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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Funkybabee(f): 10:04am On Nov 08, 2019
They said a fo0l at 40 is a fo0l forever.



I don't even understand his write-up self. is it the supporting lady that's troubling him now or a broke lady



infact you must be a lazy man and not lazy only but weak man

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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Soteriahascome: 10:05am On Nov 08, 2019
pappy2000:
The truth is that we have already done the court wedding the traditional marriage is around next two weeks, her sister has spent like 900,k on the wedding. She is 34 years old

When will Africans arise!
900k for weddings?? Coming from outside support not even within. After wedding what next?
You will make a noisy unnecessary show off wedding and after you return to struggle and hustle. Puff.

I suspect that the couple are emotionally unbalanced.

Op. Are you marring out of pity? You promised to marry her this Year because you don't want her to be complaining of getting older right?

She was desperate for a husband and gave you 200k for financial push and you were not intelligent enough to invest it in something profitable, you even collected loan from Nigerian bank.

If you had continued in your over 100k job for about 2 to3 years and saved it would have been better. Never too late for you to make amendments sha

I will advise you to postpone/extend wedding date and fix things before going fully into marriage.
You guys need heart to heart talk and if possible, a spiritual director.

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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by whirlwind7(m): 10:05am On Nov 08, 2019
pappy2000:
I am i40 ears old and i have heard enough people telling me to go n marry now i am not finding any fulfillment in this union, she is asking for multiple things at a time and i cant go in the life of crime. I have pleaded with her for a better tomorrow what can i really do.. i AM THINKING OF DIVORCE AFTER THE WEDDING.

Huh. 40 and trapped in the body of a kid.
If she were my sister, I would make sure she doesn't end up with you.

Lawd! How could a 40 year old be this childish??
Where did you leave your balls when you outgrew your teen years?

Pathetic.

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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by generationz(f): 10:07am On Nov 08, 2019
Simpleete:




You are a man,you hit the nail at the head,three gboza for you.

I am a woman. sad

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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by ojay72(m): 10:07am On Nov 08, 2019
ireneidiva:
How did you guys manage to understand this writeup?

Lollzzzzz... You be idiot, wallahi.

Funny enough, me sef no understand.

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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Myhusband(m): 10:07am On Nov 08, 2019
Impregenating her was your first mistake. My girl is also misbehaving lately but I never ready, can't allow any lady to push me to what's beyond me


See involve your family member in this, don't put the burden of thought on you alone. If she's a religion type involve someone she listen to as well


You've done the court wedding means you're legally married with her, so which wedding are you still talking about with pregnancy in her already?


Your post is confusing and contradictory
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Blackfriday: 10:08am On Nov 08, 2019
0KNM:
Bro, things never get better, it gets worse and worse. Trust me
Who is this one.... Must you see the negatives of every aspect of life.

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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Jbloc: 10:09am On Nov 08, 2019
Wedding preparation comes with its own fears and stress. Moreover, when there is not enough money to prepare.
This phase will pass away.
Do all you can to make your wife happy and do the wedding within your means.

Las las, your e-hailing business, loan, baby , work, wife will be alright.



pappy2000:



How can I get out of this nightmare

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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Nobody: 10:09am On Nov 08, 2019
This one even calls you an idiot, and you're still with her? Be a man who refuses to be looked down on. walkway.
pappy2000:




I am crying daily. there is nothing wrong in trying business,even if one fails,she got an excellent family her sister even told me she is willing to borrow me money when i told her she said i am an idiot.

Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by ladyn4real(f): 10:10am On Nov 08, 2019
pappy2000:




now she is everything i dont like in a delay i am even thinking of commiitting sucide because she conplains that i am not a man . I just cry and cry all day , i have no tears left in my eyes. she is just irratioanl always asking me for money.. she is very unloving , i am planning to ivorce her as soon as i marry her.
instead of divorce after marriage, don't marry her at all so that she can marry one who truly loves her and enjoy marriage biko

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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Funkybabee(f): 10:10am On Nov 08, 2019
whirlwind7:

Huh. 40 and trapped in the body of a kid. If she were my sister, I would make sure she doesn't end up with you.
Lawd! How could a 40 year old be this childish?? Where did you leave your balls when you outgrew your teen years?
Pathetic.

is not childish ooo.

he's l@zy, fo0l and we@k man.

I just pity the lady that has trapped her life into his ministry

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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Funkybabee(f): 10:11am On Nov 08, 2019
whirlwind7:

Huh. 40 and trapped in the body of a kid. If she were my sister, I would make sure she doesn't end up with you.
Lawd! How could a 40 year old be this childish?? Where did you leave your balls when you outgrew your teen years?
Pathetic.

is not childish ooo.

he's l@zy, fo0l and we@k man.

I just pity the lady that has trapped her life into his ministry
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Nezero(m): 10:11am On Nov 08, 2019
pappy2000:
I really dont want to brak her sister heart because she has spent her money n energy to make this realtionship work but now my wife is just irrational. I told her its a step at a time but she insisit i should do all, she is asking for phone i must her a new set of chair and do proper wedding all at once, she even suggested i should sell my car n buy okada



Please listen to her.
You will be rewarded when she comes back to normal after the baby. Everything is not her fault



This is all perfectly normal. Just give her all the good things you can. There will be other opportunities in the future. please

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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Kunlexity(m): 10:13am On Nov 08, 2019
The situation here is dicey.
From your analysis here, your wife-to-be has a very good and accommodating family but your wife behavior is opposite of what you're dreaming for as a man.
You need to think twice about this union because, it is this same woman that you are going to live with for the rest of your life.

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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by piagbara: 10:13am On Nov 08, 2019
If on her own she decides to evcuate grin grin the child by her self; better for you, also pls guys never get pressured into what u are not ready for(marriage) cos this entails financial stability at least to some extent and emotional maturity.

The idea of marry and divorce is not a good one bro, to carry belle no b play bros, pls give her time, after child birth....if she let d child stay sha.....u can delay the marriage to avoid stories that touch.

Also pls open ur eyes, love is open eyes not blind �
All the best to you

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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Nobody: 10:14am On Nov 08, 2019
Blackfriday:
Who is this one.... Must you see the negatives of every aspect of life.
How many of such stories ended up getting better after marriage? Some of you do not learn. Maybe too scared to accept reality so yall prefer to deceive yourselves smh

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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by iswallker(m): 10:14am On Nov 08, 2019
pappy2000:
I really dont want to brak her sister heart because she has spent her money n energy to make this realtionship work but now my wife is just irrational. I told her its a step at a time but she insisit i should do all, she is asking for phone i must her a new set of chair and do proper wedding all at once, she even suggested i should sell my car n buy okada

Your English is breaking my heart here already. lipsrsealed
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by LyfeJennings(m): 10:15am On Nov 08, 2019
VeeVeeMyLuv:

False! Except the lady is not your class or mate, infact There are many cases I have seen where women stayed with struggling men

Me I never see o
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by amtheone(m): 10:16am On Nov 08, 2019
My cousin actually got married just to divorce later. When he told me of such plan, I thought he was joking.

It was not a funny experience for both of them.

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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by kannymoore(m): 10:19am On Nov 08, 2019
Beatswim:
bros as a counsellor.. I married without a job for 5 years before God openwd a big way for me this year.. I married a nurse... So respectful... Highly tolerant and very understanding lady.. The question i need to ask u is dis... Are u a Christian? If yes then i dont feel u know about seeking God's face before u choose a woman... From inception this marriage is quite faulty.. U are going to this marriage because shes pregnant... That a bad foundation..that lady will frustrate you..beta accept her child and seek God's face for a life partner


"Marrying a woman because she is pregnant is a bad Christian fouundation"
What sort of nonsense advice is that?

Wasn't Jesus himself born from this same kain foundation?!


Some of you holier than thou folks are just one kain... kiss kiss

At the OP.... talk to the most reasonable member of your girls family and make them hear you out. If you still can't see reason with them then just opt out of the wedding.

You will not die in the end.

Take care of your kid though.

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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Gloriagee(f): 10:20am On Nov 08, 2019
Why go ahead to marry her when you are planning on a divorce?

pappy2000:




now she is everything i dont like in a delay i am even thinking of commiitting sucide because she conplains that i am not a man . I just cry and cry all day , i have no tears left in my eyes. she is just irratioanl always asking me for money.. she is very unloving , i am planning to ivorce her as soon as i marry her.

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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Gloriagee(f): 10:22am On Nov 08, 2019
Either she was pretending or its pregnancy hormones. Give her a proper talk and postpone the wedding if need be. Who sells a car to buy okada for heaven's sake?

pappy2000:
I really dont want to brak her sister heart because she has spent her money n energy to make this realtionship work but now my wife is just irrational. I told her its a step at a time but she insisit i should do all, she is asking for phone i must her a new set of chair and do proper wedding all at once, she even suggested i should sell my car n buy okada

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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Ilekokonit: 10:23am On Nov 08, 2019
pappy2000:
She conplains that i am not a man . She is just irratioanl always asking me for money. I am planning to ivorce her as soon as i marry her.

A woman says you are not a man and you are still planning on marrying her. Are you nuts

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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by seangy4konji: 10:26am On Nov 08, 2019
When they tell you to listen to naira Marley. You will say he is a nuisance..

Japa japa...jawo Chicago..

Oloaho she ma loyun fun mi what can fa..

Once you enter a bad marriage.

Your life is half ruined.

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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Gloriagee(f): 10:27am On Nov 08, 2019
If na me, I go run sha. Life is too short to be trapped in an unhappy marriage. I cant stand threats ... U earn 100k and she wants 50k , is that like a monthly amount or a one off. Well, shina ya eyes

pappy2000:
This is alady that I go on my knees when she visit me that I promise to worship her for the rest of my life, I told her I am ready to give her 50k out of my salary'yet she said that is not enough that she wants to open a shop , I am just damn tired her delivery date is April yet last week she told me she went to see a doctor to plead with him to evacuate the pregnancy

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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Nicoddemus(m): 10:28am On Nov 08, 2019
pappy2000:
The truth is that we have already done the court wedding the traditional marriage is around next two weeks, her sister has spent like 900,k on the wedding. She is 34 years old

Jesus! sad

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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Blackfriday: 10:30am On Nov 08, 2019
Beatswim:
bros as a counsellor.. I married without a job for 5 years before God openwd a big way for me this year.. I married a nurse... So respectful... Highly tolerant and very understanding lady.. The question i need to ask u is dis... Are u a Christian? If yes then i dont feel u know about seeking God's face before u choose a woman... From inception this marriage is quite faulty.. U are going to this marriage because shes pregnant... That a bad foundation..that lady will frustrate you..beta accept her child and seek God's face for a life partner
Please how do one seek God's face in a marriage?..

Do God come down from heaven and give you the wife?

Not everyone will have a supportive wife like yours for 5 years without a job but want I don't understand is you asking him to quit now, even after they are legally married in the eyes of the LAW, so it's okay he leaves the lady while she's pregnant for him (4 months)...wow.

No life journey is easy, the young man has made some mistake already but he should have some balls and face his demons, that is what define successful men, you don't run at face of a any slight obstacle (you don't win that way), good things don't come easy, we all dream of so many beautiful things we want in life but Who says it's going to come like a fairly tale?.

You are married sir and I guess you have children now as well, so should understand how cranky so ladies can become when they are pregnant, coupled with a pressure of planning a marriage, baba... This man should be patient and pray to God for a better days... From his narrative the girls family have been nice to him, willing to support him and the lady herself have been good to him in the past, can't he give it his best instead of running away.... And the truth be told no woman will be happy a man who can't get things done, they don't leave with promises.

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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Nicoddemus(m): 10:31am On Nov 08, 2019
AngryIgboMan:
For those who have not yet seen through the shenanigans of the OP, be you aware this is an SOB STORY meant to win sympathy and scam people of there money.


The op is being smart by half thats why he is knowingly typing in bad English to win pity. Go through his story well and use Nigerian sense to follow him.. This story was meant to win him pity and make people donate money for him.


I CAN ASSURE YOU 100% that this nigger right here is a SCAMMER and FRAUDSTER.


grin
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Oreofepeters: 10:32am On Nov 08, 2019
Sterope:
I don't think that pregnancy is yours.
Pappy2000 I think you gotta see this, there's much sense in what this guy said.
I don't think that pregnancy is yours, the reason she's putting pressure on you to tie you down.
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Skmoda360(m): 10:32am On Nov 08, 2019
chigoizie7:
Why get married to divorce later?

This life is also too precious to go and die anyhow. But the truth is nothing comes easy.


Since you are this suicidal even when you never enter the marriage. Bros, my advice is, don’t go ahead with the marriage. And before you cancel the whole engagement, please I want you to make up your mind first, then go to that her sister and tell her what has been happening and why you do not want to go ahead with the marriage, then walk away. If she wants to terminate the child, na her business.



Most people see signs of toxic marriages early enough, yet they dabble into it, it is not wise

Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Skmoda360(m): 10:33am On Nov 08, 2019
ireneidiva:
How did you guys manage to understand this writeup?
Because he was angry when he was typing and crying at the same time, so I grab every points.
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by ibechris(m): 10:34am On Nov 08, 2019
The problem with ur wife is that;she wants u to invest more in the wedding than in the marriage.
She does not know that marriage is critical and more important than wedding.
However, am sorry just like someone said,it does not get better with a bad wife. She will cut ur life short and then go ahead and remarry.

This is indeed a red flag and for her to advice u to sell ur car and buy an okada is enough to how this is going to end. I can't even pray such to my enemy let alone my partner.

To be fair to you,leave that woman and retain ur sanity,go on a self imposed exile and regain ur sanity. She has shown u everything u need know of a bad and destructive wife.
And any body that does not like my comment should rather not reply because I will curse u for telling a young man like this to die all because of one woman.
Marriage should be enjoyed and not endured,that is why it's very sacrosanct to investigate before u say I do,just like Igbo's men and women,they will send someone to ur village and possibly,to know whom their brother,sister and daughter wants to marry,that is the reason why the rate of divorce is quite low in that region.

In conclusion,waste no money in marrying that woman,heaven will not fall. Heaven helps those who help themselves,there is no wisdom in going into a burning fire,when u can be rescued by a mere "I am not doing again." Say it and be bold. Using pregnancy to pin ur destiny is what I hate here, do not be deceived. Say know to a bad wife and a bad husband. Nigeria is too hot for one to face Buhari's economy and still come home to face a lion partner

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