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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by lyndaway(f): 9:44pm On Nov 12, 2019 |
The last time I checked single mother is not a disease if you love her and you are sure she loves you too why not go ahead she didn't choose to be a single mother she just find her self in situation that is beyond her control if you love her go ahead 3 Likes |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Charleys: 10:04pm On Nov 12, 2019 |
Alexgeneration: You killed it 5 Likes |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Charleys: 10:05pm On Nov 12, 2019 |
lyndaway: She chooses to be a single mother. 7 Likes |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Yinibixema: 10:42pm On Nov 12, 2019 |
[s] Leoniine:[/s] Single mother is here 7 Likes |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Yinibixema: 10:45pm On Nov 12, 2019 |
[s] lyndaway:[/s] So you expect a man to waste his money on single mother ? 6 Likes |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by luminouz(m): 7:48am On Nov 13, 2019 |
MrBrownJay1: I don't seem to understand your criticism laced with insults bro. They gave their personal opinions, why not respect that instead of calling them names. It almost seems as if you want every man here to automatically love single moms. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by luminouz(m): 7:53am On Nov 13, 2019 |
Tallesty1:You nailed it. I was even enjoying his points till he introduced blackmail and insults and I wonder why he is taking it so personal. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by lyndaway(f): 8:13am On Nov 13, 2019 |
Yinibixema:waste his money how? the question ask was if he should marry her or not even if he spent his money on her there is nothing wrong with it what you sow is what you reap I know of a guy who is presently dating a single mother I tell you he sponsor the child all through to her ND she just rounded up her program tell me will that child forget that guy never he has left a seed that will forever speak for him in the life of that child |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by lyndaway(f): 8:42am On Nov 13, 2019 |
Charleys:No woman choose to be a single mother if I get you clearly you are saying that she should have had abortion it a pity the way some people think but one should always remember no one knows tomorrow |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Yinibixema: 8:48am On Nov 13, 2019 |
lyndaway:The child may forget such guy. Even some children don’t remember and reward their parents struggle in their lives. So you can’t be sure if the girl will remember the dude or not 2 Likes |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by lyndaway(f): 8:55am On Nov 13, 2019 |
Yinibixema:Am not telling you a story someone told me am telling you reality no matter what that child will never forget the guy a female child is not like a male child everything we do in life has a way of coming back to us it pays to be good |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Yinibixema: 9:10am On Nov 13, 2019 |
lyndaway:Hmmm explain the bolded |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Charleys: 10:36am On Nov 13, 2019 |
lyndaway: Now you know she chosed it, I've had so many bans that I can't communicate properly anylonger because of bans but I'm happy you understood me. |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Charleys: 10:49am On Nov 13, 2019 |
Tallesty1: Brutality |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 4:31pm On Nov 13, 2019 |
luminouz: its called having a discussion on a subject. they gave their opinion and i gave them mine, what insult are you talking about...?! misplaced ego OR stinking, lol! |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Nobody: 4:37pm On Nov 13, 2019 |
Billionsclub: You can marry her if you like, I see nothing wrong there. P/S - we stopped falling for this MY FRIEND story years ago, we all know you are the one contemplating marrying the lady |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by luminouz(m): 5:30pm On Nov 13, 2019 |
MrBrownJay1:All your bolded in red looked like personal beef o..lol |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 5:47pm On Nov 13, 2019 |
luminouz: these are called EMPHASIS... aka important points.....and certainly not insults or beef. 1 Like |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by 2buffagain(m): 5:57pm On Nov 13, 2019 |
Single motherhood = misplaced loyalty. She is loyal to HER family that has already been started with some other man. NOT you. Simple! You as a constantly sacrificing man will never have even the tiniest priority. And you will have little ROI for your efforts as that child is not a derivative of your seed or lineage. And you are faced with the lifetime humiliation of always having the guy who first impregnated your wife always showing up in your house and looking at you in the eye. Why would any childless man of high self worth tolerate all that rubbish? Most single mothers learn that they simply must have a bangin body, but that is just to attract men who cannot see past a bangin body i.e men of low self worth. Her having a bangin body only earns her dick. It does not earn her a ring. If that woman cannot give you priority, as a single mum cannot because her priority is her child, then she does not deserve you in your untethered prime. That stuff only works when you as a man also has a child. That way you can both de-prioritize each other equally and together for the sake of your children. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by 2buffagain(m): 6:03pm On Nov 13, 2019 |
lyndaway: Typical female response. Ofcourse you want some man to be there to take you in after you have taken all the dicks you want to and created babies for other men, so what else will you say again? The man's ROI be damned. Maga format abi? 2 Likes |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by 2buffagain(m): 6:17pm On Nov 13, 2019 |
Leoniine: The difference is, if all goes well, childless women won't have to see their exes all the time and the ex has no legitimate reason of coming to where she lives. But in the case of single mums, if all goes well, they have to see their exes in their living space quite frequently and also interact with them about an element of their conjoinment (aka the child) every single time. Everytime she sees that child, she remembers the dick that put it in her and he is always there, and both ex and child are always there, refreshing that memory so it cannot be a distant and forgotten memory. This triggers unneccesary memories, and before you know whats up, she might just prove herself a fool maybe when she and her main maga are arguing. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Tallesty1(m): 7:04pm On Nov 13, 2019 |
MrBrownJay1:Laughable. What you've been doing successfully so far is attacking and degrading men who do not want to be blackmailed into marriage with single mothers, all in a bid to get likes from women on here which to me is the most childish thing a man could do and yet you've have the mind to call someone immature and childish. Laughable again. Get hold of your emotions and quit throwing insults up and down let's reason together otherwise this is my last response. I didn't say anywhere that I hate single mothers. Please don't misquote me again for clarity sake. Now on why I can't marry a single mom, the reason is something you obviously lack. It is experience. The family I told you to picture is the family that raised me.(not biological parents) I witnessed everything first hand and I have seen families with similar issues. Y'know what? A wise man learns from other people's experiences. MrBrownJay1:One of them was driving two hrs plus just to get a good dicking. Another one married but couldn't stay because of the issues I talked about but in today's world, it's okay to pretend you don't need what you can't get. Don't believe what this people show you online, the real life takes place offline and if you think none of them have regrets, then you're making a huge mistake. One of them recently blamed her failure in getting a husband to her "choosy" nature. You don't regret not having what you don't need. MrBrownJay1:Keep calm yet. Omotola can bring as much as what Genevieve can bring to the table and she is married to a Nigerian man. Oh wait! Genevieve is a single mom and that is perhaps why she doesn't have husband. Well, Rita Dominic doesn't have a child out of wedlock but she doesn't have a husband either. How come? The complexity of life is too high for you to understand yet. MrBrownJay1:Okay... Let's present them individually. I am looking for a wife and I have two women before me. 1. A very good 100% wife material single mom 2. A very good 100% wife material lady(no child) These are both good for marriage but one already has something, a potential problem hanging on her neck. How does going for the one with less risk make me a low self esteemed Nigeria man with a stinking ego? You should sometimes think before you type. A broke guy has his chance of getting his type of woman for marriage reduced by 50%. 20% out of the remaining 50% depends on the woman's love for him, 20% depends on his plans and potentials and the other 10% on the power of his tongue and appearance. We know this and we understand that it's part of life. A single mother has her own chances reduced by 50%, they should deal with it and stop playing manipulative mind games. MrBrownJay1:Unnecessary question so I will reply it with a question. How about you show me where I said that all single moms are promiscuous? MrBrownJay1:All single mothers are not bad. I have already said it in my first post that some of them are just unfortunate, these doesn't even include the widows but hey, whatever a single mother can offer in marriage, a child free lady can offer it too so I am going for the one with less risks. This is my choice, respect it. Saying that I have low self esteem, stinking ego bla bla bla because of my choice is tantamount to blackmail. MrBrownJay1:Nobody looks down on them. It's irritating that a guy is playing victim card on behalf of ladies. Are all single mothers in Nigeria single? No... Many are married and are getting married as we type so if you can't get a husband then look inwards. Nobody is going to pity you and marry you because you've a child. MrBrownJay1:Genevieve is single, Tiwa Savage is single, Tonto Dike is single, Linda Ikeji is single. Four great single moms. Are you married? Why don't you help us and reduce the number to three? Prove to me that you're different from the rest of us. Don't just type the type, please do the do. MrBrownJay1:Stop saying what I didn't even insinuate talk more of saying. I am beginning to see the other side of you. You assume and then conclude that the other person thinks the same way. MrBrownJay1:Blackmail! Blackmail!! Blackmail!!! MrBrownJay1:If you know this then what really are you on about? Are you dating a single mom? Just tell us and we will encourage to continue by all means if she's a good woman because it's becoming obvious that you need validation. There a single moms who are good. There are single ladies without child who are good but I will got for the one that doesn't have a child because it is less risky. How is this difficult for you to understand and respect? MrBrownJay1:dayum MrBrownJay1:You lie a lot, you know that right? MrBrownJay1:I am not scared of responsibilities, you don't know anything about me but I chose responsibilities responsibly to avoid starting what I can't finish to prove what doesn't make any sense. I like single mothers and respect them a lot because some of them are really doing a lot of things for the best of them and their kids but I don't want one for a wife. I have always been clear about this and truth is, it's is twice better than coming online to insult whoever doesn't want a single mom for a wife and then go offline and marry a lady without a child. MrBrownJay1:This clearly shows that you know nothing about this topic. You're like a lot of Nigeria students, too many theories, no practical. Experience in this topic is something you lack 100% MrBrownJay1:You learned that new didn't you? That's prolly why you've been abusing the use of it here. MrBrownJay1:I don't need a new thread when I can easily use you as a good example. The people that gave us religion, are they backward? Obviously NO. Then what's the problem? I will tell you. Africans are Africa's problem not religion. Take religion away from Africa and we will find 101 reasons to kill, maim, and enslave ourselves in other to remain backward. Religion isn't the reason your leaders loot you dry, religion didn't corrupt all our system but you, a typical African will blame religion because putting the blame of our failure on something instead accepting the fact they we are our problem makes us feel better. Same way APC is blaming is PDP for their own failures. It's an African thing. Same way you're blaming men for single mom's inability to find and keep a husband MrBrownJay1:Who is an immature man? He is the man who thinks he is right, that he knows it all, can't stand truth from the opposition and insults whoever doesn't agree with him. Immaturity is written all over your comment but you can't see it because you still have a lot of growing up to do. I am done with you on this thread, I hope we chat again after your 18th birthday. And if you still can't argue without taking it personal then we will extend it to your 30th birthday. Cheers 18 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Tallesty1(m): 7:31pm On Nov 13, 2019 |
luminouz:It's annoying to see that a man his age cannot make salient points without insulting whoever doesn't agree with him. 1 Like |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by JONNYSPUTE(m): 7:42pm On Nov 13, 2019 |
FrLukas:. Will you kill the baby daddy? Can you forget and dash your child to another man?. |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by cerpvad(m): 7:42pm On Nov 13, 2019 |
If you are a single mother ready for a serious relationship or you know any, please PM me. I am ready to marry you. |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Nobody: 8:15pm On Nov 13, 2019 |
MrBrownJay1:Am disappointed in you that you had to insult your brain by engaging a tripe in a discussion. To think someone who believes a baby coming out of an unmarried woman vagina determines her character disqualifies him from being worthy to engage in a logical discussion. Like the population of runs gals and sex workers are not mostly non single mom. How can a woman who is struggling to feed and cloth alone her child have time for whoredom,gossip, etc? I thought its only ladies that are bound by shackles of Stereotypes, didn't know men are. I didnt know men choices are influenced by how the fellow men will mock them or call them a beta male for decisions they make. My mum as a psychologist has counselled men who regret marrying their wives. Most of them had ladies their soul synchronized with and they truly loved but had to leave them to marry a gal that reached the standard the society placed for them(virgin,can cook,religious,etc). The ladies they ended up with fill their lives with nagging,torture et Al! Many men have left great women that will have impacted their lives and shaped their destiny because one of their male friends tells them that he has slept with her in the past.... My cousin had a lady he loved and she was so awesome, he left her when his friend told him that he once slept with her in the past. He ghosted her without even confirming or hearing her own side. Now she is blessed with a husband and living happily with three kids, she is the SA to one of the governors, while he is yet to have a child with the "nag" he replaced her with. His wife sometimes locks him out of the house. This isn't about endorsing/ downgrading single ladies but about people living above standards placed by others and certain crazy myths. I doubt an alpha male lives by stereotypes, its only a beta male that follows certain myths like a sheep without having a mind of his own. I make my rules,I don't live by others rules! As for the Op, whatever choice you make,be rest assured that no one on NL will live to suffer the consequences/enjoy the benefits of any choice made. I personally think the guy should marry whoever he is compatible with and his soul synchronises with whether single mum or not! 1 Like |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 8:35pm On Nov 13, 2019 |
Tallesty1: if the above in bold is what you believe then i wont waste my time discussing this issue with you and/or replying you... and i will instead let you believe in your immature low self esteem insecure childish comments...aka believing that ALL single mothers should NOT be viewed as individual human beings with their own merits and flaws, but instead they should ALL be judged as promiscuous and no good. what a shame! the fact that you would even expect me to NOT stand for what i believe is RIGHT, is the joke of the day. i never sugarcoat anything and say what i believe is right, whether i stand for OR against women, stand for OR against men, against religion and all its follow-follow sheep, against broke aass begging good for nothing oloshos, against BS tribalism, against Nigerian/African juju and all its other nonsense .... or when i proudly stand for Abortion, for death penalty and/or jungle justice, for anal sex, for slapping a woman back if she ever put her hands on you etc etc etc here are a few post from me just today (i guess i was looking for women's likes too, abi?): MrBrownJay1: MrBrownJay1: MrBrownJay1: MrBrownJay1: MrBrownJay1: have a fantastic day, bro! |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 8:36pm On Nov 13, 2019 |
Michellekabod2: the sad part is actually the amount of men in Nigeria/Africa with misplaced ego who believe this immature nonsense about single mothers being no good... 1 Like |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by gold360(m): 8:58pm On Nov 13, 2019 |
This kind question sha. Have you ever seen where a football match started with 1 nil as score? |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Nobody: 9:00pm On Nov 13, 2019 |
some guys do date and get married to single moms but me i cant deal oo.u marry single mom then u will have to contend with the baby daddy.na everyday the baby daddy go dey carry fight come ur house cos most baby daddies get jealous when the mother of their child moves on and get married.na hell for the guy who is dating d single mother.i am relating to how it is in naija.MrBrownJay1 you might not understand since u based in europe and europe dating scene is quite different from naija.It has nothing to do with culture but the wahala u will get from the baby daddy..except maybe if he"s late sha. |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Nobody: 9:05pm On Nov 13, 2019 |
FrLukas:if the baby daddy is the very jealous type u will have to contend with him all the time.can u do that? most men and especially nigerian men will never abandon their child like that with the baby mama.the baby daddy will always have an excuse to walk into ur marriage and disturb it. |
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by luminouz(m): 9:11pm On Nov 13, 2019 |
lefulefu:Lol...I get your point So he is based in Europe? Not bad!!! |
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