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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by bukatyne(f): 12:20pm On Nov 12, 2018

ramselly:
My Relationship Is Tearing Me Apart

Hello Nairalanders!

Please i need mature advice only.

I and my girlfriend have been dating since 2015, she has always been supportive in everything and every business i do, thou we dont stay in same part of the country.

I have always told her i cannot settle for less and i cannot get married to a lady who cannot manage her resources and make do with what was available as i want the best for us. In 2016 we talked about setting up something for her to do so as to keep her busy and so i had to enrol her to catering school where she learnt baking n so many more. Fast farward to 2017 january, we planned in opening a shop for her, in july 2017 she got the quotation of roughly 700k for the shop opening the shop and buying Goods for the shop, In september 2017 i sent her 500k for her to commense with the opening of the shop but to my greatest suprise she never used the money for the purpose rather she used it in settling family issues. Its been a year now and i intend quitting the relationship because its not what i planned 4. Please i need matured advice. Sorry if my points re not clear enough.

@OP:

Weaknesses of your girlfriend:
1. She has no ambitions
2. She is not straight forward: It took you finding out that the funds were misappropriated aka used for her family.
3. Her family is not straight forward either; for someone who has no visible source of income, N500k is a huge amount of money. It is either they were in on the funds diversion or she told them you gave her. If it is one, they lack self respect and are dubious; if it is two, they are an ungrateful lot else they would have called you to thank you and you would have known.
4. She would not be able to build a loyal home with you without her family intrusion.
5. She is not financially prudent and woe if anything happens to your ability to earn in future.

Verdict: She is not a wife material for you.

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by DanDeeBoss(m): 12:20pm On Nov 12, 2018

xianah:
Talk to her ,what you want and don't...Give her another chance please . ....let her know how you feel about the issue.

Now this is sensible.... You're considerate and wise...

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by 9gerian: 12:21pm On Nov 12, 2018

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by Uguruzik(m): 12:21pm On Nov 12, 2018

henrybomb:
First, never post issues like this on social medium because some people here are just sick up there while a few of them are reasonable.
Second, you shouldn't leave her because of that I know 500k is not small but you guys should talk about it.
She probably didn't think it through spending that amount on family issues because I think she shouldn't have done that, to be on the safer side make your findings properly

The money in question might have been spent on another guy.

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by Psoul(m): 12:21pm On Nov 12, 2018

ramselly:
My Relationship Is Tearing Me Apart

Hello Nairalanders!

Please i need mature advice only.

I and my girlfriend have been dating since 2015, she has always been supportive in everything and every business i do, thou we dont stay in same part of the country.

I have always told her i cannot settle for less and i cannot get married to a lady who cannot manage her resources and make do with what was available as i want the best for us. In 2016 we talked about setting up something for her to do so as to keep her busy and so i had to enrol her to catering school where she learnt baking n so many more. Fast farward to 2017 january, we planned in opening a shop for her, in july 2017 she got the quotation of roughly 700k for the shop opening the shop and buying Goods for the shop, In september 2017 i sent her 500k for her to commense with the opening of the shop but to my greatest suprise she never used the money for the purpose rather she used it in settling family issues. Its been a year now and i intend quitting the relationship because its not what i planned 4. Please i need matured advice. Sorry if my points re not clear enough.

My brother what do you expect? I will blame you for this. Most times, I don't understand hw we men think sometimes.Are you testing the girl's ability and capability or just carried away by love?

What I mean is, if you can spend such money to open a business for a lady yet to be your wife, why not get her married straight away and open such business for her under ur roof and supervision? Most people can't be responsible until they have responsibilities.
If the lady was under ur roof, she will not spend that money on her father's family problem. She will remember that she has a husband whose money she is about spending.

Men if you know you love your fiancee so much and want to establish her, please get her married and then establish her as your wife and not just mere fiancee.

You need to understand how most women behave especially wen it comes to money. Help them solve one of their problems, they will believe that the money is much from where u gave them and they will keep asking and keep hoping to get.

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by bongolistik(m): 12:21pm On Nov 12, 2018

The only problem I have with the girls who made dump comments under this thread is not that they made the shallow comments out of their naivety and are willing to learn but those girls hardly change and take correction, and tomorrow you will see them even making more shallow comments than these.

More like unrepentant or never repenting hoe

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by johnydon22(m): 12:22pm On Nov 12, 2018

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

you are an slowpoke

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by izy4all(m): 12:22pm On Nov 12, 2018

ednut1:
she is a useless girl. Better japa. What if u took loan. When i see broke gal or gal with fam ish. I japa st8 up. Dats how a man i know married dat kind gal. He spons all her bros and step bros abroad neglecting his own fam. Today baba is broke wife don japa

Funy dude, bros which one be japa.
i just dey laugh any how here..make i japa before mr japa go japa me

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by bukatyne(f): 12:22pm On Nov 12, 2018

Pureety:
Op you said she used the money in settling family issues? Its not like she used it to go shopping for herself or on frivolous things!!

To her, family comes first, probably she didn't want to be selfish and use the money on herself while her family are in pressing need of money!!

If this is your reason for breaking up then you were never in love with that lady!!

Read this aloud to yourself and type the right thing.

I hope girls like you are few for the sake of the guys with their heads screwed right.

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by LushGreenz: 12:22pm On Nov 12, 2018

Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

WOE BETIDE YOU!!!! Girls like you,and foetuses growing to be you!!! Omo Ale!!!

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by kinibigdeal(m): 12:23pm On Nov 12, 2018

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

Dear Nairalander,

This is the girl op was referring to.

Thanks

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by bukatyne(f): 12:23pm On Nov 12, 2018

Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

Another one.

Nigerian men ti gbe!

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by MissRaine69(f): 12:23pm On Nov 12, 2018

ramselly:
My Relationship Is Tearing Me Apart

Hello Nairalanders!

Please i need mature advice only.

I and my girlfriend have been dating since 2015, she has always been supportive in everything and every business i do, thou we dont stay in same part of the country.

I have always told her i cannot settle for less and i cannot get married to a lady who cannot manage her resources and make do with what was available as i want the best for us. In 2016 we talked about setting up something for her to do so as to keep her busy and so i had to enrol her to catering school where she learnt baking n so many more. Fast farward to 2017 january, we planned in opening a shop for her, in july 2017 she got the quotation of roughly 700k for the shop opening the shop and buying Goods for the shop, In september 2017 i sent her 500k for her to commense with the opening of the shop but to my greatest suprise she never used the money for the purpose rather she used it in settling family issues. Its been a year now and i intend quitting the relationship because its not what i planned 4. Please i need matured advice. Sorry if my points re not clear enough.

Did you make independent enquires about the quotes she gave you or did you just trust her word?
The problem is some women will never have that sense of responsibility they take what they are given for granted. So what was her plan once she had redistributed your money like the IMF? That’s a conversation that you should have? Is she expecting you to give her more money?
Use this time to learn from your mistakes, walk away as this is situation will only frustrate you. Honesty and integrity are the some of the core elements of a relationship. You don’t have any of that at the moment.

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by Jbleenk: 12:23pm On Nov 12, 2018

ramselly:
My Relationship Is Tearing Me Apart

Hello Nairalanders!

Please i need mature advice only.

I and my girlfriend have been dating since 2015, she has always been supportive in everything and every business i do, thou we dont stay in same part of the country.

I have always told her i cannot settle for less and i cannot get married to a lady who cannot manage her resources and make do with what was available as i want the best for us. In 2016 we talked about setting up something for her to do so as to keep her busy and so i had to enrol her to catering school where she learnt baking n so many more. Fast farward to 2017 january, we planned in opening a shop for her, in july 2017 she got the quotation of roughly 700k for the shop opening the shop and buying Goods for the shop, In september 2017 i sent her 500k for her to commense with the opening of the shop but to my greatest suprise she never used the money for the purpose rather she used it in settling family issues. Its been a year now and i intend quitting the relationship because its not what i planned 4. Please i need matured advice. Sorry if my points re not clear enough.

Aww poor girl. She must have been overwhelmed by her family problems.

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by 9gerian: 12:24pm On Nov 12, 2018

Ah! Is this for real or pure sarcasm? shocked

Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by Ursulaa(f): 12:24pm On Nov 12, 2018

She shouldn't have used the money for any other thing no matter how serious the family ish is and even if she wanted to..she should have asked of ur opinion since u were the one who sent the money and for a particular purpose... she is very wrong...
but hey maybe u should reconsider the quitting stuff

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by Lefteee: 12:24pm On Nov 12, 2018

Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!

Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

Aunty HoeLoSho... weldone ma... ride on ma.

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by adetayo234: 12:24pm On Nov 12, 2018

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

If your blood brother tells you this story about his fiancee, will you still make this comment? So this rubbish look normal to you? Your comments tells a lot about the quality of your life.

Girl, use that thing you call a brain; that is, if makeup and hair products haven't destroyed it.

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by izy4all(m): 12:24pm On Nov 12, 2018

na so

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by bukatyne(f): 12:26pm On Nov 12, 2018

highqueen:
Mtchew.
You are very stingy.
To even think that you spent months before sending the damn money after she helped you with your business and everything.
She has been supportive yet you still wanna wave that off by quitting.
Na your type deh tell their wives not to help their family members.
Mtchew

Again?

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by adetayo234: 12:27pm On Nov 12, 2018

Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!

Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

Any man that dates your type will live in regrets for the rest of his life. People like you are sources of bitterness and destruction.

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by anigbajumo(m): 12:27pm On Nov 12, 2018

vickydevoka:
My advice to any real guy. Never date a gal from a poor home. Forget beauty reason urself n future first dats y I luv my elder bro. Left him first gal friend n got marry to another now his doing wonderfully well she makes money u also make money. As a hustling guy beauty should not come first potential n skills should be ur priority.
N I repeat

Never marry from a poor home if u are a real -G

God bless u bro

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by shugabasbn: 12:27pm On Nov 12, 2018

ramselly:
My Relationship Is Tearing Me Apart

Hello Nairalanders!

Please i need mature advice only.

I and my girlfriend have been dating since 2015, she has always been supportive in everything and every business i do, thou we dont stay in same part of the country.

I have always told her i cannot settle for less and i cannot get married to a lady who cannot manage her resources and make do with what was available as i want the best for us. In 2016 we talked about setting up something for her to do so as to keep her busy and so i had to enrol her to catering school where she learnt baking n so many more. Fast farward to 2017 january, we planned in opening a shop for her, in july 2017 she got the quotation of roughly 700k for the shop opening the shop and buying Goods for the shop, In september 2017 i sent her 500k for her to commense with the opening of the shop but to my greatest suprise she never used the money for the purpose rather she used it in settling family issues. Its been a year now and i intend quitting the relationship because its not what i planned 4. Please i need matured advice. Sorry if my points re not clear enough.

U didn't tell us the type of issues she used the money on. Some issues if it related to life and death or something worse may God serve us from them, if u have Billions u will not know when u will open your account

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by Semperito31(f): 12:28pm On Nov 12, 2018*

IamD18:
Another lover-boy scammed.

On no account should you invest on any woman aside your female siblings[Mum, sisters, wife and daughters].

Girfriend are hoes and epitome of problems, they don't worth the stress and investment.

The only thing you should invest on a girlfriend is nothing but your sperm, because that's the only thing that will yield something good. Anything other than that will be a big WASTE.

I'll to advice you flee from that lady if you want to be successful and live long.

You are so myopic in your thinking! He demanded for a sincere advice and you are hear talking gibberish, Thank God you have a girlfriend or wife and sisters, am very u aren't aware they are also affected by the nonsense u just vomited. You lick your sour semen �

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by Josh44s(m): 12:28pm On Nov 12, 2018

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

Thunder turn you into ashes there! I pray one yahoo boi use you do ritual. Idiot!

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by Damfostopper(m): 12:29pm On Nov 12, 2018

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

it's ur type that I cum on the face.... oloribruku..... you deserved to be mixed with rat poison and use for ritual .......Ekpo unam ikot mkpo.....

abeg japa

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by Psoul(m): 12:29pm On Nov 12, 2018

Pureety:
Op you said she used the money in settling family issues? Its not like she used it to go shopping for herself or on frivolous things!!

To her, family comes first, probably she didn't want to be selfish and use the money on herself while her family are in pressing need of money!!

If this is your reason for breaking up then you were never in love with that lady!!

Irrational defense. So if the man had not given her the money, her parents wouldn't have bn able to solve the problem.
The money was given to her by a man that was planning to marry her for a definite purpose. Did she aver think of the negative impression it will create in the mind of her to be husband.

Let me ask you. Had it bn that it was a Pastor that this money was given for church building, and he use part of it to solve his pressing family problem and when this money is needed and he tell them that he used part of it to solve a family pressing issues, will you still say:

Op you said she used the money in settling family issues? Its not like she used it to go shopping for herself or on frivolous things!!

To her, family comes first, probably she didn't want to be selfish and use the money on herself while her family are in pressing need of money

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by adetayo234: 12:30pm On Nov 12, 2018

Blakjewelry:
please reread what you wrote, and this time think with your brain

How are you sure that hair treatment products haven't destroyed her brain?

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by Nobody: 12:30pm On Nov 12, 2018

Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

In these present times, someone raised 500k and you are calling him broke.

YOU ARE A HOE!

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by bukatyne(f): 12:35pm On Nov 12, 2018

Les:
if you know how old I am, the joke is on you! Evil woman!

At this rate, I agree that those women you quoted are evil.

Only an evil person will not see the wrong the waster aka OP's girlfriend did.

N500k?

And God will not be happy with the OP if he had an immediate family who genuinely needed money during that period.

Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by izy4all(m): 12:35pm On Nov 12, 2018

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

imagine.... babe is devil your elder brother? cos you such a heartless folk

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