The last time I checked single mother is not a disease if you love her and you are sure she loves you too why not go ahead she didn't choose to be a single mother she just find her self in situation that is beyond her control if you love her go ahead

Alexgeneration:
No man in his right senses will waste his resources to marry a second-hand woman (single mother) when he can use same resources to get a better wife.




Only losers and men with low self esteem will end up with single mothers because they can't attract better females to themselves and if you ask them why,they will mask their inferiority with love,then you begin to ask "you no see virgin love abi you no see woman wey dem never useless love"?



Single mothers are the dregs of the female species and only few inches above mad women.


#Pukes

You killed it

lyndaway:
The last time I checked single mother is not a disease if you love her and you are sure she loves you too why not go ahead she didn't choose to be a single mother she just find her self in situation that is beyond her control if you love her go ahead

She chooses to be a single mother.

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Leoniine:


BS...

shut up.

[/s]
Single mother is here

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lyndaway:
The last time I checked single mother is not a disease if you love her and you are sure she loves you too why not go ahead she didn't choose to be a single mother she just find her self in situation that is beyond her control if you love her go ahead

[/s]
So you expect a man to waste his money on single mother ?

MrBrownJay1:


are you claiming that a woman without child is automatically "better" than a single mother?! if you judge ALL single mothers as bad and ALL single women as good, then you sir has seriously lost the plot. the problem is therefore NOT these women but instead your misplaced ego....
your misplaced ego is stinking!



so you actually believe a virgin will always be better than a single mother?! again, it shows that the reason you hate these women is because they have been with other men before you, AND NOT because they are actually bad women.
your misplaced ego is stinking!



whoever is the single mother that must have hurt you (to think in such a foul way about them) because no man in his right mind would be narrow minded when thinking of these women. pele o!
your hate for them is stinking!

I don't seem to understand your criticism laced with insults bro.
They gave their personal opinions, why not respect that instead of calling them names. It almost seems as if you want every man here to automatically love single moms.

Tallesty1:
Linda couldn't marry when she doesn't have a child e come be now that she is a single mom. Genevieve is a single mom and she is single with all her wealth and achievements, Tiwa too and the best she could get with all her money is fvcking a boy.


Guy, you're just trying to blackmail other guys without making sense.

Apart from the fact that most single mothers(who aren't unfortunate widows) are promiscuous, there are a million and one other reasons to stay away from them.


But before I go down to one or maybe two of these reason, I will like to point out something to some of you. You especially.


Single mothers should stop this always failing attempt to blackmail men to marry them.
For every single mother out there, there's at least 20 ladies that have not had a child who are still single.

If your being single is a result of having a child then explain these other ladies who are also single even though they have never had a child? You go online to claim that being a single parent is bliss and the only way and then come offline to wail that you can't find a husband? Who takes such an unstable person serious.

You make it seem like they're single because they're single mothers but truth is they're single because they have issues just like other single ladies out there. Women generally have issues, matter of fact, anything that has tire, engine or boobs have issues but boobs that have fed a child have complicated issues.


Now down to the reasons.

Which you have not experienced.


Women have undying love for things that give them pain.

High heels give them pain but they wear it anyways. Skimpy dresses makes them uncomfortable, but they can't do without it. You see them cling to shitholes that treat them like trash and then make you their best friend so you can console them when they are treated like thrash. It's illogical to us but they seem to understand it.

A lot of the guys that put these ladies in the family way are assholes so your woman, because of this their inexplicable love for things that give them pain will once in a while go back to this guy.

Women who suffered terribly in the hands of an ex lover see their child as a consolation price. For this reason, this child will come first before the one she will have for you.

I know you don't understand this because you've not experienced anything like that.



Picture this family.


A single father married a single mother.

By your logic, they're birds of the same feather and similar experience so they are going make a one happy family.

But that's not the case.

The union produced a kid but these kid was starved of her parents love. The father gives 70% of his love to the other child and the mother gives 90% of her love to the other child. The child they have together manage whatever is left.


Single mothers of today cling on the child without any reasonable source of income, so the moment you marry them, the child becomes your responsibility.

So before you jump on marrying a single lady just to prove a useless point, answer this question.


How will you feel seeing your wife give most of her love and attention to a kid she had for another man and you helped her to raise while your own kids get just whatever is left of her love? If you are okay with it then please by all means, marry a single mother and leave us to our choice.

I can't do it and neither you nor any single mom can blackmail me to do it.

And finally, blaming everything that happens in Africa on religion is becoming very lame.


Please note that all single mothers are not the same. There are many many good single mothers who are just unfortunate with men but finding a wife is difficult and I am not going to make it more difficult by including single mothers.

You nailed it. I was even enjoying his points till he introduced blackmail and insults and I wonder why he is taking it so personal.

Yinibixema:
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So you expect a man to waste his money on single mother ?

waste his money how? the question ask was if he should marry her or not even if he spent his money on her there is nothing wrong with it what you sow is what you reap I know of a guy who is presently dating a single mother I tell you he sponsor the child all through to her ND she just rounded up her program tell me will that child forget that guy never he has left a seed that will forever speak for him in the life of that child

Charleys:


She chooses to be a single mother.

No woman choose to be a single mother if I get you clearly you are saying that she should have had abortion it a pity the way some people think but one should always remember no one knows tomorrow

lyndaway:
waste his money how? the question ask was if he should marry her or not even if he spent his money on her there is nothing wrong with it what you sow is what you reap I know of a guy who is presently dating a single mother I tell you he sponsor the child all through to her ND she just rounded up her program tell me will that child forget that guy never he has left a seed that will forever speak for him in the life of that child

The child may forget such guy. Even some children don’t remember and reward their parents struggle in their lives. So you can’t be sure if the girl will remember the dude or not

Yinibixema:

The child may forget such guy. Even some children don’t remember and reward their parents struggle in their lives. So you can’t be sure if the girl will remember the dude or not

Am not telling you a story someone told me am telling you reality no matter what that child will never forget the guy a female child is not like a male child everything we do in life has a way of coming back to us it pays to be good

lyndaway:
Am not telling you a story someone told me am telling you reality no matter what that child will never forget the guy a female child is not like a male child everything we do in life has a way of coming back to us it pays to be good

Hmmm explain the bolded

lyndaway:
No woman choose to be a single mother if I get you clearly you are saying that she should have had abortion it a pity the way some people think but one should always remember no one knows tomorrow

Now you know she chosed it, I've had so many bans that I can't communicate properly anylonger because of bans but I'm happy you understood me.

Tallesty1:
Linda couldn't marry when she doesn't have a child e come be now that she is a single mom. Genevieve is a single mom and she is single with all her wealth and achievements, Tiwa too and the best she could get with all her money is fvcking a boy.


Guy, you're just trying to blackmail other guys without making sense.

Apart from the fact that most single mothers(who aren't unfortunate widows) are promiscuous, there are a million and one other reasons to stay away from them.


But before I go down to one or maybe two of these reason, I will like to point out something to some of you. You especially.


Single mothers should stop this always failing attempt to blackmail men to marry them.
For every single mother out there, there's at least 20 ladies that have not had a child who are still single.

If your being single is a result of having a child then explain these other ladies who are also single even though they have never had a child? You go online to claim that being a single parent is bliss and the only way and then come offline to wail that you can't find a husband? Who takes such an unstable person serious.

You make it seem like they're single because they're single mothers but truth is they're single because they have issues just like other single ladies out there. Women generally have issues, matter of fact, anything that has tire, engine or boobs have issues but boobs that have fed a child have complicated issues.


Now down to the reasons.

Which you have not experienced.


Women have undying love for things that give them pain.

High heels give them pain but they wear it anyways. Skimpy dresses makes them uncomfortable, but they can't do without it. You see them cling to shitholes that treat them like trash and then make you their best friend so you can console them when they are treated like thrash. It's illogical to us but they seem to understand it.

A lot of the guys that put these ladies in the family way are assholes so your woman, because of this their inexplicable love for things that give them pain will once in a while go back to this guy.

Women who suffered terribly in the hands of an ex lover see their child as a consolation price. For this reason, this child will come first before the one she will have for you.

I know you don't understand this because you've not experienced anything like that.



Picture this family.


A single father married a single mother.

By your logic, they're birds of the same feather and similar experience so they are going make a one happy family.

But that's not the case.

The union produced a kid but these kid was starved of her parents love. The father gives 70% of his love to the other child and the mother gives 90% of her love to the other child. The child they have together manage whatever is left.


Single mothers of today cling on the child without any reasonable source of income, so the moment you marry them, the child becomes your responsibility.

So before you jump on marrying a single lady just to prove a useless point, answer this question.


How will you feel seeing your wife give most of her love and attention to a kid she had for another man and you helped her to raise while your own kids get just whatever is left of her love? If you are okay with it then please by all means, marry a single mother and leave us to our choice.

I can't do it and neither you nor any single mom can blackmail me to do it.

And finally, blaming everything that happens in Africa on religion is becoming very lame.


Please note that all single mothers are not the same. There are many many good single mothers who are just unfortunate with men but finding a wife is difficult and I am not going to make it more difficult by including single mothers.

Brutality

luminouz:


I don't seem to understand your criticism laced with insults bro.
They gave their personal opinions, why not respect that instead of calling them names. It almost seems as if you want every man here to automatically love single moms.

its called having a discussion on a subject. they gave their opinion and i gave them mine, what insult are you talking about...?! misplaced ego OR stinking, lol!

Billionsclub:
are u saying marrying single mothers is right?

You can marry her if you like, I see nothing wrong there.

P/S - we stopped falling for this MY FRIEND story years ago, we all know you are the one contemplating marrying the lady

MrBrownJay1:


its called having a discussion on a subject. they gave their opinion and i gave them mine, what insult are you talking about...?! misplaced ego OR stinking, lol!

All your bolded in red looked like personal beef o..lol

luminouz:

All your bolded in red looked like personal beef o..lol

these are called EMPHASIS... aka important points.....and certainly not insults or beef.

Single motherhood = misplaced loyalty.
She is loyal to HER family that has already been started with some other man. NOT you.

Simple!

You as a constantly sacrificing man will never have even the tiniest priority.
And you will have little ROI for your efforts as that child is not a derivative of your seed or lineage.
And you are faced with the lifetime humiliation of always having the guy who first impregnated your wife always showing up in your house and looking at you in the eye.

Why would any childless man of high self worth tolerate all that rubbish?

Most single mothers learn that they simply must have a bangin body, but that is just to attract men who cannot see past a bangin body i.e men of low self worth. Her having a bangin body only earns her dick. It does not earn her a ring.
If that woman cannot give you priority, as a single mum cannot because her priority is her child, then she does not deserve you in your untethered prime.

That stuff only works when you as a man also has a child.
That way you can both de-prioritize each other equally and together for the sake of your children.

lyndaway:
The last time I checked single mother is not a disease if you love her and you are sure she loves you too why not go ahead she didn't choose to be a single mother she just find her self in situation that is beyond her control if you love her go ahead

Typical female response.
Ofcourse you want some man to be there to take you in after you have taken all the dicks you want to and created babies for other men, so what else will you say again?

The man's ROI be damned. Maga format abi?

Leoniine:


And it's not likely for women who aren't single mothers to sleep with their exes?

The difference is, if all goes well, childless women won't have to see their exes all the time and the ex has no legitimate reason of coming to where she lives.

But in the case of single mums, if all goes well, they have to see their exes in their living space quite frequently and also interact with them about an element of their conjoinment (aka the child) every single time. Everytime she sees that child, she remembers the dick that put it in her and he is always there, and both ex and child are always there, refreshing that memory so it cannot be a distant and forgotten memory.

This triggers unneccesary memories, and before you know whats up, she might just prove herself a fool maybe when she and her main maga are arguing.

MrBrownJay1:


its obvious you are not rational on this issue.... you give absolutely NO reason whatsoever why you hate single mothers but just you immature childish excuses driven by a misplaced ego. the fact that you would even degrade men that go after such single mothers (claiming whatever BS), shows us how big your emotional problem are.

Laughable.

What you've been doing successfully so far is attacking and degrading men who do not want to be blackmailed into marriage with single mothers, all in a bid to get likes from women on here which to me is the most childish thing a man could do and yet you've have the mind to call someone immature and childish.

Laughable again.

Get hold of your emotions and quit throwing insults up and down let's reason together otherwise this is my last response.

I didn't say anywhere that I hate single mothers. Please don't misquote me again for clarity sake.

Now on why I can't marry a single mom, the reason is something you obviously lack. It is experience.

The family I told you to picture is the family that raised me.(not biological parents) I witnessed everything first hand and I have seen families with similar issues. Y'know what? A wise man learns from other people's experiences.

MrBrownJay1:

bro... STICK TO THE DAMN ISSUE instead of writing rubbish online.... as it is obvious these above women i stated DONT NEED men to feel complete (like the gazillions of deluded Nigerian women who see marriage as a do or die mission).

One of them was driving two hrs plus just to get a good dicking. Another one married but couldn't stay because of the issues I talked about but in today's world, it's okay to pretend you don't need what you can't get.

Don't believe what this people show you online, the real life takes place offline and if you think none of them have regrets, then you're making a huge mistake. One of them recently blamed her failure in getting a husband to her "choosy" nature.

You don't regret not having what you don't need.

MrBrownJay1:
The above women is the type that Nigerian low self esteem immature men dislike to their bone marrow... aka women who can bring just as much to the table or even more than them, women who can do better than them OR who "are" better than them.

Keep calm yet.

Omotola can bring as much as what Genevieve can bring to the table and she is married to a Nigerian man. Oh wait! Genevieve is a single mom and that is perhaps why she doesn't have husband.

Well, Rita Dominic doesn't have a child out of wedlock but she doesn't have a husband either. How come? The complexity of life is too high for you to understand yet.

MrBrownJay1:

we all know the deal, bro! the reality is that these women are happy by themselves and live their best lives while not giving a damn about low self esteem immature Nigerian men with misplaced ego.



so by saying that Nigerian men should view (and judge) these women as INDIVIDUAL HUMAN BEING instead of saying they are no good.... i am blackmailing them?!?simply by giving my point of view on this issue? i just have to laugh. i am sorry to say bro but....
your misplaced ego is STINKING!!!!!

Okay... Let's present them individually.

I am looking for a wife and I have two women before me.

1. A very good 100% wife material single mom

2. A very good 100% wife material lady(no child)

These are both good for marriage but one already has something, a potential problem hanging on her neck. How does going for the one with less risk make me a low self esteemed Nigeria man with a stinking ego?

You should sometimes think before you type.

A broke guy has his chance of getting his type of woman for marriage reduced by 50%.

20% out of the remaining 50% depends on the woman's love for him, 20% depends on his plans and potentials and the other 10% on the power of his tongue and appearance. We know this and we understand that it's part of life.

A single mother has her own chances reduced by 50%, they should deal with it and stop playing manipulative mind games.

MrBrownJay1:

i know you to be an intelligent poster of NL....so let me ask you this simple question:
are you telling us ALL that a single mother should "automatically" be viewed as promiscuous?!?!... pls i need an intelligent answer here, not the same arrant rubbish driven by a deluded misplaced ego that we are reading on this thread. (remember many people dont give a flying fukc about any holy book's writing)

Unnecessary question so I will reply it with a question. How about you show me where I said that all single moms are promiscuous?

MrBrownJay1:

you are absolutely right about the fact that there are many single women without babies out there but how does this make a single mother BAD and these other women GOOD?!?!?!?! if you judge and automatically dismiss them solely by their "mother" status while not knowing a single thing about them , then i am sorry to say again that....
your misplaced ego is STINKING!!!!!

All single mothers are not bad. I have already said it in my first post that some of them are just unfortunate, these doesn't even include the widows but hey, whatever a single mother can offer in marriage, a child free lady can offer it too so I am going for the one with less risks.

This is my choice, respect it.

Saying that I have low self esteem, stinking ego bla bla bla because of my choice is tantamount to blackmail.

MrBrownJay1:

being single is the result of NOT having a man, and has absolutely NOTHING to do with the child, duh! sadly, in Nigeria/Africa, these women are surrounded by immature low self esteem men who look down on them.

Nobody looks down on them. It's irritating that a guy is playing victim card on behalf of ladies.

Are all single mothers in Nigeria single? No... Many are married and are getting married as we type so if you can't get a husband then look inwards. Nobody is going to pity you and marry you because you've a child.

MrBrownJay1:

the WHOLE problem here has absolutely nothing to do with this single woman with a child, but all to do with that woman having a child that is NOT YOURS!!!!
[s]your misplaced ego is STINKING once again!!!!![/s]

Genevieve is single, Tiwa Savage is single, Tonto Dike is single, Linda Ikeji is single.

Four great single moms.

Are you married?

Why don't you help us and reduce the number to three?

Prove to me that you're different from the rest of us.

Don't just type the type, please do the do.

MrBrownJay1:

again...there are women and women...putting ALL OF THEM in the same pot is a bit sad knowing the type of demons and oloshos we have out there (with no babies)...

Stop saying what I didn't even insinuate talk more of saying. I am beginning to see the other side of you. You assume and then conclude that the other person thinks the same way.

MrBrownJay1:

so many failed assumptions....same as you will look down on NON virgins to say that she will always go back to the man who took her virginity.


the above is the rubbish that insecure low self esteem men are saying when we all know that the only issue here is that these men were either USELESS at keeping a woman or were dating good for nothing demons/oloshos. the fact that you have the audacity to judge/accuse a person of cheating or leaving you, before it even happens (or even meet her)..... shows us all that....
[s]your misplaced low self esteem ego is STINKING!!!!![/s]

Blackmail! Blackmail!! Blackmail!!!

MrBrownJay1:

lol, at least you made me laugh while writing this gibberish nonsense...as if ALL ex lovers are terrible people....bwaaaah!



... and you do?! how exactly?!



ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!!!!
each and everyone should be judged as INDIVIDUALS.... some single women with no babies are good and others are the worst of the worst, while some single mothers are good while others are the worst of the worst.

If you know this then what really are you on about?

Are you dating a single mom? Just tell us and we will encourage to continue by all means if she's a good woman because it's becoming obvious that you need validation.

There a single moms who are good.

There are single ladies without child who are good but I will got for the one that doesn't have a child because it is less risky. How is this difficult for you to understand and respect?

MrBrownJay1:

the only way you gonna discover what type of woman you got is by GETTING TO KNOW HER in every possible ways
using your misplaced ego to judge people beforehand will have you fail at life, time and time again!

dayum

MrBrownJay1:

A) failed deluded assumptions AGAIN claiming that all single mothers dont have a source of income

You lie a lot, you know that right?

MrBrownJay1:

B) just tell us that you are SCARED of the "responsibility"... or that you dont have it in you.......or just say you dont like single mothers and basta, but stop putting the blame on these single mothers by writing nonsense with NO logic whatsoever

I am not scared of responsibilities, you don't know anything about me but I chose responsibilities responsibly to avoid starting what I can't finish to prove what doesn't make any sense.

I like single mothers and respect them a lot because some of them are really doing a lot of things for the best of them and their kids but I don't want one for a wife.

I have always been clear about this and truth is, it's is twice better than coming online to insult whoever doesn't want a single mom for a wife and then go offline and marry a lady without a child.

MrBrownJay1:

i honestly do feel sorry for men like you.... look at the above IMMATURE LOW SELF ESTEEM INSECURE rubbish you just wrote?!


so in your own mind, A) a mother only love her 1st child more than her other children, abi?!?!?!?!? and B) you have the audacity to compare the love from a mother to a child, to the love she has for you.....bwaaaaaah! that aint the same thing, that aint the same LOVE. ALL women love their kids that way, whether they are the daddy's biological children or not.

This clearly shows that you know nothing about this topic. You're like a lot of Nigeria students, too many theories, no practical.

Experience in this topic is something you lack 100%

MrBrownJay1:

[s]your low self esteem immature insecure misplaced ego is STINKING!!!!![/s]



bro...we all know why...and that has NOTHING to do with single mothers (or anything else) but YOU.

You learned that new didn't you? That's prolly why you've been abusing the use of it here.

MrBrownJay1:

open a new thread on the subject and we can debate on it.... Africa is the way it is thanks to RELIGION... yes!!! religion is whats keeping Africa in the gutter, and it will stay there while religion brainwashes the masses.

I don't need a new thread when I can easily use you as a good example.

The people that gave us religion, are they backward?

Obviously NO.

Then what's the problem?

I will tell you.

Africans are Africa's problem not religion. Take religion away from Africa and we will find 101 reasons to kill, maim, and enslave ourselves in other to remain backward.

Religion isn't the reason your leaders loot you dry, religion didn't corrupt all our system but you, a typical African will blame religion because putting the blame of our failure on something instead accepting the fact they we are our problem makes us feel better.

Same way APC is blaming is PDP for their own failures. It's an African thing.

Same way you're blaming men for single mom's inability to find and keep a husband

MrBrownJay1:



...more difficult?! how exactly? because she has a child that is not yours?!?!?!?! bwaaaaaaah! the only thing difficult in this issue is YOUR immaturity, YOUR insecurity, YOUR low self esteem....

Who is an immature man?

He is the man who thinks he is right, that he knows it all, can't stand truth from the opposition and insults whoever doesn't agree with him.



Immaturity is written all over your comment but you can't see it because you still have a lot of growing up to do.


I am done with you on this thread, I hope we chat again after your 18th birthday.

And if you still can't argue without taking it personal then we will extend it to your 30th birthday.

Cheers

luminouz:

You nailed it. I was even enjoying his points till he introduced blackmail and insults and I wonder why he is taking it so personal.

It's annoying to see that a man his age cannot make salient points without insulting whoever doesn't agree with him.

FrLukas:
I won't mind settling down with a single mother at all. As long as she's got my specs.

And as long as the baby daddy is no longer in her life or the child's life.

Can't deal with baby daddy drama.

. Will you kill the baby daddy? Can you forget and dash your child to another man?.

If you are a single mother ready for a serious relationship or you know any, please PM me. I am ready to marry you.

MrBrownJay1:


are you claiming that a woman without child is automatically "better" than a single mother?! if you judge ALL single mothers as bad and ALL single women as good, then you sir has seriously lost the plot. the problem is therefore NOT these women but instead your misplaced ego....
your misplaced ego is stinking!



so you actually believe a virgin will always be better than a single mother?! again, it shows that the reason you hate these women is because they have been with other men before you, AND NOT because they are actually bad women.
your misplaced ego is stinking!



whoever is the single mother that must have hurt you (to think in such a foul way about them) because no man in his right mind would be narrow minded when thinking of these women. pele o!
your hate for them is stinking!

Am disappointed in you that you had to insult your brain by engaging a tripe in a discussion. To think someone who believes a baby coming out of an unmarried woman vagina determines her character disqualifies him from being worthy to engage in a logical discussion.
Like the population of runs gals and sex workers are not mostly non single mom.
How can a woman who is struggling to feed and cloth alone her child have time for whoredom,gossip, etc?

I thought its only ladies that are bound by shackles of Stereotypes, didn't know men are. I didnt know men choices are influenced by how the fellow men will mock them or call them a beta male for decisions they make.
My mum as a psychologist has counselled men who regret marrying their wives. Most of them had ladies their soul synchronized with and they truly loved but had to leave them to marry a gal that reached the standard the society placed for them(virgin,can cook,religious,etc). The ladies they ended up with fill their lives with nagging,torture et Al!
Many men have left great women that will have impacted their lives and shaped their destiny because one of their male friends tells them that he has slept with her in the past....
My cousin had a lady he loved and she was so awesome, he left her when his friend told him that he once slept with her in the past. He ghosted her without even confirming or hearing her own side. Now she is blessed with a husband and living happily with three kids, she is the SA to one of the governors, while he is yet to have a child with the "nag" he replaced her with. His wife sometimes locks him out of the house.

This isn't about endorsing/ downgrading single ladies but about people living above standards placed by others and certain crazy myths. I doubt an alpha male lives by stereotypes, its only a beta male that follows certain myths like a sheep without having a mind of his own. I make my rules,I don't live by others rules!

As for the Op, whatever choice you make,be rest assured that no one on NL will live to suffer the consequences/enjoy the benefits of any choice made.
I personally think the guy should marry whoever he is compatible with and his soul synchronises with whether single mum or not!

Tallesty1:
Laughable. What you've been doing successfully so far is attacking and degrading men who do not want to be blackmailed into marriage with single mothers, all in a bid to get likes from women on here which to me is the most childish thing a man could do and yet you've have the mind to call someone immature and childish.

if the above in bold is what you believe then i wont waste my time discussing this issue with you and/or replying you... and i will instead let you believe in your immature low self esteem insecure childish comments...aka believing that ALL single mothers should NOT be viewed as individual human beings with their own merits and flaws, but instead they should ALL be judged as promiscuous and no good. what a shame!

the fact that you would even expect me to NOT stand for what i believe is RIGHT, is the joke of the day. i never sugarcoat anything and say what i believe is right, whether i stand for OR against women, stand for OR against men, against religion and all its follow-follow sheep, against broke aass begging good for nothing oloshos, against BS tribalism, against Nigerian/African juju and all its other nonsense .... or when i proudly stand for Abortion, for death penalty and/or jungle justice, for anal sex, for slapping a woman back if she ever put her hands on you etc etc etc

here are a few post from me just today (i guess i was looking for women's likes too, abi?):

MrBrownJay1:
what about the olosho he calls "wife", is she on her one way ticket to hell too...?!?
all of them are guilty!!! wife is guilty, brotha is guilty and husband even is guilty of marrying an olosho!
rule of life #101: THOU SHALL NOT TRY TO TURN HOES INTO WIFEYS

MrBrownJay1:
the joke is on him for knowingly dating an olosho.... expecting anything less from a known olosho is what is funny here!
these biatches ARE NOT suppose to be loyal!

MrBrownJay1:
kai!!!!! see the size of them baby hippo's legs.!!!!!

MrBrownJay1:
she should hide her dirty nipples yeah....

MrBrownJay1:
two mad people... the only sane person is the dude who knocked some sense out this biatch head

have a fantastic day, bro!

Michellekabod2:

Am disappointed in you that you had to insult your brain by engaging a tripe in a discussion. To think someone who believes a baby coming out of an unmarried woman vagina determines her character disqualifies him from being worthy to engage in a logical discussion.
Like the population of runs gals and sex workers are not mostly non single mom.
How can a woman who is struggling to feed and cloth alone her child have time for whoredom,gossip, etc?

I thought its only ladies that are bound by shackles of Stereotypes, didn't know men are. I didnt know men choices are influenced by how the fellow men will mock them or call them a beta male for decisions they make.
My mum as a psychologist has counselled men who regret marrying their wives. Most of them had ladies their soul synchronized with and they truly loved but had to leave them to marry a gal that reached the standard the society placed for them(virgin,can cook,religious,etc). The ladies they ended up with fill their lives with nagging,torture et Al!
Many men have left great women that will have impacted their lives and shaped their destiny because one of their male friends tells them that he has slept with her in the past....
My cousin had a lady he loved and she was so awesome, he left her when his friend told him that he once slept with her in the past. He ghosted her without even confirming or hearing her own side. Now she is blessed with a husband and living happily with three kids, she is the SA to one of the governors, while he is yet to have a child with the "nag" he replaced her with. His wife sometimes locks him out of the house.

This isn't about endorsing/ downgrading single ladies but about people living above standards placed by others and certain crazy myths. I doubt an alpha male lives by stereotypes, its only a beta male that follows certain myths like a sheep without having a mind of his own. I make my rules,I don't live by others rules!

As for the Op, whatever choice you make,be rest assured that no one on NL will live to suffer the consequences/enjoy the benefits of any choice made.
I personally think the guy should marry whoever he is compatible with and his soul synchronises with whether single mum or not!

the sad part is actually the amount of men in Nigeria/Africa with misplaced ego who believe this immature nonsense about single mothers being no good...

This kind question sha.
Have you ever seen where a football match started with 1 nil as score?

some guys do date and get married to single moms but me i cant deal oo.u marry single mom then u will have to contend with the baby daddy.na everyday the baby daddy go dey carry fight come ur house cos most baby daddies get jealous when the mother of their child moves on and get married.na hell for the guy who is dating d single mother.i am relating to how it is in naija.MrBrownJay1 you might not understand since u based in europe and europe dating scene is quite different from naija.It has nothing to do with culture but the wahala u will get from the baby daddy..except maybe if he"s late sha.

FrLukas:


Not all the time.

if the baby daddy is the very jealous type u will have to contend with him all the time.can u do that? most men and especially nigerian men will never abandon their child like that with the baby mama.the baby daddy will always have an excuse to walk into ur marriage and disturb it.

lefulefu:
some guys do date and get married to single moms but me i cant deal oo.u marry single mom then u will have to contend with the baby daddy.na everyday the baby daddy go dey carry fight come ur house cos most baby daddies get jealous when the mother of their child moves on and get married.na hell for the guy who is dating d single mother.i am relating to how it is in naija.MrBrownJay1 you might not understand since u based in europe and europe dating scene is quite different from naija.It has nothing to do with culture but the wahala u will get from the baby daddy..except maybe if he"s late sha.

Lol...I get your point

So he is based in Europe? Not bad!!!