Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / New
Stats: 3,152,876 members, 7,817,581 topics. Date: Saturday, 04 May 2024 at 02:49 PM

How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? - Romance (8) - Nairaland

Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Romance / How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? (36864 Views)

She Gave Me Gonorrhea Should I Dump Her? / How Do I Leave A Single Mother Without Hurting Her? / Praise Sam Ogan: "I Won’t Dump My Man Because He Can’t Satisfy Me In Bed" (2) (3) (4)

(1) (2) (3) ... (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) (Reply) (Go Down)

Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by Nobody: 2:19pm On Dec 07, 2018
ikhileomotayo:


Dude this will be my last response to you on this matter. Future mentions from you will be ignored.

Illiterates like you that generalize never make it in life. An example is seen from your profile statement: 99% of Nigerians are scammers. That means you are definitely part of the 99% grin

You are too dull for me to start wasting my time arguing with. Bye boy grin

looool. Your dullness stinks to the high heavens. You clearly are an ideal representation of a dumb negro because even a primary school drop out knows that 1% of the Nigeria's entire population is not equal to 1.

Do yourself and this country a huge favour and cut off your d1ck so you don't father unproductive dullards like your miserable self. We have had enough of you already. tueh!!!

All these touts with crayfish brains.
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by alhassanyusuf29(m): 2:20pm On Dec 07, 2018
ur argument has no basis, ur just being sentimental and emotional... if not, state out where it gave him out, i just see ur desperation in trying to force him into a marriage his not certain about
koyyes:


His post gave him away. If you clearly do not see it then there is no point harping on it. He can either take my advice or leave it and see what will result.
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by SexExpert(m): 2:24pm On Dec 07, 2018
You didn't have to talk about the sex. Totally unnecessary.

Meanwhile, speak to her specifically about any aspects of her attitude that you are not comfortable with.

Listen to her response.
Then give her some time to improve.

If she doesn't, you can speak to her one more time. This way, you are already making it clear what you can or cannot live with. And if you eventually leave her, it would be her who failed to work on certain aspects of her attitude which you clearly explained you can't cope with.

To be fair during such discussions, ask her to also tell you aspects of your attitude that she doesn't feel comfortable with as well. Then make sure you also work on those.

This is what will happen:
Mostly, change is difficult. Its hard to learn how to use the left hand in old age. So human beings don't change much.
But yes, they can if they really work on it.

So she might still be unable to change. Then you can leave after speaking with her at least twice, each with a space of 2-3 months.

And if she actually improves in those areas you talked about, then you have no reason to leave. This means you must be clear and honest about what it is she does you don't like.

I have written this much detail with the hope that others can apply this idea to improve their relationships as well.

Feel free to contact me if you need any relationship advice. You would be in good hands. Please ignore typos, as this was typed on the phone while in transit.

2 Likes

Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by samguru(m): 2:26pm On Dec 07, 2018
Ayanfeoluxyz:
Nah craze dey worry una head. see lame excuses? you knew the relationship would not work yet you kept on having sex with her once again E ti mad SIR!

Watch your word!
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by juniorstar(m): 2:29pm On Dec 07, 2018
Dump wetin, u knew she was not ur taste, yet when she open leg u antenna catch signal. Know u don see wetin u dey find na now u know sey she no be ur kind gal. U even get mind dey compare am with ur ex. My guy u get serious problem and you dey add more to am like play like play.

1 Like

Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by Nobody: 2:29pm On Dec 07, 2018
alhassanyusuf29:
ur argument has no basis, ur just being sentimental and emotional... if not, state out where it gave him out, i just see ur desperation in trying to force him into a marriage his not certain about

On the contrary, I am a realist. It is you who is sentimental otherwise you should have understood my points clearly.

I am not against him ending the relationship. In fact, ending that fake relationship will be one of the few good decisions he will be making as far as 'relationships' are concerned.

My main advice to him is to work on himself and deal with his own baggage before seeking for another relationship OR remain single.

1 Like

Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by Nobody: 2:36pm On Dec 07, 2018
Tell her you have AIDS and you don't want to spoil her life. She will joyously leave you and even run far away from you.
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by stchinedu: 2:41pm On Dec 07, 2018
IamD18:
All of a sudden her antecedents became something to worry about after shifting her pant.
As in ehn....I weak too.

Haba, after shifting and downsizing her pant o.

Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by Wuraola01(f): 2:42pm On Dec 07, 2018
IamD18:
All of a sudden her antecedents became something to worry about after shifting her pant.


grin grin This really got me.

Guys ehn
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by ksbusari(m): 2:42pm On Dec 07, 2018
you can tell her your position an about the relationship. she might control herself. try and do some communication. u be thief sha.
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by Wuraola01(f): 2:44pm On Dec 07, 2018
tamethem:
Tell her you have AIDS and you don't want to spoil her life. She will joyously leave you and even run far away from you.


Guy grin grin!

So, you'll go to that extent if you're in his shoes? shocked
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by ImaIma1(f): 3:02pm On Dec 07, 2018
centboy123456:



when u talk about dump U talk about Nigeria girls cuz u girls are worst all u girls about is money and wen d guy stop giving u money u end d relationship I have made a promise I will never love any Nigeria girls because u girls are good in dumping guys


look at u how many guys have u dump

and for d record the guy own nobody love no be by force and d guy didn't dump her so pls get ur fact right because all Nigeria girls care about is money money money that all no love again if a guy no give u money u no go love am again that how Nigeria girls see love


I am sorry if you have been dumped countless times which has formed your opinion. However, this post is exclusive of all our own experiences and we should look at it based on the two people involved and the information available.

When you point fingers at Nigerian girls, you should also castigate Nigerian men. You guys are not perfect
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by domwas2(m): 3:03pm On Dec 07, 2018
You shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free.

It happens, just be honest about it, either call her on phone that you have something to talk about and if she insisted you say it then tell her how you feel about her, your expectations and your disappointment about the whole thing. Be honest to tell her what you don't like about her and you need a break.

In that case she had learnt something from the relationship about her shortcomings, she can adjust and be a better person in future

You both are in love, it's not your fault or hers you both fall in love but it's your fault you don't know how to handle love and you know what? There is no perfect someone out there. Think about it.
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by CAPSLOCKED: 3:27pm On Dec 07, 2018
ikhileomotayo:

See this he-goat grin
Who told you I have ever being married grin
Your thinking faculty is sub par dude. You're just making a fool of yourself
I despise ignorant people who speak out of their asses angry
THAT PERSON IS A TEENAGE GIRL.
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by mechanics(m): 3:35pm On Dec 07, 2018
AnalQueenluci:
i no my fellow women, do u knw d magnitude of wat we discuss during gathering ? Do u knw hw many of us who belongs?
hahahaha, I don't know o queen, belongs to where, you are making me scared o?
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by faithfull18(f): 3:43pm On Dec 07, 2018
Funny thread. You don't like her but you didn't mind having sex with her. Ladies!!! close your legs!!!

1 Like

Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by Rozaytee: 3:52pm On Dec 07, 2018
samguru:
For mature minds only.

I need your advice on how to dumb a lady which I don't like but we have been dating in the last 5 months.
She was introduced to me by a friend and since then I thought the relationship can lead to marriage but my instinct keeps telling she is not the one.

I have had sex with her anyway but her antecedents is something to worry about as she has been married and the marriage crashed without a child.

I have also married with a male child but the marriage crashed due to crazy intolerable behaviours of my ex.
This lady has shown some signs which my ex possessed and I don't want to experience such marriage again.

Please how do I dump her without having any feeling of guilt.

Please feminists should keep off this thread.
u just a dumb fvck boy

1 Like

Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by Rozaytee: 3:55pm On Dec 07, 2018
BafanaBafana:
I let a lady like that go some weeks ago. Very nice and pretty. But she had some traits which I have seen and don't like in women. She is still hurting but she will be fine. I miss her too.
I told she is nice and the prettiest girl I ever dated but I am not convinced she is the one for me to marry because I loose my peace whenever I think of settling down with her. So it's best I let her go now so I don't end up breaking her heart later, which will be more difficult for her to bear.
i know say u Don tire for her pussy na y u dump am... To taste fresh toto dey hungry u na
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by thunderbabs: 4:08pm On Dec 07, 2018
IamD18:
All of a sudden her antecedents became something to worry about after shifting her pant.

Lol.. Stop overrating shifting of pants jare, someone has gotta do it. Do not forget that some girls initiate shifting of boxer shorts too cheesy
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by Kekekenny(m): 4:11pm On Dec 07, 2018
Ayanfeoluxyz:
Nah craze dey worry una head. see lame excuses? you knew the relationship would not work yet you kept on having sex with her once again E ti mad SIR!


Mumu girl, The guy is asking for a peaceful way to end up a relationship without shielding any blood u re here talking nonsense. Most of u ladies with chicken brain have same evil mentality. is that how they forced your papa to marry your mama? It is not by force to marry her if he is not OK with her character. Same way some ladies does to some guys and ended peacefully. coolAfterall,they both enjoyed the sex they had in the course of the relationship.craze dey worry u.
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by jibrilELsudan: 4:27pm On Dec 07, 2018
Bring her let me fvck her and cum in her mouth. She will never think about you.

Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by AnalQueenluci: 4:33pm On Dec 07, 2018
mechanics:
hahahaha, I don't know o queen, belongs to where, you are making me scared o?
stop joking around joor! U Men dnt fear, u guys wl rather sleep wt a female demon wt wings ! get wisdom here o
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by Toseenlove: 4:34pm On Dec 07, 2018
Amhappy:

But believe me it never the same. Sex introduces another level of intimacy and attachment in a relationship. For young people it's easier to throw away but for matured people like in OP's case,it's different. Many older people defined their relationship from day one. They don't just jump into euphoria of feelings like young people.

Sex Introduces another level of Intimacy and attachment In a relationship. This is absolutely true. Nice one.

1 Like

Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by Toseenlove: 4:37pm On Dec 07, 2018
Rozaytee:
i know say u Don tire for her pussy na y u dump am... To taste fresh toto dey hungry u na

Rozaytee...
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by AnalQueenluci: 4:38pm On Dec 07, 2018
stchinedu:

As in ehn....I weak too.

Haba, after shifting and downsizing her pant o.
dis guy is so ugly
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by stchinedu: 4:58pm On Dec 07, 2018
AnalQueenluci:
dis guy is so ugly
grin cheesy
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by Johilo(m): 5:06pm On Dec 07, 2018
Sup bro.. I undastnd wat u're goin tru rite nw and hw u depended on our advice.. U're truly a good man to have brought up dis thread.. It shows dat u human and u don't want to hurt her even though u want to opt out...
I don't have anytin to contribute but all i have to say is dat u shuld let her knw of ur intension of time.. U're a man, just tell her dat de way tins are goin btween u two u don't tink u can continue wit d relationshp...

1 Like

Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by Cas1741: 5:30pm On Dec 07, 2018
Maybe you are the problem or simply going through what I call, transfer of aggression. This happens when you experience a terrible relationship, not completely healed, get into another one, by perception or paranoia, see the past in the future and microscopically analyze the behavior of your present girl looking for the signs in your past relationship. Or you are doing the same very things that caused your first marriage to crash and she is naturally reacting the same way your past wife reacted. look inwards first. it is always good to learn from the past.

1 Like

Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by Nobody: 5:32pm On Dec 07, 2018
Saffi:
Stupid fools just to open pant and run away. You know how to open your big mouth for sex, but to be a man and tell her how you feel is a problem. I don’t understand this generation, bunch of loser men.

Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by mechanics(m): 5:43pm On Dec 07, 2018
AnalQueenluci:
stop joking around joor! U Men dnt fear, u guys wl rather sleep wt a female demon wt wings ! get wisdom here o
Lolz, am not joking queen, I don't sleep around o, am against him having sex with her na.
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by Nobody: 5:58pm On Dec 07, 2018
Youngzubi:
Nairaland is not the best place to seek for advise on this issue, i'm not trying to say nairaland isn't a good forum to share problems but i do tell you that you won't be getting anything suiting at all. Some will frustrate you while the remaining will keep on quoting anyone who tries to criticize your mistakes. Yes, you actually made a mistake sir,according to what you wrote up there i guess you're a mature man holding to the fact that you already had a wife and a kid before, remember this if you're a Christian, since your wife is not dead anything you do with any other lady both sexually is a sin and unacceptable before the lord, you can't even marry that your so called girlfriend because you already had a wife no matter what the level of misunderstanding between you and your wife might be she is still the one heaven recognize as your partner, So bro i will advise you to talk to that lady you had sex with, apologize to her and make her understand that you guys ain't meant for each other, she might feel heartbroken but the right thing must be done by taking the right steps, don't just end things with her roughly or casually cos she's a human and blood also flows through her vein but anything you do with her sexually is a "SIN" because you have a wife.

So sir do go back and reconcile with your wife after you must have end things with that your woman friend and please don't have sex or anything sexual with her again since its clear to you now that it can't work out between you two.

My opinion tho.


Such Statement are easy to say Young man.
Do you think people facing divorce currently ever planned for it,or see it coming.
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by Ayanfeoluxyz(f): 7:02pm On Dec 07, 2018
Kekekenny:



Mumu girl, The guy is asking for a peaceful way to end up a relationship without shielding any blood u re here talking nonsense. Most of u ladies with chicken brain have same evil mentality. is that how they forced your papa to marry your mama? It is not by force to marry her if he is not OK with her character. Same way some ladies does to some guys and ended peacefully. coolAfterall,they both enjoyed the sex they had in the course of the relationship.craze dey worry u.
See another dumbhead e tiya were sir!

(1) (2) (3) ... (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) (Reply)

Hausa Couple Take Their Pre-Wedding Photoshoot Aboard A Private Jet / 10 Signs A Woman May Have Character Problem / Only Rich Guys Should Have Sexual Relations? A Lady's View

(Go Up)

Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health
religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket

Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10)

Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 64
Disclaimer: Every Nairaland member is solely responsible for anything that he/she posts or uploads on Nairaland.