THURAFTERNOON:


Lol bro you know girls so much... This one isn't abroad matter sef ooh..
I experienced a very similar case of this op with my babe tonight...she's a girl I really love a lot and we've been together for years... I felt something was wrong btw us tonight and tried engaging her in a convo.. Truthfully, she admitted she met someone and have been studying him for sometime. She mentioned that the guy sends her some random lovely messages on whatsapp all day (which I don't really do) and even told me about the one the dude still sent to her this morning.

Most girls easily get freaked out when guys sweetmouth them.. Its really sad sha.

Men should just think and work on themselves which is the most important thing. Women would value and chase you when you're OK.. I mean OKAY!

THE babe matter just dey funny me sha.

come oo na all these post the guy take sweeten the mind of ur babe? .what age range is ur girl? is she in her late teens or early 20s?

Some of the comments go just dey break OP's heart over and over again

Opinedecandid:

At op, you see women, there are a bundle of manipulators. To succeed with them, you much be the chiefest manipulator. I rest my case.
Instead for to fall a victim tons woman's antics, be the one to spin the antics.

Bro i learnt this a month ago and it's been really helping me seriously hahaha

bros move on ur gf wan sample and diccck!

If she whant to stay let her stay..of she wants to leave let her leave
Never u beg a woman to stay in ur life

Find time and focus on things that adds values in ur life and.more things that update ur bank account.

And lower ur check on her.. Dont even complain again giver her.. U cant change a person but u can change urself..

In all chase money...money ends nonsense wey lack of money create. And believe me.. Girls are more humble when the money is visible..

lilachiever:
I can relate. I just broke up with mine cos I couldn't learn to trust her again after she did a similar thing, mine even went as far as telling the guy on WhatsApp that she needs a quiet time with him.

I loved this Lady with all my being and I still do but I had to let her go just for me to have peace of mind.

I'd never tolerate a girl cheating on me cos I don't do such too (like I even have the time to cheat)

Sorry about this brother. Its going to be fine... One's Peace of mind is really important

oodua1stson:
you apologised to a lady? A lady that is openly cheating on you and even asked you for a break up?



Thank your stars you're not my younger brother. I would have smashed something on your head. I'd rather not have a son than a guy like you as son


Tueh!

sebi na play we dey play.... Ha.

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holaxi:

No bro,its not about the sex... I just love this girl.. I know myself if I should get angry once it's over , but the girl has a lot of good attributes in her. I'm just trying to do everything to make her come back to her senses.

You should ask yourself if the girl is loving you back the same way you love her. Stop treating yourself with such disdain biko

franchasng:


I remember when I was a guy, no chick tried that with me, back then, I was the most wanted terrorist among ladies,.......

Hmmmm.

lefulefu:
come oo na all these post the guy take sweeten the mind of ur babe? .what age range is ur girl? is she in her late teens or early 20s?

Most 9ja girls in the 18 - 25 stage have a long way to go. She's around that age bracket.. Late teen too

The girl feels I don't care about her due to the fact that I don't communicate with her as much as she wanted (esp like messages I attached earlier)

And I can't lie to you bro, I'm in my early 20 too and feed and fend for myself so I think about alot of things.. I also feel this is the best time for me to grow and work on myself and not let any girl give me pressures because I don't communicate with her as much as she wants... She'll grow sha.

Thanks for people like yourself on here.

My peace of mind is very important!

Sweeetheart:
you're officially single if you need to know. she might be rejecting the guy advances before but maybe she got to know the guy is financially stand than you. just wait let that guy fvck her then you will see her telling you she's not interested again


you better zero your mind and see her as your side chic why you look for another mental balance lady

my own fiance now put her Whatsapp in nobody settings and I don't see her status update but by this weekend I'm going to cloned her Whatsapp and get her with evidence. if I see something strange, she become side chic immediately, na her pussy go suffer it

that nobody no good o bro.

holaxi:
My girlfriend and I have being together for almost three years now. We've had all the moments the good ,the bad and the ugly.

But recently she met a guy who asked her out, she refused his advances but the guy and her spend so much time on calls and chatting which I don't really like.

I've talked to her so many times about it but if she listens for a week the next week they are back in business.

Last week we were chatting and she just went offline I tried calling her to know what's up only for her number to be busy for like 20 mins. When she came back online and I told her she said she wasn't on call with anyone.

When I probed her further she said she wanted a two weeks break that I complain too much and I don't trust her.

I apologized to her so peace could reign but since then I've started losing interest in her.

Why not forget about her and move on with your life even though you may find it difficult?

The best Answer

metformin:
my brother, move on with ya life, think of how you can better your life.

safarigirl:


Why do you think it id abroad turning her head? Abroad dey turn head pass marriage?

Maybe the new guy has promised to put a ring on it, and she is now considering the possibility of OP being ready for marriage any time soon.

Sometimes, women are lured with promise to marry, not promise of abroad trip.

op said he has already seen her parents and indicated plans for marriage so there must be something the other guy is using to attract and distract her.either he has spinned her mind that he"s based overseas and when he marries her he will take her with him(a number of guys use this format to chop a girl) or he has shown to her that he has more money than op .using only marriage as a way to get a girl wont work nau .if a guy wey get one old volkswagen bettle wey im inherit from im grandad propose to u u go gree? Anyway whatever he said to her to get her distracted from her main guy his intentions are not genuine cos if they are genuine he wont be disturbing her knowing she has a serious guy .bros wants to chop his share and it looks he's about to get that share.

holaxi:
My girlfriend and I have being together for almost three years now. We've had all the moments the good ,the bad and the ugly.

But recently she met a guy who asked her out, she refused his advances but the guy and her spend so much time on calls and chatting which I don't really like.

I've talked to her so many times about it but if she listens for a week the next week they are back in business.

Last week we were chatting and she just went offline I tried calling her to know what's up only for her number to be busy for like 20 mins. When she came back online and I told her she said she wasn't on call with anyone.

When I probed her further she said she wanted a two weeks break that I complain too much and I don't trust her.

I apologized to her so peace could reign but since then I've started losing interest in her.

you don't have a girlfriend bro, i was in this situation, and I lost her. Just break up with her and move on. That's how you keep your respect.

hmmm

young man keep as many female friends as possible if love comes frm any... fine if not flow with them get your self even more and more gals...then you will be fine.

Numerouno94:

Bro no lady can Bleep wit me. Cos i dnt kip one girlfriend, nd i dnt behave lyk a sissy. I dnt do genuine luv wit dem, i only pretend to. Nd wen one bleeps up i block her 4 lyk a week nd continue wit odas. Man i luv my life. I dnt care being called a Casanova.

Did you start like, tell us you have never been heart broken as a younger person. Most people it after the heart break the come get mind. They will come here and be making noise as if say nacso then born them.

THURAFTERNOON:





Most 9ja girls in the 18 - 25 stage have a long way to go. She's around that age bracket.. Late teen too

lemme safely assume she is 18-21 yrs cos a 25 yr old girl cant fall for those cheap lines .ladies in their late teens or early 20s always educate themselves with telemondo hence what they see in telemondo is what they expect to see in the real world .

Heineken:
that nobody no good o bro.

you won't know when she's on or off line shows something shady is going on though she declined and swear that she's not cheating on me that it was away of not letting people know she's online but I'm finding out on Saturday. I have downloaded the app already, just want her to fall yakata in my hand before I'll take action

Starz825:


Oga...don't expect too much from a girl wey no be ur wife..its normal for girlfriends to have people who still eye them while they are dating some other guy .....as a guy we handle matters differently...the moment u begin to stalk a woman...u want to know who she is talking to and all..u go get heart attack....if ur girl is fine and set...for sure guys are in her dm (u don't need to be told, even married women wey set..guys are in their dms chatting them day and night)...so if u warn her and she isn't adhering then she has lost focus... meaning no commitment...then the next is to leave her which is the only way not to tolerate disrespect....esp all this girl within the bracket age of 18-25... Leave them and move on

Okay, I get your point bro, but hope you know say same thing goes for married ladies too?

Bro if your gf asked for a break, I'm 99.9% sure that she has moved on in her head.
Perhaps, you need to realize that she's probably not yours anymore.
Its time to end that relationship.

Starz825:


Bro na normal thing for girls..they will still have guys coming in their dms while they are in a relationship...stop stalking her....she isn't married to u yet... no dey put mind for girl wey no be ur wife....
Ladies are like that...esp wen they are not married...they want to explore ...they want to feel another man's presence apart from you...that's the nature of most of them.....
They go through a lot of temptations( some of them will open up to some men that they are engaged, married or they are in a relationship..some men na him go still insist say they must have a taste)...esp the ones wey fine and set die....even the married ones wey fine...let their husbands check their dms...he go just faint....




Girls within the bracket age of 18-25 are always like that...

Now, the solution.. having warned her earlier...she changed but went back to her vomit..its obvious she has lost focus....

Now...call her..sit her down and man up...tell her the situation of things..u don't need to argue with her...u ain't married yet don't forget...if u were married now it's a different ball game entirely...
Tell her she has lost focus...that she isn't committed...ask her wat the problem is...(see..there is a way u talk to ladies and they will open up to you Even if na u dey at fault Dem go tell u...they are too easy to get info from)....she will tell u..... whatever she tells you will determine ur next actions....

What kind of Beta Male advice is this one? See you justifying the girl's action o. Lol...Please, OP. Hightail it and move on with your life. I'd you have to beg for it, then it isn't yours.

3 years n you not thinking of doing d needful.

Lose interest another person has already picked interest and will be marrying her in a couple of months not years

holaxi:

Thanks bro I think I've put my mind on her too much for real. I guess its time to let her be on her own for a while.

for a while ke? Forget about her totally in ur mind and c wat happens trust me she no's u are weak.

maiahsaiah:


It’s either she wants to get married or is bored of the relationship. If you really love her, add some spice to the relationship. Take her out, buy her chocolates, send her love messages early in the morning of how you never want to lose her. Be romantic! Don’t give up too easily.

Are you normal? it's not only chocolate, he should kuku buy her birthday cake in advance. Rubbish.

Starz825:


Bro na normal thing for girls..they will still have guys coming in their dms while they are in a relationship...stop stalking her....she isn't married to u yet... no dey put mind for girl wey no be ur wife....
Ladies are like that...esp wen they are not married...they want to explore ...they want to feel another man's presence apart from you...that's the nature of most of them.....
They go through a lot of temptations( some of them will open up to some men that they are engaged, married or they are in a relationship..some men na him go still insist say they must have a taste)...esp the ones wey fine and set die....even the married ones wey fine...let their husbands check their dms...he go just faint....




Girls within the bracket age of 18-25 are always like that...

Now, the solution.. having warned her earlier...she changed but went back to her vomit..its obvious she has lost focus....

Now...call her..sit her down and man up...tell her the situation of things..u don't need to argue with her...u ain't married yet don't forget...if u were married now it's a different ball game entirely...
Tell her she has lost focus...that she isn't committed...ask her wat the problem is...(see..there is a way u talk to ladies and they will open up to you Even if na u dey at fault Dem go tell u...they are too easy to get info from)....she will tell u..... whatever she tells you will determine ur next actions....

All the solution wey U give no fit work
As she don ask for break
The love is dead self
OP should just move on....

MusaDanladi1:


Are you normal? it's not only chocolate, he should kuku buy her birthday cake in advance. Rubbish.

Aboki!

Chai... Bro, she's playing you the film a lady played me during our undergraduate days. If you go dull am you will fall very hard. Take my word "she's GONE"

holaxi:

You might be right though cos I don't know what a guy and girl will be talking about at after 11pm for 43mins+. But I try my best for her. If my best isn't enough then she's free to do whatever pleases her. One bad thing about me is once I lose the feelings, there's no gong back.

My broda just make money instead of disturbing yourself. You will met some one who will appreciate you...

holaxi:
My girlfriend and I have being together for almost three years now. We've had all the moments the good ,the bad and the ugly.

But recently she met a guy who asked her out, she refused his advances but the guy and her spend so much time on calls and chatting which I don't really like.

I've talked to her so many times about it but if she listens for a week the next week they are back in business.

Last week we were chatting and she just went offline I tried calling her to know what's up only for her number to be busy for like 20 mins. When she came back online and I told her she said she wasn't on call with anyone.

When I probed her further she said she wanted a two weeks break that I complain too much and I don't trust her.

I apologized to her so peace could reign but since then I've started losing interest in her.

these hoes ain't loyal, u'be been knacking her for 3 years, just free her bro life's too short to waste on one yeye girl