pappy2000:




now she is everything i dont like in a delay i am even thinking of commiitting sucide because she conplains that i am not a man . I just cry and cry all day , i have no tears left in my eyes. she is just irratioanl always asking me for money.. she is very unloving , i am planning to ivorce her as soon as i marry her.

What is wrong you bro, why will you marry just to divorce?
Do you know the rigorous processes that comes with divorce?
If you are not interested just call off the wedding instead of putting yourself in a lifetime regret.

You even wanted this because you were pushed in the first place, SMH.

I am afraid for the child's wellbeing

pappy2000:




now she is everything i dont like in a delay i am even thinking of commiitting sucide because she conplains that i am not a man . I just cry and cry all day , i have no tears left in my eyes. she is just irratioanl always asking me for money.. she is very unloving , i am planning to ivorce her as soon as i marry her.

How old is your fiancee?

How did you guys manage to understand this writeup?

pappy2000:
I need to start this wrte up that i met this lady early this year and i had another lady who from my analysis is not so much in love with me so when i finally met this lady, she was everything i desire in a woman, so we started dating and from dating i went to see her sister in Abuja then from Abuja i wnet to kogi to meet her parent. I met her family late june 2019. so i work in a blue chip company with a salary of little more than 100k so but i realize the salary wont make me live my dream life so i took a loan from gtbank to buy a car and use for e hailing .my financee was so much supportive that she on her own decided to add like 200k fund so i bought a toyota matix. so when i gave out the car the people i gave it to were all misbehaving so i decided that i will drive the car, she was so cool and nice that she will do everything at my beck n call. now when i went to meet her sister in abuja her sister insist that we should pick a date mean while in may when we was marking her birthday , she told me how sad she was due to the fact that she was marking her birthday. and she is getting younger so i promise her then that we will marry this year. i told her in Novermber so we finally settle for a date and the sister spent her money unfortunately for me things was as i plan in the uber biz i need a few repair her n then now we got days left to wedding and she has been very irrational , she is pregant for me, each time she visits me i i will beg her na d cry n cry how i truly wante a happy home.

You seem to lack financial and emotional intelligence as well self control.

You want to marry and the first thing that came to mind was 'loan'! Your supposed fiancee that was to advise you even had to chunk out #200 000 to add. All for what?

You weren't ready to marry and yet you were firing her on top gear.

pappy2000:




I am crying daily. there is nothing wrong in trying business,even if one fails,she got an excellent family her sister even told me she is willing to borrow me money when i told her she said i am an idiot.

How do you intend to pay off the car loan because that is even the headache not this marriage drama.

The truth is that we have already done the court wedding the traditional marriage is around next two weeks, her sister has spent like 900,k on the wedding. She is 34 years old

deltateam:


You seem to lack financial and emotional intelligence as well self control.

You want to marry and the first thing that came to mind was 'loan'! Your supposed fiancee that was to advise you even had to chunk out #200 000 to add. All for what?

You weren't ready to marry and yet you were firing her on top gear.

What am I supposed to do brother, the reason why she said she left her ex was because that one na boxer, but I have for once hit her even when provoked,I think I made the mistake of my life , my thinking is to finish the wedding in November give her one month to displayher madness and then file a divorce early January, that lady used to be so loving that I didn't even pray about it,

This is alady that I go on my knees when she visit me that I promise to worship her for the rest of my life, I told her I am ready to give her 50k out of my salary'yet she said that is not enough that she wants to open a shop , I am just damn tired her delivery date is April yet last week she told me she went to see a doctor to plead with him to evacuate the pregnancy

deltateam:


You seem to lack financial and emotional intelligence as well self control.

You want to marry and the first thing that came to mind was 'loan'! Your supposed fiancee that was to advise you even had to chunk out #200 000 to add. All for what?

You weren't ready to marry and yet you were firing her on top gear.

Like i told u i earn over a little more than 100k , i have built my own place and i liive in the suburb of ikorodu, i intend to o the uber biz on a part time basis to repay the loan

ireneidiva:
How did you guys manage to understand this writeup?

I thought I was the only one who did not understand the write up.

AngryIgboMan:
For those who have not yet seen through the shenanigans of the OP, be you aware this is an SOB STORY meant to win sympathy and scam people of there money.


The op is being smart by half thats why he is knowingly typing in bad English to win pity. Go through his story well and use Nigerian sense to follow him.. This story was meant to win him pity and make people donate money for him.


I CAN ASSURE YOU 100% that this nigger right here is a SCAMMER and FRAUDSTER.

i dont need any one money just need advice on how to live a happy life , I am doing great. so dont get it twisted

Niceman4u:


I thought I was the only one who did not understand the write up.

sorry its a story of my life just writing from the heart. i dont think i am writing bad english i am a graduate , I am writing this issue as its comes to my heart.

pappy2000:
I have already done court wedding with her and she kept complaining of things not done if i knew she is like this i will not marry her. I swear.

I thought you said she was supportive and gave you 200k for your business?

What changed?

Did you do something that made her not trust you anymore and made her become mean to you?


I think you both should just take time off and cool off from each other. Marriage isn't by force.

The wedding you are scared of cancelling some people die before it and it still gets cancelled. No one remembers all the rice and invitation when they are mourning.

Since you guys have done court wedding just relax. Let her have her baby. Isn't one of the aims of marriage to have kids.

Don't let anybody put pressure on you. Be in charge. You are the man. Think straight. Plan well. Plan how you'll get out of this mess. Wedding isn't compulsory.


If she thinks you are not man enough then it is time for you to take a break from her.

Only send her monthly upkeep for her and the baby.

Set a standard amount that even in the toughest times you will be able to afford.


Stay away from each other. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Too much familiarity breeds contempt.


Let her only see the proceeds of your hustle. Forget everything romance right now.

And if you did anything to offend her, ask for her forgiveness.

generationz:


I thought you said she was supportive and gave you 200k for your business?

What changed?

Did you do something that made her not trust you anymore and made her become mean to you?


I think you both should just take time off and cool off from each other. Marriage isn't by force.

The wedding you are scared of cancelling some people die before it and it still gets cancelled. No one remembers all the rice and invitation when they are mourning.

Since you guys have done court wedding just relax. Let her have her baby. Isn't one of the aims of marriage to have kids.

Don't let anybody put pressure on you. Be in charge. You are the man. Think straight. Plan well. Plan how you'll get out of this mess. Wedding isn't compulsory.


If she thinks you are not man enough then it is time for you to take a break from her.

Only send her monthly upkeep for her and the baby.

Set a standard amount that even in the toughest times you will be able to afford.


Stay away from each other. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Too much familiarity breeds contempt.


Let her only see the proceeds of your hustle. Forget everything romance right now.

And if you did anything to offend her, ask for her forgiveness.

God bless you this is what I really need right now, I think I am getting too emotionally attached to her

pappy2000:



What am I supposed to do brother, the reason why she said she left her ex was because that one na boxer, but I have for once hit her even when provoked,I think I made the mistake of my life , my thinking is to finish the wedding in November give her one month to displayher madness and then file a divorce early January, that lady used to be so loving that I didn't even pray about it,

Did you both agree orally that she will receive proceeds front the Uber business?

Was the 200k a loan or an investment on her part?

Or did she give you as a gift?

Free your mind

This wan wey you dey fear your wife sister. Nawao

Guy, you are not ready for marriage.

pappy2000:
I need to start this write up that i met this lady early this year and i had another lady who from my analysis is not so much in love with me so when i finally met this lady, she was everything i desire in a woman, so we started dating and from dating i went to see her sister in Abuja then from Abuja i went to kogi to meet her parent.

I met her family late June 2019. So I work in a blue chip company with a salary of little more than 100k so but i realized the salary won't make me live my dream life so i took a loan from gtbank to buy a car and use for e hailing.

My fiancee was so much supportive that she on her own decided to add like 200k fund so i bought a toyota matix.

So when I gave out the car the people i gave it to were all misbehaving so i decided that i will drive the car, she was so cool and nice that she will do everything at my beck n call.

Now when i went to meet her sister in Abuja her sister insists that we should pick a date meanwhile in may when we were marking her birthday, she told me how sad she was due to the fact that she was marking her birthday and she is getting younger so i promise her then that we will marry this year. I told her in Novermber so we finally settle for a date and the sister spent her money.

Unfortunately for me things were not as i planned in the uber biz, i need a few repair here and then. Now we got days left to wedding and she has been very irrational. She is pregnant for me, each time she visits me, i will beg her, na the cry and cry. How I truly want a happy home.

@bolded
Godliness with contentment is great gain - the Holy Bible.
How dare you quit your job to do uber And you took a loan
You are the architect of your misfortune!
Sorry!! I hope you get yourself again.

pappy2000:
I need to start this write up that i met this lady early this year and i had another lady who from my analysis is not so much in love with me so when i finally met this lady, she was everything i desire in a woman, so we started dating and from dating i went to see her sister in Abuja then from Abuja i went to kogi to meet her parent.

I met her family late June 2019. So I work in a blue chip company with a salary of little more than 100k so but i realized the salary won't make me live my dream life so i took a loan from gtbank to buy a car and use for e hailing.

My fiancee was so much supportive that she on her own decided to add like 200k fund so i bought a toyota matix.

So when I gave out the car the people i gave it to were all misbehaving so i decided that i will drive the car, she was so cool and nice that she will do everything at my beck n call.

Now when i went to meet her sister in Abuja her sister insists that we should pick a date meanwhile in may when we were marking her birthday, she told me how sad she was due to the fact that she was marking her birthday and she is getting younger so i promise her then that we will marry this year. I told her in Novermber so we finally settle for a date and the sister spent her money.

Unfortunately for me things were not as i planned in the uber biz, i need a few repair here and then. Now we got days left to wedding and she has been very irrational. She is pregnant for me, each time she visits me, i will beg her, na the cry and cry. How I truly want a happy home.

you're complaining over NOTHING...... I cant seem to understand what the problem is here; Keep faith things would get in the right places

Are we talking about Kogi state girl here or someone whose parents just live in Kogi?

Cos if that girl is from Kogi state, just back off! I'm yet to see one good girl from Kogi state and I've seen many. Only go ahead with this wedding if you're also from Kogi state, if not....

Kogi state? God forbid

But....

Let just read comments and sell ma market.

The choice is between making your partner happy and getting affirmation and approval from people like her sister.

Make your choice...

I will suggest you call off the wedding since the court has been done and save up some money for your unborn child..

pappy2000:
I am i40 ears old and i have heard enough people telling me to go n marry now i am not finding any fulfillment in this union, she is asking for multiple things at a time and i cant go in the life of crime. I have pleaded with her for a better tomorrow what can i really do.. i AM THINKING OF DIVORCE AFTER THE WEDDING.

'THINKING OF DIVORCE AFTER THE WEDDING'.
please someone should explain this to me. l am lost.

pappy2000:
I need to start this write up that i met this lady early this year and i had another lady who from my analysis is not so much in love with me so when i finally met this lady, she was everything i desire in a woman, so we started dating and from dating i went to see her sister in Abuja then from Abuja i went to kogi to meet her parent.

I met her family late June 2019. So I work in a blue chip company with a salary of little more than 100k so but i realized the salary won't make me live my dream life so i took a loan from gtbank to buy a car and use for e hailing.

My fiancee was so much supportive that she on her own decided to add like 200k fund so i bought a toyota matix.

So when I gave out the car the people i gave it to were all misbehaving so i decided that i will drive the car, she was so cool and nice that she will do everything at my beck n call.

Now when i went to meet her sister in Abuja her sister insists that we should pick a date meanwhile in may when we were marking her birthday, she told me how sad she was due to the fact that she was marking her birthday and she is getting younger so i promise her then that we will marry this year. I told her in Novermber so we finally settle for a date and the sister spent her money.

Unfortunately for me things were not as i planned in the uber biz, i need a few repair here and then. Now we got days left to wedding and she has been very irrational. She is pregnant for me, each time she visits me, i will beg her, na the cry and cry. How I truly want a happy home.

The fact is she loves you are want a marriage with you. You mentioned that she is pregnant, her recent behavior may be as a result of her being pregnant. Notwithstanding that, one need to be very mature to be a husband. One key thing that had help me is that even before I married my wife, I told myself I was going to consider my wife as my first daughter therefore I need to do everything possible to raise my first daughter properly with care, love and tolerance, not leaving behind constructive corrections when necessary.
Finally, in my own dictionary, acceptance precede love when it come to marriage. I wish you success

If you're already thinking about divorce b4 d wedding day.. why go on with the planned wedding? This marriage thing shudnt be by force sir.

ladyGKilaBCrueD:
like how you gave up on us. quitter

leave okmn alone ! Na by force 2 chop preek

pappy2000:




I am crying daily. there is nothing wrong in trying business,even if one fails,she got an excellent family her sister even told me she is willing to borrow me money when i told her she said i am an idiot.

U don buy market na�!
Abeg jeje o and be a man by being bold.
Tell dem where u stand n stoP crying like a baby. Wetin ur tear tear don solve now?