akinade28:
Since you are hurt and wish to quit the relationship, be a man and break up with her, except you are ready to subject yourself to a lifetime of unhappiness. Such a marriage willbe miserable for the two of you. Don't let her manipulate you with virginity.
Or maybe you are not telling the whole story and you are looking for a flimsy excuse to end the relationship and still satisfy your conscience.

stop this bullshit the lady in question is not matured enough I suggest u talk to her and let her see reasons for her action and also let her see the consequence if she did not let go and focus on you and the future I believe she will have a change of heart it is not everything you have to fight for sometimes we ought to let sleeping dog lie .

aysnoopy:
Good morning good people of Nairaland. please don't mind my grammatical errors coz I'm not that good.

I'm 28yrs, working and I had a gf of 21yrs. we are very good together and I love her so much. we started dating a year ago and I told her what can make me breakup with her which is cheating. she swear never to cheat on me coz she loves me. (she's a virgin when I met her).

But after 6months of dating, I suspect she's still attached to her ex.. they are very close. I warned her but she said she'll rather break up with me than to cheat. she swear never to do that. I accepted but I keep watching and been sensitive.

Fast-forward to last month, I checked her fone for the 1st time. she don't expect it. I notice she's eager to get her fone back but I don't care. I checked and I notice she and her ex are having romantic affairs (no sex though) ..

I confronted her but ever since den she kept begging. her friends keep begging.

I'm a type that if u cheat on me, no matter how much I love u, d love will dropped totally. one of my ex did same, despite our relationship is 4 years, I broke up with her.

She's so afraid and keep saying she can't leave me Coz I'm d one that disvirgin her, but I wish to leave.

She said she never mean to do all those bull'shit with her ex, but I let her know that she still have feelings for him.

Each time I remember, I felt hurt and wish to quit. whenever she come to my place, she'll beg from morning till evening but that doesn't move me.

Please good people of Nairaland. what can I do?
if you're on my shoe, what will be ur judgment.
I've never accept cheat with any of my ex but this particular girl keep apologizing.

I detest cheating, most of my breakups were due to cheating, if I can't deal with it I won't hesitate to leave her cos I don't want anything that will hinder my happiness later(in future).
I always tell(clearly) who ever I'm dating that I detest cheating and I always have a way of knowing or finding out if someone is cheating on me, even if distance come in between us along the course of dating.

Op, I will advise you to follow your mind because you're the one that will face it later not the commenters.
Ask yourself, how will you feel if the thought pop up sometimes in future maybe in the course of argument and so on.
Again, you can discuss with her if she can really leave(or stay away from) the guy but always consider how you will feel about her later and the happiness/love level because it's very important

P.S- I always forgive and make sure I'm at peace my ex-gfs before moving on and that's why. One actually came back to tell me how the guy she cheated on me with later treat her, thinking she can come back to me and also giving me the green light that she want tocome back to me but I gave her a red light(cold shoulder), if you can treat me well when we are dating, you don't deserve me later except if the reason of the breakup is not cheating.

Shinapraise:
stop this bullshit the lady in question is not matured enough I suggest u talk to her and let her see reasons for her action and also let her see the consequence if she did not let go and focus on you and the future I believe she will have a change of heart it is not everything you have to fight for sometimes we ought to let sleeping dog lie .

You quoted the wrong person

Only people with less “lucrative” opportunity to cheat remain faithful. It’s human nature. Y’all need to grow up.

All these cheats keep telling you to forgive. Pls be a man and man up to your principle. Unfaithfulness. That's why many marriages are having issues. Continue with her and youhave helped in creating another unfaithful woman. Drop her aside and she will learn, and might change. Say no to cheating.

Fyi, I am married. Never cheated. Can never cheat and would never accept any cheating.

Give me her phone number let me call her and talk to her. She will change instantly okay. From our conversation, I will know if she is still serious with you or not.

Well, thank God am not on your shoe

[quote author=aysnoopy post=81114186]Good morning good people of Nairaland. please don't mind my grammatical errors coz I'm not that good.

I'm 28yrs, working and I had a gf of 21yrs. we are very good together and I love her so much. we started dating a year ago and I told her what can make me breakup with her which is cheating. she swear never to cheat on me coz she loves me. (she's a virgin when I met her).

But after 6months of dating, I suspect she's still attached to her ex.. they are very close. I warned her but she said she'll rather break up with me than to cheat. she swear never to do that. I accepted but I keep watching and been sensitive.

Fast-forward to last month, I checked her fone for the 1st time. she don't expect it. I notice she's eager to get her fone back but I don't care. I checked and I notice she and her ex are having romantic affairs (no sex though) ..

I confronted her but ever since den she kept begging. her friends keep begging.

I'm a type that if u cheat on me, no matter how much I love u, d love will dropped totally. one of my ex did same, despite our relationship is 4 years, I broke up with her.

She's so afraid and keep saying she can't leave me Coz I'm d one that disvirgin her, but I wish to leave.

She said she never mean to do all those bull'shit with her ex, but I let her know that she still have feelings for him.

Each time I remember, I felt hurt and wish to quit. whenever she come to my place, she'll beg from morning till evening but that doesn't move me.

Please good people of Nairaland. what can I do?
if you're on my shoe, what will be ur judgment.
I've never accept cheat with any of my ex but this particular girl keep apologizing.
better you quit before you commit murder

My broda, relationship doesn't wok on a principle. If u kip quitting ur relationships on dis basis, U may nt likely to gt wot u want. U caught her cos she's still nt smart enuf to hav bin deleting her implicating msgs. May u nt fall nt into d hands of d slay mamas. Learn to give n forget tins even outside relationship in as much as we sin and God forgives, u nid to forgive n i can tell u she will respect u more. Wen ure in relationship always prépare fr tins like dis cos u cant b monitoring ur girl up n down. God neva create us to b rigid bt being flexible. My pièce is fr u to sit her down n ask fr reason she for her double dating so dat u too can kno where u got it wrong as a man. Make her réalise dat she cant b claiming to love u in truth n still b seeing her ex. Let her kno d implications of double dating. Giving her 2nd chance is nt bad. She may end up becoming a gud lifetime wife.

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cenaman:
No lady that doesn't cheat maybe if u leave her now the next one will be worst. tell her to cut off communication with her ex. calls and social media (that is if you have her in mine to marry) if possible change her phone number.

Not all ladies cheat

The girl needs someone to urgently advise her to leave you asap. She's undervaluing herself by being with you. Imagine begging from morning till evening and you're acting like you're an angel and have never offended anyone before. And why are you tying her down? Are you engaged to her officially and to the knowledge of her parents? No one should beg you and you have no right to question her activities until you're recognised by her family as a fiance. You even deflowered her (her father or brother could confront and harm you for that if they find out), and you had the audacity to say she's "afraid" (LOL. Being 'the lord and master that you are'). The girl seriously needs advice so she knows her true value! And you, what you need is re-orientation and disabuse of your mind from chauvinistic tendencies -- and perhaps some whooping for your own offences against the girl and sin against God.

Follow your heart but take your brain along

I'm sort of shocked when I hear so called bf or gf complain of cheating. U are not married to her and U've not ratified your relationship by doing anything on her, yet U are rattling of she flirting. Monsieur.... no woman is yours until U are joined together in matrimony.

chai... another potential sniper customer.. you bump better focus on how to be successful..she will use and dump u soon. virgin my ass..

Forgive her but prepare your mind for the worse because she will still cheat with her ex.

Please, free the girl. She's just 21. Let her enjoy her life and dont tie her down. When it's time to settle down, she will with one person.

aysnoopy:
Good morning good people of Nairaland. please don't mind my grammatical errors coz I'm not that good.

I'm 28yrs, working and I had a gf of 21yrs. we are very good together and I love her so much. we started dating a year ago and I told her what can make me breakup with her which is cheating. she swear never to cheat on me coz she loves me. (she's a virgin when I met her).

But after 6months of dating, I suspect she's still attached to her ex.. they are very close. I warned her but she said she'll rather break up with me than to cheat. she swear never to do that. I accepted but I keep watching and been sensitive.

Fast-forward to last month, I checked her fone for the 1st time. she don't expect it. I notice she's eager to get her fone back but I don't care. I checked and I notice she and her ex are having romantic affairs (no sex though) ..

I confronted her but ever since den she kept begging. her friends keep begging.

I'm a type that if u cheat on me, no matter how much I love u, d love will dropped totally. one of my ex did same, despite our relationship is 4 years, I broke up with her.

She's so afraid and keep saying she can't leave me Coz I'm d one that disvirgin her, but I wish to leave.

She said she never mean to do all those bull'shit with her ex, but I let her know that she still have feelings for him.

Each time I remember, I felt hurt and wish to quit. whenever she come to my place, she'll beg from morning till evening but that doesn't move me.

Please good people of Nairaland. what can I do?
if you're on my shoe, what will be ur judgment.
I've never accept cheat with any of my ex but this particular girl keep apologizing.

You have the solution to ya query yet u dy NL
All ds simps no go kee person
Btw thanks for the tales by moonlight tale

aysnoopy:
Good morning good people of Nairaland. please don't mind my grammatical errors coz I'm not that good.

I'm 28yrs, working and I had a gf of 21yrs. we are very good together and I love her so much. we started dating a year ago and I told her what can make me breakup with her which is cheating. she swear never to cheat on me coz she loves me. (she's a virgin when I met her).

But after 6months of dating, I suspect she's still attached to her ex.. they are very close. I warned her but she said she'll rather break up with me than to cheat. she swear never to do that. I accepted but I keep watching and been sensitive.

Fast-forward to last month, I checked her fone for the 1st time. she don't expect it. I notice she's eager to get her fone back but I don't care. I checked and I notice she and her ex are having romantic affairs (no sex though) ..

I confronted her but ever since den she kept begging. her friends keep begging.

I'm a type that if u cheat on me, no matter how much I love u, d love will dropped totally. one of my ex did same, despite our relationship is 4 years, I broke up with her.

She's so afraid and keep saying she can't leave me Coz I'm d one that disvirgin her, but I wish to leave.

She said she never mean to do all those bull'shit with her ex, but I let her know that she still have feelings for him.

Each time I remember, I felt hurt and wish to quit. whenever she come to my place, she'll beg from morning till evening but that doesn't move me.

Please good people of Nairaland. what can I do?
if you're on my shoe, what will be ur judgment.
I've never accept cheat with any of my ex but this particular girl keep apologizing.

You're already 28 years, so you're? old enough to marry and should be settling down in no far time. That means you don't have enough time for unnecessary gambles in your relationship, time is going.

She is 21, that means she can still be excused as a kid, who has not yet grasped fully what she wants and the importance of fidelity in relationship, she may still want to still play around for a few years.

You know her better than us...
How far has she gone with school?
Since when did she start to date?
How many exes?
Are you sure you disflowered her?

Is this post a dejavu of some kind or it has been on front page before

kaziblake:
That your business everyone cannot be like you na...You can cheat and be forgiven but can't forgive them

Stop it jooor!


See as Mouth Action come dey hungry me...

She's truly sorry.....her ex might have been using some sweet and enticing words he had never said to her before and you know women are moved by what they hear �....For her to have lost her virginity to you and is also begging you to forgive her..i think you should sit her down and hear the truth about what is going on between her and her ex....everyone deserves a second chance bro.

akinade28:
Since you are hurt and wish to quit the relationship, be a man and break up with her, except you are ready to subject yourself to a lifetime of unhappiness. Such a marriage willbe miserable for the two of you. Don't let her manipulate you with virginity.
Or maybe you are not telling the whole story and you are looking for a flimsy excuse to end the relationship and still satisfy your conscience.

I concur.

you are just like me. i don't give a damn to cheating ladies.

its sucks me alot.
but my advice is that if u are willingly to quit just follow ur mindset ok.

Bro no disrespect but you said you are 28yrs & you still have a problem of indecision over such childish matter, the matter is not even an important one.... Majority of women(married) cheat not to talk about your gf you not even married to... bro talk better matter abeg

She's a mango tree planted by roadside........ You know what happens....

No disrespect. You are 28 years old and I don't think this is the kind of problem you should be having or worrying about, unless of course you are a late bloomer.

aysnoopy:


I don't understand Sir.. I'm confused at this stage.
what will u do Sir if you're d one?
I just need people's view on this
sometimes I'll pet her and told her everything will be fine again, but each time I remember, I just got fed-up and want breakup.

I was once in your shoes....my advice: break up with her jare, if she was worth it (she really do loves u) she won't go back to her ex!

aysnoopy:
Good morning good people of Nairaland. please don't mind my grammatical errors coz I'm not that good.

I'm 28yrs, working and I had a gf of 21yrs. we are very good together and I love her so much. we started dating a year ago and I told her what can make me breakup with her which is cheating. she swear never to cheat on me coz she loves me. (she's a virgin when I met her).

But after 6months of dating, I suspect she's still attached to her ex.. they are very close. I warned her but she said she'll rather break up with me than to cheat. she swear never to do that. I accepted but I keep watching and been sensitive.

Fast-forward to last month, I checked her fone for the 1st time. she don't expect it. I notice she's eager to get her fone back but I don't care. I checked and I notice she and her ex are having romantic affairs (no sex though) ..

I confronted her but ever since den she kept begging. her friends keep begging.

I'm a type that if u cheat on me, no matter how much I love u, d love will dropped totally. one of my ex did same, despite our relationship is 4 years, I broke up with her.

She's so afraid and keep saying she can't leave me Coz I'm d one that disvirgin her, but I wish to leave.

She said she never mean to do all those bull'shit with her ex, but I let her know that she still have feelings for him.

Each time I remember, I felt hurt and wish to quit. whenever she come to my place, she'll beg from morning till evening but that doesn't move me.

Please good people of Nairaland. what can I do?
if you're on my shoe, what will be ur judgment.
I've never accept cheat with any of my ex but this particular girl keep apologizing.

Bro....I suggest U quit....
she still have feeling for the ex and definitely the ex will surly take advantage of her....if it didn't happen soon,it will happen later..... Quit now.. U have done it before, U can still do it again.



U warned her....

As long as U too,U have never cheated on her....quit.



some gals don't worth the sacrifice.....

D worst is... If you foresaw that and keep telling them.... they won't listen to you and take Ur advice .



Leave Ur ex... they won't hear.
they will keep saying "is nothing" am no longer having anything with him......



till one day..... It will happen and they will start begging.



Gals re really frustrating guys but they will be first to say is the guys

KingAzubuike:

That one one don use rope tie your destiny.

I do love her is not about destiny ties

cenaman:
No lady that doesn't cheat maybe if u leave her now the next one will be worst. tell her to cut off communication with her ex. calls and social media (that is if you have her in mine to marry) if possible change her phone number.

stewpeed statement.
Which research did you conduct b4 making this statement of conclusion?

shege45:
okafor’s law states that
“ once you have slept with a woman, there is always a possibility that you can sleep with her again , even though she might be married “

pls who's dis "okafor" i've heard of him severally on Nl