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funmisticqueen:
women like yoyour nose nkor, your eyes Ni. I meant your brain silly. My solution is not violent. It is the hardest and most logical route to go.
. Yours on the other hand will only trap you in the cycle of poverty that can follow your generations to come. This is why I don't watch Africa magic. It turns adults to paranoid and superstitious fools

This is chiefjosy, you’re saying nonsense and you’re mad

MariaLavina:
Yeah.... Xmas isn't really bubbling as the new year celebration here. That new year celebration ehn, it's always full house ooo. Everywhere will be noisy, crowded, kind of disorganized self. Work self go dey. . Fear grip me! But then I get to see my relatives, chat, do fori fori and food too.


Mom's fine, we are all doing good. How's family too?

Lol, seems your new years ain't bad atall.

My cousins are very small and stubborn. I'm tired of those children, they can worry.
Innocent me that doesn't like disturbance, they will come to my room and scatter everything, the last time they came, the little girl poured my very expensive cream and powder.
I nearly cried.

The older cousins especially from dad's side are either married, not in Nigeria or fill too big to associate. I just deh my own shaa.


I think they should be fine too.
Lool. Tell mum that her online daughter is saying hello.

18yrs and above is legal age. Even 17yrs is older than the paedophile age

funmisticqueen:
I won't apologise for that. He is the same person that said he would rather sleep with 17 - 19 year old virgins. If that is not a paedophile, I don't know what is.

Resener12:
This is chiefjosy, you’re saying nonsense and you’re mad

lol, goodbye

funmisticqueen:
lol, goodbye

Go to bed and stop that shit you’re saying

funmisticqueen:
A lot of ladies have fallen victim to truncating their life purpose for a few minutes of pleasure. He busts his nuts, depositing his seed. Higher chances, you didn't even achieve orgasm but you are left with the short end of the stick for 9 months then the rest of your life and you are left in the realm of singlemotherhood being a burden to yourself, parents and society while he has denied you and moved on.

What is the cause of this worldwide epidemic of single mum and babymama syndrome. It is simple evolutionary biology. A man is wired to want to sow his seed to ensure the continuity of his legacy so he looks for a womb that will do just that this is why men are seen to be polygamous. While women are the gatekeepers carefully selecting whose seed is worthy of nuturing into the world. Only the strong survive.

This is one of the sacred reasons the institution of marriage was created. It also creates a safe haven for the nuturing of the young to be useful in society. It also ensures the highest chances of their survival

You become a single mother when you ignore your instinct and get pregnant for an unworthy man who deceived you with flowery words and empty promises. He is effeminate and is not masculine enough to provide for you and his family. So you raise his children then he lays claims to finished products.
. Baby mamas take it a step further by eliminating the stress by letting the father or some other man provide, but that model can only last for so long before you go back to singlemotherhood.

My solution is simple, if you are not ready to shoulder the responsibility of single parenthood. Don't get pregnant by employing any suitable contraception method. if you do, abort that weak spawn from a weak man at the hands of a licensed professional. If that is not your cup of tea. Go through hormonal changes and increasing belly for 9 months, go into labor and experience the worst pain in your life and don't let that cuteness and helpless package decive you into cutting your options short and not pursuing your ambition for longer than 3 months. Wrap the child in a Christmas basket and kindly drop him off at his/her father's door and watch of he won't take care of his child. Men do what they do be cause they know u will pick up their slack while it is business as usual with the latest skirt in town. Responsibility. Ladies don't overburden our orphanges. Let the father raise up his child. Learn your lesson, pick up

pieces and move on with your life.

To the ladies out there don't allow a man to play bet9ja with your womb

Declaimer: This doesn't apply to widows or women who want and can afford to care for a child without the other package

Trying to solve a problem but still creating another problem......such insolence
If you don't want any man to play bet9ja with your womb then stay away from men and sex. Open your eyes wide, and look for a responsible man. It's simple.

funmisticqueen:
Not our problem. We are too busy moving on with our lives like it never happened. It's not your fault. Of I were your mother I will tell you to man up and bring your child for the holidays. Her Time for rearing kids has passed don't spoil her enjoyment in retirement abeg. The height of irresponsibility. Ladies train your sons to be responsible or they will give you headache later in life

Babes I like youuuuuuuuuuuu. lmao

Kidaholic:
Lol, so after all the pains of labour, the woman will just wrap up the child like a Christmas gift to the so-called irresponsible father?? Easy to say tho.

Only a heartless woman can do that. Mistakes can happen, a normal woman can never abandon her child because of an irresponsible man. Carrying a baby for 9months is not easy talk more of the unbearable pains in the labour room.

vickydevoka:
Babe u jst say it all. Buh buh the truth is dat women don lyk leaving dere child with de man

That's why the men take advantage of the situation.

[quote author=kunleweb post=74170666][/quote]Maybe you meant daily times

NY times will never publish articles of this discourse. It's too one-sided.

aswani:
Who said my Dad left? I am thanking my mum for having the emotional attachment to me that meant she never left. Something that a woman that would wrap her baby and dump her at the doorstep of the dad wouldn't have.

lol you are hilarious. Why not thank your father for not leaving?

PrimadonnaO:
I like that...if he gets you pregnant and won't take full responsibility, wrap up the sweet little baby and drop in his house.

Then let the script play out.

how do we comfirm the owner of the child? Lol at least it is her word against his word

funmisticqueen:
that is not your problem. You have done your part, don't be suckered into that mindset

foolish girl,why would a girl get pregnant for a man that is not ur husband

Resener12:
Go to bed and stop that shit you’re saying

who do you think you are? Never repply my mentions again you narcissistic piece of s-h-i-t

ubunja:
lol you are hilarious. Why not thank your father for not leaving?

because he didn't perform fatherhood duties well

funmisticqueen:
who do you think you are? Never repply my mentions again you narcissistic piece of s-h-i-t

You must be mad. Seems you don’t know who’s talking

Prime1:
Trying to solve a problem but still creating another problem......such insolence
If you don't want any man to play bet9ja with your womb then stay away from men and sex. Open your eyes wide, and look for a responsible man. It's simple.

I agree wholeheartedly. But do all these children want to hear that one

Resener12:
You must be mad. Seems you don’t know who’s talking

I do and I don't care, there is only so much of the myopic nonsense. I can tolerate from you and I am done

loswhite:
how do we comfirm the owner of the child? Lol at least it is her word against his word

what if he was the only one she slept with?

funmisticqueen:
because he didn't perform fatherhood duties well

did you even read the man's coments before writing this?

funmisticqueen:
I do and I don't care, there is only so much of the myopic nonsense. I can tolerate from you and I am done

Don’t make me come to Unilag to slap nonsense out of your head

MariaLavina:
Lol...

First of all, I believe the solution to this problem is personal. It is no longer what the society suggest or what solutions the counselor gives. Its all about You. Who are you? what do you want to be, what do you want people( your family, friends, neighbours, children and the world at at large) know and remember you for. The story you want people to tell about you.


In every journey there is always a starting point, There is a day a person started thinking about sex and a day he or she began to have sex. If that person can pause that day for a minute and think, mistakes would be avoided. Its high time people pause, think and then act. People hardly think these days. I believe we were all born innocent/virgin both male and female expect in cases of rape, I think decisions are made to let go of chastity. But do we ask ourselves why let go? what will happen if I do? What if something goes wrong? what will I get if I let go, Is it worth it. Do the advantages outweigh the disadvantages? . We don't ask! We just act! And that's the root of our problems.


Okay, so we decided to let go, and the worst happens what's next to do.? To every problem there is a solution. And guess what! There are two types of solution : The permanent, The temporary.
The permanent solution is always hard, it is always difficult to do. Its a long process, it takes time, energy and focus. It is for the strong hearted but solves it all the problems with a happy ending. While the temporal is easy, it is a short court , very fast and simple. But it doesn't solve the problem, as a matter of fact it leads to more problems.

Abortions, Dumping babies and so on are temporal solutions. I was discussing with my elder sister yesterday, She's a pharmacist, so I asked her about her job and all and she answered my questions. The she sighed and said: Dee, presently the rampant complains these days is Barrenness! People are requesting for drugs to boost fertility. It's like everyone is looking for a child. I was speechless and sad. But I began to wonder Why?

And a thought popped up, Why ask why? What type of why are you asking? No be these people dey take contraceptives , they do abortions, they flush? No be them dey masturbate? You come dey ask why? Funny right?
That's how I meditate
The point is most people think they can do anything with their body, But do they know their bodies? No! Can they decide when they will fertile or not?

If Dangote or Bill Gates had been dumped or aborted or prevented or splashed out would they have become what they are now? And you complain there is no growth in the nation? What if that liberator has been splashed off by a guy pleasuring himself?

But owning up to one's mistake, learning and taking responsibility is the permanent solution. Yes you aren't prepared, you are broke but then a life is formed already and it deserves to live. This life is short, the highest one will live is maybe 100 . Why not let your replacement ( child) live? Why not take care of that life , love, guide and guard it? It is a chance to create a better you. Why give is to one who is insane to deny and reject you?

Honestly ops write up made me sad. It is the most inhumane, selfish and shallow thing I have ever read here.

I see a lot of sense in this submission, which is why I liked it.

You made a lot of points, assertions. Particularly, I find your assertion in the highlighted part of your post interesting.

Pray tell, do you have any medical journal or research to back up the claim that masturbation and the use of contraceptives reduce infertility in men and/or women?

I am not saying masturbation is right or wrong. I just find it intriguing the way you established a link between the act of masturbation and the problem of infertility in people.

Have medical experts substantiated this claim of yours? Can you present a veridical proof, which has nothing to do with religious teaching or morality?

funmisticqueen:
please quote the part where I said men and women are equal? Is a banana equal to an orange?Men and women can never be equal.

But I have noticed you here ,you are a Feminist ,what is the Feminist movement all about?? you people a so confused and your confusing other people..

funmisticqueen:
stop sounding like a dusty, after one child will be sucking my boobs every 3hours for the next one yr and give me sleepless night. You still want me to buy pampers? . Where is that get outta here meme?

You're a clown

Chukapage:
But I have noticed you here ,you are a Feminist ,what is the Feminist movement all about?? you people a so confused and your confusing other people..

you men act so ignorant at times, that a woman has a different opinion from yours concerning 'affairs of the heart' does not make her a feminists. My goal is to expose women to the other options out there. It is not always the devil and the deep blue sea in these matters.[b][/b]

ubunja:
lol you are hilarious. Why not thank your father for not leaving?

This topic boils down to women lacking emotional attachment to their babies. If I had to extend the thanks, it wouldnt stop at my dad. My post was based on the relevance to the topic discussed, in my opinion anyway.

funmisticqueen:
because he didn't perform fatherhood duties well

Thanks for the intervention but you are not necessarily correct. As I said in my response to him, I was posting per relevance to the topic.

ubunja:
we can pretend I am. Now where is that breast?

I saw it with your mom

aswani:
This topic boils down to women lacking emotional attachment to their babies. If I had to extend the thanks, it wouldnt stop at my dad. My post was based on the relevance to the topic discussed, in my opinion anyway.

No it doesnt. Check the title of the post. It has more to do with fatherhood than motherhood.

sweetilicious:
I saw it with your mom

I tasted that one already. I want yours.