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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Xclusiveme: 4:47pm On Oct 08, 2019
If after breaking the news to her and still wants to be with you, and u want d same, then be ready not to have a child of ur own. U re gonna have to adopt. Under no circumstances should she get pregnant. Family isn't always about blood but communion. You guys can still live happily. This world will come to an end one day. So do what your heart tells you and you'll be okay. Life isn't always fair. It's left for u nd I to live through it

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Nobody: 4:48pm On Oct 08, 2019
BroAchival:
Greetings to this great house,

As I type this message, my heart is heavy.

Up till today, I have never known my genotype till I went to do medical fitness test for my job/employment process.

I've being dating by girlfriend for about two years and seven months now, and I've always seen her as a perfect match to me, not because she's perfect, but because she's very loyal, reserved and calm, respectful, teachable, willing to learn, beautiful and very supportive to say a few.

Kai, the thought of losing her is killing and unexplainable. cry She had been a BLESSING to me all these while.
We've really worked on ourselves and helped each other to overcome our weaknesses.

With the challenges of my new and better job, will I really have that time to woo women and start the process of working on a woman to blend and suit me?

And this is a girl I'm planning to settle down with by the middle of next year, after I must have gotten used to my new job.

I have always believed that my genotype would be AA, but I was wrong!

Somebody told me that there's nothing God can not do, that he has seen people giving testimonies about change of genotypes. I didn't doubt him, it's just that i'm not the "churchious" type who easily believe all those stories.

Now, my questions are:

1.) Is it possible to have just two children without an SS child?

2.) How do I relate this sad news to her (after she has turned down several serious marriage proposals because of me)?

3.) Please, what do I do?

Please, help me and send this to front page for greater views and advice.

Matured and very serious advice needed.

Thanks.
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by anyimpro(m): 4:48pm On Oct 08, 2019
medicine has really advanced to a point where you can check the genotype of a foetus few weeks after conception, if you get the money ooo
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by idesylvester(m): 4:48pm On Oct 08, 2019
No matter how much you love each other, once u have a SS Child the love will die... trust me and the happiness will not be there. It's hard but you MUST let her go. Even God will not be happy with u if u make any move since he's the one that made u notice it... safe journey

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by adebayo10977(m): 4:49pm On Oct 08, 2019
Pls someone should educate more on this genotype of a thing, educated fellow usually take this serious and is good but imagine those fools that got pregnant out of wedlock, and I can said that most of them didn't do anything concerning test and about 90% of them are fine without bearing SS.

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by peacettw: 4:50pm On Oct 08, 2019
Ereolamide:
Bro you don't have to get worried at all. Follow these instructions carefully:

1. Keep your genotype a secret, don't tell her. If she insists, get the test done, alter the S in your result to A with a black Biro( black ink must be used in cases such as these).

2. Proceed with your wedding plans, get married to her since you love her so much. Women are very gullible she won't suspect a thing she is in love with you already.

3. You don't have to bother about your kids genotype, the lucky ones will turn out fine while the not-so-lucky ones will bear the SS genotype, you can also alter their genotype with a Biro and profess positive affirmations into their lives.

Note: You have to be 'churchious' to get your desired result.

4. With this, everything will be alright, and if things turn out otherwise, be rest assured that you'll be fine since you and your wife won't be the ones to endure the pains and crisis that come with sickle cell anaemia, the children will bear their cross bravely from hospital beds to hospital beds

I believe my advice is matured enough, I even checked my spellings, grammar and punctuations for extra marks.

Thanks and God bless.

Perfectly said. I couldn't have put it better myself.
I work with these kids everyday. Simply put, it isn't worth it. Go your separate ways. You will find another wife material again since it isn't really love that you are after.

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Nobody: 4:51pm On Oct 08, 2019
Show her the result first before you do anything
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by themanderon: 4:53pm On Oct 08, 2019
RUN!!! The heartbreak you will feel today is better than a lifetime of pain and sorrows. But if your faith can handle it then proceed.
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by KenOne: 4:53pm On Oct 08, 2019
You've got medical solution to your situation. Like someone earlier advised visit a doctor when you're ready to marry that your lovely girlfriend.

No cause for alarm a test will be carried out during the first trimester of the pregnancy to determine the genotype if it's SS they flush if it's AS or AA the pregnancy remains.

Chorionic Villus Sampling (CVS)

What is chorionic villus sampling (CVS)?
The CVS test is carried out earlier then amniocentesis – at around the 9th or 10th week of pregnancy, and again it is an outpatient procedure. Rather than testing a sample of the fluid of the mother’s womb, this test take a very small amount of material from the developing placenta.

What type of abnormality can be detected with CVS?

The sample contains cells that are of the same genetic type as the baby and so can reveal the same sort of disorders that amniocentesis discovers. Similarly CVS can detect rare diseases caused by abnormal genes, but thesetests will only normally be done if there is a family link with a particular disorder.

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by above2811(m): 4:53pm On Oct 08, 2019
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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by OyiboOyibo(m): 4:53pm On Oct 08, 2019
Ask google because you already know what to do
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Ipinpelumi: 4:54pm On Oct 08, 2019
I know how bad you feel about this but I'll just ask you do somethings
1. Go with her to different hospitals, at least 2 or 3 or even more, make sure she is the one that chose these hospitals so that it won't look like a set up.
Cos the one you did the first test could actually make a mistake.
2. If both of you turn out to be AS, I'll strongly advise that you don't take chances, it's better to cry now than to cry later, no amount of love will be able to stop you then.

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by fareedah86: 4:54pm On Oct 08, 2019
Guy since you are not the church type, that means you chose her based on feelings and emotions and not GOD...You do not even believe in things like that,forget it...break up with her...Guy all the feelings will vanish when u bring in sickly children into the world.You will eventually get tired and by then you see all this pity party will not cut it. You will regret it I swear..If you were a CHRISTIAN NOW, and GOD is leading you to marry her, he will change it..but you are not the church type sorry....

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by JYKZ: 4:54pm On Oct 08, 2019
well, I will advise u to explain to ur lover and let her know d implications of getting married with her.
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by TheeDetective: 4:55pm On Oct 08, 2019
I would have said I have no sympathy for you and your fiancee but I would not say that. You did not ask about your genotype on the first day of your getting to know each other and your fiancee did not ask either; common; who does that in this 21st century?undecided That said, are you waiting to hear from us that its ok for both of you to carry on? undecided The genotype issue should have been the first question you should have asked before venturing into the relationship. If you would not have kids then you can go ahead but if you would be thinking of having kids then it’s not advisable as there is no guarantee that you might not have SS children. Maybe you need to go to the hospital to see for yourself the crisis that an SS child goes through then may be your eyes will clear because the love you think you have for her if at all you have an SS child going through crisis, will disappear. One can excuse the not knowing of the older generation having SS children. But in this generation, it will be called a wicked act as the situation could have been avoided by doing a simple genotype check. ENOUGH SAID.

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Olusola101990: 4:55pm On Oct 08, 2019
Ereolamide:
Bro you don't have to get worried at all. Follow these instructions carefully:

1. Keep your genotype a secret, don't tell her. If she insists, get the test done, alter the S in your result to A with a black Biro( black ink must be used in cases such as these).

2. Proceed with your wedding plans, get married to her since you love her so much. Women are very gullible she won't suspect a thing she is in love with you already.

3. You don't have to bother about your kids genotype, the lucky ones will turn out fine while the not-so-lucky ones will bear the SS genotype, you can also alter their genotype with a Biro and profess positive affirmations into their lives.

Note: You have to be 'churchious' to get your desired result.

4. With this, everything will be alright, and if things turn out otherwise, be rest assured that you'll be fine since you and your wife won't be the ones to endure the pains and crisis that come with sickle cell anaemia, the children will bear their cross bravely from hospital beds to hospital beds

I believe my advice is matured enough, I even checked my spellings, grammar and punctuations for extra marks.

Thanks and God bless.
.......Weed..!!!...weed everywhere

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Thegoodone13(m): 4:56pm On Oct 08, 2019
Go look for AA
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by omoharry(f): 4:57pm On Oct 08, 2019
Quelme:
Synlab, Clina Lancet laboratories and El-lab run those test.
That means there is hope. grin grin grin grin grin grin
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by tiredoflife(m): 4:57pm On Oct 08, 2019
BroAchival:


Ok, So how best do I part with her, then?

Any suggestion from you?

Tell her u are hiv positive
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Od1n: 4:57pm On Oct 08, 2019
I might not know what you should do but i certainly know what you shouldn't do. Do not bring innocent children into this world to suffer.

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by omoharry(f): 4:58pm On Oct 08, 2019
aminu114:
are u proposing a murder?
Murder ke..noooooo!!!
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Nobody: 4:58pm On Oct 08, 2019
Study this!!!

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Sterope(f): 4:58pm On Oct 08, 2019
Smart but you obviously know what I mean smiley

pcguru1:


That's the plan, not to find an AS person wink .
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by AntiWailer: 4:59pm On Oct 08, 2019
Quit.

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by abels(m): 4:59pm On Oct 08, 2019
this is mean and wicked in such a sensitive case..May we not meet people that will add to our pains like you
Ereolamide:
Bro you don't have to get worried at all. Follow these instructions carefully:

1. Keep your genotype a secret, don't tell her. If she insists, get the test done, alter the S in your result to A with a black Biro( black ink must be used in cases such as these).

2. Proceed with your wedding plans, get married to her since you love her so much. Women are very gullible she won't suspect a thing she is in love with you already.

3. You don't have to bother about your kids genotype, the lucky ones will turn out fine while the not-so-lucky ones will bear the SS genotype, you can also alter their genotype with a Biro and profess positive affirmations into their lives.

Note: You have to be 'churchious' to get your desired result.

4. With this, everything will be alright, and if things turn out otherwise, be rest assured that you'll be fine since you and your wife won't be the ones to endure the pains and crisis that come with sickle cell anaemia, the children will bear their cross bravely from hospital beds to hospital beds

I believe my advice is matured enough, I even checked my spellings, grammar and punctuations for extra marks.

Thanks and God bless.

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Abaski9: 5:00pm On Oct 08, 2019
BroAchival:

3.) Please, what do I do?
Bro, it a difficult one tho.
If I could advice you is, pretend you don’t know your genotype, let you both do the test together, and once the results are out, then you guy should bring up all possibilities of you two not marrying and the rest, hear her response and the rest. I won’t advice you both to marry
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by abels(m): 5:00pm On Oct 08, 2019
please do not mind that guy...i think you should give up the relationship ,its better you bear the pains now than face the consequences later
BroAchival:


Alright.

I guess you've giving your best.

It's siesta time. Try and observe it.
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Nobody: 5:01pm On Oct 08, 2019
Sterope:
Smart but you obviously know what I mean smiley


I know just teasing. it's not worth the headache that follows and financial wahala

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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by cybriz82(m): 5:01pm On Oct 08, 2019
Ereolamide:
Bro you don't have to get worried at all. Follow these instructions carefully:

1. Keep your genotype a secret, don't tell her. If she insists, get the test done, alter the S in your result to A with a black Biro( black ink must be used in cases such as these).

2. Proceed with your wedding plans, get married to her since you love her so much. Women are very gullible she won't suspect a thing she is in love with you already.

3. You don't have to bother about your kids genotype, the lucky ones will turn out fine while the not-so-lucky ones will bear the SS genotype, you can also alter their genotype with a Biro and profess positive affirmations into their lives.

Note: You have to be 'churchious' to get your desired result.

4. With this, everything will be alright, and if things turn out otherwise, be rest assured that you'll be fine since you and your wife won't be the ones to endure the pains and crisis that come with sickle cell anaemia, the children will bear their cross bravely from hospital beds to hospital beds

I believe my advice is matured enough, I even checked my spellings, grammar and punctuations for extra marks.

Thanks and God bless.



D real definition of OYO (on your own)
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by nakaman: 5:02pm On Oct 08, 2019
abels:
this is mean and wicked in such a sensitive case..May we not meet people that will add to our pains like you
amen o . That was beyond wickedness.
Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by khalids: 5:03pm On Oct 08, 2019
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Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by deavicky(m): 5:04pm On Oct 08, 2019
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