I TRIED TO PUT HER IN HER PLACE AND NOW SHE'S CALLING THE POLICE. HAHAHA.

WHAT'S THE WORST THAT'S GONNA HAPPEN? A BAN FOR.. 1 DAY. OR 1 YEAR. OR 10 DECADES.
WHILE YOU GET YOUR CONTINUED LIFE OF IMMATURITY, SENSELESSNESS, AND ENDLESS MISERY.
THAT MOTOR PARK YOU WERE BORN AND BROUGHT UP AS A COMMON TOUT IS THE PLACE YOU'LL LIVE AND DIE.

CAPSLOCKED:
PEOPLE OF NAIRALAND CAN YOU SEE WHAT'S HAPPENING NOW? HAHA..

NOW SHE'S CRYING FOUL AND CLAIMING THE VICTIM... WHEREAS, WHILE I WAS RELAXING ON MY OWN THIS WALKING NUISANCE MENTIONED ME WITH DEROGATORY REMARKS...



I TRIED TO PUT HER IN HER PLACE AND NOW SHE'S CALLING THE POLICE. HAHAHA.

WHAT'S THE WORST THAT'S GONNA HAPPEN? A BAN FOR.. 1 DAY. OR 1 YEAR. OR 10 DECADES.
WHILE YOU GET YOUR CONTINUED LIFE OF IMMATURITY, SENSELESSNESS, ENDLESS MISERY.

Suzzyyy:
Hello Nairalanders! Plz help! I hv been scared and confused abt a risk I want to tk so I decided to share for advice.

Im 29 and I hv a boyfriend who is 33. We hv been happily dating for close to 3 years now, he once helped me financially in a good way with 100k when I had problem with my little business, then he was doing pretty fine with his business, I sell plastics and hez into cloth business. But somtin happened last 2 months, he had terrible problems with his business and lost almost everything including his shop and in a bid to salvage his situation he ended up owing many pple, when all these started he didn't tell me, thou hez a kind of person that likes handling his problem alone without disturbing or telling me which I don't like bcus it somehow makes me feel less important and useful to him, I got to know when he changed, his attitude, moods and everything changed, hez always disturbed, thinking and always visiting pple, he payed less concern and attention to me, don't even call and when I call, he will be in a haste to end it, I became confused, so I had to asked what was going on, he said nothing, I got upset and insisted he must tell me, he then opened up, I felt so bad and almost cried, since then I have been trying to maintain his upkeep and sometimes give him money which hez not comfortable with.

The problem now Is that im scared, he asked for a huge amount of money from me which is 700k, he wants to start all over again in his cloth business and also clear some debt, and I can only boast of 820k home and abroad as a business woman, i just feel he saw my account balance before asking for this, Im scared to loose the money and him too. I love this guy but im so scared of doing this, he helped me when I needed money, but this sacrifice is bigger than me, he showed and detailed everything he will be doing with the money, Im just confused to gamble with my life savings, I know I might sound ungrateful what if the business or our relationship crumble? Won't I be stranded and doomed? My business is not that strong and we all know how most of sacrifices like this ended for people. Is this kind of risk worth doing for a boyfriend

Plz advice me on what to do, plz.

CAPSLOCKED:
PEOPLE OF NAIRALAND CAN YOU SEE WHAT'S HAPPENING NOW? HAHA..

NOW SHE'S CRYING FOUL AND CLAIMING THE VICTIM... WHEREAS, WHILE I WAS RELAXING ON MY OWN THIS WALKING NUISANCE MENTIONED ME WITH DEROGATORY REMARKS...



I TRIED TO PUT HER IN HER PLACE AND NOW SHE'S CALLING THE POLICE. HAHAHA.

WHAT'S THE WORST THAT'S GONNA HAPPEN? A BAN FOR.. 1 DAY. OR 1 YEAR. OR 10 DECADES.
WHILE YOU GET YOUR CONTINUED LIFE OF IMMATURITY, SENSELESSNESS, ENDLESS MISERY.

emmaodet:
Saff, good evening. Did you just say you can't give your hubby 700k?
Waoooooo, what a life but it is okay if the man raises 700k to set up is wife?
Then am beginning to wonder if relationships or marriage really Worth it sef, i think it is all scam.

Why? Because am 32 yrs old and 5 yrs in marriage and have taken loan of 2.5m twice making 5m to set up my wife who is a graduate but has no job but unfortunately we lost the money due to bad business plan and preparation.
Now the question is, assuming my wife is the one working but am jobless or struggling when we were dating, will she marry me? Probably not because she will think am not ready to settle down or not in are level as the case may be but since am the one on advantage, it is okay for me to go down and pick hevup, dust her up and support her but when it is the ladies turn, they will dump our ass.
The question still remains, does relationship or marriage really worth it for guys at all? Just thinking

Suzzyyy:
Hello Nairalanders! Plz help! I hv been scared and confused abt a risk I want to tk so I decided to share for advice.

Im 29 and I hv a boyfriend who is 33. We hv been happily dating for close to 3 years now, he once helped me financially in a good way with 100k when I had problem with my little business, then he was doing pretty fine with his business, I sell plastics and hez into cloth business. But somtin happened last 2 months, he had terrible problems with his business and lost almost everything including his shop and in a bid to salvage his situation he ended up owing many pple, when all these started he didn't tell me, thou hez a kind of person that likes handling his problem alone without disturbing or telling me which I don't like bcus it somehow makes me feel less important and useful to him, I got to know when he changed, his attitude, moods and everything changed, hez always disturbed, thinking and always visiting pple, he payed less concern and attention to me, don't even call and when I call, he will be in a haste to end it, I became confused, so I had to asked what was going on, he said nothing, I got upset and insisted he must tell me, he then opened up, I felt so bad and almost cried, since then I have been trying to maintain his upkeep and sometimes give him money which hez not comfortable with.

The problem now Is that im scared, he asked for a huge amount of money from me which is 700k, he wants to start all over again in his cloth business and also clear some debt, and I can only boast of 820k home and abroad as a business woman, i just feel he saw my account balance before asking for this, Im scared to loose the money and him too. I love this guy but im so scared of doing this, he helped me when I needed money, but this sacrifice is bigger than me, he showed and detailed everything he will be doing with the money, Im just confused to gamble with my life savings, I know I might sound ungrateful what if the business or our relationship crumble? Won't I be stranded and doomed? My business is not that strong and we all know how most of sacrifices like this ended for people. Is this kind of risk worth doing for a boyfriend

Plz advice me on what to do, plz.

madridguy:
Don't borrow anyone amount you cannot let go. My kobo

Suzzyyy:
Hez hardly make promises he can't fulfill because he likes keeping his words and he has never for one day ask for money from me if not this one