Op na liar.

In his other posts, he said he begs his wife for sex, here, his wife begs him for it. In the other post he's been married for 9 years, here he's been married for 7 years.

Here he has 3 boys, in his other posts, he has 2 girls and one boy.

What do you want now? If she keep to herself you'd open a new thread say she no allow you. Sex after disagreement is part of make up. No crying over spilt milk. She has forgotten the past and ready to move on, ride kn her and enjoy. You both have no issues. Thank God for your kind of woman.

I don't know what point you're trying to make, that she doesn't do much aside taking care of the kids n cooking, haaaaaa? I hate it when I hear men say this. Do you know the stress involve in those chores? And I don't know why you mention the amount you give her as monthly upkeep. 130k and so what? If she doesn't aplogize then you do. You both are wrong keeping straight faces after a fight.

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Born2Breed:

op I think the best way to sot this kind of issue is when you're at peace. Sit her down & tell her how you feels when ever both of you had issues tell her how you want it & most importantly the things she does during the quarrel that hurts you more. If possible do that when you guys are in good mood you can even buy a gift for her before the taking out. Why is because you guys have been using that way to make up so you have to introduce something new to change the old ways. Moreover is there is any other thing she does that you don't like use that opportunity to talk to her cos you didn't start correcting them from the on set. Good luck sir

I tell you this matter no be issues at all. In fact you are a lucky man. Thats your wife's way of telling you she was sorry. If afterwards you are still pondering on the matter you may not live long. You see in marriage you dont take issues too serious, it's not a master slave relationship, you both have equal rights despite being the head.

My life changed the day I was told not to carry woman matter for head like Galla, The bible says "Also take no heed unto all words that are spoken; lest thou hear thy servant curse thee: For oftentimes also thine own heart knoweth that thou thyself likewise hast cursed others.
Ecclesiastes 7:21‭-‬22 KJV

How can you be having devotion with grudges? Stop keeping scores my brother, she's your baby and will always behave like babies till death. Imagine rapture happened last night e for be OYO for you.

Go and meet old men and ask about their wives, you will be shocked at the revelations. Relax and enjoy your woman, marriage is fun if no boundaries because love endures all things.

Bro I understand you, just that she is trying to overlook things the way you should rather than sharing with friends who will build another thing in her mind. You should be luck to have gotten some one like her but if your conscious is judging you you should be the one to bring it up and apologies before your john Thomas start is duty.....

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byna:
We got married in 2012 and ever since then we have been blessed with 3kids (3,boys).
I have a monthly upkeep of 130k for my wife as she only comes to our factory and goes home without doing much for the day aside taking care of kids and cooking.

I noticed that each time we have a misunderstanding, we both keep straight faces for days and she behaves as though she is less concerned to make up. It doesn't affect her chores or cooking as for me I hardly reject food served.

Now, after a couple of days, she would come for sex without wanting us to discuss and resolve the disagreement first.

Even when I feel rudely insulted, this happens. She feels whatever she does doesnt matter as long as Las Las na sex go end am. But I feel it's wrong and issues should be kept straight and fun time separate.

So we had same issues last week and we have been keeping straight faces yet I've been eating her food. Sometimes she joins me for mng prayers, sometimes she does her privately ( we do together before any misunderstanding)
So this mng she appeared stark nude to my room and demanded for sex after almost 15 days. I told her it would be unfair if we sweep the pass e events under the duvet. She got up and told me she wasn't ready to discuss any past misunderstanding that she came to f*uck. I told her I wasn't ready till issues are ironed out.

She taught it was business as usually as my John Thomas always disappoint me each time I see her nude but today I was ready to turn her down.

I Want to know if it's proper to always treat ur spouse the way you like knowing fully well that sex is their weak point for reconciliation?

Mature minds pls

I don't understand what the amount you give ur wife as monthly upkeep is doing in this post�
And u say she doesn't nothing but cook and take care of the kids �
I laugh in Swahili

Anyway Oga, since she likes settling dispute with sex and you like settling with dialogue.

Oga bring the dialogue, while she brings the sex.

Case closed

byna:
We got married in 2012 and ever since then we have been blessed with 3kids (3,boys).
I have a monthly upkeep of 130k for my wife as she only comes to our factory and goes home without doing much for the day aside taking care of kids and cooking.

I noticed that each time we have a misunderstanding, we both keep straight faces for days and she behaves as though she is less concerned to make up. It doesn't affect her chores or cooking as for me I hardly reject food served.

Now, after a couple of days, she would come for sex without wanting us to discuss and resolve the disagreement first.

Even when I feel rudely insulted, this happens. She feels whatever she does doesnt matter as long as Las Las na sex go end am. But I feel it's wrong and issues should be kept straight and fun time separate.

So we had same issues last week and we have been keeping straight faces yet I've been eating her food. Sometimes she joins me for mng prayers, sometimes she does her privately ( we do together before any misunderstanding)
So this mng she appeared stark nude to my room and demanded for sex after almost 15 days. I told her it would be unfair if we sweep the pass e events under the duvet. She got up and told me she wasn't ready to discuss any past misunderstanding that she came to f*uck. I told her I wasn't ready till issues are ironed out.

She taught it was business as usually as my John Thomas always disappoint me each time I see her nude but today I was ready to turn her down.

I Want to know if it's proper to always treat ur spouse the way you like knowing fully well that sex is their weak point for reconciliation?

Mature minds pls

Good.

byna:
We got married in 2012 and ever since then we have been blessed with 3kids (3,boys).
I have a monthly upkeep of 130k for my wife as she only comes to our factory and goes home without doing much for the day aside taking care of kids and cooking.

I noticed that each time we have a misunderstanding, we both keep straight faces for days and she behaves as though she is less concerned to make up. It doesn't affect her chores or cooking as for me I hardly reject food served.

Now, after a couple of days, she would come for sex without wanting us to discuss and resolve the disagreement first.

Even when I feel rudely insulted, this happens. She feels whatever she does doesnt matter as long as Las Las na sex go end am. But I feel it's wrong and issues should be kept straight and fun time separate.

So we had same issues last week and we have been keeping straight faces yet I've been eating her food. Sometimes she joins me for mng prayers, sometimes she does her privately ( we do together before any misunderstanding)
So this mng she appeared stark nude to my room and demanded for sex after almost 15 days. I told her it would be unfair if we sweep the pass e events under the duvet. She got up and told me she wasn't ready to discuss any past misunderstanding that she came to f*uck. I told her I wasn't ready till issues are ironed out.

She taught it was business as usually as my John Thomas always disappoint me each time I see her nude but today I was ready to turn her down.

I Want to know if it's proper to always treat ur spouse the way you like knowing fully well that sex is their weak point for reconciliation?

Mature minds pls

NEVER EVER SHARE A SEPARATE ROOM WITH YOUR WIFE...THAT IS THE BEGINNING OF MISCOMMUNICATION.

MISCOMMUNICATION WILL EVENTUALLY LEAD TO YOU TWO BECOMING "STRANGERS LIVING UNDER THE SAME ROOF".

IF YOUR WIFE OFFENDS YOU AND STILL HAVE SEC WITH YOU, TRY AND OFFEND HER TOO AND LATER GO TO HER FOR SEX...
SEE HOW SHE REACTS WHEN THE TABLE IS TURNED THE OTHER WAY ROUND.

THEN YOU WILL CAN TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL ANYTIME SHE DOES SAME TO YOU..

I see Nlanders comments and shake my head. Are these guys not seeing what I'm seeing?


Red fuqin flags everywhere.

1. Proud, provoking stance
2. Initiates sex first stance

Verdict:

She loves conflict, she thrives on it...it stimulates her and when it gets to a crescendo, she must have sex to have a mind blowing release. Women like that have deep psyche issues. They desire being rough handled, roughhoused, even beaten so as to have some measure of self-worth and to respect you as a man. She likely grew up in a home where her dad beat her mum or was broken in by a violent, slugfest loving guy who dominated her for years. This led to a Stockholm syndrome type of disorder that made her love those who torment her and derive sexual pleasure from such violent acts.

Solution:
1. Divorce her....you will need to be violent at intervals to win her respect and even her love. She is wired that way. No amount of useless counselling or prayers will change shiit. If you deny her sex for awhile and she meets a violent mudafvcker outside, the marriage is as good as over.

2. Be Violent: You are likely a nice guy for you to come online to seek opinions but if you want to have her respect. Be rough with her....when she ails you, beat her or dominate her roughly. That's how she respects you. It is wrong for me but it is what it is. Nothing else would work. Once you discipline her roughly, have sex with her and be rough at it. Then watch her do your biddings with a silly smile on her face. When next she fuqs up, repeat the dosage. That's her cure.

N.B: Your kids are all boys and trust me mudafvcker, they are watching. If you choose option 2, their future wives are in trouble because they will think all women love being beaten. And the Violent Circle Continues....

#Luminouznuggets#

So..... now that you have known that what do u do?

thesicilian:
You have a wife that still wants to have sex with you even when she's angry with you. Lucky you!

If I have that, I'll not miss church again. I swear

RICHOLAC:
Your advice cool pragmatic, but it all depends on the wife.

Thanks. I pray she humbles herself and enjoy her marriage. Flexing shoulder for your husband as a wife? Not good at all.

Berankis:
No offence meant but the truth is I like your kind of wife. Mine is the opposite. I would be the one to move to her for sex rather her coming to me. She dey always form strong woman for me. And she dey get upper hand cos I no wan cheat.

There's nothing wrong with your wife sir, you don't except her to be mad at you and be jumping on u for sex.

Mr. enjoy ur wife while she last. NEVER turn down her sexual approach. fuk her first and resolve later. iron things out when u 2 are on talking term. u don't know what u are enjoying.

Darlx:


Op listen to this man! Spoke my mind...

Woman please.
I no be man

Orishi rishi.

usually as my John Thomas always disappoint me each time I see her nude

correct

I had to laugh at this side first.

But yes, you’re right. Sex is not the first line conflict resolution tool. Communication should be. Then sex follows

OmalichaJesus:


There's nothing wrong with your wife sir, you don't except her to be mad at you and be jumping on u for sex.

so what do u have to say about ops wife?

Your wife has this common attribute of most weed smokers, ability to let things slide and match on. I think you're blessed. Go Bleep your wife man

well OP don't take all advises here seriously I read may comments on nairaland and I can tell you that a lot of children are here and if you abide by their advises you'll crash your home... its better to talk this out with your wife or someone she's looks up to and respect the most....


for me I don't only want to pick out your wife's fault in this.... you may have yours too cos she's not here to tell her own side of the story... you are a man, and sometimes men want a conversation.. let having a talk to iron issues out... but your wife doesn't see it that way... her coming for sex even when there is an issue means she rather make a compromise to peace than make conversation..

so here is what you can do... have the sex joyfully.. after it, cuddle her. kiss her make her feel relaxed and happy then softly correct her without making her feel bad then complement her a little as you do so... thank me later

byna:
We got married in 2012 and ever since then we have been blessed with 3kids (3,boys).
I have a monthly upkeep of 130k for my wife as she only comes to our factory and goes home without doing much for the day aside taking care of kids and cooking.

I noticed that each time we have a misunderstanding, we both keep straight faces for days and she behaves as though she is less concerned to make up. It doesn't affect her chores or cooking as for me I hardly reject food served.

Now, after a couple of days, she would come for sex without wanting us to discuss and resolve the disagreement first.

Even when I feel rudely insulted, this happens. She feels whatever she does doesnt matter as long as Las Las na sex go end am. But I feel it's wrong and issues should be kept straight and fun time separate.

So we had same issues last week and we have been keeping straight faces yet I've been eating her food. Sometimes she joins me for mng prayers, sometimes she does her privately ( we do together before any misunderstanding)
So this mng she appeared stark nude to my room and demanded for sex after almost 15 days. I told her it would be unfair if we sweep the pass e events under the duvet. She got up and told me she wasn't ready to discuss any past misunderstanding that she came to f*uck. I told her I wasn't ready till issues are ironed out.

She taught it was business as usually as my John Thomas always disappoint me each time I see her nude but today I was ready to turn her down.

I Want to know if it's proper to always treat ur spouse the way you like knowing fully well that sex is their weak point for reconciliation?

Mature minds pls

Na senior ashy you marry.
She doesn't really love you but only using you as a tool of satisfaction cos if you truely love someone you should to be ready to apologise or feel sorry for wronging them by crying in their arms and saying shes sorry and prolly end up not making love but sleeping in your arms with peace in her heart. Dont know if I'm making sense though but man I hope you understand my point.

For all she cares, the other part of you can die and go to blazes so long as the machine under you is still working and can satisfy her, she doesn't care. To me that's the height of heartlessness.

Withdraw sex and see her abandon completely. That will make you know if you're just a mere object of satisfaction to her or not.

I feel for you though.

thesicilian:
You have a wife that still wants to have sex with you even when she's angry with you. Lucky you!

You can say that again brother... You better gbensh the woman whenever she comes for, if she tastes it outside peren.. The marriage is gone.

You can sit later to discuss about your issues,be creative while having sex, say something seductive, oh baby you are so sweet, your pussy is the best,.. If you don't understand after all this, you can come along with madam let me teach you.

FrLukas:
You are taking each other for granted.

Before the next quarrel, sit down and discuss the modality for settling quarrels in your home that both of you will agree to.

nice point man

Many people have said some good things.
Never ever sweep things under the carpet, it will keep showing up and resentment will follow. These are cracks that will eventually break the marriage. Then tell God to give you wisdom to deal!

byna:

If am wrong I settle at that moment. I try to tease her with romance and thats all. I expect same from her. Imagine showing up for sex when am thinking of serious discussion

Lol. Sex is serious business also...

I have a monthly upkeep of 130k for my wife as she only comes to our factory and goes home without doing much for the day aside taking care of kids and cooking

And what’s this anyway? You think she doesn’t do much except except taking care of kids and cooking?
Really? You think you can do that?
Taking care of kids is a full time job.
The monthly upkeep you give her means nothing in this conversation. Except maybe you usually bring it up and that’s what’s causing problems between you guys.

Please fix your thought process.

Maybe you think you’re doing a lot but your wife is probably doing her best to make that money stretch for the whole month. In case you didn’t know, that’s not a lot of money for a month.

No mind Mr J Thomas,
e too dey fall person hand!!


Sometimes, wen he suppose
stand, e go fall,

When e suppose maintain,
e go stand


No self respect at all.


That aside, you are the man of
the house,
take the initiative, seat her down
& talk sense into her head,
after she gets your point, reward her
With 3 solid rounds

You'll see change.

Colb461:
Make i find space sit down here for advice

hmmmm,from mature minds abi

buzorcharles:


so what do u have to say about ops wife?

This was what I said



I don't understand what the amount you give ur wife as monthly upkeep is doing in this post�
And u say she doesn't nothing but cook and take care of the kids �
I laugh in Swahili

Anyway Oga, since she likes settling dispute with sex and you like settling with dialogue.

Oga bring the dialogue, while she brings the sex.

Case closed

izaray:
Okada drop me here biko

How can a husband and wife keep malice for good 2weeks? What are u two teaching those innocent kids of urs self? Una dey try sha, all because of lack of communication!

I guess you are still single,

Jewessgratitude:


Na senior ashy you marry.
She doesn't really love you but only using you as a tool of satisfaction cos if you truely love someone you should to be ready to apologise or feel sorry for wronging them by crying in their arms and saying shes sorry and prolly end up not making love but sleeping in your arms with peace in her heart. Dont know if I'm making sense though but man I hope you understand my point.

For all she cares, the other part of you can die and go to blazes so long as the machine under you is still working and can satisfy her, she doesn't care. To me that's the height of heartlessness.

Withdraw sex and see her abandon completely. That will make you know if you're just a mere object of satisfaction to her or not.

I feel for you though.

Really?