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Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 1:29pm On Dec 07
samguru:
For mature minds only.

I need your advice on how to dumb a lady which I don't like but we have been dating in the last 5 months.
She was introduced to me by a friend and since then I thought the relationship can lead to marriage but my instinct keeps telling she is not the one.

I have had sex with her anyway but her antecedents is something to worry about as she has been married and the marriage crashed without a child.

I have also married with a male child but the marriage crashed due to crazy intolerable behaviours of my ex.
This lady has shown some signs which my ex possessed and I don't want to experience such marriage again.

Please how do I dump her without having any feeling of guilt.

Please feminists should keep off this thread.
If your happiness matters to you, you won't be asking this question.

Since you aren't comfortable with her why not breakup straight up?

She may be hurt (rather will be hurt) but that is for a given time, while you will save yourself of unhappiness in future.

But must you remarry?

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Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by koyyes: 1:30pm On Dec 07
You have a lot of baggage and this baggage will continue to follow you all your life because you did not keep your vows with your first wife. So no other relationship with any other woman will work.

This is why it is not good for a woman whether single, divorced or widowed to be unevenly yoked with divorced males. Divorced males can never make good homes since they failed to head their previous marriage well.

For example, your choice of words. Any responsible male will not use the word 'dump' when talking about a relationship to a fellow human. I can go on and on about this. But in summary, you are not wired for marriage. You should either change and go back to your ex wife or remain single for life.

Tell your prisoner girlfriend what I have just explained and set her free. Simple.

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Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 1:35pm On Dec 07
wisebrains:
I feared for the unmarried men angry

By dumping this and that, op don't you think you are creating more problem for men out there. How would be more hurt than before and how do you want her to trust other guys after you. Don't get me wrong am not saying you should marry someone you are not at peace with character-wise, but don't you think we all are not perfect and there can never be a perfect marriage or relationship unless we want to be deceiving ourselves, you can only work towards perfect marriage or relationship. All these dumping and picking won't help everyone at the long run, that's why there are many broken homes and relationship.
Are you advising him to marry a misfit when he's clearly not interested just because of her trusting other young men?
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by alhassanyusuf29(m): 1:36pm On Dec 07
Exactly! i dont know why people think he owns her an apology or explanation, is it by force he should marry her over his own happiness undecided
TonyeBarcanista:

If your happiness matters to you, you won't be asking this question.

Since you aren't comfortable with her why not breakup straight up?

She may be hurt (rather will be hurt) but that is for a given time, while you will save yourself of unhappiness in future.

But must you remarry?
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 1:37pm On Dec 07
Cfabregas:
My broda u r already married
Plz kindly go back to ur wife
U have a Son! Common what else r u looking 4!
God has blessed u already!
Go n reconcile with ur wife
Outside dat u r living in sin.
Thanks n God bless u
Are you suggesting he return to a woman he's no longer comfortable with because she has a son for him? This is absurd!
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by ImaIma1(f): 1:40pm On Dec 07
alhassanyusuf29:
yah, you should, however by law you can change ur intention midway before the official contract, which is "marriage", thats why people say their vows on wedding day to signify the contract, not while dating..bcuz while dating u can break up if u feel like, while u cant when married bcuz of the contract he sign


Religion doesn't matter here. And I am not emotional just realistic
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 1:40pm On Dec 07
tosyne2much:
Bro, what's even the essence of marrying someone that will not give you peace?

Most times, it isn't all about "love"
If I have my way I will stay unmarried and procreate through "relationship(s)".

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Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by Glink2018(m): 1:41pm On Dec 07
That's the reason why it's not always good to 'stick out all your head ' when you meet a lady... naturally , ladies are too emotional .....if you have taken time to check all the essential values you want in a lady , there wouldn't be any reason for ' front and back movement'

My brother the truth be told, most break up are always painful....

Now that you know ... please seek counsel . God bless...

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Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by OrireSA(m): 1:43pm On Dec 07
Give me her number I'll buy her love and she'll dump you
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 1:44pm On Dec 07
alhassanyusuf29:
Exactly! i dont know why people think he owns her an apology or explanation, is it by force he should marry her over his own happiness undecided
A friend discovered certain things about his wife after just 11 months of marriage. I encouraged him to forgive her and end the relationship, which he did.

Next the woman started bringing their priests (Rev Father), family members etc to seek reconciliation! Meanwhile this my guy's mind is made and he could murder her if they are together.

I urged him not to shift ground except he is willing but he must be prepared to live with the consequences. Thankfully, he heeded my advice and is now a happy youngman again.

In life our personal happiness is MORE important than opinion of people as long as our happiness is not at anybody's detriment.

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Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by alhassanyusuf29(m): 1:47pm On Dec 07
please dont generalize, there are a lot of divorce males that i know personally and dont know that are in a happy marriage till date..u wrote all this epistle thinking that u made sense, but the truth is that nothing u said is rational and logical
koyyes:
You have a lot of baggage and this baggage will continue to follow you all your life because you did not keep your vows with your first wife. So no other relationship with any other woman will work.

This is why it is not good for a woman whether single, divorced or widowed to be unevenly yoked with divorced males. Divorced males can never make good homes since they failed to head their previous marriage well.

For example, your choice of words. Any responsible male will not use the word 'dump' when talking about a relationship to a fellow human. I can go on and on about this. But in summary, you are not wired for marriage. You should either change and go back to your ex wife or remain single for life.

Tell your prisoner girlfriend what I have just explained and set her free. Simple.
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by koyyes: 1:51pm On Dec 07
alhassanyusuf29:
please dont generalize, there are a lot of divorce males that i know personally and dont know that are in a happy marriage till date..u wrote all this epistle thinking that u made sense, but the truth is that nothing u said is rational and logical

If your sight has become blurry, do well to get reading glasses and read my comment again and again so you get my point.

Where exactly did I mention he should remain with his girlfriend to avoid heart break. ? undecided
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by alhassanyusuf29(m): 1:53pm On Dec 07
bros, im sorry but ur point of argument doesnt make sense at all!!!!!!, u would have made more sense if u kept quiet..so bcuz she will have issues trusting other men if he breaks up with her, he should go along and marry her even if it will make him unhappy, sad, miserable, depressed and regretful in the marriage?

Yes, there is no perfect relationship, but u can make an environment for a potential one, and he clearly feels it wont be possible with the lady, so why cant he move on and try somewhere else..if he marries this one, and ends up unhappy, are u the one to bare the burden or him? undecided
wisebrains:
I feared for the unmarried men angry

By dumping this and that, op don't you think you are creating more problem for men out there. How would be more hurt than before and how do you want her to trust other guys after you. Don't get me wrong am not saying you should marry someone you are not at peace with character-wise, but don't you think we all are not perfect and there can never be a perfect marriage or relationship unless we want to be deceiving ourselves, you can only work towards perfect marriage or relationship. All these dumping and picking won't help everyone at the long run, that's why there are many broken homes and relationship.
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by tosyne2much(m): 1:53pm On Dec 07
TonyeBarcanista:

If I have my way I will stay unmarried and procreate through "relationship(s)".

Bro, there's no guarantee on marital matters.. What if it's your children that end up frustrating your life? cheesy
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by koyyes: 1:55pm On Dec 07
alhassanyusuf29:
please dont generalize, there are a lot of divorce males that i know personally and dont know that are in a happy marriage till date..u wrote all this epistle thinking that u made sense, but the truth is that nothing u said is rational and logical

If it helps, use coke or fanta to swallow the bitter pill. Majority of divorced males never make good homes. They will continue making the same mistakes over and over again until they have been married and divorced up to 3/4 times with illegitimate kids scattered all around.
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by alhassanyusuf29(m): 1:56pm On Dec 07
No, the religion aspect has nothing to do with this, im just asking out of curiosity bcuz i am one
ImaIma1:


Religion doesn't matter here. And I am not emotional just realistic
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by ikhileomotayo: 1:58pm On Dec 07
koyyes:


If it helps, use coke or fanta to swallow the bitter pill. Majority of divorced males never make good homes. They will continue making the same mistakes over and over again until they have been married and divorced up to 3/4 times with illegitimate kids scattered all around.


Where did you get this fact and statistics from undecided

My friend you are saying rubbish. Just admit that you goofed and lets forget about it grin
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by ImaIma1(f): 1:59pm On Dec 07
alhassanyusuf29:
No, the religion aspect has nothing to do with this, im just asking out of curiosity bcuz i am one


No I am not Muslim
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by alhassanyusuf29(m): 1:59pm On Dec 07
you said "majority", which means there are possibilities of making a good home, so why not give him the benefit of doubt in trying to make a good home for himself

and where did u get the statistics of "majority of diverocee dont make a good house from?"
koyyes:


If it helps, use coke or fanta to swallow the bitter pill. Majority of divorced males never make good homes. They will continue making the same mistakes over and over again until they have been married and divorced up to 3/4 times with illegitimate kids scattered all around.

Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by koyyes: 2:00pm On Dec 07
ikhileomotayo:


Where did you get this fact and statistics from undecided

My friend you are saying rubbish. Just admit that you goofed and lets forget about it grin

Be humble and swallow the bitter pill. Its not easy being told what your future looks like if you don't start making changes.
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by alhassanyusuf29(m): 2:00pm On Dec 07
ohh ok.. i saw it on ur bio thats why i was asking, had to check it to see if its a fine babe im arguing withsmiley
ImaIma1:


No I am not Muslim
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by ikhileomotayo: 2:02pm On Dec 07
koyyes:


Be humble and swallow the bitter pill. Its not easy being told what your future looks like if you don't start making changes.

See this he-goat grin

Who told you I have ever being married grin

Your thinking faculty is sub par dude. You're just making a fool of yourself

I despise ignorant people who speak out of their asses angry
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by koyyes: 2:03pm On Dec 07
alhassanyusuf29:
you said "majority", which means there are possibilities of making a good home, so why not give him the benefit of doubt in trying to make a good home for himself

and where did u get the statistics of "majority of diverocee dont make a good house from?"

I can't give him a benefit of doubt because he clearly hasn't learnt his lessons yet. And if he doesn't change, he will keep repeating them.
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by koyyes: 2:05pm On Dec 07
ikhileomotayo:


See this he-goat grin

Who told you I have ever being married grin

Your thinking faculty is sub par dude. You're just making a fool of yourself

I despise ignorant people who speak out of their asses angry

Chai, your power of deductive reasoning is very poor. Where in my statement did I imply you are married? What does 'future' mean to you?

Are you smart enough to head any home at all? undecided
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 2:06pm On Dec 07
tosyne2much:
Bro, there's guarantee on marital matters.. What if it's your children that end up frustrating your life? cheesy
How possible? I believe in the saying that "as you lay your bed so you will lie on it".

Children are harmless and innocent from infancy, the way you raise them will greatly determine how they turn out.

And NO, No child can be a source of frustration to me, that happening means I failed my duty as a father and I sure have a template on raising my children (ironically, this is one reason I dread babymamas lol)

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Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by almakiyyun: 2:06pm On Dec 07
Ahawo no be work. Funicator.
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by alhassanyusuf29(m): 2:07pm On Dec 07
people tend to reason emotionally and sentimental regarding issue like marriage which should not be the case, the hard logical truth has to be told no matter whose ox is gored, bcuz all those giving him silly advises to go through with the marriage wont be there when he is miserable, unhappy and regretful

he who wears the shoes knows where it pinches, how can u compromise ur happiness at ur own expense just to be politically correctundecided
TonyeBarcanista:
A friend discovered certain things about his wife after just 11 months of marriage. I encouraged him to forgive her and end the relationship, which he did.

Next the woman started bringing their priests (Rev Father), family members etc to seek reconciliation! Meanwhile this my guy's mind is made and he could murder her if they are together.

I urged him not to shift ground except he is willing but he must be prepared to live with the consequences. Thankfully, he heeded my advice and is now a happy youngman again.

In life our personal happiness is MORE important than opinion of people as long as our happiness is not at anybody's detriment.
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by centboy123456(m): 2:08pm On Dec 07
ImaIma1:


It is not about getting married. Why is he asking how to dump her? A guy knows that his intentions are not sure but still goes ahead to string a girl along and now look for a soft landing.

No one is saying you should marry her. But it is better to make intentions clear with the other party to avoid stories that touch like this one.


when u talk about dump U talk about Nigeria girls cuz u girls are worst all u girls about is money and wen d guy stop giving u money u end d relationship I have made a promise I will never love any Nigeria girls because u girls are good in dumping guys


look at u how many guys have u dump

and for d record the guy own nobody love no be by force and d guy didn't dump her so pls get ur fact right because all Nigeria girls care about is money money money that all no love again if a guy no give u money u no go love am again that how Nigeria girls see love

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Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by ikhileomotayo: 2:08pm On Dec 07
koyyes:


Chain, your power of deductive reasoning is very poor. Where in my statement did I imply you are married? What does 'future' mean to you?

Are you smart enough to head any home at all? undecided

Dude this will be my last response to you on this matter. Future mentions from you will be ignored.

Illiterates like you that generalize never make it in life. An example is seen from your profile statement: 99% of Nigerians are scammers. That means you are definitely part of the 99% grin

You are too dull for me to start wasting my time arguing with. Bye boy grin

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Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by alhassanyusuf29(m): 2:09pm On Dec 07
he hasnt gone into another official marriage yet, so how will you know if he has changed or not?
koyyes:


I can't give him a benefit of doubt because he clearly hasn't learnt his lessons yet. And if he doesn't change, he will keep repeating them.
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by koyyes: 2:12pm On Dec 07
alhassanyusuf29:
he hasnt gone into another official marriage yet, so how will you know if he has changed or not?

His post gave him away. If you clearly do not see it then there is no point harping on it. He can either take my advice or leave it and see what will result.
Re: How Do I Dump My Girlfriend Without Hurting Her? by Ayanfeoluxyz(f): 2:16pm On Dec 07
samguru:
For mature minds only.

I need your advice on how to dumb a lady which I don't like but we have been dating in the last 5 months.
She was introduced to me by a friend and since then I thought the relationship can lead to marriage but my instinct keeps telling she is not the one.

I have had sex with her anyway but her antecedents is something to worry about as she has been married and the marriage crashed without a child.

I have also married with a male child but the marriage crashed due to crazy intolerable behaviours of my ex.
This lady has shown some signs which my ex possessed and I don't want to experience such marriage again.

Please how do I dump her without having any feeling of guilt.

Please feminists should keep off this thread.
Nah craze dey worry una head. see lame excuses? you knew the relationship would not work yet you kept on having sex with her once again E ti mad SIR!

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