Ugosample:
getting married is not the problem per se

it's this foolish habit of many Nigerians of being in a hurry to pop kids into the marriage ASAP

A man who gets married at say 23/24 25 max for example can have an agreement with his spouse to delay kids for say 3-4 years b4 getting pregnant while working TOGETHER and praying TOGETHER towards building a more financially secure life for themselves
once they do that they can then pop one, two and say three kids...


It's all about planning

But NiggerAreans will not...

The woman especially will not agree
she wants to prove to the world that she is "fertile" ASAP
coupled with family pressure

#Such Fvckery

instead of Nigerian Youth to learn how western couples plan their finances together, with plans on 401k and other moves like taxation and all
it's the negative they are emulating


100k is NOT a bad salary for a young man with prospects starting out...

with his lovely lady earning slightly below that, they can plan together their lives, live in a self contain for the meantime, save as much as they can while probably one plans how to break out and start his own business / climb up the social ladder while still holding the brakes on popping kids

But how many youths will behave this way,?
this IS just my thoughts sha


it's not cast in stone

Very insightful post I must say.
I don't know but delaying child bearing is one aspect Nigerians hardly look at.

Funny enough it's not only the ladies's decision to pop out sometimes pressure from the man too.
Such scenario is still affecting my sister's friend till now. And in her case, she was just 22.

And I wish NiggerAreans as you call it could bring down having kids to just 2. 3 and above should be for the elite. Our population is bloated already. As for me, the mere thought of bringing a child into this contraption is enough reason to steer clear of Marriage.

Finally, I've observed that most say 80per cent of successful/well to do people in this part of the world are kids of successful people too. So I dont blame the ones that want to have millions before settling down. Poverty can be inherited moving from one generation to the other. Reason why planning is vital.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Like 500K is ideal. Last last 300K. I did not come to this life to suffer.

When is my Ned Nwoko arriving naw?

Lazy she-goat.year 3030.

erico2k2:

yes, content!
That's the only thing that guarantees HML.

You think that girl and all same with her mindset want to get married for content?


All they want is reginal Daniel kind of life , cant you see as she's screaming ned nwoko upandan on the thread?


I just pity the man that ll be deceived by their little fine face to come their way .

Phenomenal16:
No matter how much a guy is earning ..if u as a wife can't manage it effectively then it won't be enough.... No amount is too little or big...u r his manager...

By d way how much are u making as a lady....u think all d responsibilities shld fall on him uh?

U shld check how hard working d guy is....what's his long term goals?....wen u miss a man wit a vision u will one day watch him in ur television... Don't go n marry moni miss road because of moni

U don't judge a book by d cover

I WISH i could just marry you for this, emphasis on wish..

Nice one

This are the issues, marriage is not about how much do you earn, you have Men who earn 35,000 and are living happy with their wife, while others earn 150,000 are having issues, even in Europe its not everyone that earns up to 150,000 a month and yet people get married and live together. One of the most difficult things about marriage is getting the woman that is a friend and partner, and family. Did any of us leave our parents when growin up because they went through hardship? So what are we saying, if you find someone who is ready to live with you, you are good to go.

specter:
Never depend on a salary job alone when considering marriage. Except you are the hard hearted kind and a risk taker.
Have some side biz .

How's the business coming along?

VillagePipu:



There should also be mental compatibility when choosing a mate. Idiots ought to marry idiots.

This is very important for me.. Kudos

Reality check: ladies, only about 10% men will not care if you contribute to family upkeep or not. Don't think you won't contribute

I didn't come to this world to work for any lady! It smacks of selfishness for a lady to just sit her assz down somewhere while raising unnecessary standards for men to attain before marriage!

I'm working hard to make money not because I want to impress any lady but for the sake of my unborn kids and also make my mum proud of her son.

HeliosHay:


How is that a wrong ideology? I said I am waiting because I haven't found the right woman (not because of money). When I find her, I'll probably have 2 or 3 kids. It's no big deal

If you are still searching for a good wife then I support your decision,I I thought you only want to have kids when you make a enough million.

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Preshy561:
5million a month

Thief

ibkayee:
Standards of living will vary so you're going to have a bunch of significantly different numbers flying up and down this thread lol

Dunno what arrangement he plans to have going on with his wife concerning contributions, but realistically probably at least whatever amount can comfortably cover all basic living necessities month to month.

Ideally, rule of thumb is to also have about 6 months worth of your annual savings tucked up somewhere if possible.

wonderful point..

jackals:
I'm not trying to sugarcoat here please, neither am I trying to act a saint. But to be sincere, I am more attuned to a man's sense of self than his money or any other thing. A man that is sensible enough to hold me through life, who love me and will never leave me for any other. thats all that matter to me.

This dosnt mean I dont like money. I like money pass money self, but it is not my priority, it is just a plus

More reasons why men are going extinction. Why is it always you , you and you?



The question is what can you offer the man ? Marriage is not suppose to be one sided , both are in it together.

77up:
More reasons why men are going extinction. Why is it always you , you and you?



The question is what can you offer the man ? Marriage is not suppose to be one sided , both are in it together.

You're right. But who tell you I'm bringing nothing into it

Raalsalghul:

Very insightful post I must say.
I don't know but delaying child bearing is one aspect Nigerians hardly look at.

Funny enough it's not only the ladies's decision to pop out sometimes pressure from the man too.
Such scenario is still affecting my sister's friend till now. And in her case, she was just 22.

And I wish NiggerAreans as you call it could bring down having kids to just 2. 3 and above should be for the elite. Our population is bloated already. As for me, the mere thought of bringing a child into this contraption is enough reason to steer clear of Marriage.

Finally, I've observed that most say 80per cent of successful/well to do people in this part of the world are kids of successful people too. So I dont blame the ones that want to have millions before settling down. Poverty can be inherited moving from one generation to the other. Reason why planning is vital.

yes Indeed

you have spoken well

See how they're throwing expletives everywhere.

And that’s sad because then in reality it’s the woman that carries most of not all the responsibilities on her head. After 10 years most wives always look haggard and worn out, yet the husband still looks active. If a woman must contribute, it should honestly be the bare minimum. If you are a career woman, let all the responsibilities be split equally. Your husband must equally wash plates, sweep the house, cook for the children and yourself and take care of the kids, because you are equally the provider in the home. But the reality is that the woman will always carry the burden. Oga will still expect you to bounce on top of his dick after all that stress. It’s a shame women are being manipulated and they cant even see it.

Mizwisdom:
Reality check: ladies, only about 10% men will not care if you contribute to family upkeep or not. Don't think you won't contribute

samueloduoye:
For a man living in Ibadan, Lagos, Port Harcourt or any other Nigerian city, how much should he be making monthly before considering marriage?

Share your thoughts





https://punchng.com/how-much-should-a-man-earn-monthly-before-considering-marriage/

marriage is not for everyone, instead to find work u the look for Alaji u come turn ur body to cash and a carry � for the ones that say a man must earn N3000, 000 before considering marriage, now how can a civil servant with great level 01 with N18900 salary or a graduate with GL 04 get married? (there are also female civil servant too) Marriage is a team work not a dependable, he is the head u r the neck, both paties should bring something to the table, both parties should provide for d children.

Safiaa:
And that’s sad because then in reality it’s the woman that carries most of not all the responsibilities on her head. After 10 years most wives always look haggard and worn out, yet the husband still looks active. If a woman must contribute, it should honestly be the bare minimum. If you are a career woman, let all the responsibilities be split equally. Your husband must equally wash plates, sweep the house, cook for the children and yourself and take care of the kids, because you are equally the provider in the home. But the reality is that the woman will always carry the burden. Oga will still expect you to bounce on top of his dick after all that stress. It’s a shame women are being manipulated and they cant even see it.

Thanks for this, my dear. Don't mind these sexists men. After we still split bills with them, they won't be responsible with sharing the house chores. Later later, they'll still cheat last last, so what's the point? Let's drink garri in a mansion than eat fried rice in one room at obalende.

In the end, they'll still call us prostitutes. Let me suffer with my Ned Nwoko in peace.

E dey traffic for Ikorodu

UyaiIncomparabl:
Like 500K is ideal. Last last 300K. I did not come to this life to suffer.

When is my Ned Nwoko arriving naw?

Safiaa:
And that’s sad because then in reality it’s the woman that carries most of not all the responsibilities on her head. After 10 years most wives always look haggard and worn out, yet the husband still looks active. If a woman must contribute, it should honestly be the bare minimum. If you are a career woman, let all the responsibilities be split equally. Your husband must equally wash plates, sweep the house, cook for the children and yourself and take care of the kids, because you are equally the provider in the home. But the reality is that the woman will always carry the burden. Oga will still expect you to bounce on top of his dick after all that stress. It’s a shame women are being manipulated and they cant even see it.

Oh Jisos, Cette dame est venue avec ses problèmes

samueloduoye:
For a man living in Ibadan, Lagos, Port Harcourt or any other Nigerian city, how much should he be making monthly before considering marriage?

Share your thoughts





https://punchng.com/how-much-should-a-man-earn-monthly-before-considering-marriage/

has anyone noticed that all those suggesting 800k 500k 200k 150k are all women, that's why most of them remain single till today even at age 35

Lol I don’t understand ohhh
When it comes to splitting financial bills their mouths will open like parrots. They are so quick to ask what you contribute financially to a marriage. But when it comes to domestic contributions and other aspects, they are mute. You want to be addressed as the head of the home, yet your wife is doing practically everything in the house. She’s the one running the home. The only job that you’re really assigned to do is provide, yet you still want to split that role into half with your wife? You wonder why women don’t respect men of this generation. They are absolutely pathetic.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Thanks for this, my dear. Don't mind these sexists men. After we still split bills with them, they won't be responsible with sharing the house chores. Later later, they'll still cheat last last, so what's the point? Let's drink garri in a mansion than eat fried rice in one room at obalende.

In the end, they'll still call us prostitutes. Let me suffer with my Ned Nwoko in peace.

[quote author=VillagePipu post=78939176]

No na.
You know say she see that 500k as the ultimate for her, I come show her say that 500k sef na nothing.

Na brain, prospects, smartwork and continuous improvement wife wey get sense dey look out for, not 500k.

You guys are funny, how can you guys said with 500k a man can't leave comfortable in any choice place in Lagos.
For your information i am married with a kid who is 6yrs old, I earn that amount every month and live comfortably well in Abuja. For your information I live in Wuse2 one of the highbrow areas in Abuja. My rent is 1m every year, i comfortably pays it without hitch, every month we hadly finish 100k, i have a car and my wife has too...my child school fees is payed from my income and i have a house I'm paying through mortgage every month and the house is in Katampe another highbrow area in Abuja with good infrastructure, serene evironment and i plan moving by next year when I'm done paying for the house.
Who told you earning every 500k every month is not more than enough for you to live anywhere in Nigeria.

Let me break it down for you.
House rent i save 100k every month
Feeding/other expenses 100k every month
Paying myself every month 100k
Mortgage 200k every month.
Child school fees is 150k every year.
Pls tell me how I'm not living well with all my expense taking care of.
My wife works her own money we keep it in case of emergency which rarely comes up.

Nackzy:
has anyone noticed that all those suggesting 800k 500k 200k 150k are all women, that's why most of them remain single till today even at age 35

Lol

You guys are funny, how can you guys said with 500k a man can't leave comfortable in any choice place in Lagos.
For your information i am married with a kid who is 6yrs old, I earn that amount every month and live comfortably well in Abuja. For your information I live in Wuse2 one of the highbrow areas in Abuja. My rent is 1m every year, i comfortably pays it without hitch, every month we hadly finish 100k, i have a car and my wife has too...my child school fees is payed from my income and i have a house I'm paying through mortgage every month and the house is in Katampe another highbrow area in Abuja with good infrastructure, serene evironment and i plan moving by next year when I'm done paying for the house.
Who told you earning every 500k every month is not more than enough for you to live anywhere in Nigeria.

Let me break it down for you.
House rent i save 100k every month
Feeding/other expenses 100k every month
Paying myself every month 100k
Mortgage 200k every month.
Child school fees is 150k every year.
Pls tell me how I'm not living well with all my expense taking care of.
My wife works her own money we keep it in case of emergency which rarely comes up.

austelright1:
You guys are funny, how can you guys said with 500k a man can't leave comfortable in any choice place in Lagos.
For your information i am married with a kid who is 6yrs old, I earn that amount every month and live comfortably well in Abuja. For your information I live in Wuse2 one of the highbrow areas in Abuja. My rent is 1m every year, i comfortably pays it without hitch, every month we hadly finish 100k, i have a car and my wife has too...my child school fees is payed from my income and i have a house I'm paying through mortgage every month and the house is in Katampe another highbrow area in Abuja with good infrastructure, serene evironment and i plan moving by next year when I'm done paying for the house.
Who told you earning every 500k every month is not more than enough for you to live anywhere in Nigeria.

Let me break it down for you.
House rent i save 100k every month
Feeding/other expenses 100k every month
Paying myself every month 100k
Mortgage 200k every month.
Child school fees is 150k every year.
Pls tell me how I'm not living well with all my expense taking care of.
My wife works her own money we keep it in case of emergency which rarely comes up.

[quote author=austelright1 post=78946210][/quote]

You said every month you hardly finish N100K...yet you mention you spend 200k on mortgage, 100k on feeding/other expenses etc...is that correct?..maybe its a mistake somewhere but something doesn't add up.

Iamgrey5:
Mine is 5000 naira for Ibadan

2000 for Otukpo

UyaiIncomparabl:
Like 500K is ideal. Last last 300K. I did not come to this life to suffer.

When is my Ned Nwoko arriving naw?

With that ugly face?

U are the one who is suppose to feed a husband

ibkayee:
iamgrey5

You've always come across as one of those deliberately humble guys who go out of their way to not appear as rich, successful, smart etc as they really are by the way lol

To me anyway

Won't be surprised if you're one billionaire's son

which billionaire son He is the money bag. If you catch am, hold am tight