cvibe2:
Nothing new under the Sun...one goes, another comes...chikena!

I bet if the tables were turned, and it was the lady that did the same flirting with guys, calling you her brother etc, you would have kicked her to the Kerb.

She was smarter than you. She checked your phone first before you checked hers.

mercy87:
I can't believe that people are blaming the op on why he granted her access to his phone. No wonder marriages don't last anymore.

ideabuilder:
OP is weak. This indomie kids sef. Na your type dey swallow sniper becos of girl. My advice for your sorry self, MAN UP. If she cant trust your word, I beg free her.

Only a fool will believe you don't have a side chick. Promote one of them. Na she go beg las las

Kapello8:
Hello Guys,

Please don’t Mind my English, am really typing this in tears and pain.

So there’s the babe I’ve been dating, I truly love her and we’ve been setting up my new flat and making plans for our Traditional wedding hopefully this November but something tragic struck and took away all d Joy and Happiness....

This was how it began, she took my phone and went through all my chats and I had some female friends I’ve been flirty chatting with but honestly I I was dumbed to have done dat...

I lied to them that I was single and searching I never accepted that I had a Fiancé just for the fun of it I also lied that she was my cousin and she found out all those stuffs and now she has ended the relationship...

I’ve cried and wept because my stupidity has made me to loose my angel...

She’s an ideal wife I never knew what got over me to just try being flirty....

I have involved my Family and her Family to beg her but she has refused. She told my eldest brother that she can’t love me anymore.

I’ve also pleaded with her best friend and siblings to plead with her but she’s not willing to come back....
I’ve sent her over 50 apology SMS I’ve called her line over a 30 times but she’s not willing to take my calls.

When I call with an unknown number and she hears my voice she will drop the call.
She doesn’t wana even talk to me.


The whole house looks empty without her I just can’t forgive myself for loosing the best gift God gave me. Now I feel so downcasted...

Brothers and Sisters please I need your candid advice. Your Free to Insult me

Am writing this because I’ve not been able to sleep. I can’t Forgive my self. I truly Love her.

Mods please move to front page.

Cmanforall:


Serve him one when you're done.

Phenomenal16:
...yes oo...until wen u wan marry e go clear for ur eyes

Barywhyte:


So many of you boys ( you are not a man yet) are weaklings.
Do you need Babalawo to tell you that this lady does not love you? She also know you are weakling.

I assumed this is the first time you are doing such.

HARDDON:


So unfortunate bro.

Here are the possible out-plays

1. She really loves you
a. Should would cry/go moody and her life would be hollow but She would cool off after punishing you for your crime ( off radar, silent treatment) and call/visit/stealthily send a fam member/friend to make u call.

b. She wouldn't cry rather take it a notch up and punish you with sleeping with another guy - sometimes a total stranger that knows his onion around the minds/laps of a heart broken dock. Then come back to milk the last of your apology and effectively deball you with commitment to some stringent course.


2. She doesn't Love you.
She wouldn't care a hoot. Swiftly, she would move on with her life. Make public the guy she has been hiding.

However, If she is gaining financially from you, She might come back to tell you that she need a lot of time to sort herself out. That you guys should take it slow. That means no more intimacy or caring for u. The only time she is available is when she needs sometin.

You are thereby placed in a state of limbo. While you "mumushly" shower her with gifts and apology, she'd be having a time of her life.

Should you get nosy, you would be hit with an electrifying efcc to make u back off and sober again with " I don't think we can work out anymore, I just can't get myself to loving you again".
And when it finally dawn on you, you would walk off, go to church to give thanks to God for making you dodge a bullet.


This is so sad though, there are guys out there that their gurls have caught red handed, got angry for a week, came back the next crying while humping away. Soft button, balls and Jrod are real

My Take:

FORGET ABOUT HER( to wimps, this is a tall order. Because they ain't worth their balls)
Live your life. Meet other hawt ones. For while u are wasting away in one cocoon ( thinking this is the height of it), the beautiful, hourglass shape, creamy and intelligent world out there is laughing sarcastically at your monocultured airs.

oladele00:
Let her go there are many bitches in the zoo

adecz:


She dey vex for this small thing?

I think say she catch you on top sef..



She no know say na 9ja guy she won marry,
abi she think say she dey Yankee?




And, to worsen matters, you dey cry join..

..........may be she dey leave you because you
be crybaby alll along..



Nonsense!!!

QueenSekxy:
Most guys here are disgusting. By there comments, you shall know them.
Op, you deserve what you got, God really saved those girls you wanted to lead astray. This is just a case of dating many girls, and at the end, you marry the one you told them she's a cousin.

You are very wicked and heartless. A disgusting cheat, spits!!

ibkayee:
Serves you right, weep

Poorboy:
The more you call her or send people to her you're worsening the situation, so free her.

If she doesn't come back don't beg.

theButterfly:
Yes, talk about utter disrespect: lying to females that he's single and searching, and telling them she's his cousin. The only reason he created the thread is b|c she found out/he got caught. She should think very carefully before proceeding with him. Once she forgives him and they're on good terms again and they get married, he'll go back to his cheating ways and she'll be the one to create a thread next year on Nairaland: "HELP! MY HUSBAND KEEPS CHATTING AND FLIRTING WITH DIFFERENT GIRLS". There was a thread three weeks ago in Family of a similar nature.

ibkayee:

Lool I hope it won’t have to come to that!

Good luck to both of them

kid7soccer:
Guy let me tell you the truth. Thank your God and Move on. How can you live with such a person, even after bringing your family to beg her, OK what if you are married and you cheated so she will now divorce you. Brother she not the one for you, love means taking pain to forgive cause no body is above any sin. Even people who got married with cheating till fall sin to it.

If everyone have intercede and she said no, please let her be, I can say boldly she also playing the same game you have been playing.

As the saying goes "birds of the same feathers flock together".

OtunbaChibok:
If truly she's been setting up a home with you, she will definitely come back...

But if she doesn't come back to you, bro she too get option and probably using this as an excuse to move on...

Bro don't contact her again, if she doesn't after 1 week.... Japa!

Biglittlelois:



You see op ehn, he knows a rare kind when he sees one, and that lady qualifies 100% that is why he did all that to try and get her back, a WIMP is someone that will say a RARE kind isn't worth your balls, those physical things you mentioned is what fvckboys will droll over not men who knows the worth of what they're likely to loose.

HARDDON:


The rare kind that went searching for an ish to anchor on ( so that she can deploy her next nest or deball him), got to see the ishh and went wild as she punched on the plan-activate button?

The rare kind that listens to no voice of reason?

3 ways this wud play out and none is to the advantage of the guy

1. She wud come back but he wud spend the rest of his days trying to prove to her that he is clean and in effect, he hands her the r/ship/marriage control knob.

2. She planned to exit, didn't know how to, and he played into her arms.

Real men know that a lady is worth the value HE place on her...
Real men have Abundance Mentality - There can't be lack when there is more than enough to eat and spare.

Real men would not be in her space with listless messages and calls. Stuff her air. They wud relax. When she is tired, she know where we be.

Needless responding to your quote, I'm from pluto, you are from Mars and I heard those from Mars always strive to mislead my kind.

We know better

funshint:
At this moment stop all calls and messages. Also stop sending people to her; don't continue "bombing" her. You've done your best. She's still hurting for now....okay. Just give her time. A few days or even weeks. When her head finally settles down; she'll definitely contact you. Believe me it works! Thereafter take things slow, one step at a time. Takecare...winks!

Houseofglam7:
Never play with a good woman

Houseofglam7:
Never play with a good woman